Masturbating in Front of Your Spouse
Questions for discussion: Were you always (from the moment you said “I do”) completely comfortable playing with yourself and getting yourself off in front of your spouse? If so, when was the first time you did it? How did it happen? What did your wife or husband say?
If the answer is no, how long did it take for you to become completely open and comfortable doing yourself in front of your hubby or wife? What changed for you? Did it take a lot of encouragement from your significant other? There seem to be a lot of women out there that are still too shy to even admit that they masturbate. I’ve read stories about husbands secretly catching their wives playing with themselves even though they say they don’t do it. I play with my pussy, and I love it and don’t care who knows!
Women, does it turn you on even more to be watched? Do you get turned on watching your man stroke his cock and shoot his load? I think both male and female masturbation is really sexy and hot, but I have a girlfriend that does not want to watch her husband jerk off even though he wants to do it in front of her. It would be and extra turn on for him, and he wants that openness/closeness. She’s not interested in watching, however. It does nothing for her, she says. Any other women on MH that find it a turn off too?
Hey Chloe! My husband Ben and I are both avid maturbators. But the first time I ever jilled off in front of him was early on in our marriage ( I have written about it in one of my earlier stories. )
We had screwed earlier that night and I awakened to find Ben not in bed. I walked nude to the living room of the trailer we lived in at the time, and found Ben sitting on the sofa . He was nude and had his head back and his eyes closed as he beat his meat. This surprised me and kinda made me think that maybe I wasn't enough for him. Yet as I watched him I got really turned on. He didn't see me at first and as I watched, I put my hand to my pussy and began playing with myself. Suddenly he opened his eyes and saw me. He didn't stop his stroking as it seemed to turn him on, and he encouraged me to continue. Before long he got his nut and shot his cum fountain onto his stomach, hand and thigh. That was all it took for me as I began to cum.
It was the first time we ever saw each other masturbate and was the beginning of including masturbation in our marriage and sex life. I love playing with my pussy and absolutely love watching him beat off. I find it to be really hot, and he loves watching me as well.
Thank you for the post, darlin'! Love your stories and your hot comments. Keep writing, be safe and stay horny 😘
hornyGG,
That story was fucking HOT. It gave me an instant hard-on!
i have always enjoyed jacking off in front of my wife. My first wife used to watch me sometimes, if I asked her to, and she used to enjoy it. (Or, at least, she acted like she enjoyed it.)
My second wife used to enjoy playing with each other. But, other than that, she was adamant that "masturbation in a sin". Eventually, I got her to watch me a few times, or even sometimes hold my hand while I jacked off, but she never really enjoyed it. Sad.
And, sadly, neither of my wives ever ASKED ME to jack off for them. I would have said yes in a moment. I might have even walked away from the lawnmower and left the engine running to go inside and jack off for my then-wife, if she had ever asked me. Men "want to be wanted" almost as much as women, or perhaps even equally. I would find it a HUGE complement if a wife ever asked to see my dick or asked me to jack off for her. (Neither of them ever asked to see my dick, either. That lack of attention made me feel ugly and unwanted.)
OK, sorry to go on and on about it. Just know that Ben was not the only man that enjoyed being watched. From the discussions that I've had with male friends, the feelings that I've described (both good and bad) are quite common.
From a man’s perspective: I think that me masturbating in front of my wife started on our wedding night as part of the whole sex session. She was fine with that. It took her a while to incorporate her masturbating in front of me during our lovemaking sessions. It took a few months I think. Now she uses a vibrator as part of our love play AND she’ll stroke her pussy and play with her clitoris with her fingers when she’s really turned on. Some days, on a planned sex session day, when I step out of the master bathroom into our bedroom, she will be lying there on our bed stroking herself or already using one of her vibrators.
On most days that we don’t have a full lovemaking session, my wife loves on my nipples orally & manually as I masturbate to orgasm. She really likes doing this. In fact, during our sex sessions, this is incorporated into the foreplay. It’s even something that we often do after intercourse – for my second or third orgasm of the session (after Melody has already had her orgasms.)
As part of our lovemaking sessions, we often do “tip on nip” where I masturbate as I rub the underside of my glans or tip on her nipple. She’ll be buzzing her clitoris with her vibe. So technically we are both masturbating. Usually, this is foreplay, but sometimes I cum on her breast. We’ve even had simultaneous orgasms this way.
Lately, most of my Melody’s orgasms are when I’m orally and manually playing with and loving on her nipples – as she buzzes her clitoris with her bullet vibrator. Sometimes I insert a G-spot vibe into her already cum-soaked pussy as well.
When we have simultaneous orgasms, she is buzzing her clitoris with her vibrator as I’m thrusting my erection inside of her sweet pussy. So I suppose technically you could say that she’s masturbating during intercourse. Many women need some manual stimulation on their clit in order to climax during sexual intercourse.
