Birthday Blowjob
Well as you may have guessed by the title, it’s my birthday soon, and my wife has said that, as a present, she will give me a blowjob to completion—with swallowing!
We have been married for several years, and she has never given me a blowjob before, not even while we were dating. I am happy to lick her out and hear her moan with pleasure. I just wish she was as enthusiastic.
Obviously, I am extremely excited for it and hope that she keeps her word. I do wonder where she got the idea from, though, as I rarely mention it to her, and that only casually and with no pressure as I want her to do it because she wants to.
Should I be concerned that she suddenly wants to give me a blowjob after so long of flat-out refusing to?
Unless there is some other reason to question, I’d say it’s a good sign.
My wife and I have grown over the years. A few weeks ago she ASKED me to do anal! She never wanted this before.
Part of the reason is we’ve been listening to a very sex positive podcast. The women on the podcast talk about everything and enjoy everything.
Sometimes women have friends and bounce ideas off each other. If one girl tells another that something turns her on with her husband, the second girl might take it to heart.
Sometimes people will see a movie and the characters enjoying something and think, “Maybe I should reconsider that.”
I’m assuming that your relationship is generally solid.
Hope she ends up enjoying doing that for you and you have a blast. (Literally)
God bless.
Can you share the podcast? I'd love to listen!
GenWren, it’s definitely not a Christian perspective, but we’ve found lots we can learn from. It’s called Shameless Sex.
SC you are fortunate to have such a sexually open wife.
I wasn't concerned when about the same thing happened to me years ago. If I was you, I sure wouldn't worry about it.
We were camping, and as usual, I pulled away when I was close to cumming so she didn't get a mouth full. She looked up, and said 'I want you to cum in my mouth'. I was so excited, I was cumming before she got me back in her mouth! Kind of a combo blowjob-facial big gloppy mess! 🙂
Anyway, that was just the first time, and there was plenty more after that! I did ask some time later what the deal was, and it was several things, but it really never mattered much! Hope all turns out for both of you!!!
I'd have rather my wife just done it as a surprise instead of telling me that she was going to do it and then not do it at all.
I don’t know anything about your overall relationship and how truly committed you are to each other… It could be an indication of infidelity however I doubt it. And I will say that holidays, my birthday & our anniversary is when my wife gives me oral. (She’s surprised me two years in a row by giving me oral on HER birthday!) I have written about all that. Does your wife read MarriageHeat? Maybe she was inspired.
I also want to add that over the years my wife and I have discovered new sexual dishes to add to our lovemaking menu. Like her surprise deep throating of me a few months ago and also swallowing. (Although she won’t admit that, as of late she swallows when she lets me come in her mouth.)
Maybe this birthday present your wife is offering you is the natural progress your marital intimacy is taking. Nothing wrong with that.
I don't think that my wife reads MH. I don't think I would be posting on here if I thought that she did. We are trying new sex positions finally so at least there's that.
I wouldn’t worry about it. She may have spoken to friends or fellow female workmates who gave her encouragement to do something special for you. My wife was awesome at giving me blowjobs, but rarely allowed me to cum in her mouth, but there were times she was all in for the pleasure she gave me and ? I’d cum into her mouth. Wow, I miss that.
Hi Sarge, I am not sure where she got the idea from but unfortunately it's still just only an idea. I would love to cum in my wife's mouth, at least yours let's you sometimes.
Don't stare a gift blowjob in the mouth! 🙂
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Hahaha ???
Amen!
Aha maybe that's were I am going wrong.
She wants to please you and try something different. Just go with it and have fun.
Well I thought that she wanted to please me but not through oral it seems.
I say receive the special gift with much excitement and joy. Let her love flow freely as she gives unconditionally. You might ask her what kind of sexual gift she would like when her birthday comes. Maybe keep swapping sexual gifts on special days!
I will happily do anything to her that she wants.
SeXcailber – Do you recommend shameless sex podcast?
Also, someone mentioned “Songs of the Believers”. Can anyone speak to this site?
Thank you all. I enjoy the insights you share.
