Pheromone Perfume
I keep seeing an ad on Pinterest for pheromone perfumes.
I was wondering if any of you gals (or guys) have ever tried it around your spouse? Does it really get the instantly-attracted reaction shown in the videos? I’m curious.
If it does work, maybe I would try it out just to see if guys act any differently around me.
Please let me know what you think. Thanks in advance.
I don't think these products work as advertised. However, there is a lot of science behind pheromones, and there is one product that seems to work remarkably well. A gentleman on The Marriage Bed did some research on pig pheromones used by farmers, and found that by using it, his wife's libido had a remarkable transformation. I believe he said something like she turned into the type of woman men would pay to see. My wife is 5 years post-menopausal. We started trying the spray last October, and on January 31st of this year she also had a remarkable transformation. After years of declining libido and a dying bedroom, she began to think about sex all the time again. She has been horny every day since, and instead of once-a-week maintenance sex, we have had sex at least three times a week. Here is a link to the thread on TMB. https://www.themarriagebed.net/viewtopic.php?f=10&t=4878&sid=3b48dc9ff75fb900840a53dc3772a866
[Note: MH has no affiliation with The Marriage Bed, but we do think they are a great resource so we've made an exception and allowed the link to remain.]
Hubbie here: interesting data and link, D74. I read about half of the comments, will finish later, and while intriguing, I’m still very skeptical. If this truly worked, it would be marketed as more than pig attractant, and more statistically relevant studies would crop up.
Also, the “experimenters” all seemed to be married, older men using it on their often post-menopausal wives. I think that’s a different use than to “attract” a potential husband. It could be interesting to spice up married libido (if real), but not as an “attractant”.
Still interesting info.
Definitely going to look this up! I want to understand male-female attraction and libido better. One thing that saddens me is the unequal libidos in many marriages and how they are not understood and worked with.
Hubbie here: LLL, I think your comment about "… the unequal libidos in many marriages and how they are not understood and worked with." is an important one, and as no surprise, sparked some thoughts in my sex-focused brain. Yes indeed, Theory #32 (An important, foundational theory).
Libido can be defined as "sexual drive; the energy of the sexual drive as a component of the life instinct." A lot of things can make it strong or weak, including hormones (testosterone), age, exercise, lower stress, or certain medications. So the thing called libido has causes behind it.
It is not some independent, all powerful thing, acting on its own, waxing or waning, and unmovable. Some say "I just have a low libido!", as if it's a cement "noun", unchangeable, and just "my fate". And over time, libido changes because the causes change. It's a result that can be influenced!
When I was a teen, my libido was sky-high, as many teenagers are, and I was sexually active (not intercourse) starting in middle school. When Queen and I married, it was still high, and over our 44+ married years, and dating before that, the causes changed and my libido ebbed and flowed.
Now comes my mid-sixties, with unfortunately low-testosterone, and ED, and yet my libido is sky-high! And that's by my specific, explicit, intentional CHOICE. Queen and I call it the Brain Game, and we don't let subsiding hormones (the Chem Game) choose our passion way for us.
Why do we choose passion and sex so intensely? Because we firmly believe in the power they have and bring to a marriage, and we want that power for our marriage. We have made it our married business to understand our libidos, and to make them our servants, to strengthen our marriage.
Our libidos are our servants, not our masters!
When people fail to not understand and work with their libidos, their passion life, their marriage strength, they are being complacent, and not intentional. Choosing heat, passion, "atomic libidos", and reveling in the sexual joy and power they bring has been a game-changer for us. Choose it!
Blessings and passion.
Hubbie here: interesting question, LLL. Some thoughts …
1) there is definite scientific proof that animals, including humans, secrete all kinds of chemicals, and pheromones have particular, attractant power.
2) I have zero confidence that Pinterest or any internet source is selling legitimate, chemically extracted or synthesized, human attractant pheromones. It’s a scam at worst, a placebo at best.
3) I think it better, and truly more effective, to attract your future husband with spiritual beauty, engaging personality, physical attractiveness, confidence, etc. These can last. Sprays wash off.
Focus on you, and not some external “attractant”. It may take longer, but it will last longer.
Blessings and passion.
