Sexy Words (L)
(L) – This post contains strong language.
These questions are open to everyone, but especially for females.
What words do you use on a daily basis for body parts and sex? When talking with friends, do you refer to your vagina as a pussy or cunt? What about when talking to your mom or sisters? Would you still use the words pussy or cunt? Do they use the words too? My mom and sisters all use the word pussy when referring to the vagina. Tits, too. Of course, “boobs” is common as well. What about for male parts? What do you use most often? Cock or dick? How many of you like the word “cunt” and use it frequently and like your husbands to use it?
Now, let’s talk bedroom! How do you talk in the bedroom? What words do you use regularly? What phrases? What kinds of things do you want to hear from your hubby—things that really turn you on? Is the “F” word common place in your bedroom? Some women don’t like it for sex. Others love it! I’m the latter, for sure! What about your mom and sisters? Do they openly use the word “fuck” when referring to sex?
Sarah is very open about masturbation with her girls (👍). On this forum, sex is fucking, for her. Curious if you teach your daughters to refer to sex as fucking too? It’s a sexy word, for sure! I love when my hubby is horny and tells me that he needs to fuck me so badly! 😋
Anyway, the topic is SEX WORDS (and phrases) in and out of the bedroom…and everything in between. With hubby. With friends. With family. What’s the norm with you? With them? 🤗
My wife uses “pussy” she has a visceral/adverse reaction to “cunt.” Probably why she hates Guy Ritchie movies. She prefers using the word “cock” because she refers to too many people as “dicks.” Those are my go-tos when describing our parts as well. She’ll occasionally use “coochie” or “snatch” if she’s being cute.
In our bedroom we often use phrases (from her) “eat that pussy babby, fuck that pussy harder. Cum all over my pussy baby. Slap my pussy with your cock,” is another favorite. “Warm me up from the inside, eat that ass baby.” Also, (from me), the perennial, “Suck my cock baby. Lick those balls. Take every inch of that cock. Ride my face, baby. I’m gonna pound that pussy.” There are plenty of others, but those are common between us.
Not having grown up with any sisters or siblings for that matter, I can't answer that question hottie.
My mother was a very proper Church going woman and I've never heard a curse word out of her mouth. For that matter she dressed in accordance with her proper personality. I never saw her in a pair of pants. She always wore a skirt or a dress and I never saw her go out in public without makeup and generally around the house had her hair and makeup done well.
My father while he was alive, was pretty much the same. A salesman who always dressed well and kept himself well.
Consequently I never talked like that, although I knew other people at school who did.
My father being on the road a lot, my mother would have a lot of women's groups at her house. The women who came were usually very proper as well, much the same as my mother when they came over for whatever group it may be, they would be wearing dresses and have their hair and makeup done well. Occasionally there would be a woman with a pair of pants on.
when I met my husband I was very inexperienced sexually, I had experimented with a couple of boys in my teens. On the other hand, my husband M. Came from a very different background and had been with a number of girls , and by the time we started dating he had experienced all sorts of things including anal and having two girls at once, including pretty much everything you can imagine a guy with two girls doing..
I was really attracted to him and when we met he always said one of the things he liked about me is that I was different from the other girls. More innocent and pure.
After we started dating and fell in love we started having sex and yes it was outside of wedlock.
Because I loved him I wanted to do everything that he wanted me to do.
And he taught me a lot in that regard.
He also began to tone down a lot of his behavior and speech.
And he started going to church with me.
Eventually professing his faith in Jesus.
In turn I was kind of meeting him at the halfway point and loosening up in a lot of my speech as well as my sexual attitudes.
Although I never really felt quite comfortable just talking like that, I would occasionally use four letter words as descriptives.
So now knowing our backgrounds we came to the point where we are today. Navigating our faith with our behavior.
Anybody who's followed us knows we've taken part in quite a few different types of sex, including sex on a nude beach around other people who were also having sex, among quite a few other things that were more risque and exciting.
