Hiding Erection
My wife and I really enjoyed Keystone Jack’s “What Happened In Vegas” story on July 14. The author made a comment in this story that started an interesting conversation between my wife and me, and we thought it would be fun to get your thoughts on it.
The statement Jack made was that he quit “hiding his erection,” and this got me thinking. Is this important to women? Is it important that if a man experiences an erection in public, should he always hide it? There are some days, when I make the boxer choice, that I do experience an erection. Is this something that is natural or is this something a man should go to lengths to hide in a public setting? Thoughts?
My wife’s opinion is that a man’s erection in public is just natural (she compared it to seeing a woman’s cleavage), and that he should not be embarrassed by it, so long as he does not draw attention to it in any way by touching it, etc.
Women of MH, what are your thoughts on this?
I have to say that I LOVE seeing my man with a boner straining his jeans! Yummy!
God created erections and I feel like there shouldn’t be a stigma with having one in public. Guys can’t generally help it and shouldn’t be made to feel like they are perverted and shouldn’t be ashamed of it.
Great picture choice too, MH!
Thx medsunset for getting us thinking! I do think that mostly erections are the result of some stimulus, so in that way guys have a fair bit of control. An old friend taught his boys about lust… “you can’t help what you happen to see, that first look, but you can choose not to take the second. (Ie: control your mental space)… but yes despite that we all probably get them in public from time-to-time.
It does seem the erect penis is socially taboo in western culture, for example in censorship of film it is right up there (no pun intended!).
I’m not sure about other cultures… the romans extensively decorated houses and public spaces with erection art.
How do our naturalist friends handle (or not handle!) the erect penis in public?
I've had erections in public before.
Interesting topic… I think we should all conduct and carry ourselves in a way that is modest and pure so that way we can best keep ourselves for and in marriage. I believe and have support from how people carried themselves in biblical time and with old biblical law that we should do our best to cover ourselves. I would say that showing cleavage is not natural and can be avoided as well as the ability to hide a boner. But I believe there is an exception if you are intentional about trying to look hot or alluring to your spouse because that would be inside marriage.
I agree with the modesty thoughts presented here. We must think about the fact that in public we share common spaces with others who may have differing moral adherences. However, erections in men are not solely due to visual sources. I used to get erections from vibrations from the motor conveyance I was riding on…truck, car, motorcycle, tractor, etc.. I have a friend who has a medical condition where a light wind blowing can set his system off and he will get a raging erection that may take minutes to hours to subside. Frequently, men may experience an erection when the bladder is full or nearing full. So, just because a gent has an erection in public doesn’t mean that he is sinfully oogling the ladies. Anatomically speaking, my junk sits slightly forward on my 5’7”, 155 lb. frame. Thus, my churchy dress pants, the thin wool mix high dollar slacks, don’t do a great job of hiding. The pants' sheer nature actually accentuates my slightly forward stuff. My wife made a comment concerning my dilemma one time back when we were in Bible College as adults with children. So, then and now, I try to wear good underwear to help manage a concealment program. Although, folks just have to get over it. My blue jeans aren’t much better with the slightly thicker material. A boner in my suit pants? I have, but that takes some improv adjusting and exterior barriers to accommodate. When an erection occurs for natural reasons that are not evoked from something sensual/erotic, I manage the situation so as not to be seen as advertising, but I do not run and hide. Often in my blue jeans, it is obvious that there is stuff bulging but not really an outline like in the MH gif. So, I never want to be lewd, but at the same time, anatomy is what it is.
Men only started wearing tight pants and so forth in the middle of the last century- prior to that a tailor would provide a little more room in one side or the other for a male member. Erections are like many other things they happen, you sneeze or cough, hick up. A woman in the area may see an erection and realize it might be because of her- pheromones are powerful stuff- a woman may have had sex recently and the man's subconscious picks it up and he appreciates the fact=erection. I have put this question to some woman who have seen me with an erection- are you more embarrassed if I get an erection or insulted if I don't? They usually just smile rather than answer.
I feel the same as your wife medsunset. If women can wear tight clothes that show off her curves why can't men show off their equipment. Maybe we need to back in time when men wore codpieces. 😚
As a man, I never hid my erection. I got them all the time well into my 50s. Never thought to hide it. It's normal and if a woman gets offended, the real problem is that she is offended.
Here's a humorous dialog from a book for Christian young men. The dialog is between two injured marine officers sharing a hospital room in Germany. Joe is a Christian and James later becomes one:
“…Was I not supposed to get a boner in class? Every guy in high school gets boners. Didn’t you get boners at school?” James asked.
“Sure, I got them all the time,” Joe said.
“Well, tell one time,” James demanded.
Joe chuckled internally knowing James was trying to deflect his tackle. But he absolutely knew it would turn out well. He said, “One time it happened when I presented a project in biology on how the DNA blueprint is formed by the dad’s sperm when it unites with the mother’s egg.”
“You’re kidding. You had a boner talking about sperm and girls’ eggs?” James asked incredulously.
“Yep. Just like yours did, my erection hurt, too. I had to adjust it during the presentation.”
“That must have been awkward as f*ck.”
“No. My erections don’t embarrass me. But Joey Youngblood thought it should be embarrassing, particular in front of the girls. He said something stupid like, ‘Hey Joe, you got that steel rod of yours going between your legs! You about to blow your load to give us a sample of your sperm? Really Joe, can’t you wait till you get home to jack it off?’”
“Dang, Captain.”
“Yeah, well, Joey regretted it,” Joe said.
“So, what’d you do?”
