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Dildo and Penetration?

My wife and I have been married for 15 years, and even after three kids, the intimacy gets better and better! Sex is hotter now than I ever thought possible as a younger man. Maybe it’s because we have been open to exploration and spicing things up.

Speaking of which, I have had this fantasy of penetrating my wife in more than one way at a time. We’re not into anal sex, but my fantasy is for her to suck a cock while I’m inside her. I’m not sure where this fantasy comes from—maybe from seeing threesomes in porn in the past; I don’t know. All I know is that seeing my wife sucking a dildo while I penetrate her OR a dildo penetrating her while she sucks me would drive me wild.

Has anyone done this or have this fantasy as well? Is this healthy?

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18 replies
  1. MarriedtoaHotBabe says:

    We've done that many, many times. Mostly it's been her sucking my cock while she penetrates herself with the dildo (or I will). She has never sucked on a dildo, though. We have also done some DP (double penetration – pussy/anal).

    • SecondMarge says:

      Ditto. Never saw the pleasure in sucking a dildo but giving my husband oral while he penetrates me with a toy was very enjoyable for us as a simulation of MFM.

    • jeremyscottbrewer says:

      Loving all these comments and questions. My wife and I had a good talk about it, and bought a dildo. It looks and feels like a real penis. So I’m looking forward to penetrating her with it while I do oral on her tonight!

  2. O-man says:

    As with thoughts, not all fantasies are meant to be pursued regardless of how we chose to interpret "The marriage bed is undefiled."

    If your wife consents to explore this fantasy with you, do you see it stopping there? Is there no chance on earth your desire can deepen to a point it puts your marriage at risk? If you can stop at just the dildo what if your wife gets a suggestion to try it out with a real person and that suggestion possesses her mind and yours?

    I think – tread with caution. Fantasies expire and we can develop new ones. If you let go of this one, you will get a better one.

  3. Giants05 says:

    I can so relate. We have been married 15 years as well and this past year our sex life has spiced up like you wouldn't believe. Trying new things brought so much excitement .
    Newest thrill is her sucking my cock while I'm finger fucking her ass w 2 or 3 fingers while she plays w her pussy w either her fingers or a wand. Last time she got close enough I was able to feast on her one tit …such is the benefit of having big titties.

    • jeremyscottbrewer says:

      This “fantasy” is not including another party. I just wish I could penetrate my wife and receive head from her at the same time.

  4. SecondMarge says:

    If lusting in your heart is the same as adultery, is a fantasy that replicates a threesome the same as having a threesome? I would hope we have grown up enough not to believe either. But I get the feeling we still have people that believe sex should only be in the missionary position and done merely to procreate. I do not blame people for having those beliefs. I blame the heads of religions that would espouse that kind of thinking.

    • CrazyHappyLoved says:

      But Marge, if you cast blame on them for teaching it, you cast blame on them for believing it, because they wouldn't teach it if they didn't believe it. Heads of religions are people too, and if they believe a thing, they have just as much reason for believing it as you do for not believing it. To have progressed so far in their denomination requires a great deal of in-depth study of theology. It's not a matter of them not being "grown up"; they might think the inability to understand it their way, to put aside the imaginations and color inside the lines, is immature.

      We've had so many discussions on MH about what constitutes lust that it feels like beating a dead horse. Some will believe that if the sight of a woman stirs your loins, you've sinned in your heart. Some understand lust as desire and intent to have someone that you cannot rightly have. Some think of fantasy as imagining what you want to have or do in reality. Others use the word in the sense of imagining things that can't (or at least, that you won't allow to) happen in real life, which fits better with the dictionary definition. Some are tempted toward acting on thoughts if they entertain them; others can exorcise the desire to act by play-pretend with their spouse. This makes for a great variety of beliefs as to what is allowable, beneficial, and right when it comes to the mind.

  5. Good Lovin says:

    It was only after decades of marriage did we add a dildo to our sex life. On her own, she will suck my dick and fill her pussy with the dildo. It gets me so hard and she cums very fast. We would talk about what we fantasized about after a few times of doing this. She would, embarrassedly, say she would think of two cocks at the same time and enjoyed it. Me, as well.

  6. LuvBug says:

    The wife and I have used a dildo for double penetration before, but as extra stimulation with a toy, not as a way to simulate a threesome fantasy. Beware of fantasies that cross the line into sin as they may lead you astray. Pray and discuss with your wife beforehand, and of course, enjoy Godly intimacy!

  7. Tulsa says:

    So my wife had this fantasy, where I was licking her clit, at the same time I was pounding her like a crazy person! Pumping away, licking & slurping away, with pussy juice & cum going everywhere!
    Well, it would require me to be triple-jointed, no doubt—and I am not!

    So, I gave her fantasy a shot, as close as I could get, by sliding a dildo in her pussy that I just unloaded in, and pumping the plastic beast in & out while I worked her clit over with my tongue.
    Highly successful! Messy, but without a doubt, highly successful! I had to pry her off the ceiling with a crowbar after she came!
    (Your results may vary.)

  8. MonsterCock23 says:

    I'm a virgin male and have used dildos for fun while stroking my cock! It feels great to hit that prostate and stretch. You could even dildo yourself while she sucks you off; I bet that'd feel amazing. Or mix it up: throw three dildos in the mix! LOL

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