To be honest with you, using expletives for sex to me just takes the beauty of sex away.
I will occasionally refer to my vagina as a pussy but usually Kitty or hole, and refer to him as having a penis or something else that isn't necessarily vulgar but descriptive in a sexual way.
At times when we are deep in the thick of it. Just ripping each other's clothes off and all over the house in all different positions in all different places and among the panting and groaning and a yes yes yes., will come out the words you describe. I will be on my knees telling him how I love sucking his perfect cock or tell him to eat my pussy. And at times when he's taking dominance he will call me his slut or some other term which is usually more vulgar and of course I will say things like yes fuck me Daddy.
And in the proper setting where it is raw and passionate vulgar speech can be a huge turnon. But in general for instance when I write and read others stories I find descriptives that will provoke the image but yet be somewhat more palatable to massage my fantasy and romance.
Now,his sister on the other hand when she and I are together has no problem seasoning our discussions with the hard descriptives much the same as you spoke in your questions. And I also have different groups of girlfriends from those who are the proper Church ladies who would never speak anything like that and have no idea that I do or would. And in other a group of friends that are a little more open but yet refrain from going all the way there. And I have another group of ladies who are very descriptive in their terms about everything. And we talk about all sorts of things sexual when we are together. And it's not unusual for one of these women to occasionally bear their breasts or vagina.
Our last house had a very private back yard with a pool and when having them over and the sun was beating down on us it was not uncommon for a few of us to strip down, sit around in the lawn chairs or take a dip in the pool.
Ironically the ones who seem to complain the most about their marriages and their bedrooms are the ones who are more conservative and restrictive.
M. And I
kind of look at it like eating. There's times when you eat with your fingers and there's a time for utensils.
lady L.💋
Your husband to be liked that you were "innocent and pure", but you were both prepared to violate it!
PS sex positive self-masturbation affirms sexual innocence and purity.
Hi…I’m new here. My first comment..what a fun and hot questions…pussy and fuck is what I use but with soft romantic tone usually. With hubby, mom, and sis.…being open with them discussing intimate topics is great and beneficial. Masturbation is a celebration of our sacred bodies and being open about is amazing…we have been exchanging stories from this website for a while now. I keep my rosebud shaved and so do my sis. Mom has a little bush…can’t wait to discuss your questions with my gang and first of all hubby…☺️🫦
It bothers me to hear graphic language described as vulgar. I don't like vulgar language, but in a marriage or appropriate setting, not used in a vulgar, derogatory manor, there is no vulgar language. Using graphic language is like using God's name. used appropriately it is praise and worship, used to curse, it is wrong.
Oooh, what a fun discussion! Many of you know my story, that my family is very conservative and I just wasn't educated about sex. However, I think as time passes that members of my family are perhaps growing a little bit more comfortable with some of these topics. My siblings and I are all adults now, and I've had some great conversations with my married sister. Just recently I was telling her about my views on spicy language, saying that in the married lovemaking context, I am fine with using the F word. She apparently agreed. Now I would never use it just in daily conversation, or as an insult. Same with saying "oh my God". I reverence God's name. But as I wrote in a post called "God's Spot", I think that using His name during sex is a sort of praise, an incontrollable admission and realization of Him being the giver of pleasure. Again, in daily life I would never throw His name around. I think context matters. My pastor stresses that and it's been a very eye-opening truth. So, if I get married, yes, I'd use all kinds of spicy words with my husband. If I find that my sister or others are also open to having frank and fun sexual discussions, I'd perhaps use those words with them too. I enjoy terms used in vintage writing too. Sexy pulp fiction from the 40s, 50s, and 60s can be very titillating, and recently I was reading some 1700s and 1800s erotica which was also very arousing. There are lots of terms in those that are rarer now, but which are also quite a turn-on. "Prick" in place of penis seems to be common back then, as is "quim" for vagina. Hmm, now I want to go read more of those books!
LLL, good to see your family opening up more.
As a wannabe Christian sexuality educator, being able to talk with your family would be good.
