Getting Touchy? – Seduction by Masturbation
Has your husband ever asked you to touch yourself in front of him? Maybe he has, but you just weren’t comfortable with it. Maybe he’s hinted at it, but you don’t think you could. I’m hoping that by the end of this article, you’ll be reconsidering this.
Most men are visual. Women are often taught to do things to stimulate them visually, such as wearing sexy lingerie or stripping for them. A husband loves it when his wife shows off her body. It’s even more erotic for him when he sees her actually touching herself.
“What would he think of me? Just the idea of doing it is embarrassing and mortifying! I couldn’t possibly touch myself like that in front of my husband!? Won’t he think I am a slut?” This way of thinking is a big mistake! Stop thinking that way. Why do you assume that he would think negatively of you doing this for him?
I guarantee you that it will be one of the most erotic things he has ever seen. It could stop him in his tracks and make him unable to take his eyes off you. You just might enslave him for life! It may light a fire in him that will never again be quenched. He will never be the same again. It will be fuel for his engine for a very long time.
You do not need to start off by going all out and trying to do it all at once. The next time you are engaged in foreplay with your husband, move your own hand down your body a little. As he is kissing you, massage your own breasts. If he backs his head away to see what you are doing, offer him your breasts. You can hold them while he licks and sucks. You will probably have a very eager lover at this point. Now let your hands travel lower, to your inner thighs. You don’t have to start out with anything hot and heavy. If you want, you can trace around your labia. Don’t be surprised if your husband notices and starts to stare.
If you are self-conscious about this, then ask him to help you. Ask him to place his hand down there with yours. Let him start touching and rubbing you. You can let him guide you to do what he wants to experience. Close your eyes and stop worrying about what you must look like. Instead, go with how it feels. Let the moment move you. Moan or breathe deeply if you feel the need. Open your mouth and allow your passion to be heard.
If this is going to be well out of your comfort zone, then tell him beforehand. Ask him to give you some verbal affirmation. Ask him to tell you when he likes it, when it looks hot, when it’s driving him crazy. Tell him to whisper things in your ear that will rev you up and keep you going. You don’t want to suddenly withdraw into a shell. When your husband is lying right there with you, and even helping you, it really does make it easier.
It may work better for you to try touching yourself while he is giving you oral sex. The next time he is down there with his face, try moving your hands and fingers all along your body. Caress your own breasts and squeeze your nipples if that’s what you like. Let him see that you are enjoying both his attentions as well as your own. Let your fingers wander lower, and start circling your own clitoris. If his mouth is busy, put your finger in his mouth and tell him not to stop. He could continue to finger you internally while you are rubbing yourself. What an erotic sight you’ll be giving him!
You will find that your times of making love are so much better when you become an active participant in lovemaking. If you haven’t ever been brave enough to try touching yourself for your husband, then I encourage you to think about it again. What a wonderful thing to do. Who else in the entire world is going to get this gift from you? No one! This is one of the most intimate and private things we can do. Can you imagine how special he must feel to be the one that gets to see this?
Here are some more ideas that might help you to do a bit more in front of your darling husband. Now get ready to knock his socks off!
First of all, get creative and take advantage of transition times during sex. If your husband stops to reach for the condom or bottle of lube, use that time to touch yourself. As he is putting on the condom or lube, give him something to look at. Spread your legs and rub or finger yourself in front of him. If you are in a well-lit room, use your fingers to spread your labia open so that he can see his destination. Always remember that men are visual creatures and love seeing sexy things.
Another transition is position changes. Switching to doggy or rear entry position is a great one to use to your benefit. When you are getting on all fours, reach between your legs and let him see you touch yourself again. Tell him how wet you are and how you can’t wait for him to enter you. It’s just a few seconds, but that’s okay. You will be stimulating him visually with all the extra effort you are making.
Another thing to try is giving him a show. This might be the proverbial “Cherry on the Cake.” After he’s come home from a long day at work, ask him if he would be up for some home entertainment. Tell him that you have been thinking of him all day long. Say that you want to show him how hot you’ve become because of it.
