Sexual Encouragement
Hello everyone! We are really grateful for a place like MarriageHeat where believers can share their sexual experiences, desires, stories, and much more.
We strongly believe the church has done a horrible job of teaching the goodness and satisfaction of sexuality in marriage! Consequently, believers go and find answers to their curiosity in the wrong places, like porn websites, Hollywood, and many other ungodly places.
We just want to encourage you to keep pursuing a passionate sexual life with your spouse and get lost in each other’s bodies and love, because it is a gift from God. Remember, in marriage, everything is allowed if both of you agree to it, from masturbation, the use of sexual toys, oral sex, anal sex, BDSM—again, if you both consent to it—and much more! But never force your spouse to do something they don’t want to do.
Blessings and stay HORNY!
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God absolutely put Marriage Heat in my path (I still remember searching for "free married sex stories" and stumbling on MH) and it has been a huge blessing and tool in my life. Because of the beautiful and positive way marital sex is portrayed here, my thinking was changed. I had a lot of fear, disgust, and ignorance about sex, and guilt about masturbating, and God knew I needed to be freed from all that. Praise Him, I am, and I look with eagerness to the day when I may be married. Thank you, MH, for this very important ministry.
Don’t forget role play!
Also, I agree that Christian churches have mostly failed miserably to teach about the potential sexual ecstasy found in a good marriage. We say “Don’t! Don’t! Don’t!” to our youth, then when it’s “Do! Do! Do!” the newlyweds don’t know WHAT to do.
Fully agree!!!!
We need to be teaching them early to masturbate to help them WAIT, then when you’re married it’s go time!
Married couples should have sex any way, and anytime they can! It’s the amazing natural glue that builds the life long bond of a healthy marriage!
Although I have pushed the limits in the past, Jim and I aggressively use MH as a playbook for hot sexual adventures! To be honest, I never would have tried anal sex had it not been for the open experiences of others – and now we incorporate it regularly and SO enjoy it.
We also enjoy sharing our stories with other MH horny couples!
Your adventures with Jim are some of my favorite stories here.
I have to say that since joining here it has been not only a illegal to for me a multiple times a day go to.
[From MH: Could you clarify what you mean by this sentence? Usually we can understand the author's intent despite typos, but most people probably won't understand what you mean here! As a friendly recommendation, try re-reading your comments before submitting to avoid issues like this. It's especially important in situations like later on in your comment, where a typo seemed to make you say exactly the opposite of what you meant!]
Both of us enjoy very much reading the stories and experiences of others who have like mind as us. Though at this point and at this age I can't say that there's much that we have read which we have not already tried. But I [can] say I have found myself encouraged by the other women who write and comment. The people here are such a lovely group and have welcomed us warmly. Look forward to becoming a bigger part of this group and hopefully playing a part and opening up the minds of married couples who question what is acceptable or not for people of faith within marriage. Thank you so much for having this site we'll see what the future holds with all the big changes coming up concerning artificial intelligence in the near future. Also just one question does anybody on here use a writers app? Or do you just all type in on your own?
I type my stories on my iPhone on a diary app. Sometimes I move them to Google Docs to edit them on my computer. My computer has Grammarly – a great app for catching misspellings and typos.
As a sometimes MH editor, I really appreciate Grammarly.
I just type it in or else write it on my docs and paste it. I have never used a writers app.
My sincere apologies. I have a tendency to use voice to text quite a bit, the drawback is if I'm not paying attention it will often change my words or misunderstand what I'm saying.
I totally agree with you that I need to proofread everything before I submit. What I meant to say was.
" I have to say that since joining here it's not been unusual for me to stop in daily, and quite often multiple times a day."
I have certainly gotten some great info here and it's helped me grow my understanding of God and brought me closer to Jesus. I look to the wonderful examples of the people who post here, and appreciate the discussions that I've had over the last two years. I recently wrote a story about what God has been taking me through: https://marriageheat.com/2025/04/15/god-doesnt-blush-my-story-of-overcoming-shame/
It's an ongoing journey and still so much to discover!
