Lauren’s Wishlist of Obedience and Desire
Hi all!
After reading Bee’s story Making a Mess: Honey and Cum (published July 10, 2025), I got thinking about my own sexual to-do list.
The stories on the site, the imagery, the connection, and the raw messiness have made me reflect on my own desires, kinks, and inspirations that I have taken from all the great stories and discussions. I found myself reaching for my notebook and writing down the things that I long to experience with Master Joe.
Some He and I have talked about. Some we have done and I wat to try again. Some others I hope to whisper in his ear when the time is right.
Here is my list.
1. Orgasm Control Marathon
Please, Sir, may I be teased for 24 hours? I wish to be edged until I’m trembling, denied until I’m soaked, aching, and begging to be allowed to cum. Nothing excites me more than surrendering completely to your control.
2. Wax and Ice Play Combo
I would like to feel hot wax dripping onto my bare skin while I’m bound, the sting making me gasp, followed by the cool trace of ice in your hands. Please, Sir, let me feel the contrast and the anticipation, knowing I am helpless in your care.
3. Public Toy Session
Please, Sir, may I wear our RC toy on the metro, under my clothes, under your control, while you watch me try to stay composed? Knowing you’re controlling my pleasure without anyone else knowing would make me feel so owned.
4. Mirror Ritual
I would like to be bound in front of a mirror, and be made to watch as you use me, Sir—to see my own face reflect your power, to see what you see when I surrender. Please let me witness my submission through your eyes.
5. Photograph Me
I wish, Sir, for you to bind me and photograph me as you explore my body, capturing every breath, every whimper, every reaction to your touch. Please document my arousal, your teasing, and the moment your cum marks me. When you’ve captured everything, I would like to create a private book for you, to give you as a gift, a record of your control and my devotion.
6. A Week of Notes
Please, Sir, would you leave me a little note or instructions each morning? Just a line or two to guide me: “No panties.” “Edge for me.” “Touch, but don’t cum.” I will follow everything you write and report back as your good girl.
7. Bedtime Binding Ritual
I want to have my wrists bound by you before bed, not for a scene, but as a quiet reminder that I am yours. Please, Sir, tuck me in, kiss me goodnight, and let me fall asleep aching and adored, wrists tied and heart full.
8. Sleepy Use
Please, Sir, may I be used while I’m drowsy and sleepy? Taken slowly, deeply, without words. Let my body respond naturally, stretching open for you in that warm, dreamy haze where I belong only to you.
9. New Collar Ceremony
I would like, Sir, to kneel for you in a private recollaring ceremony (like renewing our vows). The collar is made of black leather, smooth and firm, featuring a small silver ring at the front, a quiet yet powerful symbol of your ownership. Please fasten it around my neck again and speak the words that bind me to you, body and soul, reminding me that I am still, and always, yours.
10. Soundtrack of Submission
Please, Sir, would you record the audio of one of our scenes? Your voice, your commands, my moans, the sounds of my body yielding to yours—I would love to listen to it later, to close my eyes and let my imagination return to that moment. Let it be our private soundtrack—your dominance, my pleasure, captured forever.
Your turn! What’s on your top 10 list, and why?
Thanks
Lauren xxx
Wow this is very intense stuff. We have never tried any of this. You are obviously the submissive one, but do you ever change roles? Thanks for the suggestions! Please let us know how it goes.
Thank you so much. Yes, you are absolutely right, I am the submissive, and Master Joe is very firmly my Dom.
We do not usually switch roles at all… except once a year. On my birthday. I call it Revenge Day 😊 That is my one and only moment to turn the tables, and it is always deliciously earned.
I am really glad the list sparked ideas for you. Some things are already lived, some are still deliciously waiting their moment. I will absolutely share how things unfold when I am back to myself and replying more regularly.
Thank you for reading and for your kindness.
