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MarriageHeat is a labor of love. I am so grateful for the people who make this website possible.
Recently, I realized that I couldn’t log into my account. I wanted to encourage a couple on here, but could not log in. Then, the next day, I found out the operator was trying to remedy my situation. I sent a message and found out she was working on helping me—on her one day off!
Friends of MH, we are very fortunate to have such loving and committed Christians leading this site.
Thank you so much!
LH
Great to hear you got some help! I've tried posting a story here about a week ago and it's just sitting in submitted for approval. First time poster here so not sure if this is normal.. how do you get your stories posted? I emailed admin but got no response
Would love to be a part of this community and share some of my own stories
[From MH: Hi LadyBelle, thanks for your comment and story submission! At the moment, there's nothing more you need to do to get your story posted, it's just a matter of waiting. We do see it in our system, and it will eventually be given a future publication date. We're a bit backlogged with submissions at the moment, which is good because it means we have lots of stories coming up, but it's also bad because new submissions like yours will probably take several months to be published. Since our site is run by a small team of volunteers, we only have the capacity to edit and publish 1-2 posts per day. Our current schedule consists of 8-9 posts per week, usually with 2 on our "Two-fer Tuesdays" and sometimes 2 posts on Sundays.
Despite the scheduling difficulties, we look forward to getting your story published on the site as soon as we can, and we want to thank you again for your involvement. In the mean time, please enjoy reading our other stories and participating in discussions! We're glad to have you here! 🙂 ]
It’s not always fast.
I had two that were approved within ~2 weeks, one posted a month later and the other is a month or so behind that in the que.
I’ve got two others that have been waiting approval for well over a month. I’d imagine the longer they are, the longer they take to get approved to post but I’m not sure.
Everything takes a while sometimes, and probably moreso as it becomes more and more popular! Good problems to have. I'm sure they do everything they can to make it a speedy process, but they do want to make sure that everything submitted will meet their standards.
MH I'm so grateful to you guys, thanks for being here! <3
We’ve had a similar experience trying to post our first story. We submitted almost a month ago, and it was approved a couple days later, but was scheduled to be published in September. Maybe that’s a normal gap for this site, but it was a shockingly long time away for us to see lol. I assumed it would be published shortly after being approved.
I have sent 2 or 3 emails with questions about that, and also about trying to delete an obsolete account, but never received a reply.
Not upset at all, just trying to get some clarity on how things work! We’ve enjoyed reading stories here together and are excited to share our own.
Thanks all for the feedback. I'll wait patiently for mine to get published then! 🙂
Hi MH, thanks so much for taking the time to reply! I appreciate the effort it takes to run this site and am truly sorry if I came across as pushy and impatient. I just wasn't sure how the site works and thought my story had some how gotten lost somewhere. Thanks for clearing that up for me 🙂
In the mean time, I've been loving reading all the stories and comments even more so!
[From MH: No problem at all! We understand you're new to our community, and we're happy to help you understand how things work around here. 🙂 ]
Hi MH, thanks for the replies you’ve posted above, I understand how things work a bit better now. I had no idea that publishing was “rationed” across every day.
We appreciate this site, it has helped be an icebreaker for us to have more conversations about our sex life and individual hangups. Thank you!
Marriage Heat is indeed a labor of love. Our editors volunteer their time. I edit stories when I can. The MH administration and editors have their day job and their MH job. Sometimes we take a while to get stories reviewed and edited. Right now there are so many submissions that it is a real challenge to keep up. Stories submitted today will not be posted for a couple of months or longer because we have so many submissions. So if a story sits in “Submitted” for a while, know that we will get to it as soon as we can.
I too am very grateful to the administration & the volunteers who have made and still make this site possible. To me this site is am important ministry to help Christians realize the joy and pleasure God intended sex to be.
God has blest me indescribably with this site. I pray it never goes down! The work and ministry put into it by those running it, the editors, the contributors, and the commenters is a blessing. Thank you all! You are tools in the Lord's hands and He has used you to teach me so much and lead me into Godly sexuality.
We would just like to convey our thanks for this site as well.
Being that among other people of Faith it's general practice that you do not talk about things of a sexual nature. But being able to openly communicate our sexuality to one another and discuss these topics through comments I think helps to provide some comfort to help alleviate some of the weight of guilt and shame. Also, instilling with us the need to be able to communicate sexually in the most important relationship we have. That of being our sexual partners, our spouses.
While we have thought how interesting it would be to have an ongoing communication thread where everybody would be able to communicate live we can also see the danger of it being too open and unrestrained.
Running something like this is a big commitment.
Thanks to all of you involved in the administration of this site!