Marriage Heat is wonderful. I stumbled onto it about 10 years ago, and have been an avid reader since.
A couple of years ago, I started writing my own stories, and while most of them are fictional, it gives me a great outlet for my sexual frustration and desire.
❤️ thankyou
It helps us:
1- as a husband
2- as a wife
3- as a couple.
We use it to masturbate when apart, find new ideas when we are together, and we have used it as foreplay, or had sex while reading many of these stories.
I hope others do the same!
Enjoy your bodies and enjoy hot, steamy, dirty, fun married sex!
I disagree with the "in marriage, everything is allowed" viewpoint.
This may be an unpopular view, but I feel compelled to bring it up — especially regarding anal sex. (I have written a detailed analysis on another site, which MH has graciously allowed me to post in the past. So, I will not "wear a hole in the welcome mat" by posting it again here.) My source text is Romans 1:26-27, in which "women have exchanged the natural use for the unnatural". This is in the same section that describes men burning with lust for one another. They are both doing the same thing.
Even within marriage, there are boundaries. If that were not so, then Paul would not have written to "keep the marriage bed undefiled". (If it were true that "anything goes" in marriage, then HOW could it become defiled…??)
We should always try to understand the Bible IN CONTEXT… not just attach things to OUR context. Especially with Paul’s letters, he was writing to specific local church communities about their specific context. Why did he address sin more to the church in Rome than in his letter to Jude? Why did he talk more about spiritual identity to the church at Ephesus than the church at Philippi? We may not know exactly… but we know he was addressing very specific things. He didn’t talk about sexual immorality in all of his letters — these were specific issues he was correcting. So to pluck out a phrase from Romans that says “exchanged the natural use” and say that applies to anal sex is not the way I would choose to handle scripture. It is highly doubtful that the correct context of that verse has anything to do with anal sex. This is called “isogesis” – when we infer our own meaning onto a verse without considering the full context. Also, then, where do you draw the line on that. Is oral sex off the table since it isn’t the “natural” way to have sex? Is a vibrator “unnatural”? You can believe what you want based on your marriage, but I bristle at the idea that this one interpretation of Romans 1 is the authoritative and biblical path. I applaud that you have an opinion on the matter and that you are willing to share your perspective. But I don’t like when the Bible is used out of context to try to persuade others to your opinion. So keep sharing your views, even your contrarian views, but let’s leave lots of space for a variety of views, and if I had my wish, we would all stop throwing cherry-picked Bible verses around.
TunedOn, thanks for your concern. I don't think your view is all that unpopular. Nor, out of context of scripture. Yes, the Romans passage is specific to homosexuality, but what is natural is natural. Sure, Drs. will use a digit, or a scope. But, anal sex can create problems for the natural use of the anus, sphincter, & rectum. I do appreciate your comment.
As I do others. I do agree that a married couple can do anal, at their own risk, because naturally it is an exit. The muscles of it all work in that direction. The anus can handle conservative anal play, such as a finger, a small toy, or tongue. But, it is known that anal sex with something a s large as a penis has its risks of damaging the natural use. Thanks for caring to share your thought.
erotic believer, thanks for the encouragement. I just told our small group, looking at 1Cor 7, that the church needs a positive marriage sex education stance context/curriculum. That countless generations of youth, married, & unmarried are left out in the cold when it comes to great marital sex.
You say, "Remember, in marriage, everything is allowed if both of you agree to it, from masturbation, the use of sexual toys, oral sex, anal sex, BDSM—again, if you both consent to it—and much more!" I have a question. Since, you say, much more. Call it what you will. Maybe I'm interested, maybe I'm just using the posts & comments on MH, to ask a question I know is on a lot of our hearts in a pro, or con stance.
Given the OT, & a little NT, teaching on sex, can a married couple consent to swing, or wife swap? I, personally, am not pro on it. However, I see that God allowed incest marriage, multiple wives, slave/concubine wives, & widowed sil/bil sex for a son/inheritance purposes. Given these practices, back then, that would be a sin in traditional church today, where God allowed, without judgement, a person to have sex outside of their original marriage, I wonder if married couples today did things correctly, God would allow swinging, in certain cases?