One day seeing their comments here would be something I see as positive to look forward to.
My wife and I talk a little bit through intermacy using words like, pussy, big fat cock as it adds a little naughtiness to the occasional. When my wife cuts, sure normally explodes with like, fuck me, that was so good.
Hmmm, well I generally don't use explicit terms except in the bedroom or writing a story of course. I have primarily referred to my vagina as my " pussy " or sometimes my " Cunt". It just sounds sexier as dose " Cock" or " dick " instead of penis. For masturbation I often will refer to it as " jilling off" for a woman, and " jerking off" for a male. Ben would often say " beating off" or " beating his meat ". In turn I got in the habit of using those terms often while describing male masturbation.
My mother never cursed or say such things. At least not around us kids. My father cursed like a sailor, though he really didn't approve of us kids using that type of language.. I rarely ever did, till I married Ben.
My daughter Alicia is alot like my daddy as she will often let loose with some colorful language. You will hardly never hear my daughter Kristie use such language. Of course I don't know about when she is having sex. Randy curses like a sailor both in and out of bed I imagine.
As far as having sex goes I mostly use " Fuck ", "Fucking" or " Screwing " while having sex or while masturbating. I am fairly reserved around my children and try not to use colorful language around them. I might but it's very rarely.
Thanks for posting! God bless you and yours and stay horny sweetheart!
What a brilliant thread! I loved reading everyone’s answers. The words I use really shift depending on the setting and who I’m speaking to.
Everyday language
With girlfriends, I’ll usually say pussy or fanny, though cunt definitely comes out more freely when I’m venting about something. My mum’s Irish too, and it’s always had that “bloody hell” energy in our house. Tits, boobs, arse are all standard for me. I can’t bring myself to say ass either, it just doesn’t sit right in my mouth. And when it comes to men, it’s cock or shaft every time. Penis is just too clinical, it kills the mood instantly.
In the bedroom
That’s a whole different world. I love being called degrading names when I’m in a scene with Master Joe, the filthier the better. Cunt, slut, whore, fucktoy, those words drop me deep into submissive space fast. Outside the bedroom, my little slut is my favourite. It makes me feel owned, in the loveliest way.
Sex-wise, I’m completely fine with fuck and shag. Fuck especially turns me on. I love hearing, “I’m going to fuck your tight little cunt” or “Spread your legs, slut, I’m not done with you yet.” The rawness of the word feels primal and hot. I can’t imagine sex without that kind of language now.
With family
Definitely more buttoned up. We’d never say fuck or pussy at the dinner table, but I do have one close girlfriend who’s like a sister, and when we’re tipsy, nothing’s off limits.
Thanks for the juicy questions. It's so interesting to see how language shapes intimacy, identity, and power in different spaces.
Lauren x
Lauren,
QUOTE: "Penis is just too clinical, it kills the mood instantly."
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Spot-on!! I totally agree.
I might have a "penis" when I talk with a doctor, but I have a "dick" the rest of the time. (Although, if my next wife prefers the word "cock", then I can make an adjustment to my vocabulary.)
When things were going hot & heavy, I sometimes referred to my first wife as my "fucktoy". But, she never commented one way or the other as to whether she liked that.
Interesting question…
I have found through the years that everyone does use different words. For instance many use "Pussy" which my wife thinks of as an immature girls word for it. Vagina is too clinical, but Cunt is just right. Personally I'd use whatever she asked, I'm not picky. :). When talking to our kids about genitalia at the appropriate ages we used the terms "Girl Parts" and "Boy Parts". One day my wife accidentally said she needed my "Boy Parts" and we both laughed so long and so hard about it that we didn't end up having sex. But laughter is its own intimacy. 😉 "Boobs" also sounded immature to her so it's "tits" or "titties". She's always called my "Boy Parts" Cock. Dick didn't sound right, and all the other euphemisms make her giggle herself out of feeling intimate. lol.