Lauren
I agree that MH can give us great ideas and even a wish list. I also think it’s important to realize that we all will have different lists. We also need to be sensitive to what our spouse’s list would be AND be sensitive to what is OK with them and what is permanently off their sex menu. With that in mind, here is a short list of mine… although many of it is things I want to do again. MH did give me some of these ideas:
1. More outdoor sex – like while rock hounding or fishing etc.
2. More boob flashing, cock flashing n stroking, nipple pinching/sucking etc in the SUV.
3. More role play sex experiences. They always set my Melody off! Include costumed role play
4. Just bought 27 degree angle sex ramp that we are going to give a try.
5. More boob sex w/ my dick between wife’s breasts – probably happening tomorrow because wife has UTI.
6. Oral sex combined with boob sex
7. Cumming on wife’s boobs/tummy/face
8. More middle of the night spontaneous sex
9. More wife kneeling on car seat w/ me standing outside fucking her in a standing doggy-style
10. More massage sex including masseur or masseuse role play.
11. Sex outside in a tropical beach setting
My dearest LovingMan.
I really love how thoughtfully you framed your list, especially the care around mutual comfort and boundaries. That really resonated with me.
Boob play is always a winner for me, too. Mine are incredibly sensitive, so even small amounts of attention can undo me very quickly. It is one of those things that never really leaves the list.
Master Joe and I have a free-to-use arrangement now, so a middle-of-the-night sex happens quite naturally for us. I often find Master Joe climbing behind me slowly and taking me. It's grounding rather than performative, which I absolutely love. There is something very intimate about being half-asleep and still so completely known.
Thank you for sharing your list. It is always fascinating to see how different desires overlap and diverge, and how much inspiration comes from simply talking openly about them.
love lauren
These are fire, Lauren! Several of them I'd like to do myself. Recording a sex session, being taken in front of a mirror…such hot fantasies! I'd have to give my own list of top ten activities some thought. Maybe that'll be a future post of my own. Let me say, you inspired me!
My Dearest LLL
Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me. I love that it sparked something for you, and I would absolutely read your top ten if you decided to share it.
The audio surprised me too, if I am honest. Hearing our own voices brought everything rushing back in vivid detail. We listened to it together in the car just before Christmas while driving to the supermarket, and it made the whole moment feel charged and secret in the best possible way.
By the time we arrived, I was very distracted, wet and very aware of my body in the most amazing way (maybe another story there).
I think it's the contrast that makes things like mirrors and recordings so powerful. They linger with you long after the moment itself.
Thank you for such a lovely comment, and I am glad it inspired you.
Love as always Lauren
I gotta add that we have done a LOT of photos of each other and many short videos. Having a secure photo/video app has been really fun! We also got a ring light with cell phone holder and remote control for cell phone. Photos and short videos are fun to watch and are like visual journal entries that help me feel blessed for having a kind, beautiful, & sexy wife! I think making a long video of a full sex session would be fun too.
LovingMan, je t’aime.
You're just like me. I always think of extra things to say after I have already hit post.
The photo idea really intrigued me. Master Joe has taken many photos of me over the years, and for Christmas, I quietly compiled them into a photo book just for him.
It looks completely inconspicuous, perched on a shelf (a very high shelf) of our bookcase, right there in plain sight. It makes me smile every time friends come over, knowing it's there.
I mean, how often do you really stop to browse the books on someone else’s shelves?
Naughtlily Lauren
Bonjour everyone, this is Joe, (Master Joe.)
Lauren has asked me to message on her behalf as you know she likes to respond to all the comments but is currently not able to.
Over New Year she was in Lyon with her friend Jasmin, who is French and whose grandfather is Algerian. Jasmin has just opened a North African Algerian restaurant, a real projet de cœur for her. Sadly, at closing time, they were attacked by a group of racist thugs who vandalised the restaurant and took the takings. It was a shocking and very upsetting moment.
I think you know Lauren is British. She was caught up in the situation. instinctively she stepped in to protect her friend and ended up in urgences. She is now at home, convalescing with a fractured jaw and a broken rib.
She is being her usual brave, upbeat self and very much intends to reply to your comments when she can. She simply asked me to say merci for your patience and understanding in the meantime.
Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers for a smooth and speedy recovery.
Joe
Joe, please let Lauren know that she is in our prayers! We are so sorry she has to go through this. God bless you both. I’m sure you are taking good care of her.
