Sexy Over Sixty?
Summer was finally over. The kids were back at school and we had the house to ourselves. Friday arrived with what looked like a first weekend of rainy Fall weather. It was the season of soup, baked bread, college football, and walks in between the rain showers.
We were alone, just Tom and I. No kids, no friends dropping by. We sat on our back porch, watching the rain, drinking hot tea.
As the night fell, it got a bit chilly. We soon found ourselves inside in front of our fireplace, making out like teenagers. This led to a very sexy oral session, with Tom going down on me and bringing me to a strong orgasm. Then I returned the favor by sucking and licking his cock until he took over and came all over his fist and tummy. All the while, I watched and talked dirty to him, which he absolutely loves!
All of this brings me to my subject. Do you ladies ever get turned on by just looking at your husband? Even when he’s doing nothing particularly sexy? Maybe reading a book or concentrating on composing an email? Or even just relaxing, watching TV, napping on the couch. I confess I get turned on by him even at these seemingly mundane times.
Tom sometimes asks me what makes me feel horny, desire sex, or feel a need for intimacy, and I honestly don’t know what to tell him. All I know is I can feel it coming on.
It starts in my imagination. I always say, great sex begins between the ears—in my head. It can start with something small. Maybe it’s just how he looks in a trim business suit, or relaxed in a pair of jeans and a shirt with the sleeves rolled up over his muscular forearms. Maybe it’s watching him in the shower, shaving, or doing something unconsciously masculine that gets me going.
I imagine him with his shirt open, running my hands over his hairy chest, the smell of him, a combination of soap and the light cologne he usually wears. I like the taste of his skin, and catch myself imaging how much he enjoys it when I kiss my way down his neck, over his shoulders, running my tongue down his sides, which always makes him shiver with pleasure and anticipation.
I enjoy catching him staring at my cleavage or my curvy ass, encased in a tight skirt or a pair of yoga pants. Around the house, I often wear yoga pants with no panties, intentionally displaying a bit of camel toe. I like the way the smooth material forms to my body, and rubs against my pubic mound and vulva as I move. When I realize he is watching me, I let my fingers trail down and lightly caress the tops of my breasts. It turns me on to turn him on. I can feel myself getting aroused even as I write this!
Once my imagination is engaged, the physical reactions begin. My nipples perk up, harden and protrude. Depending on what bra I’m wearing, they give me away like a couple of naughty school girls. Bing! They might as well be Christmas lights. Tom can see them under whatever top I’m wearing, and while it can be a bit embarrassing in public, I confess that I like it—a lot.
Next, I can feel my skin getting warm and tingly, as if my thoughts are making me blush. Blood rushes to my various erogenous zones—my neck, upper chest, boobs, and ultimately to my pussy. I can feel myself slowing opening, like a flower touched by sunlight or gentle rain. A yearning starts, my chest tightens, and my legs and arms want to stretch like a cat when it wakes up from a nap. I run my hands up the back of my neck and through my hair. My hands become his hands in my imagination.
The last stage is feeling my pussy getting slippery with anticipation. Depending on where I am with hormonal issues, I can go from dry to moist to soaking my panties in around 10 minutes, sometimes faster if Tom is kissing and touching my boobs. (I’m post menopausal and don’t mind that at all. With the right hormonal replacement, I can feel as sexy and aroused as I did when I was at my sexual peak.) While it may sound a bit weird, I can also feel my pussy begin to pulse and tingle a little. If I squeeze my thighs and pelvic floor muscles (the ones involved in Kegel exercises), it increases the intensity.
I’m wondering if other ladies my age (late 60s) still have these feelings? I’m starting to think I’m over-sexed. Most of my girlfriends seem to have no interest in their sexual selves, which seems sad to me. I worry about their marriages. As Tom and I have aged, our sex life has certainly changed, but it has not become any less important to our well being and continued love for each other. If I didn’t have Tom, I don’t think I could be happy without a man in my bed who knows how to make me feel good.
Be honest please. Is something wrong with me?
I can’t answer since I’m a male that’s younger than 60, but I want to commend your desire to keep sexual desire strong no matter the age.
I would assume most couples let it fall to the wayside in their 60s and 70s but there is no reason it should. Thank you for writing this!
Okay, this IMMEDIATELY went into my favorites because you voice exactly things that I daydream about! Watching my future husband do even commonplace things, just enjoying the delineation of his muscles, admiring him, being turned on by his masculinity, such a complement to my femininity…I want that!