By this time he will already be getting hard. Let him sit in a chair or on the bed in front of you, and start undressing. Make sure you have enough light so he can see! (And so that YOU can see HIS reactions.) Then touch yourself using fingers or even a toy. Expose yourself to him so that he can see what you are doing. If you normally just masturbate by rubbing your clitoris, then I suggest that you insert a finger or two anyway. He will be drawn to watching your fingers (or toy) disappear inside of your vagina. It will have some noticeable physical effects on him. You can watch him struggling to get his zipper open to release some pressure. If you are able to take yourself all the way to orgasm, then do so! Let him watch you. It may be that your husband is so turned on that he joins you before you get to that point!
I want to suggest that you get a clear, see through shower curtain. The shower is such a wonderful place to help you give a good show. Invite him to sit and watch you shower one day. Soap up your breasts really good and the rest of your body too. Use your hands and fingers in blatantly sexual ways to entice him more. Drop the soap, so that you need to turn around and bend over seductively to pick it up. While you are bent over, reach down and touch yourself. Then you could use the shower head to bring yourself to orgasm. I had to install a special shower head for my wife to give her more direct stimulation. You could hike up your leg and let him watch you masturbate with your fingers. A waterproof vibrator would also be wonderful for this type of play. The question is, would your husband be able to sit there watching, or would he have to join you?
Am I pushing you out of your comfort zone right now? If you can handle it, it will be a massive blessing to your husband. I want to encourage you to pray about it. See if you can find a way to bless your husband this upcoming week with something special. And then please come back and tell us about it!
I must compliment Marriage Heat for the new daring pictures. This one is a stunner. There are not many things more beautiful than watching your wife playing with her pussy.
climaXX no there is not. In fact it makes me a little jealous. May sound weird but I want to please her..but it makes me so crazy in bed
Wow, what amazing timing. Just yesterday I was pondering some of the exact things you wrote about.
You see, my wife of 25 years is much like you described at the beginning of your post, conservative, embarrassed, and self-conscious when I asked her to touch herself. Its been a long time dream of mine to have her put on a show for me, but she has kindly refused saying she could never.
The very odd time during sex and after much encouragement she would reach down to touch herself, but she wouldn't let me see. However, much of that has changed recently. For the last year or so she often will play with her nipples if I'm not already giving them attention. And in the last few months, she has voluntarily begun to finger her clit during a romp. And just within the last 24 hours, we had a first! We laid side by side and mutually masturbated to where we almost simultaneously orgasmed. My wife started it off as foreplay and I joined in after a while of watching her beside me. It was so fulfilling. Normally I don't find masturbation as satisfying as sex. But this time was different.
I think masturbation is often thought of as a private act. But when you can share it with your spouse, it shows you deeply trust each other, your vulnerable to each other, and that fosters true and deep intimacy.
If a woman has trouble opening up to her husband in this manner, she needs to ask "why?". Does she not trust him fully? If so, he will sense that through her reluctance. In my own marriage, my wife withholding herself from me is an intimacy destroyer. But now that she is letting go of old hang-ups, we are drawing closer by the day.
So, wives, I encourage you to open yourself to your husband. Give him a show he will not forget. Do it often. It will get easier the more you do it. I doubt very much he will ever tell you to stop.
Now I can't wait for the day my wife will fully masturbate herself to orgasm while laying on the bed while I'm sitting across the room just watching as an observer and not a participant. Yahoo! ?
HeSaid-She Said. Tx for your comments. I believe that 90%+ of all the men on MH would agree that seeing your wife masturbating FOR YOU is one of the greatest gifts a wife can give her husband.
Wonderful post, Climaxx. Ben loves watching me touch and play with my breast and pussy, almost as much as I enjoy doing it.
As a woman, I too like to watch. I have said it many times, but watching my love play with his cock really turns me on and he knows it.
Masturbation is a very private and intimate act and many women, as well as some men, find it intimidating or embarrassing to touch themselves for pleasure in front of their spouses. It all goes back to how a person was raised. If you grew up believing that you shouldn't touch yourself "down there" then, of course, you would be hesitant to do or even admit to doing it.
It is unfortunate that masturbation has such a negative stigma attached to it.
I love MH because you can let go of your inhibitions and discuss sexual matters without embarrassment, albeit through anonymity.
It is posts like yours that help start people thinking that maybe masturbation isn't bad after all.
In the marriage bed, you are free to explore and express your sexuality with your spouse.
I MASTURBATE AND LOVE IT!
