The Ultimate Sexual Massage ~ Ignite Story

This post includes anal play (A).

Instructions for my/our Ultimate Fantasy Encounter

INTRODUCTION: my wife and I have been married for nearly 30 years, and for most of those years, our sex life was pretty vanilla. Not only that, but for the past ten years or so, mostly due to my distraction and neglect, our marriage had become pretty relationally cold—more like roommates than lovers. Then last year, I had what I can only describe as a significant spiritual awakening, and Jesus healed our broken marriage miraculously. Our hearts were turned toward each other, and we had a wonderful recommitment ceremony in front of 100 of our closest friends that meant as much to us as our wedding. Part of our healing and renewal has been a rebirth of our sex life, which has gone from boring and vanilla to passionate and adventurous. After 30 years, we’re like newlyweds!

One of the things we’ve done is write out our sexual fantasies with the intent of expressing our desires to each other clearly and without the awkwardness that talking sometimes brings. Don’t get me wrong; we talk about what we’ve written. But believe me, having it written out is a great conversation starter and a huge turn-on. So what follows began as my ultimate fantasy encounter but has turned into a shared fantasy. We’ve even turned it into a game.

My hope in sharing is that it will inspire and spice up readers’ marriages. We have a few more to be posted later if feedback is positive. Thank you, Jesus, for inventing marriage and sex!

Heads up: the following includes graphic descriptions of sex play of many kinds including loving bondage and anal play along with some language – mostly related to the use of the more colorful and naughty names for genitalia and body parts.

THE BEGINNING ~ the entire encounter moves up and down in intensity and pleasure from relaxing to exciting. Call it escalation and de-escalation. It is erotic massage at its most erotic. As the massage progresses, the touching is like a scale that moves up and down in intensity to heat it up and cool it down as follows:

1 FEET ——-> LEGS

2 NECK———-> HEAD ——-> SHOULDERS

3 THIGHS ———> BUTT CHEEKS

4 UPPER BACK ——> MID BACK——> LOWER BACK

5 INNER BUTT CHEEKS ——> INNER THIGHS

UP THE SCALE

1–>2

2–>3

3–>4

4–>5

DOWN THE SCALE

5–>4

4–>3

3–>2

2–>1

UP AND DOWN THE SCALE

1–>4–>5

5–>3–>1–>3

3–>4–>2–>4

*DON’T FORGET ~ use lots of oil and lube!

ESCALATION #1

THE GENITAL AREA ~here the focus expands to include the area around the cock and anus. Pay attention to the muscles and ligaments connecting the inner thighs and pelvis and around the crotch. Brush the testicles pinch and rub the scrotum. Lightly brush and stroke the shaft and head of the cock. Focus on the inner butt cheeks and thighs and brush the outer anus area every once in a while because it feels really good!

When you notice things getting too intense move back down the scale, de-escalating. After all, we want the encounter to last a while. This will be especially important when moving to the END GAME areas.

*TIP ~ use tongue and lips as inspired!

DON’T FORGET—VISIT FREQUENTLY THE OTHER EROGENOUS ZONE (E-ZONE) AREAS: EARS, BEHIND THE EARS, NECK, SCALP, TEMPLES, UNDER JAW, ARMPITS, NIPPLES, CROTCH (PERINEUM), INNER THIGHS, BEHIND THE KNEES AND BOTTOM OF FEET.

ESCALATION #2

CONTINUE IN THE GENITAL AREA ~ but again narrow the focus more specifically to the cock, balls, crotch, inner butt cheeks and around the anus. The point here is to TEASE escalating the excitement over and over – up and down the list.

Next focus on oral moves – licking and sucking on the balls and cock. Rub and stroke the head and shaft of the cock while massaging the perineum – the area under the balls between the scrotum and the anus – using medium pressure front to back.

*TIP ~ Brush, lightly squeeze, and tickle the scrotum, and brush the anus at the front and back of a stroke.

The process noted above, called “edging,” is meant to prolong the lovemaking experience by bringing one to near orgasm then backing off over and over again. It is also a power play, as the giver is in control of the receiver—in a sense, dominant. This can be played up as a power trip by the dominant partner’s liberal use of verbal commands and threats. The dominant controls the entire encounter, and as time goes on, the submissive partner ideally becomes almost desperate for release.

Next – back way off! Move up the list and de-escalate the sexual intensity.

*TIP ~ You can approach the escalation/de-escalation process in a teasing/controlling or dominant way with comments and commands like, “That’s enough for you,” Or, “You better not cum!” You can further dominate by using threats like, “If you cum, you have to… (insert ‘threat’ here),” or “You immediately have to give me an orgasm BEFORE you recover, using your… (tongue, fingers, vibrator, etc.)”

*TIP ~ Don’t be afraid to use a lot of pressure when massaging my body or cock (head and shaft). You won’t break it. But use a lot of oil to reduce friction. You can squeeze pretty hard on the shaft and head. Also, feel free to vary stroke length and pressure and to switch between using one hand, two hands, and your mouth.

END GAME!

