Sex Toys…Yea or Nay?
I know that most women on here love their toys—especially vibrators. But have any of you tried a vibe that you didn’t like? Have any of you tried a toy that didn’t make you cum? Any that found their way in the back of your drawer to never again see the light of day?
I have a girlfriend who was telling me that her husband bought her a couple of toys (vibrators) to try to spice things up, but they don’t do anything for her. She much prefers her hubby’s tongue and fingers to a vibe. The buzzing on her clit didn’t excite her at all. I’ve always assumed that vibrators were the sure-fire way to make any woman cum! So, it made me wonder if other women feel the same way? Does anyone else on MH not like a vibe on her clit? Or in her pussy? Are any of you just not a “toy gal?”
Perhaps you’ve tried some “roll-your-eyes-in-the-back-of-your-head, make you scream” toys but have tried others that were total duds. I, for one, would love to have a list of the highly recommend toys vs. those in the “save your money; it didn’t do much for me” category.
[From MH: It might be helpful to describe what you liked and didn’t like about purchases because what didn’t work for you might be on someone else’s wishlist.]
Without knowing any of your personal preferences it's hard to offer advice, but I know that in my case I prefer a fast vibrating not a hard shaking vibrator. One that almost hums while in motion and can't even be seen shaking if you covered it with a towel. I have one that I used on myself once when Jim and I flew to the Keys, It was humming between my creamy pussy lips while the flight attendant took my drink order. I don't think she even noticed it – then again, I really did get exceptional service during the trip! 🙂
Hey Bootylicious, this is a good question. I will start by saying that everyone is different. Some toy will work for most people and the same toy won’t work for a minority of people. Case in point is a little clitoris fluttering toy that was recommended by our daughter. My wife liked the sensations but she can’t orgasm from using that toy. And "The Womanizer" is a clitoris suction toy. It helps warm my wife up but doesn’t bring her to climax either. Where as many women say The Womanizer gives them amazing orgasms.
What works for my Melodie is a powerful small bullet vibrator. Her OMG #ENJOY wand has been awesome but it will also not bring Melodie an orgasm. So I suppose it’s possible to successfully use a toy during sex even if it fails to give you an orgasm.
My wife has a little Doc Johnson vibe with a loop and it is easier for her to hold onto. She has had orgasms with the Doc Johnson vibe. But she also has a Sensuelle Plus vibrator that is even more powerful.
During a lovemaking session, Melodie will start with the flutter toy (We call it Flicka) or with the OMG wand. Then she’ll switch to her looped Doc Johnson vibe. It often brings her to climax, but if it doesn’t she uses the Sensuelle Plus. We have two G-spot vibrators, but Melodie only likes the smaller one. We use the G-spot vibe inside her while the Sensuelle is applied to her clitoris.
We have a sex position that we call X position. We lie at right angles with her on her back and me on my side facing her. This position works great with a vibrator on her clitoris. I hate the feel of a vibe anywhere on my skin, but I like the vibrations that I feel via her vaginal wall when my wife uses a vibe on her clit during sexual intercourse.
I will also mention our favorite lube is Aloe Cadabra and it comes in several flavors.
I think that the mind has a great deal to do with which toy works best. Texture, color, shape, and design all affect our imagination. A realistic cock-shaped toy turns some of us on while maybe others are offended by it being realistic. Some enjoy the texture and flexibility of silicone while others may like a harder feel. Often, women like extra-large, not so much for the sensations but the looks. This is also I suspect why black cock dildo/vibrators sell well. It might help with certain fantasies or more modestly remind you of your spouse, or the size he wishes he was. Sometimes I like to have a real-looking, good-sized cock to use on myself, or sometimes a toy that just vibrates on my clit. It can be nice to allow my pulsating friend to do its job without much of my help, eliminating the small finger vibes. The industrial strength wands are not my favorites; it's hard to use my imagination with them. It's important to me that the toy works with the fantasy I am having. In any case, it seems a very individual preference and likely why hundreds of options are available and many own a variety.
Great perspective! I like how you are always just straight forward. On point perspective about the black cock dildos.
I absolutely love my Melt by We-Vibe! It is a clitoral suction toy. Over the years, I’ve learned that I’d rather have a dildo that doesn’t vibrate than one that does.
I bought the wife a glass dildo and she likes the cool sensations and the very slick feel of the glass.
Bouncing off of SecondMarge’s comments: Though appreciatively endowed, I would wear a black sleeve if my wife was inclined to enjoy a fantasy that needed such a prop. Her current go-to is a very small bullet vibe that has three speeds.
No matter what, I can’t come with a dildo. A rabbit that has a clit vibe? Sure. A bullet vibe is both my and my husband’s favorite because it gets the job done (several times) and we can use it in almost all positions. However, I have recently added a clit suction toy, and ohhhh myyyy gossshhhh. It’s AMAZING! You can use it during penetration, but it’s wonderful for mutual masturbation.
Yep, my wife’s go-to is a clit sucker, and she uses it solo, during PIV, and mutual masturbation. I get so horny watching it make her moan and climax! Mmmm.