Mutual Masturbation Virgins No More
Twenty seven years into our marriage, something E and I had never explored with one another was mutual masturbation. The topic of masturbation rarely surfaced in our lovemaking discussions over the years. From time to time I was gently reminded by E and was asked to “save myself” if we knew we were going to be apart for a while, as she always wants me full of desire after separation.
With that said, the topic of mutual masturbation was something that I had fantasized about often. While we had certainly witnessed each other touching ourselves in lovemaking, we had never had a full session where the intent was to separately bring ourselves to self-generated climaxes at the same time, and allow each other to witness from start to climax.
While I had thought about it often, I was always uncomfortable with the idea of discussing or suggesting it. I didn’t know if she would want to masturbate in front of me, and while I was willing, I had never jacked off in front of E either. What would she think? Would she hate the idea?
Finally, one day while fantasizing, I determined how I was going to approach the subject. I decided to make a list of about ten new or modified sexual experiences that I was interested in exploring and put them to paper, explaining each one, and why I thought I would be excited by each encounter. Mutual masturbation was on the list. I asked E to review the list, and I then asked her to tell me which she thought were hot and which were not. The idea of E telling me if she viewed this as hot or not was something that was both thrilling and made me nervous. I viewed mutual masturbation as a great demonstration of vulnerability.
When I presented the list, I mentioned that I believe God approves of all acts of intimacy between husband and wife that are consensual, but that I would only want to partake in acts that E also was excited about and supported. E went through the list and, to my enjoyable surprise, eight of the ten ideas I presented fell in the “hot” category, and mutual masturbation was among them.
We each talked about that for a while, and why we thought it would be exciting. After discussing the list, we were certainly very horny, and we agreed that we were going to have to check one of the boxes that night. We aligned on the mutual masturbation experience being the first to check off from the list.
We convened to the lower level of our house, dimmed the lights, turned on some music, and had a passionate make-out and foreplay session that got us both hot and bothered. Once we were completely unclothed, we agreed that we would move to oppose sides of an L-shaped couch so we could watch each other going to town on ourselves. My ask and desire was that we would climax as close together as possible, so I told E that I would control my pace based on her, and that I would wait until she climaxed before I did. As we separated on the couch, the whole experience was giving me butterflies in the stomach. I was so excited to share this experience with her.
We each had lubricant at our side and started to apply it to ourselves. My view was perfect, as I could see her entire body as she faced me. Her D cup breasts were on full display. She slowly worked her fingertips over the top of her slit and around it, with her feet up on the ottoman and legs spread wide. I was rock hard and started to stroke my member slowly as I took in her show and she took in mine. I was very conscious about not finishing early, so I took my time.
She rotated those fingers tips around her wanting pussy, and eventually one finger made it inside while her thumb continued to massage her clit. Her eyes were closed as she started to get lost in the pleasure that she was creating for herself. I stroked myself patiently and slowly so that whenever she opened her eyes, she to could allow her visual senses to take over.
As E massaged herself, I took special note of the gentle circular motions she was making around her clit. Both fingers moved in rhythmic motion, and I could see the blood flowing to those lips and her opening starting to show.
Two of her fingers started to enter her now. She curled those two fingers in about two inches and the opposite hand started to pull on her left breast and stroke her nipple.
My excitement was building, but I needed to see her climax first. Her breathing started to intensify as her curling penetration with those two fingers continued. E spread her legs more and then went back to working on her clit with a slow circular motion. The pace of her motion gained steady rhythm as she pulled more on her breast with the other hand. She was getting close. Her heavy, ragged breathing was magical to watch and listen to. It gave away the pleasure she was feeling, and I just watched her beauty in awe while continuing to fondle myself.
Eventually I heard a deep breath and gasp, and her hands stopped their motion and just held where they were. Her body shook as she pressed her fingers against her clit. Her eyes remained closed, just getting lost in her release and allowing the orgasm to fully come over her. My steady playful strokes remained, but I needed E to climax completely first, so I waited for her attention.
