First Time Using Vibrator—Wow!
Hey all!
Long time reader, first time poster! I’m a single woman in my mid 30s, and I just purchased and used my first vibrator. Holy—wow! I’ve never felt anything like this before! It’s exciting and a little overwhelming.
Any ladies willing to share their first experience with a sex toy?
My husband and I tried sex toys from time to time, but it really took off with my first realistic rabbit vibe. There is something sexy about having a vibe that looks like the real thing (except it’s pink!). The rabbit ears are long and substantial and easy to position and the rotating beads add to the pleasure. We don’t always use it for penetrative sex, but it’s a definite turn on for him to watch me! Get one, you won’t be disappointed!
That is wonderful, NaughtyWife64. I started with a Magic Wand (Neck Massager with Soft Silicone Head – Personal Massagers for Women, Neck, Hand, Back, Muscle, and Head Massager.) I loved the orgasms I got from it.
Then I got a Rabbit, too. Not necessarily better than the Magic Wand, but a different feeling. Both give me a leg shaking cum. Sometimes hubby will watch while masturbating his cock. And we also have the option of going outside on the patio.
If my rabbit could practice law, my hubby would be in big trouble…😉😉😉
I got one for my wife a few years back she hadn’t use one at all. She now occasionally uses it herself I caught her one day and that was great turn on. We use it together too it’s a great
My sister and I have a mother that has always very liberal and has felt we needed to be educated in sex so knowledge would keep us out of trouble. We are a nudist family, so seeing the body every date was nothing. She had books and videos for us. In the lessons she also told us about masturbation. This was when we were about 12 or 13 and we learned it was not bad or naughty. We enjoyed it very much.
Later on when we were each about 18 we received a vibrator. Like you, sexygeek21, our first experiences were over the top. We had gotten orgasms using our hand and fingers, but WOW! Our bodies would shiver and the arrival had us shuddering uncontrollably.
We did not do this together in the same room, but we did talk about it and brought this fabulous act out in the open. This new found joy carried over to marriage and our grateful husbands.
Congratulations!
Wow, I'm pretty jealous! I wish all parents approached sex and masturbation that way! So happy you had that kind of upbringing and a positive introduction to sexual stuff!
Welcome from another single gal! That is so awesome that you discovered the pleasure a toy can bring you! I have only tried two vibrators and neither of them did anything for me, so I need to look for a different kind. However, I have a realistic dildo that has brought me immense pleasure and gotten me delightfully accustomed to pleasurable penetration. Usually I feel like I am going to explode around it, the sensations are so powerful. Please keep us updated about your experiences with the vibe! Hearing from other women is very helpful to me.
My wife has a rabbit vibrator which has made her squirt in the past, she also has a wand which she rest on her clit while I'm fingering her or a dildo at the same time as her wand.
My late wife loved to use her simple multifunctional drug store vibrator. She used her hands for years, but when she started using the that vibrator, it was her second best friend.
One day I was in the living room, and I thought she was taking a nap, but nope. She came out of tge bedroom and told me, with a big smile, that she had 12 orgasms.
I wish I could do that.
Sexygeek21, keep enjoying that new friend of yours.
What a lovely post, SexyGeek, and welcome to sharing your first story here. That first time can be such a mix of nerves and excitement, can’t it?
My first toy was a sleek little bullet vibe. I was so embarrassed to buy it at the time, this was before Master Joe, but it completely changed my world. It helped me discover myself sexually and learn how to reach pleasures I’d never known with previous partners. (Yes, I had those before Master Joe. I found religion when I met him.)
That first toy led to my second, and still my absolute favourite, the Womanizer clit stim. The first time I used it, it felt as though my body was waking up from a long, delicious sleep. If you don’t already have one, add it to your Black Friday basket and thank me later.
Now toys are something Master Joe and I share. I love it when he takes control of mine, holding it against me just where I need it, changing the rhythm until I’m gasping for more. There’s something utterly intoxicating about giving up control of your pleasure to someone who knows your body so well that he can keep you right on the edge until you finally let go.
We never thought about toys, until a friend from church started her own small biz selling lingerie & toys. Mrs. Tulsa went to her first fun party, where all the ladies who attended got a little bag of goodies a door prize. She got home, and as she was telling me about the party, she dug through the bag and pulled out a vibrating bullet. Thar was our first toy, a freebie! She was already horny, so she jumped out of her clothes, put in the batteries, and held it on her clit. She played around with the speed a little, and in about 2 minutes she was shaking all over! WOW is right! I tested it out on me right after that! That was the start of a fun night I can tell you!
We wore that cheap thing out, but have bought a few others over the years. We also bought many other types of toys, but for a good buzz for the buck, those variable speed bullets are hard to beat!
A few years into our marriage I developed early onset RA. Its progressed very slowly but right off the bat it affected my ability for my fingers to do repetitive movements. So it was difficult for me to stroke my Melody’s pussy n clitoris for a long time in foreplay.
This was a problem. So, I bought her a vibrator. WHAT A GAME-CHANGER! For us the vibrators have become essential and great blessing as well. We even have a “go to” sex position where she lies on her back and I lay on my side in perpendicular position. We call it the X position and it really facilitates us having sexual intercourse with her buzzing her clitoris with a vibrator. The vibrations can be felt through her vaginal wall during sex n that’s really nice for us both!
