Our Most Times in a Month
This Story addresses the story prompt:
“The Most Times A married Couple has had Sex, of any kind, in one Month”.
I have been married once. We are in our 44th year of marriage. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world even though my lovely wife just marked two years in memory care. I would do it all over, again, in a heartbeat.
When her Bi-Polar 1 became acute in 1991, I wondered how it might affect our physical relationship. Bi-Polar disorder, in the old days they called it Manic-Depressive, has destroyed many relationships. So, I began to keep track of our sex life in my journal. I kept track from 1991 until 2022.
We had always had a very active and wonderful sex life. It pretty much continued after her diagnosis, in spite of medications required to balance her, emotionally. And they all come with various side effects. It was not always “Conjugal” sex. But my wife would also just “take care of me” and I didn’t have to ask. She gave a most satisfying hand job. Our intimacy was maintained.
1992 was our sexual zenith with 90 intimate encounters and had already been married for 11 years.
For those keeping score, the total between 1991 and 2022 was 1,648. I would guestimate another 700-800 during the un-cataloged first 11 years.
What a beautiful post. Thank you so much! I feel the same way. I would not trade my 30 year marriage for anything! In fact, the presence of my Melody in my life is a constant witness of God’s love for me.
Ten or so years ago a therapist suggested that I should start writing a sex journal of Melody’s and my lovemaking/sex sessions. What a great idea that was! Reading over past experiences and the sheer number of them makes me VERY grateful for what Melody & I have.
God bless you and your wife! My wife is ten years older than me but I’m the one who has developed mild cognitive impairment. Sometimes MCI can turn into dementia but more often it stays pretty stable for years. I just have to deal with forgetting where I put my cell phone etc. And I use lists and my calendar extensively.
My more detailed sex journal entries are what become most of my Marriage Heat stories. And writing them & reading over those stories makes me feel amazed and again, very grateful to Melody and thankful to God for putting us together.
One more comment: My wife “fixes my problem” AKA helps me have an orgasm nearly every day we don’t have full intercourse. I’m sure you would agree that pretty much ANY sexual experiences with between husband & wife are still making love.
I visited this past weekend. She's calm and content. I think she knows me and i can still make her smile but she hasn't used my name in a while.
Thank you for your input.
What a nice post! I am sorry your wife is in memory care, sounds like you have had a great relationship over the years. We don't last forever though, none of us. Make the best of the years you have now!