What does it really mean to “lick your wounds”?
This is not an erotic story. But it might help you to have more erotic days and nights if you apply the truth I want to share with you. You might be losing out because you “lick your wounds.” The correct English word for this is “sulking.” (Be silent, morose, and bad-tempered out of annoyance or disappointment.)
I am inclined to SULK and it has cost me dearly. Are You A Sulker!?
Often when things don’t go my way, I will keep pondering how unfair my spouse was and how deeply I have been hurt. I chew on it over and over. My entire demeanor screams out that I am hurt and angry. Then I blame her for being ugly and unfair towards me.
My shoulders hang. My voice is emotionless. My face is doing its best to show my hurt and anger. My breathing becomes shallow and I give deep and very audible sighs. I am licking my wounds and doing my utmost to make her aware of the fact. I’m SULKING!
None of this emulates Christ, and I need to repent. Do you?
This type of attitude does NOTHING, ZILCH, ZERO for building a good romantic marriage relationship. It is a form of manipulation, just like intimidation or deception. Such selfish behavior stands in opposition to love. It produces fear and resentment; not trust and openness. What we want to create is an atmosphere of deep connection and fun monogamous playfulness!
Your marriage can be your greatest testimony of the Love of God to your friends. Don’t send it to the depth of the sea because it crashed against your iceberg called “licking my wounds.” My dear brothers and sisters, let all of us be quick to forgive, extremely quick to apologize, and desperate to have a marriage filled with joy and love.
James 1:19-20 NASB – But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a NASB – Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
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