First Time Oral – and Beyond
My wife and I were both from fairly strict religious homes of the Wesleyan Holiness flavor. She was old-line Assembly of God, and my dad was a former Wesleyan Methodist pastor. My parents told me next to nothing about sex. Her mom told her only that sex was evil and that God hated it.
During our engagement, I sneaked her into my bedroom in a men-only house for some hot summer night make-out sessions. A couple of times after she left, I noticed a very wet spot on the bed where she was sitting. It was slick and had an intoxicating aroma. Something in me so wanted to taste it, but all I could taste was the cloth of the sheets. When our home group leader gave me a copy of Tim LaHaye’s book Act of Marriage, I found out what it was and what it meant. (We were both quite ignorant.)
On our honeymoon, she was adamant that many things were not to be done, including oral sex. She would not even let me taste my fingers after giving her manual stimulation.
Fast forward about nine years. I had frequently asked to give her oral, and she refused. The only way she could orgasm was through my fingers, which typically took well over an hour. I had been in a near-fatal car crash two years earlier, and she decided while I was in the hospital that we should try for one more child. So we had our baby boy almost a year to the day after the crash. He is about 1 now. During the pregnancy, her desire (already really low) totally tanked. So one night after the kids were in bed, she said she wanted sex—unheard of! We got in bed, and I grabbed the towels and lube. She shook her head. Then she pushed down the covers, spread her legs, and said, “GO for it, Big Guy!” After several seconds of my confusion, she took my head and pushed it between her legs. So I started to lick. Not knowing exactly what to do, I decided to try to mimic my finger movements with my tongue.
Oh wow! Tasting that sweet wetness. Being able to feel every quiver, every twitch in her legs and abdomen. Seeing her breasts and face. It was all so incredible. And then she came. HARD. She squeezed my head between her thighs so tightly that all I could do was wiggle the tip of my tongue to keep the stimulation going. And that was a moving target as she was bucking like crazy.
And she got there in only 15 minutes! The next shortest time by hand was more than three times longer than that. I loved it, but she had mixed feelings. She liked cumming that hard and that it was quick, but the whole idea of oral still seemed abhorrent to her. So it was an off-again, on-again thing over the next few years. Finally, after a very long off-again time, she asked for it. So I told her I would do it, but only if she agreed never again to cut it off. She did agree, and it has been a staple of our sex life ever since.
Wonderful for you both! We also both read “The Act Of Marriage,” before we married. My wife’s therapist recommended the book. I had been married before and I still found the book enlightening!
It is sad that your wife was told that God hates sex. Heavenly Father commanded Adam and Eve to multiply and replenish the Earth. And God told Adam to cleave unto his wife and be one flesh. So clearly, when married the couple should be bonding through sexual love.
My wife and I both had parents that taught next to nothing or nothing about sex. We do our kids a disservice when we treat sex as something dirty. The marriage bed is pure and undefiled. (We tried to teach our kids that.).
My wife has struggled with the issue of oral sex as well. But I have strived to be patient and understanding… & we do it a few times every month… in one way or another… as part of our lovemaking. She gives me oral on holidays and I give her oral during our sex sessions.. in about 1/3 of the sessions.
Fantastic that you two got there!!!
I had to convince my wife long ago, that yes, I really did like planting my face in her pussy, making her cum, and having her hump & grind my face, and come up afterwards dripping! Some guys really-really love to eat their wife’s pussy. A lot!
Good for you!!!
Very happy for you.
Hope she starts liking it more soon.
We didn't know about sex either and we're still learning. Great story
What about her giving you oral? Is that wrong in her sight too?
Yeah – that has never happened. She cannot bring herself to do that.