Which Feels Better?
Recently, ClimaXX posted a discussion question about how we each felt about a wife offering a handjob to her horny husband when she just wasn’t up for full-on sex. I found this an interesting topic, and it made me wonder: Which feels better to you? Do you like it better when your spouse gives you manual stimulation, or can you do the job better yourself?
I suppose the question could most easily be answered by guys, but ladies should feel free to answer if your husband does the same for you.
I had already commented on the other post, but whenever she gives me a handjob it is very nice and much better than giving one to myself. Why? Because she doesn't give me one that often, so when it does happen it is exciting. Plus, I never know exactly what she is going to do, ie: length of stroke, speed, pressure, etc, so it makes it exciting and anticipatory. When I help myself, I know exactly what is going on and the finish sometimes isn't that great. Having said that, I wouldn't want her to give me one too often so that it doesn't become old hat if you know what I mean.
Yeah, being able to predict self can be boring.
My wife has never just given a hand job,it's always followed with one of her awesome blow jobs. So I would have to say her handy work feels better always, however I am definitely more frequent with my handjobs as my hand never turns me down. ?
When it comes to handjobs, I know how to do myself best, which makes sense. My wife gives great handjobs, though sometimes she focuses too much on the shaft and ignores the head or grips it too tightly instead of letting her hand slide over it. Nevertheless I am always more turned on by her handjobs because SHE is giving them and they are part of our sexual connection. Whether its foreplay or the main event, I will choose her handjobs over mine any day.
Absolutely better when she does it! The view is better too!
She doesn’t think a handjob is a ‘job’, but rather a fun thing to do, and, she really likes to watch me cum! Enthusiasm on her part makes it automatically better.
And, as Tohim said, it sometimes turns into a blowjob. Or maybe she takes aim and splatters her nipples and tits. (That’s a favorite of mine)
Some nights when my darling wife and I both have wanted to make love but are both too tired at the end of the day, she will give me an orgasm with her hands. I never ask because I know she will do it even if she is exhausted, and I could never enjoy it if she couldn't be a part emotionally. She just takes care of the need she knows we both have. We've done this while driving, and at friend's homes, too. It is always special, always warm and full of love, and it is so much better than doing this alone. She knows how to tease me and build to a beautiful orgasm, but more than that it's is that it is with her, and that is all the difference. We have masturbated together, too, making sure we cum together. All of this is love, and while cumming alone fills the need, when my wife gives me an orgasm it is rich and full, like a beautiful summer day that warms my heart and soul.
SecondMarge, thanks for an excellent question! Without any hesitation, I’d maintain that my wife’s hands are by far better, especially when she offers (or just helps herself) on her own initiative. In part, this is because she has techniques and abilities to make me feel more wonderful than I’ve ever known, but also because it demonstrates her desire to make me feel unbelievably amazing, and proves my role in her life that no one else can fill.
Of course it turns me on when she clearly enjoys seeing and feeling the effects that she has on me, and when she tells me how much she loves watching it grow in her hand. Without fail, her words and even the slightest motion or squeeze of her feminine fingers culminates in a geyser of appreciation from me. It makes me ecstatic to be a man with her, and to know of her desire for it.
All of this being said, at this moment it has been well over 2 months since she’s even seen my manhood, let alone shown any affection or interest in it. She’s been going through a difficult stretch with her career, which I understand when she’s assured me it’s not my fault, but I’m at a loss in how to explain her seemingly complete disinterest in any intimacy at all. Your question made me think about a lot of things, but also continue to pray that these little (or not so little) gestures from her heart will finally return.
Those are two different sensations. Possibly even four.
1. Touching self for self.
2.. Being touched by wife.
3. Touching self cos wife asked.
4. Touching self for wife.
I may know my body better and know what I want and how i want it, probably even get off faster if it's what the goal is, but there is something that provides a longer lasting satisfaction which is more deeply interesting when pleasure is being shared with another receptive/inviting person, regardless of inexperience.
More often I find I would rather have to be patient because she "doesn't perfectly know" what she is doing but is willing to learn as we go, desiring my pleasures too and to be a provider of them, than to be the solo expert.
Two are better than one.
Hello SecondMarge.
It took awhile for my wife to get the tricks of the handjob down, but it was fun teaching her, and more fun when she perfected her talents. It’s not unlike my experience trying to please her with my hands, it’s a learning curve, just enjoy the training.
My favorite hand jobs were in the tub with my late wife. She’d soap me up really well and wow it was awesome getting my cock clean and hard. She’d always finish it off with one of her amazing blowjobs. Today would have been our 41st wedding anniversary.
My husband says he loves when I stroke his cock. But just from physical pleasure point, he can cum easier doing himself. It was the same with other women.
I can understand as I can bring myself off much faster than when a man does me manually.
I’m a little late to respond… but I definitely agree with most of these comments that her hands feel better than mine. Especially if she uses lube and both hands!
However, I also occasionally enjoy her bare hand with no lube. Stroking by moving the skin on my shaft to avoid creating uncomfortable friction. (Which is how I almost always masturbate)
That all being said, for some reason I am able to cum way faster if I do it myself. Not sure why, but if we don’t have much time sometimes that’s the ticket!