I’m so sorry this happened; it’s such an awful thing. I hope you’ll let her know that I am praying for her, and you are in my prayers as well.
Praying for a full recovery
Dear LovingMan, KingdomMan, Coming Soon.
You beautiful human beings.
Thank you all so much for your thoughts, prayers, and kindness. It genuinely means more than I can put into words.
I am still a little sore and a bit shaken, especially in crowds, and my ribs definitely remind me of themselves every time I laugh. But I am healing day by day. I do not regret stepping in to protect my friend. It was instinctive, and I would do the same again.
I did ask Joe to write to you all on my behalf. I always try to respond promptly, and I truly value the time and care you take to read and comment on the stories. It feels important to me to write back because if someone takes the time to connect with my words, the very least I can do is acknowledge that.
Your prayers and messages have been a real comfort to Joe and to me. Thank you for holding us both in your thoughts.
Lauren
I love your entire list! Some things I might add are:
1. “Forced” public nudity
2. “Forced” orgasm
3. Orgasm denial
4. Public or risky sex (In a controlled environment)
5. Role-play sex. Lots of scenarios including medical, cosplay, stranger, saleswoman, and others.
6. Romantic outdoor sex
7. Erotic photo shoot
8. Journaling/documenting sexy adventures
9. A sex-cation, with only one purpose 😉
10. A step by step progression through deepest fantasies
Dear KingdomMan
I love this list, thank you for sharing it.
Public and risky, done thoughtfully and with control, has absolutely just been added to my bucket list. There is something delicious about that mix of exposure and trust.
Joe particularly enjoyed your numbers 2 and 3, forced orgasm paired with orgasm denial. I have to admit, so do I. That push and pull between control and release is one of the things that really lights me up.
Thank you for such a thoughtful and inspiring contribution.
I will pray for a speedy recovery and for you and Joe to have some opportunities to explore these naughty ideas 😉
Heal up sweet Lauren.
I was meaning to share my thoughts on your story but read Joes comments.
Bless you for being brave and standing up to hatred.
Please get well soon love. Hope your friend is okay as well.
Lady L. ❤️💋
Thank you so much, Lady L.
Your words really touched me.
I am healing slowly and taking things one day at a time. My friend is safe, thankfully, and I am so happy to say the restaurant is already back open. The local community pulled together in the most beautiful way, helping to clean, decorate, and get everything up and running again so quickly. It was incredibly moving to witness.
Standing up in that moment felt instinctive, and while it has been a shock to the system, I do not regret it.
Please do share your thoughts when you feel like it. I am at home and off work for another two weeks (thank goodness for French trade union regulations), so I am very open to inspiration and connection. I am still a little too sore to properly enjoy the unexpected quiet time, if you know what I mean. As I said, I am healing and probing my body to check my recovery has been interesting. the wrong sort of pain, but not totally unpleasant. 😉
Thank you for your kindness, love, and care. Sending you a kiss. 💋
Lauren
Jim once brought me to a very powerful and loooonnnnggg orgasm while seated at dinner in a very nice restaurant . We set it up in advance – I wore no panties under a nice silky 3/4 length skirt. He really played with my creamy pussy throughout the meal, but finished me off during dessert with his furiously fast fingers and his thumb rotating around my very swollen clit.
(picture Meg Ryan with the sound turned down.
I, of course, had my after dinner and dessert taste of his special cream on the ride home, just like I do on every airport trip home with him …
Creamy Patty, that sounds incredibly intense, and may I say the more I learn about you from your comments to my stories, you.
I love how much intention and trust underlie what you describe, especially the way you and Jim clearly planned it together and revelled in the anticipation as much as in the outcome.
What really resonates with me is the control and composure aspect. Being held in that space where you are outwardly calm but inwardly undone is such a powerful part of surrender. It is less about where you are, and more about who is guiding you through it.
Thank you for sharing so openly. It is comments like yours that remind me how many different shapes desire can take when it is rooted in connection. love and the lord
Love Lauren xx
Having some time this morning I was delving into some of the past writings here and came upon this once more. It was after the incident you had with your friend and the brutes. Instead of answering this particular story I sent my wishes for your healing.