EXPANDING AND RETURNING TO ESCALATION #1 AND #2 ~ Narrow your focus to my cock head, shaft, and anus, using light penetration. Watch my reaction, as this will bring me to the edge very fast. Again back off a little or a lot, depending on how much you want to keep me at the edge. If so, continue your threats and demands while slapping my cock or bottom; maybe try pinching me too. This will allow you to keep me at an elevated excitement level while distracting me from orgasm. It’s worth a try!

THE ULTIMATE ~ OKAY THIS MAY PUSH YOU PAST YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND WILL CERTAINLY BRING ON THE “HAPPY ENDING” RATHER QUICKLY, BUT THIS IS MY FANTASY. INSERT YOUR FINGER INTO MY ANUS WHILE STROKING OR SUCKING MY COCK… PLEASE!

*TIP ~ Finger-shy about anal play? Feel free to use a butt plug or vibrating toy. I’ll be just as happy!

GAMES TO PLAY

ADD TO THE FUN…

1) FEATHERS, BRUSHES, AND FLOGGERS ~ Use feathers and brushes to lightly caress, tickle, and touch my e-zones and body when de-escalating. Nipples are especially sensitive to a light touch, as are the neck, ears, waist, groin area, inner thighs, and feet. Use a medium touch with the flogger to PLAYFULLY whip my chest, legs, back, and butt. It may feel awkward, but I promise that I’ll love it (and you) so much.

2) FOOD PLAY ~ Using a mattress pad on the bed, gather whipped cream, chocolate sauce, peanut butter, yoghurt, jam, or whatever you desire. This will make less palatable areas downright tasty during oral! You may also want to demand that the tables be turned, the focus turning to you. Remember, you are in control and have the right to demand an orgasm or sexual attention at any time. This is also a good strategy to de-escalate.

3) TOY PLAY ~ We’ve invested significantly in sex toys—use them creatively! Try them when massaging the e-zones above. Try them on the various parts of the cock: the head, shaft, and balls. (Careful there.) My perineum, the outside of my anus, and especially my nipples might enjoy vibratory stimulation, too. You could demand I hold one of the remote control vibes in place between my legs or in my anus while you fiddle with the remote settings. This should be done after significant de-escalation. Again, you may also demand to be treated to a toy-induced orgasm yourself!

4) CONTROL PLAY ~ As suggested above, the intensity and fantasy are increased by you taking on a dominant role. This will likely take you out of your comfort zone sexually, but if you decide to, you could pretend to be a sexy dominant woman. You are only PLAYING A ROLE. Likewise, I would take on a submissive role, obeying your every command. Many couples find this kind of game extremely erotic and a huge turn-on. I’ve always wanted to try it both ways. I subtly take on the dominant role in our regular lovemaking, which you seem to like—especially when we get a little rough or when you want me to fill your pussy with as many fingers as can fit or squeeze your tender nipples! You may choose to use the restraints and Velcro cuffs attached to our bed to restrain me for another level of control and fun.

5) SENSORY DEPRIVATION PLAY ~ In the category of control/domination games, SD uses restraints, a blindfold, and earphones playing music to limit movement, sight, and hearing. It greatly enhances the experience of the remaining sense: touch. You can escalate the situation by doing whatever you want, be it gentle or rough. Here again, you can use feathers, brushes, toys, and floggers to add to the sensory experience. Let your inner Dominant really emerge. You have the opportunity to do whatever you want to me, to explore your fantasies. For example, straddle my face and insist that I eat out your pussy. Rub it on my face, chest, legs, and of course, my cock. Straddle my restrained hand and demand to be fingered. Have fun! You’re in control.

*TIP ~ Use the pillows and wedges to position our bodies. They will provide variety and allow better access to areas of focus.

6) HOT AND COLD PLAY ~ Intensify the sensory experience by introducing heat and cold. In cold play, ice is placed either directly on body parts or in the mouth to chill lips and tongue before applying them to various body parts. This is especially intense during oral sex. You sucking on my cock with ice in your mouth would be a new experience and one I’d love to try. You may also use a cold beverage directly poured on my body and licked off. Heat play is similar; the mouth is heated with hot water, cocoa, coffee, or tea and then used on the body. Again, a blowjob would be really “hot” with this in play. If the beverage is not too hot—think Irish coffee, cocoa, or a latte—it can be dribbled on me, then licked off. You could also warm or cool your hands and then touch where you want. Next-level heat play would include low-temperature-melt candles, which would be pretty cool when tied up and out of control. BTW, I bought some!

FOR YOUR PLEASURE

I WOULD BE COMPLETELY REMISS IF INSTRUCTIONS FOR THE ULTIMATE MASSAGE DIDN’T INCLUDE IDEAS FOR GREATLY ENHANCING MY PLEASURE AND YOURS AT THE SAME TIME. MOST OF WHAT FOLLOWS BUILDS ON THE SUGGESTIONS FOR YOUR PARTICIPATION MENTIONED ABOVE. MOST OF THEM BELONG IN ESCALATION #2 AND END GAME. THE FIRST FEW ITEMS ARE ALL ABOUT MY PLEASURE; THE SECOND LIST IS ALL ABOUT YOUR PLEASURE.