God bless and Stay Horny my friend!
? GG
Thanks for this reply GG! It sums up what I was thinking as well.
Precious GG. You are such an inspiration. I really enjoy your reactions to all my posts. I think if wives really knew how it would bless their husbands to watch them, they would be masturbating daily.
I appreciate masturbation because of you and Ben's intimate stories.
Stay horny, dear.
Thanks for your article. I love the 4th paragraph – "he might just be enslaved for life!" Read that to my hubby, and he said with a big grin, "I sure am!"
It’s just been since reading MH that I got comfortable with masturbating to orgasm in front of him. Before MH I would occasionally touch myself for him when we were in foreplay but never took it further. In fact I had one vibrator I would use on occasion but I would wait until he was gone or I would sneak to another room when he was sleeping. I don’t know why I was embarrassed. It has been such a turn on for him to watch me and for me to text him videos. It has enhanced our lovemaking so much. Now if he’s tired or not in the mood, I don’t hesitate to stroke my clit or get my toys and take care of things. It’s so freeing to just let go, relax, and enjoy. I will say 95% of the time if he wasn’t in the mood before, then after listening to me he usually joins in and we have some fun together. If he doesn’t decide to participate then that’s okay. I feel better and I can sleep and I’m a much nicer person the next morning lol!
Wives, I think you need to do this for your man, for yourself, and for your marriage. Don’t let inhibitions keep you from having the exciting marriage you really want.
Congrats! I believe you and your husband are both blessed by your recent change in comfort.
Southernheat, I always love your stories because I feel that they express how I fantasise where my wife will be one day! Your stories have so often expressed the sexual dreams I have of my wife. You express the freedom I pray my wife will one day have. She is slowly getting there! ? There have been times when she has been in the mood while I have not been and I can certainly vouch that if she started to take matters into her own hands it would NOT take long before I would be so aroused that watching her would almost be tormenting and I'd have to do something "serious" about it! ?? Congrats in getting to that place of freedom, enjoyment and fun.
I've become more free to masturbate in front of my wife in the last few years. Before, I always kept it to myself as something private to do. But that changed when I realized, "Why am I doing that? She knows I masturbate regularly." So now my big turn on is to see her come in and "catch me" in the act. She always enjoys the sight. But she's not quite there yet. Oh, she'll touch herself, but I don't think I recall ever watching her masturbate. She doesn't do it all that often as it is, about once to twice a month she told me. But yeah, I'm in that 90% of guys that would find it a big turn on to catch or watch her masturbate to orgasm.
MaxLoving, may I make a suggestion? Ask her directly "What would it cost me to see you masturbate till orgasm?" Dare her to name her price in currency or anything else and see what happens. (And let us hear from you again.)
An interesting idea. I'll have to think what I can "trade" her since my money is hers, and hers is mine. It would have to be something special that she really wants. Hum.
We had lunch today. I asked her what it would cost me to watch her masturbate to orgasm. She mentioned that since our money was both of ours, what could I pay? I told her anything she wanted. We briefly discussed it, how she would likely feel weird and such. I told her she might find it exhilarating and exciting too. Before we left the restaurant, she said, "I suppose we could arrange something." That was where we left it for now. I'm not sure how long it will be, since we don't get much private time together. Maybe once we get our own apartment, that will change.
However, your story here inspired me last night to write a fiction piece, which I found out is accepted and will appear later in April, I believe. So thanks for that inspiration. And for the advice!
climaXX! Wow. Bold. You spoke' what I often only think! Haha. What would it cost? Mmm… You…turn me on like Las Vegas
I would like to report that for the first time, a few days ago, I watched my wife masturbate to a climax. It was so hot! I was rock hard. Beautiful site. I suppose I might need to create a story about that.
Nice story. "Come on Baby light my fire" "Try to set the night on fire" oh sorry… those are some lyrics to a song.
I wonder who can guess what my wife did for me last night?
Made you a bowl of ice cream? No? Well, I'll just take a random guess and say that she masturbated for you. 😉
Great post ClimaXX! Did your wife make you dinner? Haha.
Oh yes…. She served dinner….. NO! She prepared dinner while I watched. Then all the dinner needed was some oil which I added and rubbed in very well and then she continued with the preparation of the main meal. She ate mostly alone while I just watched and enjoyed her joy about what she was having for dinner. When she was just about done, she helped me to add some spice by shaking the spice-jar until all the spice came out. Great meal to say the least.