Well sometime has passed and I'm hoping that you have healed well and are doing well. And reading through this very delicious wishlist I can tell you that there were moments I found myself budding my lip with my fingertips traveling over my own body.
I won't deny that with my eyes closed you and all your feminine beauty, were in my imagination experiencing the very things you wished for.
Over the years we have tried many different things and although we have added many things to our repertoire of erotic sessions There are a few things that we found just really didn't do it for us..
Number one on your list was orgasm control. Something each of us has tried with each other. Generally done with restraints and sometimes blindfolds depending on what it is that we're presenting for visual stimulation.
For me being able to orgasm through nipple play M. Has mastered the ability to stimulate me through the precipice of orgasm and then stopped only two move his attention to my clitoris taking me up again and letting me down. Repeatedly following the pathway between my breasts and Vulva until as you say I am begging. The octave of my voice raising my eyebrows arched up with a plea for release.. The mastery he demonstrates shows how well he knows me then the The explosiveness of the orgasms is all encompassing.
The other hand I have been in on the throne of control teasing his balls, shaft anus add nipples. It's not uncommon for him to be on his knees ass in the air milking his erection as a dangles down between his thighs until It begins to drip plus delicious clear pre-cum. My finger or a small vibrator inserted friendly into his anus milking his prostate. It's almost inevitable that I will lay on my back underneath with my mouth open letting that clear liquid drip into my open mouth. Holding tightly to the base of his shaft and denying him completion.
Hot wax and ice, for me it was a little bit too much. The ice not that bad but also not necessarily adding to the experience. The hot wax was a definite no for me .
Private/ public sex.
To start with we love it !!
The whole exhibitionist kink has an element of excitement that is addictive.
I've said before how 99% of my lingerie is sexually oriented And when I dress for the day my naughty secret of what I have underneath is in itself empowering to me.
Adding a weighted plug in my anus when I'm meeting with a client or going into the office not to forget when we go out on a date.
While we have never had the remote control vibrator which I have seen before. We have managed full of some pretty risque sexual contact in places that are public without the people around us knowing what we're doing. Whether it's a restaurant with a corner booth or a birthday, wedding or other celebration or a large group is in attendance. Being able to find a place where we can hear and at times see but not be seen is over the top exciting.
Mirrors… Years ago M. Installed mirrored closet doors in all of our bedrooms in the master it's next to our bed. We are our own visual porn as we watch ourselves.
And I did write a story about what happened when my husband for my birthday hired a female masseuse which was in the office in front of a mirror door. It left me soaking wet on the massage table with desire on the massage table.
Video/ photograph.
For years now We have indulged I recording ourselves having sex to look at it years later or use it in solo play times not to mention our sexting back and forth and the photos we have taken of each other.
Something I will add is that we do not keep any of this on our phones or anywhere online these are all kept away from the internet whether or not to be seen by any others.
Although I have to admit. His sister did see a video of us and a few pictures over the years.
The notes… Other than love notes we have not indulged the way that you say. It does sound interesting though. But when we do throughout the day find ourselves apart . Is very often developed since you directions coming from one side or the other as to what we would like to see and the other attempting to produce for them what they want.
As far as the night time binding to the bed and the collar ritual.
I reserve that beautiful scene to thinking about you two. Although I have been on over the years to wear a choker from time to time. The collar is not something we are normally accustomed to.
Although having seen bondage in art and video and having some girlfriends who are into it. (One of which has shown me hers and had me put it on her just for me to see. I can understand how it would fit into the dynamic
Soundtrack of submission.
In our sexual adventures We have come to appreciate all of the senses and parts of the body's part in the sexual experience.
As I've mentioned before we do have videos some from 25 years ago of the two of us having sex.
And from time to time at our age now we will revisit those things sometimes in the living room sometimes in our bedroom watching it on TV
It almost always ends up with us pleasuring one another and listening to the noises that we make. Or the way that we speak to one another.