I appreciate your insight! And I do agree that no one really needs an external "attractant". If we are not enough for someone with our own unique personality, gifts, emotions, and character, then maybe they don't want the real thing. I'll just continue to embrace my feminine features, including natural scent, and see what happens!
Intriguing question. I don’t know the answer, but I read an article about a study done several years ago that’s related.
The study had men and women sit randomly in a room. After a time, they left the room and an equal number of men and women replaced them. I don’t remember the exact percentages, but the men were more likely to sit in a chair that had been occupied by a woman and vice versa.
Soooo, maybe a pheromone thing? 🤷♂️
There's 2 perfumes that my wife has worn that definitely cause more wetness on the sheets. Very unscientific…
I tried a pheromone cologne in college and all I did was get me busted on by the friends I had foolishly told about it. 😐
I have never had any experience with pheromone perfume, but about 10 or 12 years ago I was at a small social event with some students from Scandinavia. It was a small party at one of their homes, a family type gathering. We often would give a small (and innocent) hug as we greeted one another. I gave one of our friends-a young woman- a quick hug. I caught the scent of her body, not any added foreign fragrance, and I immediately was aroused to erection. Fortunately the clothing I had on concealed this embarrassing situation till it quickly subsided.
Most people in the western culture, at least, cover or eradicate pheromones with deoderants, soaps and perfumes.
The experience I had convinced me of the role pheromones have in our sexuality!
LLL I think it's great that you want to be more proactive in attracting a good man into your orbit! I was away for Christmas eve/morning but wanted to give this some significant thought before I responded.
I have heard of studies regarding things like musk/pheromones and believe them, but it's so esoteric an idea that I'm not sure it's the right way to go about it. Nor do I think it likely (for any woman) to be as effective a step as something like going jogging every morning. I don't wish to be indelicate and certainly I don't know too much about you, your situation, story, etc, nor am I saying that my suggestion is what's holding you back. If it's alright for me to say, I think we've had enough back-and-forth here that if I learned that we lived within driving distance of each other I'd be interested in meeting you in person myself! But I'd also be lying if I said that my attraction for a woman didn't *start* with the physical parts of who I am.
I've been looking at a few youtube channels on relationship advice and there's something in there about how a woman can remain feminine while still not just waiting to be "picked," for lack of a better word. Now personally I don't think I'd ever turn down a woman if she straight up asked me out, the gumption alone deserves to be rewarded. But I've been looking at Stephan Labossiere and Mark Ballenger specifically, both of whom have also written books on Christian dating that I've read just in the last month. They both mention the example of Ruth who was not at all passive in her relationship with Boaz, and as Ballenger puts it, a woman can still retain a traditional feminine role while "inviting" a man to pursue her. Labossiere talks about women who get men tend to be those who are more effective at communicating their desires to men.
It seems like you have a singles' group that you hang out with already which is I'm sure a great step–I have done this myself recently. Right now I'm trying to work up the courage to ask one of the girls (or any of them) out; it's scary! But also from my own experience, it hasn't gone well to show interest in a girl even when I thought she was showing interest in me. And to even get to that point I have to know a girl for years to really feel comfortable working myself up to that and it's devastating to be rejected at that point. So I'm asking God about a specific girl right now but also just about any of them, that He would give me some sort of sign to even go down that road. And all it would take is just something as simple as one of them saying, "Hey, I've noticed this quality about you and wanted to say that I really admire that." The other option is me continuing to do what I've always done in the past but if you know the clinical definition of insanity…
Thanks for your reply, Faith-Manages. Let me say that I am pretty complimented that you would consider driving to see me! I am waiting on God to bring the right guy into my life, and as of this moment, I don't know how it would work if the mentioned right guy was you or anyone I've met on this site. The dilemma is that I don't know how I would tell my parents. They are not (as far as I know) of my same views on hot marriage sex and single masturbation, so I can't really go tell them, "Hey, I've been chatting with a guy on a marriage sex forum and I'm interested in meeting him". I still live at home. And I want them involved in any relationship I may enter. So, all I can do for now is wait and pray. Their story is another issue entirely, which I've outlined a bit in an upcoming post about stigmas. If I meet someone in a natural manner, say at church or something, that would be great. It gets tricky when it comes to the young men I've dialogued with here on MH! Which is sad because you and others seem like such genuine, Godly guys, which are non-existent in my life right now.