🔥❤️ L.&M.🔥❤️
Amen! In agreement with all the thanks, & appreciation.
I wrote this "story" for a couple of reasons.
I wanted to help people understand that this is not some corporate sponsored website. It is a "mom and pop" labor of love. I wanted people to better understand that the people making this happen are very busy people with full lives. To make this happen is a sacrifice they do because they believe in it. I so admire them. They are not complainers.
Another reason is to hopefully help people be patient in waiting for things to get published. With a clearer understanding of how this really happens at MH – I think it can help people have the right time expectations. Accurate expectations help us not to be frustrated. We can more easily be disappointed when we have the wrong time expectations.
MH is truly the little train that could!
I'm really glad that people are super enthusiastic to see their stories published as soon as possible. That shows how excited they are about their topic. It shows how important this website is to them.
Lastly, I want to say to the past and present leadership and volunteers of MH – I know you work hard to carve out time here and there to make this happen. You have kids to read to, dishes to wash, laundry to fold, bills to pay, health issues, Bibles to read, prayers to pray, cars to maintain, meetings and games to attend, and trials to face.
Thank you for serving the Lord and us the way you do. You don't do this for people's praise. I'm very grateful for you all. May God continue to bless you as you seek His will.
MH is a special place.
LH
Thank you for all your support.
When Pam and I founded this site in 2012, it was built on the truth we discovered over three decades of ministry: the Christian lifestyle brand for marriage is hot monogamy.
Over the years, many pastors have contributed their voices and wisdom, and we are deeply grateful for their impact. We especially thank God for Calvin and Missy, who have taken ownership and now lead the site with passion and purpose. We're also thankful for the many volunteers who continue to serve behind the scenes.
If you feel called, we invite you to support this mission through your time or financial gifts to help keep the site strong and healthy for the future.
Through the years of growing pains and debate as to what will be permitted and what banned. I have always appreciated that MH exists. Been grateful for the hard work of those that run it. And hope we all have patience when it comes to waiting. While the stories let us know we are not alone in doing or thinking certain things about sex. Or inspire us to masturbate. I have mostly appreciated the comment sections that the stories inspire. Giving us a chance to contribute views , desires and experiences that would not fit into the story format.
Keep up the good work.
This site fills a need that isn’t quenchable by any other means. I deeply appreciate all of the work everyone behind the scenes puts into what we see. It is a ministry, and a necessary one, as it tries to encourage married couples to enjoy God’s gift of sex, and singles and to enjoy God’s gift of masturbation. It’s really bold to carry out, especially with the dim view most in the Christian have in regards to sex. I would like to extend my heartfelt thanks for all that you do.
I also submitted my introduction asa story several weeks ago and have not yet seen it published.
[From MH: Hello! We do see your introduction post in our system. Please see the replies we've left above for more of an explanation about our publishing schedule.]
I do have one question though. When I look at the filter on the main page which lists all of the different subject matters that have been written about in the past. When it says his heat or her heat does that mean it was written by a male or female author?
How do I enjoy all of the writing on here as a female I find it particularly intriguing if not downright arousing, reading things from a woman's point of view.
[From MH: The categories "His Heat" and "Her Heat" are a little vague, but generally tend to indicate that the pleasure is focused on one spouse or the other, even if both have pleasure in the encounter. We don't currently have a definitive way of denoting which stories were written by which sex, or from which sex's perspective. As you see more stories, past, present and future, you'll learn which authors are women, and which authors are men. Although that can be complicated by the fact that some couples share an account. Long story short, it's just trial and error figuring out who's writing. Sorry that's not particularly helpful!]
Thank you for the clarification.
As a shared account holder I fully understand your challenge.
I stopped publishing on MH a couple of years ago because of the editing of my stories. I can understand and even appreciate editing because of poor grammar or to stay within guidelines of the site. But MH editors too often got carried away and decided to add their own creativity to my writing which detracted and made parts of what I wrote sound awkward, stilted, and amateurish. I was embarrassed that readers would assume those words were actually written by me!
And then I read stories and comments on here with obvious typos that MH editors totally miss or ignore.
[From MH: Sorry you've had negative experiences! When we're editing, we do try to preserve the author's original intent, word choice and style as much as possible, and stories don't usually require significant changes in that regard, outside of the valid reasons you listed. However, sometimes mistakes are made, and since we're a volunteer team, we don't always have people for the task who are trained professionals, or people experienced with finding the right balance between preserving the author's original work and making grammatical/quality changes.
As for comments, while we do moderate/review every comment, we don't have the manpower to edit every comment to correct grammar, and usually only do so in limited circumstances.]
You should publish a book. It would be an instant best seller!