As E’s breathing normalized, her eyes opened and fixated on me. That was may cue to ramp up the show.
Grabbing more lube, I saturated my right hand and stroked my hard, purple cock with a gradual but increasing pace. My left hand was playing with and cupping my balls while also massaging my perineum. I was offering her my best show of what excites me down below. The feeling of my testicles being played with and the pressure in the area of the perineum while stroking my firm cock is glorious. As I stroked and played, the intrigue, joy and connection she was feeling was all over her face.
I ramped up the pace with my right hand, as well as the playfulness and pressure with my left. As my right hand went faster, I moved mainly up and down from the base up my shaft, leaving the head of my love stick on full display. The slurping sound of the lube between my hand and my cock was getting louder as I pressed the pace of action. I could start to feel the beginning of an eruption brewing deep within my balls, and I kept the action going.
Finally, upon the point of no return, I tried to hold in the release as long as possible, knowing it was here, but continuing to stroke. Then I clenched my balls with my left hand and squeezed my cock with my right. The little bit of extra squeeze delayed and intensified my climax such that I shot ropes of cum like I hadn’t in 15 years. The first release shot up in the air five or six feet away and over the ottoman that my feet had been resting on. The the second and third spasms shot up and landed on my legs and stomach, and remnants of my seed continued to ooze out of my well-pleasured cock.
E smiled at me, and the first words immediately out of her mouth were, “Wow, I LOVED that! And I loved watching you cum like that.”
I reciprocated the feeling and statement, as I love watching her body go through a physical release, and I loved watching E bring herself to climax with her rhythmic touch.
I share this story with much gratitude for having a willing and loving wife who embraces communication and intimacy. The thrill of fulfilling that experience in our marriage was truly about leaping over another intimacy hurdle. The thrill of that experience is in the vulnerability and trust that must exist to complete the act. It’s an act of love to share one’s body in marriage, and in this case the act is visual, both in terms of eroticism, as well as teaching one’s spouse what touch brings one over the edge.
The physical experience of having E bring me to climax with her body and touch is unmatched, but the thrill of mutual masturbation is one I know we’ll go back to. The intimacy that we both felt in the experience was off the charts.
Congratulations ! we “discovered” the joy and hotness of mutual masturbation when my wife could not do PIV due to pain for a period of years. It remains both a very satisfying event in itself but also as part of foreplay.
Mutual masturbation is very gratifying. Watching my wife masturbate while she's looking into my eyes and biting her lip is such a huge turn on. Hearing her breath increase, seeing her legs spread wider and her gorgeous erect nipples can send me over the edge. I'm always reminded of the intimate, personal nature of masturbation, when her body takes over, her eyes close and her thighs quiver – that part where it's all about her. Watching her cum is a raw almost primitive experience, she's not putting on a show a that point, it's the fulfillment of her sexual desire in the moment, honest and uniquely her.
Showing your spouse such an intimate expression of your sexuality is so deeply rewarding.
So very well said! I loved your comment about watching your wife climax being a raw and primitive experience. The intimacy is off the charts.
Good for you two, and congrats! Hot story!
Mutual masturbation is hot for both of us!
We discovered mutual masturbation soon after marriage. After almost 3 weeks of newlywed sex every day, I was getting ready to head out of state to start up a new project. My wife asked me, whatever will I do. I’m going to be horny all the time. I told her I knew what I was going to do, and let her know that every night when I got back to my hotel room, I’d be jacking off like a crazy person!
That got us to talking about masturbation, and we ended up having a show and tell session that was really hot! Mutual masturbation became a regular part of our lovemaking after that, starting with the next day!
Wish I would have been more bold like you early in our marriage to open up the conversation but I will take the blessing now as all things are in His timing!
I love this! I encourage all the MH couple to do the same! As an older couple we can tell you that all our bodies change (or will change) with age, but intimate sexual experiences, while becoming different, can also be just as satisfying, fun and intimate – even more so! Keep exploring and discovering!