I don't know if I said something unclearly elsewhere, but I really don't have a singles' group. I'm trying to branch out and meet young people from other churches, but so far they've all been girls (and the few guys are their boyfriends, so, unavailable!). Just to clarify.
Sorry, when you wrote "just to see if guys act any differently around me…" I just extrapolated and ran with it, so if my conclusions went too far afield, then my regrets. It seems to me like the path you want to take, so keep going in that direction. But it also seems to me like you've put up barriers around yourself that don't necessarily need to be there, like for instance your parents: admirable that you want them involved, but how has that worked out for you in the last 10-15 years? How much do you think you need to reveal to them right away?
Now I want to clarify that I'm speaking hypothetically here. I think what would have me more cautious about meeting someone on MH is that I would already know some rather intimate details which perhaps aren't appropriate topics of conversation for first dates, etc. If MH were to set up some sort of dating service like has been suggested before, I'd try it, and I hope you would too! I don't know how close/far away we live from each other, but I'd see that as a far greater barrier to meeting than worrying about what to tell your parents, because until we'd meet in person, I would say we haven't met.
My advice would be to look up Ballenger and Labossiere (and others like them) on youtube, start looking at what they say, and see if any of it makes sense to you, because I gave you one instance but they have others and it might give you ideas about how to be more proactive in the path that you're currently taking. Of course, you could just ask your friends from other churches if they know anyone they could set you up with…
Years ago my wife before I went to work sometimes would make out and I would ask her to put her scent on me. After a little bit of coaxing she would put her finger into her pussy which was becoming moist and then smear her scent under my nose. I would be hard all day and sometimes had to arrange a nooner just to empty myself so I could focus the rest of the day. Sometimes my wife would place some of her natural perfume behind her ears so when I embrace her I would be hooked and focus on passion.
Hot! If I ever get married, I will be doing this!
To reply to Faith-Manages' last comment: thanks for the advice! I will look up those YouTubers and try to broaden my knowledge. I need to add that my desire for marriage is tempered by great contentment with singleness, so I don't know that I'm ready to ask friends to "set me up" with someone. Maybe I'm a complete oxymoron. I want marriage, but I want to be single too! It's kind of odd. I think the more I understand myself and learn about my sexuality, the more I am eager to someday experience sex and intimacy with the man I love and have pledged myself to. But I'm in no hurry.
As to my parents being involved in my life choices, I don't think I could ever go around them in something so major. Our family (my siblings, parents, and I) are all really close and each other's best friends. We have something rare. I love and respect my parents too much to not confide something like this to them, when/if the time came. Now, let me be clear that there is no unhealthy pressure or emotional dependence here. I embrace my adulthood and individuality; so do they. But in this nut-house world, girls are vulnerable and there are a lot of creeps, so I realize the need to be extra-cautious. Does this make sense? I do agree with you that I needn't tell my parents everything. They don't know I'm on this site, for one! And maybe I would take a leap if MH set up a dating site or something similar. I don't know. I'm literally in the phase of "dream about love but keep it on the back burner while you deal with other things". Oh, for more wisdom on this complicated journey! I pray for that.
For us both! I suppose your perspective does make sense a bit while still being somewhat perplexing to me. Of course I've heard enough times that if you aren't happy single you won't be happy in a relationship so you could have the right attitude, better than mine. And I'm at the point now where I feel like enough is enough and I'm ready to make steps in some direction, hopefully the right one.
One point I wish to clarify regarding your parents' involvement is just the idea of a statute of limitations, like I don't see the need for you to tell them absolutely every detail immediately. For instance: telling them about this site is something that you'd do after you've established yourself as your own woman in your own house, certainly not before. It's all negotiable; I hope that softens my previous argument because you've given solid reasons for your side.
I will relate that my wife uses certain body lotions and hair product that literally make the back of my neck tingle from the fragrance…other things tingle as well.. But the product I have seen work the best for attraction of the opposite sex was a Mary Kay cologne fo men…many yrs ago…I think the name was infinity but not sure…what I am sure about was the stuff was "magic'! When I wore it, female wait staff and hostesses. gave me a ton of compliments on it….and one server walking by actually stopped abruptly near my chair and looked at me and asked what was I wearing…that stuff worked crazy good, and I attributed it to the pheromones it had as an ingredient…