Describe Your Perfect Sex Room
Let’s pretend, gentle reader, that you have an entire room devoted to spicy, sexy fun. Let’s go one further and imagine an unlimited budget to furnish and decorate it however you want. What would your perfect sex sanctuary look like?
I’ve always loved the idea of themed rooms. Imagine spending time with God in your own little prayer chapel, surrounded by flowers and stained glass. Tabletop gamers might picture a Dungeon and Dragons-themed room with mounted weapons and wood paneling; book lovers, a personal library with fancy armchairs; and the sports fans, a private sports bar with a pool table or jukebox.
Then there are the sex fiends among us—which is to say, most of us. Whether you’re married or single, imagine you had an entire room devoted to sexual pleasure. How would you fill it? What furniture, furnishings, lighting, flooring, and décor would you choose?
I’ll go first.
I’m single, so my room would be dedicated to self-pleasure. The kids call this kind of thing a “gooner cave,” but I prefer something fancier. Let’s call it the masturbatorium.
I’m not comfortable masturbating unless I feel safe, so privacy would be a must: frosted windows, soundproofing, and a lockable door. The strip-club aesthetic isn’t for me with its glaring neon and garish velvet. Instead, I would love a cozy, classy atmosphere. Picture wood paneling and warm, soft lighting.
A sex room needs only one basic piece of furniture: a bed or seat. Personally, I would go for a nice leather sofa. There I could sit and stroke my erection, or lie back and buzz its head with a vibrator. If I felt especially animalistic, I could even put a sleeve beneath the sofa cushions and hump it to orgasm.
On the walls, I would display cute pin-ups and vintage erotica. The aesthetic would be teasing and playful, not explicitly pornographic. There would be mirrors, of course. I think most of us like to watch ourselves in the throes of ecstasy. A shelf or glass cabinet would display sex toys like trophies. (The difference is that we don’t rub our privates with trophies or put them in our holes… not usually, anyway.)
A cupboard would hold towels and washcloths for easy cleanup. Speaking of which, a sink and toilet would be wonderfully convenient. For this reason, a half bathroom would be the ideal space to convert into my masturbatorium.
When I pleasure myself, I appreciate having white noise. Grunting and gasping into dead silence leaves me feeling uneasy even if I have the entire house to myself. My sex space would have a speaker to play soothing sounds or soft music.
That’s my vision of a perfect sex room: cozy, private, and comfortable.
Believe it or not, the idea of sexy spaces is hinted in Scripture. The adulterous woman in Proverbs 7 tells her victim, “I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.” Her intentions may have been entirely sinful, but I can’t fault her flair for interior design!
Unrelatedly, if any of my gentle readers are curious about Adán, Eevee, and the Eden Oasis story, I’ll pick it up again one of these days. I’ve put off writing further chapters in my fervent belief that procrastination is but an advanced form of patience, and that patience is a most admirable virtue.
All right, that’s enough about me. It’s your turn, gentle reader. Tell us all about your ideal, perfect sex room! Would it be a romantic, candlelit hideaway? A dungeon full of exotic sex equipment? A den of pleasure blasted by high-energy music and neon lights?
Describe your perfect sex room in the comments below!
In some ways we have the perfect sex room. We have a bedroom with a king-sized adjustable bed. A large TV that we use to create a theme ie… Forest with bird sounds, waterfall, waves on an ocean tropical beach, and our favorite- a fireplace with Spanish guitar.
We also have 4 halite (rock salt) lamps. These lamps glow like firelight and I love how my Melody looks in the warm glow!
We sometimes set up a massage table in front of the TV screen and do erotic massages on each other. Of course there is a master bath as well. If I could change one thing it would be to add a large jetted tub for two.
We have had wonderful times in themed rooms or nice hotel/resort rooms with jetted tubs we could “play” in together.
We have found inns with awesome themed rooms or suites… like Enchanted Elven Forest , Miner’s Mine, Lake Powell, Bridal Veil Falls, Cabin, Underwater, Space, Tropical Forest, etc. Sometimes we’ve done sexy roleplays with costumes in the themed suites. I’ve written about several of these sexy experiences here on MH.