Interestingly, Melody doesn’t masturbate on her own but she HAS masturbated when we’ve done phone sex when we were far from each other.
Julie and I thought it was really hot to watch each other masturbate as newlyweds. We even did this a few times on our honeymoon. We started to get pretty sore after having sex 5 or 6 times in the first 48 hours of our marriage LOL so we decided to watch each other play with ourselves–that was seriously fun. She was squirming and moaning as she came and consequently there was semen flying everywhere!
This is so hot, youngcouple69, and has my dick hard. I’d love to know more details about your honeymoon jacking and jilling.
[From MH: Have you considered writing a story about it?]
I agree with Tinwaiting. Would be great to hear about it.
Yeah–I think I need to start writing this one up!
I agree watching is hot, men or women. In fact women even hotter because I think about what she is doing feels or that I need to try it the way she is doing it. I don’t like to be watched masturbating. I like being watched having sex but that has not happened often.
I would guess far more men like being watched than women. The whole peacock showing off his feathers.
I would rather feel his cock fill me with cum than watch it squirt. Watching is more of a now and then pleasure.
I agree with you, SecondMarge! I love seeing or hearing about women because I can relate and think about trying those things! Super sexy to me thinking about other women or seeing it accidentally. Love a good lady convo between women about masturbating. I usually end up wanting to do it afterwards.
I don’t like being watched either (my hubby is different) but I have been accidentally caught, like I’m sure we all have sometimes. I do think some men are a little more comfortable than women being caught or watched. It is still much more commonly considered “normal” for a guy to jerk off versus a woman jilling in most of society. As you said, peacock showing off his feathers and size etc. It goes with the whole concept of some guys being more confident when they are more endowed.
One of my dreams is to masturbate with my future husband and watch him do the same. With the cleansed view I now have if sex, I am so ready to try everything with my man someday. I'm sure I'll be nervous at first, because my whole sexual journey has been alone, so far. But it just seems so hot and beautiful and sweet to share every bit of oneself with that special person God brings to you. A guy jerking off and moaning and gasping is one of the hottest things I can imagine. And I would love to be doing my own part and putting on a show that makes him get so aroused.
I totally agree with you! Heck even my hubby just getting a slight bulge randomly in his pants gets my juices flowing. Doesn’t matter the pants, if I see that male organ of his stiffen just ever so slightly… well, I’m getting aroused. I can’t help it; it’s so sexy and fascinating to me that male part that fills with blood, stiffens, hardens and forms an erection. It’s so hot to me hearing a guy pleasuring himself with his hardness and especially sounds. Praying for you to get to experience this soon, girly, with your future hubby, and I love your view on sex now. Proud of you and stay horny, lady!
As a Christian man, it is so wonderful to me to hear of Christian women who both enjoy pleasuring themselves and love the thought of their husbands masturbating in front of them! I’ve had a long journey of shame with masturbation, and only now in my later 20s am I beginning to really get comfortable with my body in this way. Seeing comments like this really helps, so thank you! I had a short, ill-fated marriage when I was 20 and my then-wife severely condemned me for masturbating and had no interest in masturbating herself. I really hope and pray to get a wife in the future who will enjoy masturbating together. The sight and sounds of a woman masturbating are so beautiful, and what I most typically fantasize about right now when I masturbate as a single.
WOW!! You have just expressed the thoughts that I've always wished my wife would have. (And, I've gone through two marriages without having gotten that.) If more women thought the way that you do, then there would be less crime and war — because all the men would be worn out from fucking their hot wives and/or jacking off for them.
I have always been comfortable with it, and is something I've always found kinky and sexy. When we first got married my wife was uncomfortable doing it in front of each other. She loved watching me do it, but she found it odd to want to do it together, though she was still a trooper and would do it to appease me. Her outlook changed when she found out a friend of hers and her boyfriend did it together a lot, and so she felt it less of a taboo thing after that. She was always self conscious about her body as well, but as years have gone on and she gained more and more trust in me she has gotten really comfortable with it.
Currently she is pregnant with twins (her first pregnancy and our first kids) and sex is painful for her right now, so we have been masturbating together like crazy to still relieve ourselves and spend that time together.
We, too, are avid masturbators! We enjoy solo, mutual, and watching each other masturbate. I can’t even remember when and how we first discovered to erotic joy of masturbating for each other and watching each other; it’s been many years, it never gets old! We particularly enjoy watching me jack off in front of a mirror. My dear Anne, also loves to put on a show for me and then invites me to do the same for her and then begs me to finish on her wet, swollen pussy and/or hard-nipple-tipped tits.
I still remember getting caught by my wife masturbating in the shower, I had accidentally left the door unlocked. It was early-ish in our marriage. I was embarrassed. She was really turned on. I had my eyes closed and I can picture her big grin when I opened them. I think she asked "how often do you do that?"
"…err…erm… usually" I replied.
"I love that!" She said.
She still loves watching me do it; it makes her wet and horny and desperate to suck me.