It only adds fuel to the fire of our passion.
Having a few times found ourselves in a position of facing the TV I wants to as if we are having sex in the same room with another couple only the other couple is us.
All in all Lauren. Over the time that I've been here and reading your stories and comments I have truly come to adore you. Having never even met you face to face I've still feel as if I know you personally. Having read your stories I feel as if I've seen the two of you making love and the dynamic which the two of you love to share together.
I always enjoy your writing because you bring me into The room where you are and cause me to experience it with you.
Lady L.♥️♥️♥️💋💋
Dear Lady L,
Sorry for the late response. I really wanted to sit with your words and think properly about my answers to you because your comment deserved more than a rushed reply.
Firstly, thank you. Not only for your kindness toward me specifically, but for your openness, vulnerability and generosity in sharing so much of yourself with me. What touched me most was that you did not simply consume my content; you emotionally entered it. You let yourself feel it, imagine it and experience it alongside me, and there is something incredibly intimate about for me.
Thank you also for your thoughts regarding my healing after everything that happened with my friend and I. It has been a long journey through healing, recovery and ultimately prosecution and conviction. I am blessed by God that things turned out the way they did, even if the road there was painful.
What you said about feeling as though you were “in the room” with me honestly sent a shiver down my spine. I adore the thought that people can see us so vividly in their mind’s eye. Knowing our words can create that kind of atmosphere, tension and intimacy for someone else feels deliciously playful and deeply flattering.
Your thoughts on orgasm control especially resonated with me. I absolutely adore being edged. That feeling of being brought as close to release as possible only to have it taken away again. The ache of it. The desperation. The way it leaves your whole body humming and needy. Even writing this now makes me wet just thinking about it.
Sometimes I send Master Joe the simplest little message during the day:
“Fais-moi languir.”
Make me ache.
And then I spend the rest of the afternoon thinking about him coming home while I kneel waiting at the door for him. There is something intoxicating about anticipation when somebody truly knows your body and mind.
I loved what you wrote about lingerie, too. I am lucky that Master Joe insists I wear beautiful new lingerie when we play seriously within our dynamic. It rarely survives the scene intact, but that somehow makes it even more exciting. He gives me a little budget for it because he wants me to feel beautiful and desired. If I am shopping, I often send him teasing little sneak peeks while he is at work just to build the tension between us.
Your section about recordings and memories made me smile knowingly. I actually have a pending story about a true moment when I unexpectedly heard my own audio in the car. There is something unbelievably erotic about hearing your own orgasm later, reliving the sounds and emotions of the moment. It pulls me right back into that headspace. My hands inevitably wander between my thighs. Even more so if Master Joe is there watching me pleasure myself to the sound of my own moans or our recordings together.
And finally, the collar.
I adore my collar. Truly. I feel naked without it. It binds me to him emotionally as much as physically. I completely understand it is not for everyone, but for me it carries comfort, devotion, submission and ownership all at once. Interestingly, I have never put it on in front of a close friend or confidante before. The thought of sharing that vulnerable part of myself with someone trusted feels both terrifying and strangely exciting. You may actually have inspired a new addition to my wishlist.
Thank you again, Lady L. Your words stayed with me long after I read them.
Lauren
It was nothing late about your response to me I was the one who was late in my response.
I love that you felt my words when you read them. So much of what you just relayed to me I have felt myself.
Thank you for spending so much time on your response to me It truly does mean a lot and touched my heart.
I will be reading this to M. later
And I'm sure it will touch him just as much. You along with others in this community have become very dear to us. Though we've never met personally you are in our hearts.
For all on here who share our thoughts and feelings publicly to one another We are in fact baring our souls. There is a naked truth to writing about your sex life for others to ponder and take in. We are both sharing and receiving from one another. And that in itself is an intimate connection that we all share.
One of my deepest hopes for this place in the internet called marriage heat is that more women would take advantage of this intimacy and community. That they would speak out through their words their own experiences, their own curiosities and their own questions.
With this exchange that we have just had I could say that I feel you that much more in my inner being and there is a true love that I feel in that connection.
Lady L.❤️