We’ve enjoyed rooms with lots of mirrors too. But all that being said, we’ve also had incredible lovemaking sessions in simple, cozy hotel rooms & small cabins that really were on a beach or in a forest etc. .
My perfect sex room would be a candle lit bedroom with soft sheets and other types of linen. A large mirror in front or beside the bed. Perhaps over the bed. Kinda slutty but yet romantic. A couple of sex toys such as a vibrator, dildo, strap on and the like. Just a place a couple can enjoy the pleasures of being together privately and be passionate.
We have our bedroom set up to fulfill our sexual needs and passions. For us ambiance is important so our lights are on dimmers and we have music readily available with speakers set up in our headboard and on the opposite wall. We have restraints that we can easily tuck under our mattress as well as drawers with a variety of sex toys and bondage gear (rope and spreader bars, etc). Our bedroom closet is walk-in where we keep some of our favorite’s a small sex stool (get one of these) and her Sybian as well as other odds and ends.
We do have a tantra chair that we use frequently and I highly, highly recommend it for couples wanting to explore sexual positions in a new way. Unfortunately, due to its size, we can’t simply tuck it away. We keep ours out as our kids are all gone, but it has caused a few queries in the past from curious friends and a few winks from friends who know…
Your bedroom ought to reflect your needs and desires. Sure, we also have a tv and books by the nightstand, etc. But when we need our room to reflect our sexual desires, everything is right where we need it to be.
Over the years, I have thought about this question at random.
There is actually furniture on the market now that is designed specifically for different sex positions. So, some of my thoughts are based upon an "unlimited budget".
One of my favorite positions is standing doggy style. There is a sort of "chaise lounge" that is designed to give the woman maximum comfort and reduced back strain while bent over getting fucked from behind. So, that would be a useful piece of furniture.
Another "requirement" would be a pair of matching zero-gravity recliners. These would have wheels that could be locked, so that the chairs could be moved for various uses. My main thought for these is to put the two side-by-side, facing each other. This is so that my (future) wife and I can put on masturbation shows for each other, and/or play with each other. That is one of my favorite fantasies, and so I'm stroking my dick while typing this.
The room would also need one of those sex swings that hangs from the ceiling. That would be used mostly for her to lie back and enjoy getting fucked while I'm standing in front of her. But, if it is sturdy and fully adjustable, then I suppose that she could put me in it, and then raise it up so that she could suck my dick while standing up. That way, she could walk around it and try different angles — without all of the effort of crawling around in the bed.
Those are my main thoughts on a sex room. Ladies, what are yours…?? (I've noticed that mostly men have replied so far.)
This is an interesting idea, and one I've actually thought about before.
I'm a planner by nature, and I've even drafted a floorplan for my own house, if I ever have the privilege of designing and building my own house in the future. It includes an area accessible from the master bedroom that could be a storage space or closet of some kind… or it could be a sex room/love nest area… or even a dungeon? I like a little kink, and I hope my future wife will too. Not enough to dedicate a whole room to sex furniture, but I do have a few ideas.
Most of my ideas are spicy, but not necessarily original. Obviously, the first requirement is a good quality mattress on a solid bed frame that won't rock into the wall when we're pounding the daylights out of each other. It would also need to be able to accommodate an under-mattress restraint system and other attachment points for some simple bondage.
I'd definitely want a mirror or three, perhaps mounted on a wall near the bed, and maybe one on wheels so we can move it right where we want it to watch ourselves and our steamy action. And of course, if we really feel like splurging, another one on the ceiling above the bed. It would probably be good to have a way to disguise that one so the room can still be used as a guest room if needed. And if someone finds it, oh well, it's not the worst thing for a guest to know that we enjoy each other.
Of course we'd need storage space for all the sexy implements we'd need: soft handcuffs and ankle cuffs, blindfolds, gags, perhaps a little more series bondage piece or two, lingerie and costumes, dildos, a strap-on or two (for her to penetrate me, or for me to double-penetrate her), vibrators, anal plugs, nipple clamps, collars… so many toys to enjoy.
