My name is Lila, I have been a long time reader, but this is my first post. My husband and I are in our mid 20s, and we not could not have a more satisfying and mind-blowing monogamous sex life. I am very thankful to have found MarriageHeat, where monogamous couples can share everything about hot sex!
There has been semi-recent discussion and input from members including myself on the topic of erotic videos, or what can be called “visual erotica,” or “erotic visual art.”
The purpose of this article is to give other couples our perspective and overall experience with visual erotica with the aim of generating a productive and insightful discussion.
My husband and I both have watched erotic videos together in the past, and still do, but on an occasional basis. We haven’t found that watching erotica causes any issues for us, and we’ve had discussions on whether or not we feel it is harmful or dangerous as an occasional erotic experience to enjoy together.
As I said, on occasion we will watch visual-audio-erotica together. But I also will sometimes pleasure myself to erotic videos while he’s out of town. It’s a hot scenario and it turns both of us on. It’s a form of role-play for us; I’m the hot and naughty housewife that pleasures her pussy to porn while her husband is away. Very hot indeed.
There have been a couple of times when he was out of town that I sent him videos of myself having fun all alone in our bed as I watched very hot videos that I was streaming to our TV. I love being his naughty yet monogamous wife.
Our perspective is that between a married man and woman, there are no strict rules placed upon our sex life, so as long as we remain monogamous. This would include sex positions, toys, language used, fantasies, and erotica whether written or visual.
Consistent with that belief, we don’t believe it to be inherently wrong for a couple to watch visual erotica that includes different erotic activities like threesomes, multiple partners, or girl-on-girl. My husband and I have enjoyed visual erotica of such, and I certainly would not judge other couples for doing the same.
Now having given our perspective and experience, I would like to have input from other couples. Do you share the same perspective as us? Have you watched visual erotica with your spouse? Do you have different boundaries when it comes to erotica in general?
I think a crucial part of discussing this is first defining our terms, and also then personally deciding where the line is.
Here are some questions which I think are important:
Is there a meaningful difference between terms such as “porn,” and “erotic videos,” “visual erotica,” “audio-visual erotica,” or “erotic visual art?”
Is porn okay to watch with your spouse?
Is visual erotica okay to watch with your spouse?
Is it okay to watch simulated sex with full nudity, like a late-night skin flick?
Is it okay to watch threesomes, multiple partners, or girl-on-girl with your spouse?
I’m looking forward to your responses and hope I’ve contributed in some way!
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