USE YOUR BODY FOR POWER, PLEASURE AND CONTROL (Part 1 – his pleasure)

• Use elbows and knees to massage my back, butt, thighs, and legs. Don’t be afraid to use a lot of pressure and oil!
• Rub my whole body with oiled breasts, body, and (especially) your pussy—body to body for your pleasure and mine!
• Tease my cock by sliding on it with your lubed-up pussy – we’ll both melt.
• Cover my face with your BUTT and PUSSY then wiggle.
• With me on my belly bent over the wedge with my legs spread rub pussy/pelvic bone into my butt – switching roles as it were.
• Straddling my belly and facing my cock, give me a good view of your spread cheeks and pussy. Use oiled hands and give my cock and balls a good rubdown. I love the view as much as the attention on my cock and balls. Use caution as this is sure to bring me to the edge!
• Don’t be afraid to give me a good slap on the ass and cock OR a pinch every once in a while. This reinforces the dominant role and diverts my attention if I’m close to cumming. You could also use the flogger.

USE YOUR BODY FOR POWER, PLEASURE AND CONTROL (Part 2 – her pleasure)

• Squat over my cock and guide just the head into your pussy. Or rub it on your clit and lips, guiding it to manually drive your pleasure—and mine—way up.
• Pleasure yourself by rubbing your clit on my oiled body—try my elbow, chest, tailbone, hipbone, legs, and knees—until you are close to orgasm.
• Squat over my face and tell me to tongue you all over. “Lick me clean now, mister!” Demand to be pleasured, giving specific directions as to where and how. Let me hear you moan with pleasure and approval!
• Rub your oily breasts and tits over my face and play Simon says: lick; suck; bite.
• Tie me up (or not and just be bossy). Leaving one hand free, command that I please you however you desire, either laying next to my hand or straddling it. You may have to move to get the best angle. Be demanding; tell me what you want. “Finger just my clit and lips,” “Put 2 (3, 4) fingers in my pussy—I want you to make me feel full!” or, “Put a finger in my anus while fingering my pussy at the same time.” (Yes, I can do this with one hand.)  Try, “Use the vibrator (of your choice) and make me cum!”
• Slide my cock into your pussy, then be still. Just sit, there holding it with your muscles. Demand five hard strokes, then get off and leave me wanting more! Make me beg for it: “Please, ma’am, can I have some more?”
• Sitting high on my chest with your legs spread, place your pussy close to my mouth. Tell me to lick it while moving to stay just out of reach—or feel free to move close enough, as you wish. At the same time, stroke my cock behind your back.
• Same as above, but turn around and suck my cock and balls while playing with my anus. Don’t forget to occasionally move your pussy close enough for me to return the favor.
• Choose a new sex position and demand to be pleasured, warning me I have to make you cum before I do or else… I have to eat the cum out of your pussy while finishing the job. (I hope this doesn’t gross you out, but I think I’d like the taste of our juices combined!)
• Hand me the toy of your choice and demand I bring you to orgasm using it in your pussy with my mouth on your clit and lips and my finger in your anus before returning to THE ULTIMATE ENDING!

Remember, you may have as many orgasms as you want by whatever means you want, but don’t let me cum until you are satisfied and ready for me to do so. Give consequences: I have to make you dinner, give you a bath, massage you or give you a random orgasm at the time and place you demand it of me—maybe on the couch while watching TV, in the tub, or kneeling before you while you sit on a towel on the toilet lid. Perhaps I have to masturbate to orgasm in front of you and then bring you to orgasm with my fingers. Use your developing dirty mind and the method of your choosing. Insist that I make you cum while not allowing me an orgasm (unless that’s part of the consequences.)

LET’S MAKE A GAME OUT OF THIS!

I wonder if we can make a game out of this? We could make up cards with each scenario on them, then shuffle and each draw one to be acted out, or roll a couple of dice for the number of each scenario. What do you think? We could turn this whole encounter into a back-and-forth game. For example, one card could be HOT AND COLD PLAY, another could be for HER PLEASURE #6 and/or HIS PLEASURE #3. We could even use THE BEGINNING, ESCALATION 1, ESCALATION 2, and END GAME along with GAMES TO PLAY as scenarios. Additionally, we could add a time period for each scenario, say #3 for between 1-6 minutes depending on the roll of a die. I think the game should start with 6 minutes of THE BEGINNING for each of us, to get warmed up, followed by maybe 3 minutes each of ESCALATION 1 as foreplay and to get us further warmed up.

We would have to divide the scenarios up by intensity. For example, drawing one of the last HER PLEASURE suggestions or END GAME would make for a short evening. We could even have rewards or penalties for fastest orgasm, most cards played before orgasm, most orgasms, most edging, etc. Rewards or penalties can be a separate list of items we both come up with. Of course one of the rules must be to stay in character as either the dominant or in the submissive role, as appropriate to the scenario, or we could roll the dice to determine which role to play for the entire game. Could be fun, don’t you think?