“I said, ‘Joey, my penis gets erect. Your penis gets erect. All of us young men in this classroom get erect without anything sexual causing it. It doesn’t matter either if my penis gets erect because of something sexual. It means it’s working just fine.
“As far as masturbating: I masturbate. You masturbate. All of us young men in this room and in this entire school masturbates. You know that’s a fact. Mr. Phillips is married, but he probably has to masturbate sometimes, too. If I want to do it when I get home after practice, then that’s what I will do. It’s my penis and no one tells me what to do with it. You understand me?”
“Woah, that took some balls! Did you get in trouble?”
“No. Mr. Phillips shook my hand and all the guys shouted out their approvals. Joey was the one embarrassed, not me. I kept on with my presentation. I had to adjust my penis a couple more times, but nobody said a word.”
Joe stared at James and then said, “It was God’s decision to create me male and my penis got erect exactly as He designed it to do. So, why should I be afraid if my penis is seen erect? I’m glad I’m male and I’m not afraid to be seen as one.”
I fully agree with Joe.
What a great viewpoint to have reflected in the book. What was the name of the book?
It's called "Born Male & Darn Glad of It!" It's not being promoted, yet, but available on Amazon and other online sites. It's the first of 4 in a series. Book 1 is about a Marine Captain who is injured in the war zone and rooms with an injured Marine Lieutenant whom the Captain teaches what it means to be a man. A lot of storytelling and a lot of spiritual happenings including powerful visions. One of the big messages is that male masturbation is critical for a man's future marriage. A lot of lies are exposed and hammered. Most who call themselves 'Christians' have certainly freaked over it. But to the pure, all things are pure (Titus 1:15). The pure will receive the truth who is Christ Himself.
The young men who've read Book 1 say it has completely changed their lives. Story is after one 14-year-old young man read the book his older brother bought for him, his employer at the farm he worked wanted to know what happened to him. He suddenly was man.
Young men need the message in these books to prepare them for a future that will require men to show up as the men they are.
The second book is called "The 2nd Three" that will likely be published this fall. It's about a high school football team on a Montana Indian reservation where God uses a hilarious and huge Kentucky bread Scottish ancestry football coach to lead his players to become the men God created them to be. There's a decent amount of football which is used to show what God does when His men show up.
Men who've read excerpts of Book 2 like it a lot.
All the books are deeply spiritual particularly when it comes to the difference between 'arom-naked (with zero shame: Genesis 2:25) versus 'erom-naked (ashamed to be naked: Genesis 3) and how shame weakens a man. Because they are teenage young men, there's a lot about their masturbation and God's purpose for it and how to masturbate by faith.
Many of all 4 books' stories are based on true events.
Book 1: […]
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Okay.
I've told my wife how much appreciate how you moderate your site. Does make it 'breathable' and safe if that makes sense. Definitely unusual attention to what make a Christian site work. Thanks much!
[From MH: You're welcome! It can seem a little strict sometimes, but there's a reason MH has been around for over a decade, and is still going strong and attracting new members. We do our best to maintain a place that's both safe AND unashamedly sex-positive according to God's design, and we have something beautiful to show for it! We're glad you're here, and we're glad you appreciate our site and efforts. 🙂]
Definitely not 'strict.' It's how God is directing you to make your site work that glorifies Him. Please, never apologize how God is leading you. Thanks much for following His leading and His Spirit!
I used to wear a lot of running shorts in college and I had a lot of guys and girls stare, because I have a large bulge (more from large testicle size than anything to do with erections).
I once did get erect while dancing with some friends while we were practicing for a play. I was wearing sweat pants and I just kept dancing and pretended like nothing happened. Several other teen boys clapped me on the back afterwards while laughing, and I noticed a girl staring at me while dancing. She later introduced herself and I think she would have been open had I asked her out but I was too embarrassed to try. Just politely told her my name and that it was nice to meet her, and hardly ever talked to her again. Youth is wasted on the young! But I did end up with a good wife, so I cannot complain.
Sorry for not clarifying – the dancing story was before college – teen years. I wasn’t much for acting but had minor roles in a couple of plays, my wife was more the actress. I ended up more in sports.
Usually one of the first things I do is when I go to my profile here I will scroll down to the recent comments and happened to see this without first seeing the story.
I think it kind of depends on what the company is because there's always one person who will blurt out something out loud about somebody having an erection or a woman having stiff nipples wondering why that is. Usually bringing embarrassment to the person who is experiencing it.
It's kind of timely really because we just got back from vacation and while we were shopping in a store my husband M. Started getting an erection for no reason. He kind of whispered to me as he was pushing the shopping cart that he was getting hard.
As we were walking to the store I would purposely reach down and grope him. Not for long periods just for three or four seconds.
It worked!
Before long he had a raging hard on bulging in his pants. He had on a pair of trunk briefs and it was running down the inside of his leg.
It looked wonderful !
There are times where he has gone erect due to the atmosphere. We've been on nude and clothing optional beaches. Where it's not unusual to see a man with an erection either walking down the beach or laying on his blanket.
But there's also been times where just sitting around with people he will be getting stiff and I will see it.
I will usually look around the room to see if anybody else is noticing. I always find it to be a turn-on whenever I see that they are.
Lady L. 💋
I appreciate the perspective of the authors wife here. I also appreciate the comments, but in my own personal experience I have found that male erections are far less socially acceptable than female cleavage.
I always try to hide it for fear of someone finding it offensive.
I agree with you KingdomMan. At least since around the age of 18, I have felt and acted the same way regarding my erections.