During sex those labels stick. However, there aren't a lot of phrases used by her during sex. She's the kind that holds her breath in pleasure. My very proper wife uses a LOT of profanity in the moments between holding breath saying "shit shit shit" or "fuck fuck fuck". I did get an "Oh fuck my god" out of her once which I love.
My words tend of be checking in with her, unless we are getting our BDSM on in which case I'm praising her as my "Good Wife" (Good Girl doesn't work for her as again she thinks it's a little girl thing) she is being and how proud I am of how well she is taking whatever I'm doing.
We refer to deep intimate sex as being "In the Garden" as a return to the intimacy available in the Garden of Eden.
I agree. Proper words for body parts aren’t sexy at all! I actually love the word “pussy”. Very hot and sexy! Cock too. Hubby is a huge fan of pussy!! He loves “tits” too. Prefers that over “boobs”. I wonder how “boobs” got to be used for breasts? I really like the word “ fuck” for sex, as well. That is a really hot word in the bedroom! LOVE when my hubby tells me that he wants to fuck me or needs to fuck me. Makes me feel so wanted and desirable. And what woman doesn’t want that? 😁. My hubby also loves to hear me say it! “Fuck me!” “Fuck my pussy.” “ Fuck me hard!” “Fuck me harder!” Of course, “Eat my pussy” is a big winner!! As is “I’m gonna cum” and “I’m cumming”. My husband loves to hear me say that!,🥰
Reading these lovely comments, I thought of an anecdote I wanted to share.
Last year I visiting a friend, it was mid afternoon, while enjoying a cup of tea and biscuit, faint but unmistakable words came from the other end of the house, "fuck me, fuck me, fuck me". It was obvious that my friend's teenage daughter was masturbating herself. My poor friend was so embarrassed. But it was cause for a lead in to a conversation on sexuality, sex and masturbation.
I got to tell her my views: https://marriageheat.com/2024/06/02/masturbation-as-sexual-purity/
It was not something she grew up talking about, so I offered to help. 🙂
Mrs. Chubby com here.
Both hubby and I were raised church of Christ. So it took a while to get where we don't feel guilty about having hot sex and using sexy words.
We use pussy, cock, ass, and tits. We also say fuck and cunt.
I use those words with my sister too. He calls me his sexy fucktoy. I don't care for slut. My sister likes to be called his slut by her hubby.
Hubby loves me to say fuck my hot wet cunt stud. Fill me with your hot cum.
I tell to Him finger fuck my ass baby.
I'm very open with our grown daughter too.
@ Mrs. Chubby com, how sexy and exciting your words are! Put your finger into my butt hole baby 😍 is what I say. Ooenness with sister and mom is the best 🥰
very hot and sexy, I agree slut is not my favorite. Neither was cunt; originally but now I’m ok with it. @gmail he emails me with what he wants t/o do to my cunt.
Be open to new things and find pleasure.
Sarah, what is your love language? What hot and sexy things do you say in the bedroom or want said to you?
Mrs Chubby, that is awesome that you and your sis talk so openly and forthrightly to each other! I would love to hear some of the things you discuss. Also KUDOS to you for taking the same approach with your adult daughter! What kinds of things do you talk about? Is she just as comfortable talking to you and using words like pussy, cunt, tits, cock, fuck etc. What about your mom? Is she comfortable with such talk?
“Fuck toy” is kinda cute. Haha. Hubby always tells me my body is like his own personal amusement park that can play with and ride forever! 😆 He also says that he’s like a kid in a candy store when he sees me naked and gets to play with me.🥰❤️
Hi Hot Tamale! My sister and I discuss what toys we like. We've looked at different toy sites online together. We tend to get aroused looking at big dildos. We both have a fantasy of being double teamed (which will never happen in real life) so we both got a dildo that sticks to the wall. We haven't masturbated together but talk about rubbing our cunts when we are alone.
We have discussed cock size too. We are both blessed with husbands that are hung.
I've discussed masturbation with my daughter. I've told her its fine to use words like cock, tits, pussy and fuck. That her hubby will love it. And will love to watch her play with herself.