Bathroom access would be nice for multiple reasons: easy cleanup, baths and showers together that get steamy in more ways than one… plus I've long fantasized about having sex on a nice, plush bathroom rug.
Plenty of windows would be nice too! I'm not particularly interested in or comfortable with showing all the neighbors our action, but I DO think natural daylight would be just about the best lighting for having an optimal view during sexy time.
One special implement that frequently crosses my mind is some sort of adjustable bench/massage table type thing, designed to fully support the body and all 4 limbs, while also giving easy access to all the sweet spots. This way a "subject" could fully relax (and perhaps be fully restrained), while the other spouse has full access to pleasure them in any way they see fit. The bench could be adjusted so that the subject can be face down, face up, or inclined at various angles. (This is my kinky side coming out, haha!) It's a bit of a difficult thing to describe, but if you search "extreme bondage table" on Amazon, the first product is a pretty good approximation of what I'm looking for—and not exorbitantly expensive either. This style doesn't look like it can accommodate face-up positions very well. But with the right cuffs, straps, attachment points and some pillows, I'm sure we could fashion up a position where my wife could be comfortably restrained face up on the bed, gorgeously exposed and completely vulnerable to all the ways I'll tease her before finally letting her cum explosively.
Oh, and I almost forgot: sound-proofing! It would be nice to be able to totally let loose without concern of making other people in the house, or even neighbors feel awkward! Even though I'm single, I know for a fact that I want vocalizations to be a regular part of lovemaking in my future marriage. It doesn't have to be loud, but I want us to be able to make whatever sounds come naturally without any worry of being overheard. It's not the end of the world if someone hears us having sex, but I'd prefer to be able to fully relax knowing that our intimate time is for us alone.
At the moment, we have the toys above our walk in robe, stored away from the kids. There are about 3 dildos in various sizes, handcuffs and lube as the largest dildo is about 10 inches and girth.
Our perfect sex room would have to have mirrors, TV with porn on and a cupboard with lingerie.
A massage table would also be good so we could role play and give sexual massages.
The things that turn me on go from very romantic to very kinky. In a perfect world, I would have a room that catered to both. Actually, I might need two rooms 😉
The perfect sexual? hmmmm….
Having a career that has allowed me to tour many different homes I have seen things that some might not.
Including sex rooms.
Too often I see things that are more garish to me colors that seem like they're out of a 60s want to be sex movie. Red and black and purple.
Not that there's anything wrong with these colors in themselves.
But I think one of the most tastefully done that I've seen was a woman I have mentioned before that I know.
I do not condone the lifestyle as in what we used to call swinging.
But this couple which were well to do.
He owning a manufacturing company and she owning two lingerie stores in our area at the time.
[They were] involved in the lifestyle.
At that time that I met her although I was suppressing my attraction to other women was very aware of my attraction to other women. And I have brought it out that I have in my later years accepted my bisexuality although I will never act on it with another.
.. my business interactions were with her. And I did find her attractive! On my first visit. Took me on a tour of her home. It was a very nice house in a very nice area of our city.
After making it through the main floors which were large beautifully appointed,
We went into what would be considered the basement area. It did have a walkout area so there was a lot of sunlight shining into it.
The usual recreation room with a bar were present and there was some construction going on at the time.
As indicated by a pile of lumber that was laying along the walls.
Eventually we got into the back area of the recreation room where there was a closed door.
Opening the door and ushering me in I was greeted by a large and bright room surrounded by mirrors. I also noticed there were at least three televisions mounted high up on the walls and what appeared to be cameras in the corners. There was a variety of furniture inside of the room and in the the middle a very large bed.
at this point in my life I was somewhat clueless to this whole lifestyle so I didn't know exactly what was going on.
She just explained it as a private recreation room.
I won't go into any detail about it. But I did have a number of meetings with her after and it was during these. In which she began the process of a seduction.
It was very hard for me to resist but I did.