Amen
I agree so much! I couldn't get my wife to try mutual masturbation for many years, but once she did, she literally cried and said she was sorry she had waited so long. We do it a few times a month now and we both enjoy it so much.
It is nice to do, watching etc. But is relaxing in that you don't have to satisfy someone else at the same time. If you are a bit tired and as you get older, regular PIV sex can get more difficult.
I would encourage young couples to try it right after marriage and do it occasionally. I think it has made our marriage stronger, more open than ever.
A very beautiful story of marital openness and loving vulnerability. The way you both approached it was lovely: you gently giving a lot of ideas, and her willing and eager to try them. I think mutual masturbation sounds SO hot and I will totally do it with my future husband. Of course, it may take some getting used to, after going so long being very private and quiet about it. But I think the heat factor outweighs any awkwardness. If a man, my man, was watching me pleasure myself, I think I'd melt. And I would love the view of him doing the same!
The heat factor is just as you inferred. May you be blessed accordingly when the time comes.
I suppose that mutual masturbation has practically always been part of our foreplay and beyond. My wife masturbates with a vibrator while I orally n manually love on her nipples. And frequently I’m pumping my rod simultaneously. My Melody cums this way nearly every time.
Your beautiful story reminds me how every married couple is different.
GREAT STORY!! We think a lot alike.
The love and communication was just as good as the sex. Glory to God!!
The only surprise is that it took y'all 27 years before trying it.
Had our communication about intimacy been as open early as it is now we’d have explored much sooner. A certain lesson for all young married couples.
"Mutual masturbation"
Interesting term.
I would call what you did, masturbating together.
I always understood, "mutual masturbation", to be masturbating each other.
When I looked it up, one website gave only the same definition as me.
Another gave two, both masturbating together and masturbating each other.
Oh the confusion.
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There is something special about masturbating together, you get to see your beloved's whole body and sexual response, that you would not be able to see with masturbating each other, oral, or sexual intercourse.
And you should all be doing it!
I strongly recommend that for newly-weds, that after you have gone heavy on each other, and gotten yourselves hot and horny, that before you fuck for the first time, you pull apart and watch each other masturbate yourselves.
Wives, rejoice in the view of your husband, dick in hand, hard and stroking, making himself cum, using his hand to make his semen spurt forth.
Husbands, rejoice in the view of your wife honouring God as per the Shulammite, with her "hands dripping with myrrh", (Songs 5:5), the fondling of her breasts, nipples, rubbing her pussy and fingering her clit, to by hand, share her orgasm with God and you.
Amen!
I'm so positively surprised by how many of the wives actually ENJOY watching their husbands jack off, and that they are so willing to DISCUSS that fact.
Of course, when we have freedom in Christ, then we should be having the BEST sex of anyone. But, neither of my ex-wives were very good about saying things like that out loud. Once, after we got done fucking, I asked my first wife if she had enjoyed it (because she had not said a word the entire time, which I find depressing). She snapped, "Well… I'm not COMPLAINING, am I??" Ouch! (She didn't realize that she had just tacitly admitted that complaining was her norm.)
I so long for a sex-positive wife that would enjoy a mutual masturbation show as an occasional change of pace. And, for me, part of that enjoyment is TALKING about it — during the act. Sex is a form of communication, and that should go all across the board.
So, all the straight-to-the-point comments and descriptions by the wives are quite a turn-on for me. And, it's an encouragement that there really are women like that "somewhere out there". If the Lord wills, then He will provide one for me before much longer. Thank you, ladies!
This is amazing! mutual masturbation is a common routine for me and my spouse, we masturbate probably around 3 to 4 times a week it is a great way to decompress from work, kids, and the business of the day. Normally we watch a show as we masturbate and it is amazing to be able to spend time with my spouse relaxing and pleasuring our selfs!
This is certainly hot, and I believe that masturbating for your spouse is one of the most intimate acts that you can do. It’s taking something that is intensely private, (for most of us, at least), and sharing it with your spouse.
I’m so happy that you and your wife have discovered this pleasure.