She is comfortable using those words. She said she could hear me and hubby sometimes.
My mom is comfortable using those words. Especially when she's had glass of wine lol
That’s awesome, Chubby! So nice that you can talk so openly with your sis like that! You’re 100% right! Your daughter’s husband will LOVE it! Wonderful that your mom is comfortable talking sex with you too, and uses words like, pussy, cock, tits, and fuck. Awesome! Love your posts, Chubby! Keep posting. Your comments are hot and sexy!❤️
Thanks babe. Its so wonderful to be open with family.
It sure is! What kinds of things do you talk about with your mom and daughter? Can your talk get quite explicit? Do your mom and daughter use the word cunt, too? I would love to hear sone of the talks you’ve had.🥰❤️
We talk about a lot of things. ☺️ and a lot about sex. We have family girl nights. We have some wine and food. We get very explicit!! Mom and daughter say cunt and fuck. My daughter says she's a slut for her hubby.
Wish I could be part of your sexy conversations!😁
Your daughter has a great attitude!❤️❤️❤️
Chubby, I love how casually you and your mom and daughter use the word “cunt”! I’ve always been a “pussy” gal but since reading MH and seeing other women using the word “cunt” instead, I will, on occasion, use that word now, too. I have been known to say, “Stick your hard cock in my cunt!” when I really need it! haha Perhaps, even “Fucking stick your hard cock in my cunt!”😁
When in my late teens, I read a book about how using ‘dirty’ words / phrases during sex can enhance the sexual experience as long as you are both into it.
I introduced this early on into our relationship and my wife really liked it. In the height of passion she would say ‘I love the feel of your cock in my juicy cunt as you fuck me, you fucking fill me up’.
I would tell her, as we were having foreplay how I wanted to strip her clothes off and slowly and kiss every part of her lovely body before we became as one person, joined together with our lovely sacred privates which God gave us for pleasure and making babies.
This 73 year old has such happy memories of all those years ago.
I know "cunt" isn't for everyone. Hubby loves me telling him to fuck my wet cunt. His cock gets so hard and pounds me even harder.
It’s new for me. But I have discovered its “hotness”, thanks to MH. My hubby is used to me saying pussy (he loves that word) but when I throw in the word “cunt” from time to time…. well…🍆💦🔥
Just wanted to comment on another way to spice things up: use adjectives! There’s “wet pussy”, “juicy cunt”, “horny pussy”, “needy pussy”, or “hungry cunt”. Even “bald pussy” is sexy. Hubby loves when I say, “Eat my bald pussy!” Variety is the spice of life!
Sexy, wet pussy is a favorite of mine HT. Soft pussy lips, hot, wet, swollen, there are so many. I love to tell him to "eat or tongue-fuck my tight, creamy pussy," or lick my soft pink asshole." He uses "veiny, stiff, or he'll say take my throbbing or hungry cock from time to time. You are correct, variety is the spice of life, especially our sex life.
Hi. We fairly new here. Have been browsing all the sexy stories and discussion topics. They do get us wet and hard. We are a mature couple. Empty nesters. A girlfriend from church turned us on to MH. That will be a story I will submit later. ☺️
Hubby and I love dirty/naughty/spicy talk in the bedroom. We do say fuck a lot. I tell him to fuck me with your big hard cock! We say pussy and cunt when we are being very primal.
Hubby loves my sexy ass and big tits. Or as he says "your big hangers" lol. I'm 38dd.
Using spicy talk really gets us going. My mom has passed. She wasn't one to discuss sex. So I've made sure to discuss sex openly with our girls who are both grown. One is married to a godly man and have a beautiful daughter. The other is is single.
As I write this I'm teasing my bald cunt and pinching my fat nipples. Can't wait for hubby to cum home and fuck me. I'm his sexy slut.
Welcome!! We love dirty talk too. Talking with family about sex is so hot
it is hot! and those stories on MH opens a heaven of discussions and hot talk 🙂