Masturbation by Christian singles has been frowned on by many Christian authors, editors and publishers. While most pastors have seen that masturbation by Christian singles is a blessing done in moderation, few pastors really talk about it much. Too dangerous in local church politics.
Recently, the post Christian Masturbation [Edited: post no longer exists but was replaced by “Christian Masturbation Defense”] has received lots of attention. Masturbation by Christian singles is a topic and practice that receives very little attention, but the struggle is real. One of the comments MarriageHeat received was from a Christian single and his real masturbation journey.
Masturbation by Christian Singles
MarriageHeat will publish this comment as a post about the Christian Singles Masturbation journey.
I’m really glad this came up here. As a single guy I’ve been looking for a healthy way to explore my sexuality and not have to read a bunch of worldly views or worse watch them!!! I’ve had an interesting journey with masterbation and would love to share my story. I started when I was 10 ish-an aquantance said he had sex with his pillow. I tried and had my first orgasm! I did it every night that summer but stopped when I got back to my mom’s because I didn’t want her to find out. Next time I was at my dad’s, I did it again every night but stopped. Then in fifth grade kids started to talk about it and I started laying on my back using a blanket.
Many years of that. Had to pull the fuzz off when I was done though! Lol. At some point I figured out lotion and was given a puberty book and eventually came for the first time and was excited. I wanted to explore this more. My little brothers started getting curious about the amount of time I spent in the bathroom. At some point while chatting online or with friends I was I troduced to porn (big problem!!!!) It brought up lots of shame and guilt and eventually when I got confirmed I quit porn cold turkey (go Jesus!!!!). But it had introduced me to a number of things I wasn’t confortable with. I’d always liked girls before but found out guys really turned me on too (daddy issues, don’t label me though!). I explored other venues of getting off and even sex chatted online (what was that called again?). Had crushes on girls and guys but never did anything besides try to get a buddy to do stuff one night without his knowledge on a trip (sin screws you up, right!) Long story short, one night I cried out to Jesus that he had to take the dirty thoughts away because otherwise I really wanted my sin. I completely gave it to him. I realized later the next day that the constant tormenting sex thoughts were gone! My mind was pure again!!! But I was still feeling guilty about masterbating (had been a long time!) And went on a mission to stop all sin in my life. So eventually, after reading the “religious” book, Every Man’s Struggle, I quit masterbating for four years through the end of high school and through college.
The amount of guilt and shame I was under because of “religion” should be enough for me to sue them! Really!!! But about once a month I would wake up in the middle of the night masterbating! Weird! A buddy had the same experience when he stopped. Eventually in college as I began to get free from a lot of emotional problems (praise Jesus!!!!!!) I started wanting to masterbate. I resisted as per usual but over about a year Jesus eased me back into it. I really just felt it was really unhealthy to be so uncomfortable with my body. How was sex going to work once I got married and was terrified/guilt burdened about my sexuality! Guilt isn’t from Jesus! I remember the first time I let myself masterbate. It was very hot! I was in a boring afternoon anthropology class and had been really horny for quite a while. I had been talking to Jesus about this for a while and decided I just needed to trust Him and that if I was wrong I had to trust Him anyways. It’s just law if you are just looking for a set of rules and not trusting Him to teach you “No”. So I decided to take a bathroom break. No one would suspect. There were only two stalls I picked the back one. I dropped my drawers and I was already hard. I sat on the toilet and started dry stroking. Before long my feet were firmly planted up on the stall door-high as I could reach and still press firmly against the door. I was satisfied once I came! I didn’t think of anything except how good it felt the whole time. For the past five years I’ve been really enjoying myself and have overcome the guilt and shame I used to live under concerning my body.
Masturbation has served as a release valve while dating (especially when I wasn’t sure they valued my virginity). As far as the attraction to men that’s been interesting. As I continue to get healthier (mature) emotionally and spiritually that becomes less of a problem. I think the shame and fear of it is what really drove a lot of it. In the past with all the Christian purity stuff I’ve read and with some of the daddy issues I’ve had I felt bad about thinking of and being attracted to girls. Hey, your sexuality is going to plow a path either way. Say no to girls and your hormones might open other unhealthy options.
I might as well read Marriage Heat and avoid all the crap that’s out there. I’ve checked it out. You won’t get a good return from it. I feel I’m building good fantasies and expectations for marriage after being on the website. My sexuality can take it’s natural course guilt free. The porn and media I’ve been trying to be satisfied from always leaves you lacking a connection. It’s a waste of time because I really want a love connection and no porn will give you that. This website has been encouraging me that I can be loved emotionally and sexually in a healthy biblical marriage.
In the past I’ve really been afraid of marrying and getting stuck with a super prude of a wife, if I wanted to marry a Christian woman. This website is helping me see that many Christian women love sex, and I don’t have to go pursue it everywhere like the rest of my family! Even though I’ve known these things, it’s hard to ask your married friends to openly talk about their sex lives. I believe this website is going to help me as a horny single guy. I love my penis. I can’t wait to get married. Your stories have helped me realize there is something really awesome and real in Christian marriage. That love, purity and pleasure will all work together!!!! God bless you!!! I would love to hear other singles stories. Maybe what single women are hoping for!
MarriageHeat has received a great amount of criticism about our views on Masturbation by Christian Singles over the last three years. Here are the types of comments MarriageHeat has received:
Masturbation by Christian Singles Critical Comments
Masturbation is evil, you should condemn it.
Catholics should ban this website!
Christian singles should not go on this site, It will corrupt them into sin.
Masturbation by Christian singles is forbidden in the scriptures.
I am still feeling great guilt over masturbating in my youth.
You should not let kids see your site.
Masturbation by Christian Singles Encouraging Comments
This site helped me get over crippling guilt.
This site has helped me get my opposite sex attraction identity developed. Masturbation to MarriageHeat stories got me thinking about having sex with my husband someday not another woman. Thanks MarriageHeat!
I learned that there is a way for Christian singles to save themselves for marriage.
My boyfriend and I actually are able to wait for marriage to have sex. Thanks MarriageHeat!
My sex drive was so strong that I had a hard time falling a sleep, I would masturbate only to feel terrible about it. Now I am content to sleep waiting for Mr. Right. I hope he comes soon.
I am a single man who loves this site. I masturbate to the thought of my future wife.
As a pastor, I applaud your understanding of masturbation. This site promotes having a healthy sex imagination for marriage.
Masturbation by Christian Singles needs lots of conversations and stories. MarriageHeat encourages singles who come to this site to submit your hot single fantasy stories. Remember to abide by the guidelines of MarriageHeat. This will be the first post in a new category called Christian Singles Masturbation. MarriageHeat welcomes the opportunity to help singles “get off”” on monogamous sex.
Can Masturbation by Christian Singles be done too much? Well here is one article worth having a look at. Click here.
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