The way you write this comment above kinda sounds like a modern version of Song of Songs. Would be very interesting to do a whole story post in such a fashion. I've pondered doing that myself, but I don't know if I could be very creative with the wording and still get the message across. ClimaXX, you have my vote and permission to create such a post if you like. Are you up to the challenge brother??
It’s pretty amazing to be the sous chef! Did she wear an apron, maybe one of those flirty aprons, in case she spilt on herself? I love it when she licks her lips after she enjoys a wonderful meal. I don’t mind licking off the corner of her mouth if she missed a spot!
HeSaid-SheSaid….. that is a very wild challenge. I do some script writing for a large company, but I have no idea if I can do justice to your challenge.
I think it is interesting how popular the topic of watching masturbation is here. A few years back a friend gave me a video supposedly produced by a university to “educate” women on masturbation so they would learn to orgasm during intercourse. A problem I always have had. I don’t think it helped but it was interesting. Having been raised to believe any sex except one that results in the man’s seed being deposited in his wife’s womb is against the teaching of the Bible, I have “learned” a great deal.
SecondMarge I agree with your suggestion. However I must add that there is a special xtra excitement when my wife tells me, "Just sit back and watch me play for your pleasure." Or even when she sets it up in such a way that she pretends that she does not know that I am peeping.
What a fantastic article! If I may add my suggestion – ladies, ask your husband to join the show. It might help you feel less embarrassed and make it easier for you to let him watch you if he performs for you too. So let your husband sit in front of you and as you undress, let him undress too. As you expose yourself, tell him to touch himself and hold his manhood. When you start circling your clitoris, he can start stroking too. Spread your legs, show him your pussy. Show him how you like to please yourself and tell him how much you like the sight of his cock. Tell him when you approach climax and ask him to come at the same time. If you are comfortable with it – and why wouldn't you be – let him spray his seed over your body, or your pussy. He loves you and he loves the sight of your body in front of him and, being visual, he will love the sight of shooting his cum over you.
My wife and I love to do this and for both of us it's a huge turn-on, a very intimate and sensual feast. It took a few years of married life before we were comfortable doing this in front of each other, but it gave our relationship an extra dimension of closeness and togetherness.
My note above was actually in response to MajorMajor. Sorry about that.
I say go for it Climaxx if anyone could write a take on Song of Songs I’m sure you could!
Honestly I have found myself fantasizing about your "Riders" story on several occasions! That story struck many nerves!
On a weird side note, I just heard that John Kellogg served the first Corn Flakes on this day, Mar 7th in the late 1800's. What alot of people dont know is that Corn Flakes were intended to curb masturbation and sexual arousal. ?
So was Graham crackers, if I'm remembering correctly. At least, before they added sugar to the recipe.
Lol! Graham crackers, too!
Corn flakes, Graham crackers, Rice Cripspies, CocaCola, meat, veggies…. NOTHING will stop us because it is SO GOOOOOOD and NICE!!!!
Very religious man. Who could justify his beliefs with Bible passages.
[To summarize an online source quotation: He also ran what sounds like the first health spa, when electrocution and water cannons were considered healthy. But he blamed a myriad of ailments on female masturbation.]
Loved your post ClimaXX! It really expresses my hearts longing. My wife and I have been married 38yrs and our sex life only gets better and better. I've tried to encourage her to read posts from MH but she doesn't really enjoy them. Yes, she was brought up in a very conservative Christian environment. She said she never masturbated as a single woman and thus, does not see the need to do so as a married woman! 🙁 She knows I'm very visual but that doesn't seem to do much to change her mind regarding masturbation.