It was also during this period of time that I found out the truth about the room. In the corner there was a cabinet which appeared to be an armoire. When she opened it it contained a variety of toys. I found out these were the same toys that she sells in her lingerie stores as marital aides
I also found out that they were part of a group of people who were in their economic strata which were in the lifestyle and would host parties. The cameras in the room were connected to a closed circuit system in the house which allowed the viewing of what was happening in the basement to be viewed anywhere in the house including the other bedrooms where other things could be going on.
It was in that room where she came very close to seducing me.
The thing is this was not dark or garish. It was light and airy and unassuming.
Upon visiting her [lingerie] stores at a later date they were the same with large open windows and a pleasant atmosphere.
All these years later we have maintained contact and a friendship.
… As for our home here, my husband M. A talent for building and remodeling.
We aren't well to do and we live in a modest ranch home.
But in our bedroom he has built some of the furniture such as the headboard to our bed which contains a mirror in the middle and hidden compartments ( which one cannot open unless they know how thereby keeping it out of view from grandchildren or children.) which contain various sex toys , blindfolds, lubrications and smaller type restraints.
Our closet which has a large front opening is covered by mirrored doors, on one wall there is a television mounted on the wall and we do have a way of mounting a camera on the television. Just for our purposes alone.
Things we have recorded over the years we have used multiple times during our love making sessions or on solo experiences,
When not in use the camera does find its way into a box and out of reach from anybody who might suspect what it's for.
At the foot of our bed is a 5 ft long countertop height blanket cabinet built by my husband.
Due to the fact that he's taller the opening of it is set just below his waist. And the top is padded.
And also divided so that one half can be raised to different heights.
For all suspected purposes anyone who looks at it would think it's just for holding blankets and such at the foot of the bed. But I can tell you that I have been laying on my back or my stomach multiple times with. Having his way with me.
The comfort level is amazing for both of us. Being much taller than I am and having it at the proper heigh it's no bother for him to insert and thrust. For me having it padded and the adjustable half of the lid I can be sitting upright or have it flat while straddling it.
Under our mattress is a four point restraint system.
Although, having had a long and revaling relationship with his sister. ( Before you jump to conclusions I don't have sex with her and neither does he. We are just always very open about talking about sex
) She does know about our room and what it contains.
She has also watched our home for us when we've been on vacation and had a skunk fighter down me that she's used our bed and my sex toys while they're on her own.
In the end you asked, what makes the perfect sex room?
It's one in where my husband is. In other words every room in our house has been a sex room at one point or another.
Something for you to consider I guess when you visit the homes of your friends and family.
Lady L.💋
Lady L.,
I really enjoy your comments and stories.
I was also groomed by an older male friend when still a minor (he was also a minor still, just older). Thankfully nothing physical happened because one of my older siblings caught on and got me away from that situation.
Also I was hit on a lot by gay men in college. I have never considered myself bisexual simply because I haven’t ever desired physical contact with a fellow male. But I know something of what you mean about how slow and subtle the process is!
That said, I have had close male friends, some of whom I have openly discussed sexual matters at times. In some cases, I would have been on board if any of them had wanted to masturbate together (with no contact, only looking). Still, I don’t really consider that to make me a bi-sexual.
One of them who like me is above average in length, showed me a picture of his erection and talked about some of the problems he’s dealt with finding condoms, as have I. Although unlike me he is extremely endowed, ironically he is of half Asian descent so I have never given much heed to the stereotypes about different ethnicities.
Anyway, I love your openness and always enjoy reading your comments.
God bless!
I will keep this answer pretty succinct with a mix of certain elements of our main floor master bedroom today along with what it might look like if our early 20’’s kids never came home again nor entertained guest again.
My perfect sex room would have mirrors covering all walls and ceiling. In addition to our bed various other furniture options to entertain varying positions and angles. A Tantra chair as previously mentioned in an earlier response would be present. Quick access to lube; toys; music; mood lighting. Motion censored cameras with the ability to turn on or off at room entry. A sitting area with recliners for face to face masturbation fun.