I love watching her do it too.
I love the idea of her doing it while I'm at work. Sometimes she'll be in bed when I get home, getting all moist with one of the vibes. Gorgeous turn on! Irresistibly lickable pussy!
I still usually jack off in the shower, but rarely take it all the way. I save that for her. As I go up to the bathroom after work she often says "enjoy!" Smiling. "I will, feel free to catch me!" I reply.
Thanks for sharing Britbloke!
Married 30 years here. We didn't talk about it much for many years. Wife knew I did, but never watched and didn't want to know too much. We were married probably 5 years before she would even rub her clit while we had intercourse.
We were probably married 15 years before we both started doing it in front of each other. Not sure why we waited so long. We mutually masturbate pretty often, watching each other. I highly recommend new couples talk about it soon after being married. Nothing wrong with it and it has enriched us so much!!!!
First time for us was when I got home early from a trip and caught her in the act! What made it so good was that she didn’t notice I was there watching in the doorway!
It startled her, after she orgasmed and opened her eyes, to find out she wasn’t the only one in the room naked and beating themselves off! 🙂 I got closer to her and unloaded all over her tits!
No feeling uncomfortable about it after that. We had several conversations about masturbating, like the first time we did it and how, and that moved into some show and tell for both of us. That was sure fun, as well as surprising!
Masturbating together became something we added to our list of things to do, but still, as far as hotness, those times we have caught one another are the most memorable!!
Mutual masturbation is extremely appealing. There’s a hotness factor built in with the idea of sharing something so personal and intimate.
Men and women masturbating is very erotic. The audibles are as sensual as are the visuals. Wife and I have mutually masturbated our entire 30+ years together. Oftentimes, I like to be on top between the wife’s legs and stroking my cock. She will tweak my nipples and I rub my cock over her legs, belly and pussy. I read an article once where the woman said she liked to penetrate her husband with her clit. Sometimes, I will hold my cock such that my slit is positioned well at her swollen clit. Then with shallow strokes, I will push forward and take her clit into my cock head slit. And sometimes, she will rock her hips up to penetrate me. Super hot!
I agree — the SOUNDS are just as sexy as the visuals.
Or, as I often say, I enjoy "AURAL sex". 😉
The best would be if a wife would "narrate" to me her sexual feelings — especially WHILE we are fucking, or while she is giving me a masturbation show.
My husband and I have a "domestic discipline" relationship. He owns my body, and that is a choice we both made. I love to touch myself in front of my hubby, but I can’t touch my pussy without his permission. But it is a huge turn-on when I do it for him.
I love to masturbate as hubby watches. I have a 12-inch dildo I use. I get right in the center of the bed and spread my legs wide apart while hubby sits in a chair at foot of the bed so he has a great view. I use two hands and slam my pussy over and over until hubby says to stop.
Oh my! That probably feels amazing! Making me want to hop on my dildo right about now! Hubby is probably so thankful for that view.
Good Girl.
You have no idea how much I love it.
Reminds me of a particularly fun mutual masturbation session one afternoon in a hotel while at an our-of-town conference. She was wearing a leopard print satin chemise trimmed in black lace. She sat up in the bed with a couple of pillows behind her with her back against the headboard and her legs spread wide apart while I laid across the bed sideways at her feet on my back. As she told me how she used her fingers to get herself off multiple times earlier, she used her favorite vibe while she watched me jack off on a watermelon-colored pair of her silky panties. I lay on my back and slowly stroked for her, making sure I gave her lots of views of my hard cock while she let me enjoy a wide open up-skirt view of her pounding her pussy with the large dildo! We came together, and I totally soaked those pretty little lace-trimmed panties!
Super hot comments. Certainly encouraged us to get my wife's dildo out we haven't used in forever.
Maybe some couples, especially women, are self-conscious. Our society paints an unrealistic image of aesthetic perfection. Professional porn sites contribute to this.
Not every wife feels sexually attractive, much less pleasuring herself in her husband's presence.
The same may be true for husbands.
I'm blessed that Guy is fit, and well "groomed". I ask him to stroke himself for me sometimes when I've been thinking about his erection. And I pleasure myself for him to help turn him on.
If low lighting or candlelight helps, then go for it. But don't feel pressured to do anything because someone else does. Love, "Blue".
Yes I love to masturbate in front of my hubby. He usually sits at the foot of the bed and just watches or across the room if we are in a different room.
I loved having my wife watch me. I wanted her to see how excited she made me, and give her insight to the time before we married. I remember the very first time I did it – she watched me so intensely and with such intrigue. Made me even more excited. My favorite part was being able to show her the force of my orgasm and ejaculation by shooting ropes of cum the way a horny young man in his 20s can!
Yes, I did on our honeymoon because I wanted to show my wife what happens when I ejaculate. She saw the intensity and build up of energy and then the burst of cum. She did as well because I was curious how her orgasm looked like. We still masturbate together.