Again, I am not pro on this. I do not think it would be wise to try this. I don't think we are mature enough to handle such things. Yet, we do post & comment on here that we have thoughts on it, or we have gotten close to the behavior. So, it is not just me.
Though, I am not pro on it, I am not sold that God would be totally against it, given the sexual climate of the OT, & multiple wives in the NT.
Let me have it, hit me with your best pro or con shot.
I think if God would give us an updated current New Testament it would allow couples to decide what is right for them. Only rule, they must agree.
I've looked at the same sort of situations myself. I can't adapt the "pro" aspect in conscience given my study, and for me it keeps coming back to this.
All of those situations that weren't condemned in the OT (or, possibly cancelled in the NT depending on your POV) still involve a "contract" if you will, a set of principles or agreements defined in Biblical law. So be it Jacob marrying sisters, or Onan taking his brother's wife after his brother passed, or polygyny, all of those things still involved a marital agreement. So as best I can ascertain, it was still sex within the bounds of a marriage, even if not a monogamous marriage or marriage as we define it in modern times.
So I can "make sense" of the fantasy, the arousal, and so on but still for me it comes back to marriage. And be it monogamous or plural, I can't find examples of where the Bible illustrated a consequence-free extramarital swinging or swapping situation.
I'm not coming from a position of wanting to be judgmental, personally, though I think that even aside from Biblical debates most human beings simply aren't mature enough. The fantasy is exciting, like many fantasies, because it circumvents human nature. The jealous and messy parts aren't there, the parts after the sexy encounter. It's like fantasizing abut being able to fly or breathe under water. It's fantastic to think about but quite different in reality.
That being said, I can't and wouldn't attempt to condemn someone for "Old Testament" fantasies and, in fact, have indulged in more than a few of them myself, and I think in those scenarios, the possibilities of what could have happened in the bedchambers of Solomon are intriguing to think about (and masturbate to!)
ifm101, yes, that is what I gather myself. That all of those biblical sex practices were in a marriage setting. I call it, wifing. The man was taking her as an extra wife. This also shows the righteous singularity of sex & marriage. What is called as adulterous, by the church today, God allowed as taking a wife, & not leaving her out in the cold. Only using her for sex. Which God likened to whoring.
Example: Genesis 16:3
So, after Abram had lived ten years in the land of Canaan, Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian, her servant, and gave her to Abram her husband as a wife.
Joshua 15:17
And Othniel the son of Kenaz, the brother of Caleb, captured it. And he gave him Achsah his daughter as wife.
One reason I entertain the thought is that current church tradition has no tolerance for anything other than original couple marriage, yet it is blatant God allowed what we, today, would not be caught dead doing. I've even heard preachers/members judge these practices & the Bible heroes that did them. When God does not.
As I said, I agree. The church is just not able to handle such a thing, today. Heck, we can't handle modern sex, marriage, divorce, blended families, etc. I would not condone opening a can of worms like this. Though fun to discuss. Thanks.
“ We just want to encourage you to keep pursuing a passionate sexual life with your spouse and get lost in each other’s bodies and love, because it is a gift from God. Remember, in marriage, everything is allowed if both of you agree to it, from masturbation, the use of sexual toys, oral sex, anal sex, BDSM—again, if you both consent to it—and much more! But never force your spouse to do something they don’t want to do.‘
I wholeheartedly agree. ANYTHING they both agree on is ok. But let us not forget every listed activity in that paragraph was once, or even now is considered a sin. “Only prostitutes give oral or allow anal sex” was taught in our parents lifetime, no need to go back a 100 years. “No good girl would masturbate or use a sex toy” again the commonly accepted belief until fairly recently. Even the rules on MH have changed. So we all need to be careful about feeling certain our beliefs about sex are the only true ones. So be careful when you judge, because in 20 years your views may change as much as they have in the past.
Thank you.