We have a 5-inch G spot vibe that often I lube n then slide all the way into Melody’s pussy as part of foreplay. Then she’ll use a bullet vibe on her clitoris as I orally n manually love on her nipples.
So, we view our vibrators as a great blessing. We have several n I put them out before a sex session and I refer to them as our “buffet of love.”
I’ve heard it said that using a vibrator makes the woman less sensitive to manual clitoral stimulation. I don’t believe it is true because Melody bought me a vibrating stroker and it is amazing – yet I can still masturbate to orgasm manually as well. I had never liked the feel of a vibrator on my erection until I got this vibrating stroker.
Melody does need a vibe to climax but she usually needs PIV sex first. If the use of vibrators has made it impossible for her to come from finger stimulation it’s irrelevant to us. We both still stroke her pussy n clit some in foreplay, but she uses the vibe to climax.
By the way, until 2 or so years ago she almost always came during X position intercourse as she buzzed her clit with her vibe. Now she usually needs to be thoroughly fucked first and i suck on her nipples as she uses the vibrator on her clitoris. She pretty much ALWAYS cums nicely. Sometimes I insert the G spot vibe into her well-fucked and creamed pussy before I tackle her tits with my mouth.
From the first time she used the vibrator Melody has loved how it feels. Again, for us vibes are a real blessing.
Though it has been many years since it happened, I can still remember getting & using our 1st vibrator.
It was our 1st type of sexual toy, we hadn't even tried lubes before this experience .I went into an adult bookstore & was looking @ toys. I wanted to try something new, ( this was actually before internet, it was quite a while ago In the late 80's (?) We'd been married 10 + yrs. I thought our intimate time together was satisfactory but thought about trying something new. We had a young son, around 4-5 yrs old, and we living with my aged parents that both were dealing with serious health concerns. Our intimate time was scarce, I wanted to make the most of it.
I bought a small vibrator kit, it had a 7" long, hard plastic, battery operated, vibrator with several soft rubber (?) attachments that could be slipped over the end, to vary the sensation.
I was dog sitting a friend that lived 2 blocks from my parents home. I went over early & took care of the dog, then spread a blanket over my friend's bed & set out the toy & attachments, to surprise my wife. I invited her to "help with the dog " ( wife likes dogs) & our son & my parents had settled in bed. Upon arrival to friend's house, I explained I had a present I had for her, & that I wanted to try. She was a bit apprehensive, but not for long. After getting her in position, I slid the toy around the outside, playing with speed adjustments & letting her get used to the sensation. By the time I slowly inserted the toy, she was wet with excitement ? anticipation ? ..she was beyond any nervousness she had felt. It didn't take long, as I slowly began sliding the vibrator in & out of her love tunnel. She pumped her hips ,getting into it & soon lifted her bottom off the bed as she experienced a strong orgasm. Without stopping, I continued to move the vibrator faster..until she shrieked ,& let out a strong release of fluid,
soaking my hand, her thighs, and dampening the blanket I'd put down. My wife was apologetic,,fearing she'd lost control of her bladder. I told her, don't worry, it didn't matter, as long as she'd enjoyed the experience. We then moved into PIV activity, as I recall I didn't last long, as I was very excited, after watching her orgasm strongly.
As years passed I eventually started buying & trying other sex toys. It wasn't until recently, my wife started touching herself & using the toys I'd purchased for her enjoyment.She prefers my using the toys on her,but she does enjoy them under her own power, when I suggest she take over. past posts I've written describe howshe has progressed in her participation in our play.
Felt compelled to chime in. Married 33 years. When we were first married she had a very difficult time having an orgasm. Things would feel good but anxiety would steal the arousal. We tried many ways to get around this without much success. She would have occasional orgasms through manual stimulation. After a few years, we got a simple bullet vibe — early ecommerce for the win. We tried a few different ones over the years and would chew through a lot of AA batteries because she would still take a long time to climax if at all. We tried a lot of different ones in search of the reliable orgasm. The Magic Wand was too strong.
In 2007, after 15 years of marriage, we happened to discover a weekend workshop led by Cliff & Joyce Penner, Christian sexual therapists / authors. This changed everything. We went back to our home after the Friday evening session with the homework of affirming each body part of the other and using a mirror for her to view her pussy. This was the first time that she looked at her pussy up close like this. Something happened that weekend and the breakthrough launched our relationship into the second stage.
A breakthrough for orgasms was the Eroscillator. The soft tip and less stinging vibration made orgasms a more regular occurrence. Later on, we got a Satisfyer and then a Melt. These clitoral pulse vibes are her favorites.
About six years ago, we had a second breakthrough. We were on a short getaway weekend while the kids were at camp. While we drove, we got real deep and talked about how each of us felt and were dealing with the low intimacy over our 25+ years of marriage. We both had heartbreak. From that day forward things have been so much better. I never received a blow job before that and now I get one or two a week — and they're so good. We try lots of fun things and enjoy each others affections so well. Yesterday's two hour sex date is not uncommon for us.