She's open to talking about our sex life and what we can do to enhance or make things "better" or more enjoyable. She's 56Yrs old while I'm 60yrs old and so a lot of the "moves" and positions are very hard for us to even try and attempt. Her battle with cancer for 20yrs hasn't helped her in regards to her physical state. But in saying all this, there is a silver lining for which I am VERY grateful. For some time now, after tons of encouragement from me, she now stimulates herself during intercourse, working away on her clit. She will only do this during intercourse. She has been able to understand that any increase in her sexual pleasure always translates into an increase in my sexual pleasure. She sees how much I enjoy it and she has now come to the place where she admits she enjoys it! 🙂 When she first started to stimulate herself it was only for a few short seconds. Over time it got longer and longer and now she almost always continually stimulates herself until I reach it. In fact, recently, she had another orgasm during intercourse while she was stimulating herself and it simply caused me to lose total control and let the trigger go! That shot of fluid inside was just too much for me. 🙂 Maybe one day…
Until that day comes I will always seek to affirm her and encourage her in enjoying her own sexuality. She now also willingly plays with her breasts while I'm enjoying her "garden" and the sweet aromas it effuses. I love watching her as she enjoys her breasts but I can't watch for too long otherwise I'd lose control and shoot off! She loves me going down on her and has actually "broken" through on enjoying more than just one orgasm. She has also recognised that playing with her breasts while I'm enjoying some oral delights actually increases her pleasure and intensifies her orgasms. Until the last couple of years she would always ask me to stop after she had reached it. Now, she wants more and always enjoys multiple orgasms.
I just wish she could read your post ClimaXX to better understand how her masturbating in front of me would be such an incredible turn on for me. Thanks again.
All4More I want to make a suggestion…
Copy the story and send it to your wife in a Whatsapp message. Ask her in a 2nd message to please respond to you.
It might be easier for her to do it in writing than in verbal communication.
Okay ClimaXX, I will!! ?? Not sure what she'll think about it as she'll want to know where I got your post from, but what can I lose! ??
Maxloving and ClimaXX,
Yes. I ask too . What would it cost to see you masterbate until orgasm?
It would be a very interesting situation.
My wife often masturbates herself to orgasm as part of our pre-intercourse foreplay. She knows I like to watch. She also finds masturbation makes her more sensitive so when I give a second one with my penis in her it comes more easily and is much stronger. Her usual technique is to lie on her back with her legs wide and finger-play herself. I lay beside her, kiss her breasts, stroke her inner thighs and – what she likes most of all – clamp her leg between mine. The feel of my penis brushing her naked thigh and watching her breasts wobble with the rhythm of her hand keeps me hard. Hearing her orgasm cry is one of the most erotic experiences I know! When she’s climaxed from masturbation, I hold my hand cupped over her mound for a few moments till she’s ready, then I’m between her legs and in.
A serious question to the gentlemen please…
I get it that most of you are visual and so enjoy taking in the sights of your wives' body and charms.
I get it that you get a thrill out of her teasing you mercilessly until she's driven you wild.
I get it that she'll floor you if she does a sexy slow dance so close that she can feel your hot breath on her thigh as she glides on by (I guess she must have tied you to the chair as well???)
But here's what I don't quite get.
What is it about for you to watch her masturbate with an orgasm or four as the cherry on top?
If I had a male to ask about this I would. But unfortunately I haven't got one handy yet so you lot will just have to do lol.
Please, gentlemen, enlighten me!
Speaking only for myself, one of the most erotic things I've seen is a woman having an orgasm. It is one of the reasons why I enjoy giving my wife an orgasm. The only difference with watching is I can, well, just watch, and focus on what she's doing to come. Plus, it is akin to voyeurism, in that you are watching someone else, even though it is your wife, have that O.
I don't fully understand it myself, but there is a definite difference between being involved in a sex act, and watching it as if you weren't there. Not saying one is better than the other, each has their own joys and benefits. But, one of the benefits of just watching is that it sexually gets me going faster.
Cuddles:
As a man who’s waiting for a masturbating Christian wife, I think for me it’s a few things:
Masturbation is a sexual experience that can be so personal and so varied, particulary for women, with so many ways and preferences.
To see my wife accepting, open and enjoying her body the way she was created, with a total focus on her pleasure and instincts, desires, and feelings, to see her love herself is very visually and emotionally satisfying.
Plus it’s avowedly sexual in a different way than intercourse. A woman who’s more timid can “let” her husband have sex with her, or take the lead. But masturbating oneself is, to me, a signal of deep arousal and confidence. Even if she’s shy to show me, the fact she’s doing it, exploring her own body, is a beautiful thing to me. And shows she appreciates her own sexuality as much as I do.