Second, I wish ALL older married ladies embraced sex like you do! I grieve for marriages I know about where one spouse (usually the wife) is done with sex. My mom, in her 50s, is one of them. It boggles my mind. Like, doesn't she know she can enjoy it for herself? Doesn't she want that? I think she considers it a chore, a thing you "do to satisfy your husband's needs". Breaks my heart. So no, you are not over-sexed. You are beautifully fulfilling God's design for marriage! Keep it going! You've inspired me!
We are moving towards 60 these days and while we change our methods we are still having wonderfully intense sex and orgasms. Our daughter is studying for a Masters these days so she's not around to much any more and we have privacy indoors and out on the patio.
My parents set the tone for sexuality at older years. They are just passing their mid 70s and are still wonderfully sexual. That's why my mother always tells me to call before I come over. They may be cumming them selves LOL.
Sometimes has to prepare their selves mentally as well as physically. Being nudists we see each other nude all the time and that helps motivate our desire.
You are on the right path, NaughtyWife64. Keep up touching yourself and masturbating and you will retain the yearning for your husband. The same goes for him. Screw society. You're not doing anything wrong.
I love your descriptions here and as a woman in her 60’s I completely identify with what you are saying. My hubby turns me on even more now than ever. HRT absolutely helps! I have a super strong libido and am more sexually adventurous than 20 years ago. Our bodies don’t always cooperate as we want but we always find ways to give each other pleasure and our love is stronger that it has ever been.
This is Mrs Hubby. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your thinking. Lord willing, my hubby and I will be 80 this Nov/Dec. I feel very much the same about him as you feel about your other half. We still do many things together and love sitting, watching movies/TV on our little two seat couch. I love the feel of his hands rubbing my thighs, back and breasts. I really and truly believe he is the reason for why I am still naturally wet. I had been married 3 times prior to him and I had "never" experienced the sexual pleasure he has given me. 34 years ago, shortly after our marriage, I experienced my first ever, explosive orgasm. We had many lengthy talks before marriage and he told me he would do "anything" to show me the pleasure in sex. He had ejaculated in me and was lying with his head on my chest lightly rubbing my boobs. I finally got the courage to see if he was "really" willing to do anything to show me pleasure. I lightly pushed down on his head. He moved and then when I pushed the 2nd time he knew what I wanted. The feeling from my first mind blowing orgasm was and is still indescribable. I just love the way he looks at me and touches. And his tongue still brings me wonderful pleasure. My orgasms aren't as intense as they once were, but he is still the loving reason for my pleasure. I am praying you and your hubby will still have great sex as you age, just as we have. May God bless you and yours.
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Read your comment that ,…" great sex begins between the ears.."
as a husband over 70y/o, I can remember reading that statement saying, " the brain is our largest sex organ"..
& I believe it to be true.
We've found the hottest sexual activity began after we both retired , as we had an empty nest, with no distractions, and time to just play with each other. I'd read an article online that was entitled "how to improve your sex life"
Read it, took notes , & started to implement things I'd read..after asking my wife if she wanted to improve our sex life. Fortunately, she said "yes." Some of my earliest posts here are about our progress. Best thing we've done for each other in our 48 yrs together.
My wife says my enthusiasm for life turns her on. But she also likes my “nice butt” – clothed or nude.
Various studies report couples’ sexual activity level through different ages of life. Several studies seem to indicate that over 53% of couples age 65 – 75 tend to have sex at least weekly and 17% have sex several times a week. So yes, you’re normal.
My wife, Melody says, “If your friends your age aren’t sexually active with their husbands, who cares? Then she modified it by saying, “That’s too bad for them. You should consider yourself blessed.”
Melody tends to especially go “all vixen” when we do role play sex or/& when we travel! So your craving your husband at your age is very normal!
Melody is mid 70s & I’m mid 60s. We both have complex health situations yet we say “Love finds a way!” For instance, we both have had the flu ‘n Melody had a UTI. We had to not have sexual intercourse for almost two weeks. Yet we did other things on days we were able – boob sex, nipple sex – her helping me have an orgasm. We had WONDERFUL full sex session 2 days ago! The sex-break made the sex seem brand new in some ways!
We usually have a full lovemaking session every 3-4 days. A few years ago it was every other day. Then it went to every third day. And a few months ago it went to the every 3 or 4 days. So again, you are perfectly normal for enjoying sex with your husband. Health issues ‘n age may slow you down but for many of us our love finds a way!