The mirrors and camera would be the most exciting and new elements that get me hard just considering.
My favorite room is one with. Jim in it and we are both naked and of course, horny! We would just need a few basic helpers (lube, but plug, medium vibrator, and lots of energy drink for my monster cock man! No food needed, I'll be feasting on cock and he on a very creamy pusssy!!
Ooh, great discussion post! I have thought about this topic a bit and it sure is a fun one! I think I'd want the room to be the bedroom, since that seems like the main space where a couple can unwind and unleash themselves. I prefer carpet, not hard floors. Soundproofing would be great, at least for the bedroom door. I would make the room cozy, very relaxing, not too busy with unnecessary stuff, and probably coastal or tropical in theme (I love the beach!). I like white noise (I always run a fan at night and sometimes ocean or rain sounds) and music would be great for romantic dancing, a striptease, or languorous lovemaking. A king bed would probably be nice for sexy activities, but for sleeping I'd probably find it too huge and lonely. The main things for me would be feeling secure, so not worrying about thin walls or other people in the same house/apartment building, and also feeling at home. I think about the first times I'll have sex with my future husband, whether it's in the honeymoon location, a hotel, or whatever place we are living, and knowing myself I'll probably feel really strange and unsettled until I'm used to it. Combine a new place with first-time sex and I will be a bundle of nerves!
Our perfect sex room would have a place for her, and a place for me. For me it would be a place where she could tie me up, spank my bare bottom with multiple implements, and finish on a sex swing or wear. I could bend her over a table to fuck from behind. For her it would full of toys. Vibrators, nipple clamps, and butt plugs. She would also want a massage table to start out the night, and comfortable bed with lots of pillows to finish on.
Thank you all for your responses!
I'm intrigued by your various priorities and preferences for the ideal sexy space, and it's wonderful that some of you have already created your own special places for intimacy.
Our bedroom evolved as our sexual journey expanded across the years. It has become the physical manifestation of our sex, kinks and fetishes.
"What would your perfect sex sanctuary look like?"
I don't know about perfect but I really like what we have now. We turned one of the rooms in our unfinished basement into a bit of a naughty room. The cement floor has exercise pads and the one wall has a few 6 foot mirrors. It also doubles as a workout room and the workout bench with weights doubles as a spanking bench where we can tie each other down. We have a locked cabinet where we keep toys, ropes, crops and one of those Liberator pillows with cuff attachments. It is useful as a real workout room if we remember to put the toys away. With a blue tooth speaker and scented candles it's easy to float away into sub-space there as we take turns submitting to each other. My only complaint as it being a subterranean basement it gets chilly during the winter.
No surprise.
Our perfect room would have a swimming pool.
I’ve always wanted an indoor or covered pool not only for year round swimming, but also for year round nudity.
My very first view of naked female breasts happened at a pool, so that connection stuck.
My ideal sex room (not counting any fantasies or kinks such as wanting to be watched).
Well, we actually got to live a pretty ideal situation for awhile.
While I wouldn’t consider myself wealthy, I have done specialized blue collar work in two different fields. I have worked hard to build a good and trustworthy reputation and have made connections all around the U.S.
A fellow Christian I know, an older African-American gentleman who is a wealthy businessman, was kind enough to rent us a breathtaking property at a very low cost (below market value) in one of the Northwestern states. Vanessa and I lived there for about a year and a half. The library room overlooked a tree-lined rushing river.
Sex there with the windows open was absolutely breathtaking. I may write about it sometime.
Converts bedroom with a full bath. Remove shower/tub and replace it with a combo shower/sauna/steam room. I love the idea of getting each other thoroughly clean everywhere, shaving each other bare and then adjust steam and heat so it is warm but not stifling. Take a long time licking each other all over tasting the slightly salty skin of each other. Then move to the bedroom where a fireplace with gas logs is present for warmth and ambiance with cabinets for whatever toys or restraints are stored. Possibly cameras at various angles to record adventures which can be accessed via online for teasing while one person is traveling. Music or white noise for mood and possibly sex furniture/cushions for variety.