I can’t “recommend” it since it’s not Christian. But there is a lot of good technique stuff in there mixed in with a very worldly perspective.
Be warned, they talk about things that would be rejected as stories here and certainly wouldn’t be “biblical”.
Hope that helps.
Dont let negativity of any kind dwell in your mind. Thats the work of the accuser. Happily receive the gift and be positive and encouraging to her, sharing how good it feels. Touch and encourage her. Let her experience you experiencing pleasure from her as you do when you go down on her.
And its a good idea to pray for God's blessings on your lovemaking both giving and receiving with love and grace.
Sorry I don't think prayer is the answer her. You can't pray for someone to do things sexually to you.
I'm so very sorry that she has been missing out on the pleasure that she would receive from providing her husband with such a loving gesture. If she is one to live up to her words, make sure that she knows exactly how much you love & enjoy what she is doing to you. Tell her how wonderful it feels to have her lips wrapped around your cock. Tell her that your cock and the cum from your cock is hers to enjoy. Coax & coach her with what you want her to do for you & to you. Allow her to have her way with you at her own pace. Hold her head in you hands and guide and instruct her as she sucks on you. Let her know when you're close to cumming. It will be a nice gesture on your part if she knows that your cum is about to fill her mouth. You say that you enjoy sucking her pussy & hearing her moan. Let her hear you moan & express how much you love what she's doing to you. Feeding your cock to her & cumming in her mouth is her gift to enjoy. My hope for both of you is that pleasing & pleasuring each other is what you would always love. Just knowing how much pleasure she gives you should be a reward for her to enjoy. I would not be concerned enough to question her desire for her to please you in this manner. Enjoy the attention that is given to you & let her know it. Pleasuring my husband is always an act that I lovingly & willing provide to him. He loves what I do for him & to him.
I wish that my wife had the same attitude that you have. Your husband must feel very privileged.
Hi everyone, thanks for all your comments. I will try and respond to each of you. Unfortunately I didn't receive the special Birthday treat. I was hoping to say that it was wonderful and really connected us closer but I don't even recall having sex on my Birthday. Not sure where to go from here.
My husband never wanted me to blow him. When I suggested to him that I needed to kiss his penis, he resisted, but he finally relented after many attempts. As I went down just to kiss him, he suddenly seem to have a change of mindset. After a few kisses, he just uttered it: “Suck me.” I did just that, and it set off a whole new ball game. After a few sucks, he asked if I would let him suck me too. That did the trick and kicked off more enjoyment. Our lovemaking took a new turn as sucking him became routine. However, I did not want to push him, so I always advised him never to ejaculate in my mouth. I knew that in due course, it would happen. It did happen eventually, and now, if we just love having oral sex, we practise is without strings.
Thanks for your comment. It's been a while since I wrote this and I don't receive notifications. I think that would be a good feature if you got them once you logged in. Anyway the blowjob situation has improved since I wrote this post. Nothing like what I really want but she sometimes licks or sucks me for 30 seconds even now and then. Without me asking her to, just doing it because she wants to but she'll get there in the end and I enjoy it as much as I do. I am concentrating on pleasuring her for the time being instead.
I do hope that she learns to love sucking on you. I love my husbands cock & sucking on him is what I love to do for him. Your cock is hers to enjoy. It's wonderful that you enjoy pleasuring her. I would like to suggest a position if I may. 69 might be beneficial for both of you. I've always loved that with my husband. I hope that you can feed her your cock soon and receive the pleasure of your wife's lips & mouth.
From reading through the site I have found that the majority of women if not all like giving oral or want to for those waiting on a husband. 69 is a good idea, we have tried it before but it was only me using my mouth unfortunately.
Honestly, I think she should be doing that all the time. I love sucking my hubby's big cock. I only use my lips. He cums a gallon; I swallow what I can.
Thanks for your response. I wish she would at least try to do it for me but I haven't breached the subject for a while. Just wish I knew how she could come to desire me in that way. I feel like I am missing out.
Still no blowjob after originally posting this and now no sex in over a year.