I wish all women felt as you do. You’re a prize and a wonderful treasure to your husband. Don’t change a thing and certainly don’t feel embarrassed by who you are sexually.
Woman heading towards 70 here. So glad to read the thoughts and feelings of other mature women naughty.
You and Tom are great examples of a loving, vibrant sexually expressive couple.
When you described your settling into a relaxing evening and giving pleasure to one another, I said ohhh this sounds lovely. When you stated how you talked sexually yo him I said YESSSS! I can totally relate!
In my everyday life my words disguise the way I will talk to my husband during times of desire and passion.
And yes, my thoughts will often become filled with want and lust for him, as you say, theost mundane or unexpected times.
And giirrrllll you are a hottie!!!
I learned long ago the power of feminity in producing desire. We dont have to be perfect models, but the mind and confidence of bein a sexy, wanted woman in the eyes of my lover.
Soooo, the answer is YES! I have been known to spend my thoughts in lusting and preparing for him to find me dressed for sex or on the bed outside of the bathroom for him to come out. Sometimes on my back legs spread, fingers working feverishly. At other times ass up on my knees a dildo half way in me telling him I need him.
Although as of late, I have been challenged with lichenoid sclerosis and am too tender for touch. I still do love giving my hands and mouth to bring him pleasure, and yes, vocally expressing my sexual needs and wants.
Lady L. ❤️💋🔥🔥
NaughtyWife64, surely every man would love to have a wife with your attitude, your desire, and your willingness to be there for him (as well as your skill in offering such arousing descriptions!)
You are an example-setter, and maybe i should say the same about Tutch, Creamy, Sabrina, LLL, and so many others here 🙂
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NaughtyWife64,
Your attitude is the "antidote" to much of what is wrong with marriages these days.
In my opinion, girls are taught to "beat around the bush" regarding sex, and that approach causes a lot of misery for frustrated husbands that try to remain faithful. Most men would much rather hear a wife say EXACTLY what is on her mind without any guesswork. (e.g.: if you are thinking about his cock in your mouth, then just tell him, "I want your cock in my mouth." That will get you what you want much better than, "The sunset looks pretty through the leaves….")
I long for a wife with your positive attitude. I turned 68 recently, I still get fully hard rather quickly, and I'm somewhat worried that there are no women "out there" that can keep up with my sex drive. Your post gave me some hope.
I'm not a woman, nor over 60, nor to I frequently speak with women over 60 about their sex lives. But what I CAN say is that there's definitely nothing negative about this! Perhaps abnormal, but oftentimes different from normal is good!
I don't have much new to add, but I'll echo what everyone else has already reassured you of: it's a blessing that you still find a natural attraction between you two, and that you're still able to enjoy a vibrant sex life. And I think you already know that's a blessing! Be grateful for it, thank God for it, and honor that gift by fully embracing it and loving each other as passionately you possibly can!
Thanks all! I feel much better. So it’s normal to love sex at 60? Or as Lorenz Hart wrote, “ Vexed again, perplexed again
Thank God, I can be oversexed again…”
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Are you really oversexed?
How about instead – you are comparing yourself to the undersexed?
That you are concerned about their marriages, you are right to be concerned.
If a wife has lost her interest in sex, should should at the very least be encouraging her husband to wank himself.
And be open to giving him a hand or mouth job.
To Sarah K – exactly! And we have taken to calling them BJs or blowies. The “job” aspect isn’t exactly the vibe we are going for… (although it can be a chore but I’ll never admit it.) The wonderful amazing poet Sharon Olds has a very funny poem about blow jobs. Google it.
In response to the question(s) you asked, the is absolutely nothing wrong with you!
I feel it's so sad that as some age, they seem to lose any interest in sex. Makes me think that they must have had an unsatisfying sex life earlier in their relationship. Why would anyone that enjoyed sex want to stop ?
I know some physical issues can cause difficulty, but as a believer in, "if there's a will (desire) you'll find a way" Unfortunately, for some, sex becomes a control issue…which saddens me greatly.
denying a mate as a means of control is cruel & unjust..must be a sin. Though it isn't discussed among men that I know, I suspect that it has been/ is an issue in their lives.
You are Blessed to enjoy a positive, healthy, sexual relationship with your mate. I know that I am, even at my "advanced": age.