And a vibrator is still a part of our sexual experiences nearly every time. We don't shame or feel guilt ourselves about using a vibe. We don't think these orgasms are second class or that we should get ride of the vibe. We just enjoy how great and satisfying our sexuality is. We love our sexual relationship and vibes have made it possible. Tomorrow, our most recent story posts and a vibe plays a role in one of our best and most memorable sexual connections ever. Enjoy!
Hopefully, in the event of a zombie apocalypse that we will still be able to charge the vibe!
I grew up as a preachers kid being taught that any kind of masturbation was sinful, so never really tried. Doc grew up with a mom who went to church and a dad who was less than ethical and exposed him to porn early, so Doc was masturbating early as a child and then was also taught by the church that it was sinful, so had lots of guilt and shame. Through the years when our oldest kiddos were young, I was exhausted and our marriage wasn't healthy and we would sometimes go weeks and months without sex. Some nights when he thought I was asleep, he would masturbate, which would make me feel miserable and angry.
As time went on, our marriage and communication improved, but sex still was a huge mismatch for us.
Then, a year or two ago, I discovered MH and started reading the discussions from Christians who loved God AND masturbating and had Biblical, well-thought-out reasonings behind their beliefs instead of just the "because I said so, now don't bring it up again" reasoning behind the prohibition of masturbation (and, frankly, enjoying sex, but I digress..). That was amazingly freeing for me to learn.
Then last year at 50, menopause made it almost impossible for me to have an orgasm. Nothing that had worked in the past worked anymore. A couple of people on here mentioned a Lelo Sila using sonic vibrations to get deep into the clitoris, so I decided to invest in one (along with starting hormone therapy).
Right around that time, Doc also started having a hard time finishing with an orgasm, so one night we were taking a sex intermission 😉 and he started feeling himself to see if he was going to get hard again. I started playing with his nipples and he just kept masturbating until he came. He tensed up and said, "I can't believe I just did that", so I said "Holy fuuuuck, that was hot. You should do that more often.". Thus opened our first conversation about masturbation and we've been exploring and playing more in our sexual relationship than we ever have before in 29 years of marriage.
Now we make out and have sex, but the only way either of us can orgasm is through masturbation, so we sometimes take turns, or put on a show for the other, or race to the finish. I still need a toy to masturbate, but holy wowzer, the Sila gets me there in 2-5 minutes and are absolutely the most intense orgasms I've ever had in my life (and throughout our marriage, Doc likes me to cum first with at least one, sometimes more).
I'm just so thankful for "tech support" as we call it, to get us through this time until they get my hormones straightened out, and to MH for helping set up free from some of the bondage, guilt, and shame that held us down and really, apart from each other.
Now if you'll excuse me, Doc just went to bed and I've got to go jump him before he falls asleep. 😉
-Doc's Wifey
Oh, I love that testimony! MH has sure been used to help many people get free of this unnecessary guilt. Masturbation is a gift!
Kate reads my MH stories about us and loves them, and select stories I send her way, but has no interest in personal participation, so I'll answer for our experience. In her native Philippines, only prostitutes or sex addicts (I have assured her it's fine to be a "sex addict" within our marriage) would use such a thing–of course that is perception more than reality, but they're clearly lagging behind the U.S. in acceptance.
She did bring up a valid concern about a toy potentially desensitizing her to my manual stimulation with my fingers, tongue or cock. I think that seems logical or valid as a concern. I wouldn't want her to become "dependent" on a toy, but I do want her to enjoy sexual activity to the fullest. Anyhow, the first thing I ever bought her was a Magic Wand with the intention that it would be used only during anal sex, as I read about many women saying a vibrator can help relax and stimulate. For at least a year, she resisted wanting anything to do with the wand and then finally agreed to give it a try when I talked about how I was trying to maximize her comfort and pleasure during anal, in particular.
The results were pretty much a "what have I been missing out on" sentiment. In no time at all she went from usually requiring a spooning or legs high gentle experience, to bending right over and begging me to drive my cock all the way up her ass. She has tried the wand, since that time, by itself and found getting fucked in the ass has a synergistic effect. Even if she has came already and shut the wand off she says it feels good when I fuck her ass at that time.
Kate has a pretty tight pussy with vaginismus and feels apprehensive about anything I would consider putting in there, but I do hope to try one of those U-shaped vibrators that gets her pussy from the inside and clit from the outside. If I can get her to try that, I'll first try eating her asshole and see how the sensations go, before trying any possible fingers and eventual cock. Hope that all goes well.
Our rule is we use toys together to enhance. I wouldn't be mad if I caught her masturbating with a toy, but it's just an understanding and where we're at with them right now.
Hi sexygeek. Glad that you were sure about what your doing. Im a single male, age 30, Corporate Lawyer by profession and I already bought a few vibrators for my to be wife and self. I have not used the vibrators since I don't have clitoris but I am interested in being there for my to be wife like that. I used a sleeve tho. Its alright. It would be cool to catch up or discuss what exactly seems to work with the vibrators and female genitalia. I seem interested to know which pattern or actions best seem to cause an orgasm. Thanks for sharing.