Favorite Time for Sex?
I’ve read a few stories about having morning sex (love it; was happy to engage in it this a.m.), and I’ll admit I enjoy sexual activity at any time. It seems my wife and I get busy most often at night. I’m not sure why, but just seems to end up that way. If my wife goes to bed without wearing a nightshirt or sleepwear, I know she’s looking for some “fun activity” time, and I’m always ready to oblige. Maybe it’s a time when we’re both not doing something else. We’re at the same place, at the same time… and as an added bonus, we both sleep better after having a few orgasms.
The problem with bedtime sex is that we’re both a bit tired. I’m not so tired that I don’t want to participate, but we’ve both been busy doing our daily activities: yardwork, housework, various chores and projects, shopping, visiting/helping friends, participating in hobbies—all the stuff you do that makes up your life.
I celebrated my 70th birthday this year, and though I stay fairly active, I recognize the effects aging has had on my physical abilities. I’m not as strong or limber as I once was. Moving around, bending down, etc., is a lot tougher and is accomplished much slower than in the past. All this explains why I don’t feel I’m most energetic at night. I’m convinced my sexual performance isn’t my best at that time.
To her credit, my wife never complains. She enjoys our intimate time together, and I make sure that she experiences pleasure (orgasms) before we settle for the night.
Morning sex is great, but I awake much earlier than my wife. When I’m feeling frisky, I often curtail my desire, not wanting to disturb her sleep. I can’t say I ever recall her complaining about being awakened for some action, but I do feel I should let her sleep, that I’m “taking advantage” of her, For this reason alone, it’s not my favorite time.
My favorite time is midday. Being retired, we can (sometimes) plan a time to share our pleasure together, providing our attention isn’t required elsewhere. Midday, I’m awake, alert, and have more energy than in the early morning or late at night. I like planning an encounter, getting set up, and selecting any toys I might want to include in our time together to give her maximum pleasure.
I get so much joy from watching my wife respond to my attention. Seeing her nipples become erect, her vaginal lips swelling and parting, her clit enlarging to my touch—it all really gets me going. I like engaging in foreplay; my wife’s learned to respond exuberantly to my touch and to orgasm easily. We often put a towel down, as when she has multiple strong orgasms, she leaks or gushes, which is another tremendous turn-on for me. I’ve been amazed at her stamina, at just how many orgasms she can have and still energetically jump on my member and ride it to yet another climax.
I feel truly blessed that God has given me this beautiful, passionate person as my wife.
So, now you know my favorite time; what’s yours?
Nice description of play time!
We are retired and wife is not a morning person at all. I am like you, by bedtime, I am getting tired. We use the afternoons almost exclusively. We use toys, play and have fun together, then usually take a nap before dinner and watching t.v. for the night.
Thanks, Ron 33. We used to set aside what I'd started calling "play dates" where we'd spend an hour or so giving each other a variety of types of sexual pleasures. I first called them "training days" as I'd read some tips on awakening sexual desires in your relationship. These sessions resulted in learning how to extend sexual pleasure, and Mary soon learned/became multi-orgasmic. Use of a variety of toys was a part of this learning process.
Our favorite time for sex is one that is required not chosen. Although almost a decade younger than you I developed heart failure. 6-7 years ago. So sex at night is very difficult because my heart is tired from the activities of the day. When we make love in the morning my heart is well-rested and I can do it.
When I first developed heart failure I researched it and found the recommendation to have sex in the morning when your heart is well rested.
So to answer your question, we have sex in the morning. But once in a while we have a marathon day or week where we somehow have sex morning, noon, & night. I can’t explain how we do that but it still happens from time to time.
Thanks, LovingMan, for the response. Sorry to hear that your physical condition has impacted your life in the manner it has, but Thank God we can still find a way to enjoy the happiness that sexual activity can add to a relationship. As I've aged, I've noticed my drive has experienced strange changes from what it's been in the past. We're Blessed that God has provided us each with a wife with whom we can share our feelings and emotions and discover such joy in that sharing.
Not that I'm having sex (I'm a virgin and husband-less🤪), but for me evening and nighttime would be the best. I love masturbating late at night. That works best because I don't need to worry about any family member knocking on my door. I sometimes wake up and masturbate in bed in the morning, but I can't fully relax knowing that someone might come knocking. Plus, I need food to energize me. Any exertion on an empty stomach usually results in me feeling very faint. At night, I've had all day to imagine hot thoughts, maybe get a bit worked up while exercising, read or watch something erotic in bed, and then enjoy some time on the floor by my bed. But of course, if I get married and wake up every morning with a delicious man beside me, I may swiftly decide that I can do anything with him no matter the hour!
LLL,
I really appreciate reading your commentary here and elsewhere.
I can likewise appreciate masturbating as a fellow single. It would be great to experience married sex someday if that’s God’s will!
Awesome that you get worked up while exercising. Maybe interrupt this regularly scheduling programming by
enjoying time on the floor by your bed now.
I like your attitude!
Thanks for your thoughts, LovelyLonelyLady. I've read many of your posts and can tell you are a passionate person. I would caution you not to set your dreams for a mate that will be all you can imagine in sexual performance. Learning how to please one another and the joy of sharing that exploration brings excitement to a relationship. I say this as I wouldn't want your expectations for sexual performance at the start of a relationship to be unrealistic and lead to frustration or dissatisfaction.
I believe all marriage relationships improve in sexual matters as they learn from each other.
Between midnight and 11:59pm! Any time is a great time to make love with my sexy wife.
JJ ..I agree anytime is great..but years of experience brings an awareness that there are some times that are preferable for both your enjoyment, for a variety of reasons.
We are in our 40s and we have recently started having a lot of sex mid-day. Ever since I started my new job I get some weekdays off since I work 12 hours shifts, and my wife gets home by noon. We end up heading to the bedroom until school is about to let out for our little girl. We do this 2 to 3 times a week on top of some evenings and mornings where we enjoy ourselves.
These afternoon sex sessions have certainly added so much spice and get loud and wild.
I can relate, Giants05, as I worked P.M. and MN shifts for most of my working years. Wife always worked A.M.s so our work schedules were often misaligned with our desires. Perhaps this is a reason why I feel our sexual relations improved after we were both retired: plenty of free time to play, and our two sons were grown & living on their own, so we were able to enjoy the sounds that strong passions can provide without concern for the noise we make.