There’s nothing I don’t love about this idea, and I would never deny a wife of mine her chance for natural, and erotic pleasure solo or together. So exciting and beautiful.
Thank you dear gentlemen for taking the time to give me your thoughts on my question. I very much appreciate it.
I've re-read both of your replies a number of times as well as the whole article and all replies twice so I could quietly ponder and chew it over just like we are urged to do with the Word. I know the Holy Spirit has been soaking and sorting it out in me.
It certainly has helped this lady to understand how the average husband is wired. I'd say it goes so deep that it's part of his DNA. It's a sexual need, also along with being needed, akin to needing air.
Watching her as well as being actively involved in your lovemaking creates a sexually healthy balance in you which wasn't there before. That's why you crave it so and view it (pun intended) as "normal" and healthy. A new thought for me is that she is actually making love to him when she masturbates in his presence, same if he's not around. My mind is trying to work out how that could be. Hmmm I'm suspecting that the Holy Spirit is guilty of this one lol.
Wow that revelation is flooding my mind as I write! Woohooooooooo!!!
Even though my drive to masturbate probably isn't equal to that of my future husband's, I think one of my conclusions is that my own need is indeed equal to his and that will become evident to me as I choose to masturbate for him even now.
I feel like an unfolding flower because of this fantasmagorical journey of discovery I'm on.
Again, thank you gentlemen for helping me to understand.
It is such an honor for you to share this with us all.
I think you are on to something. I know for me it truly is a need, to see and to encourage and be involved in. I view wifely masturbation as not an isolated thing but truly as a gift and a blessing, a way she is keeping me in mind and nurturing her sex drive. Masturbation improves her drive and awareness and blesses both man and wife. Keep us apprised, we are all cheering for you!
So I can now safely say that I officially get it! (chuckling)
That’s awesome Cuddles! Welcome to the world of masturbation! What are some things about it that you’ve found that you like? Are there any ways that you touch yourself that really drive you wild? Are you bringing any toys into the mix?
I had one other thought to add to this. For most of us, most of the time, masturbation is a private activity. We don't easily share it with others, for many even with their spouse, especially since so many are convinced it is sinful. So, for us to be denied to see and experience this is for the one spouse to hide part of their sex life from the other spouse. It reduces intimacy when we go solo so much that we are not free to let the spouse in on our private world.
LIkewise, when we are allowed in to watch,
Whoops, I was interrupted and I don't recall the point I was going to make. Oh well, I think my point came across. 🙂
My wife isn’t daring in bed, but one part I appreciate is she’s willing to masturbate for me and with me. Initially she began just by touching herself on the outside of her lips. Now she fingers herself when I ask her to. Plus, when I ask, she will let me suck on her finger so I can taste her. When she’s really worked up and I ask her, she taste her own finger after sticking it inside her. It definitely draws us closer and has repaired a once-damaged marriage.
So…I think it's pretty safe to say that all men LOVE watching their wives play with themselves and get themselves off! Are there any women here who don't want to return the favor? In other words, you do not find it arousing/a turn on watching your man beat his meat?
How many on MH (both men and women) get off on being watched while masturbating? It really turns you on to have an audience?
Women, were you always comfortable masturbating in front of your spouse (from the moment you said "I do")? Or was it something you had to get comfortable with over time (too self conscious/embarrassed initially)?
So…I think it's pretty safe to say that all men LOVE watching their wives play with themselves and get themselves off! Are there any women here who don't want to return the favor? In other words, you do not find it arousing/a turn on watching your man beat his meat?
How many on MH (both men and women) get off on being watched while masturbating? It really turns you on to have an audience?
Women, were you always comfortable masturbating in front of your spouse (from the moment you said "I do")? Or was it something you had to get comfortable with over time (too self conscious/embarrassed initially)?
Both Anne and I get off watching each other masturbate. If she senses or can tell I’m horny during the day, she’ll sexily and coyly ask me to meet her in our master bath so she can watch and assist me as I stroke my cock while both of us are watching me in the mirror. It gives us a stereo effect. When I cum, she can enjoy watching my face and expression, and I can as well!
We also love to lie side-by-side and jack and jill without touching each other. Listening to each other ramp up and watching each other really turns us on as we fuck ourselves! I’ll time my orgasm as she hits her peak climax. Makes me horny thinking about it!