Marriage Heat Endorsement – What I Love about Marriage Heat
Marriage Heat Endorsement
In no particular order, here are the top 11 reasons that I love Marriage Heat…
- The leadership at Marriage Heat has authentic faith-Blondie and Co. love God and love people. And they care about how spouses love each other. I’ve never seen any questionable doctrines espoused on this site, and I’ve never seen any questionable applications of scripture promoted. Theologically speaking, I feel safe on this site…and if I’m honest, I haven’t felt that way on every Christian sex site I’ve visited.
- It’s the only place I know where Christians can “ask anything” about sex-Despite the fact that I feel confident that the Marriage Heat team has a solid and dependable theology, I also feel that they are confident enough in their faith and in the faith of many of the contributors here to allow controversial or even “dangerous” topics to be discussed. For many Christians, I believe it is a rare gift to be able to ask such questions in a safe atmosphere, and I am grateful to MH for seeking to provide such a place.
- Silver is here, and GG is here, and LovingHusband is here, and HornyHubby is here, and Holly&Drew are here, and PassionateforChrist is here, and Cameron is here-And I really hate naming names because there are a ton of amazing people on this site and I don’t want to make people feel bad for not being mentioned…but I’m still going to mention those that I did to make a point. Despite the fact that this site is anonymous, we have still become a family. We know each other. We appreciate each other. We influence each other’s lives. We share our testimonies and our faith and intimate details of our lives. We are brothers and sisters in Christ, and I am grateful to be a part of this family of believers.
- Marriage Heat inspires parents to talk to their children about sexuality-There are parents on this site who have shared this site with their children, and there are parents on this site who have made important decisions about how and when to talk to their kids about sex because of conversations that have happened on this site. I think Marriage Heat is in a unique position to help shape the sexual education of the next generation of Christians, and I think that is an inspiring thought.
- Marriage Heat has pushed me (or God has used marriage heat to push me) out of my comfort zone in my ministry the way nothing else has in a long time-This is an anonymous site, so enough said.
- God uses Marriage Heat to heal lives and marriages-I’ve read some amazing testimonies on this site. Yay God for providing a place where people can heal from damaging Christian doctrines and shame and pornography and all the other things that make our sex lives less than they were intended to be.
- I spend an embarrassing amount of my life thinking about stories I’ve read and conversation I’ve participated in on this site-Just saying.
- Marriage Heat offers realistic, healthy, sexual advice for Christian singles-For years I’d been troubled by the fact that no Christians anywhere seemed to be offering any realistic, helpful, healthy advice to the growing number of Christian singles. And, I’ll admit, I could never figure out exactly what the realistic, helpful, healthy message ought to be…but I felt certain there was one out there somewhere. This is the first place I’ve ever found that is offering something that fits what I was looking for.
- Humans learn through story-I’ve spent a significant amount of time in grad and undergrad and continuing ed classes learning about how humans learn best through storytelling. God knew this, so he gave us a million stories in the Bible. And preschool teachers know this, so they read lots and lots of books to their students. And Marriage Heat gets it because they let people share stories to help others learn what healthy married sex can look like. And that’s just not something you find most places, especially in most Christian places.
- Comments are moderated, but it’s still okay to voice your opinion as long as you can be respectful about it-Sites like this are tricky, I am sure. I would imagine that MH gets hundreds of snarky, troublesome comments in between all the lovely edifying ones we see on the site. I think the moderators here do a fabulous job of navigating this. There are still plenty of differing opinions posted on this site, though…provided that the commenters are able to balance their criticism with respect…something I feel is a realistic expectation for the way Christians should interact with any fellow Image Bearer, Christian or not.
- Marriage Heat cares about a woman’s pleasure and a woman’s consent-I ran across a Christian site recently that suggested that a woman does not have the right to deny her husband sex, only to politely and humbly ask that it be postponed for health or emotional reasons. The site said, “if you are married, it isn’t rape,” and the pages on the site that I never read once suggested that it was important that the husband make sure his wife was experiencing pleasure in their sexual encounters. I didn’t stay on the site long, as it was making me feel ill. But my point is that there are a lot of people in the Christian community and a lot of people in the porn industry who are awfully concerned about men getting what they want out of sex who aren’t very concerned at all that a woman enjoys her sexual encounters. I can’t imagine a scenario where statements like that would fly on Marriage Heat. Certainly we all take Paul’s verses about not denying our spouse sex seriously, but we place the impetus on a spouse offering the gift rather than on a spouse demanding the gift. Women are valued at Marriage Heat, and that is a big deal to me.
MarriageHeat Staff: Eva, Thanks for this encouragement. We will keep trying to help in this important area of life. To us, you and thousands of others, sharing your stories and experiences are the real marriage heat endorsement that matters!
#11 is scary. Can't belive there are "christian" sites that encourage that. Frankly, I know I'm more worried about my wife than me in the room. Yeah, men we feel too, but ladies are truthfully designed a lot more intricately than men and to deny a woman get what she's due in a bed room in marriage is honestly a crime in my mind.
No matter what though, marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship, or a monarchy or communism 😛 a partnership.
This was a cool post Eva! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Eva, I truly appreciated this post SO much! Thank you for your endorsement. I’ll post it on our FB page. And I’m with Upcomingauthor on being completely freaked out by #11. I can’t believe there are sites out there that don’t care about the wife climaxing, despicable, and what a horrible witness for Christian women to see. Thank you for all your thoughtful and knowledgeable posts! I am so glad Marriage Heat has inspired you. Oh and #7, I relate. lol
This was great! I agree with all this! I snort laughed my coffee at #7. lol So true! Thank you for the shout out too! And #11 was creepy to me, I saw there is an upcoming tv show about submissive wives that made me do a double take (and no, not submissive as in “kinky”). I can’t believe how much this site has inspired me toward what you said in #5, and it’s been a GOOD thing!
I hadn’t heard of the submissive wives show. Ugh. My heart just gets all twisted up in knots when I think about that stuff. I mean, as someone who is totally into kink, I can almost imagine where there is something appealing in that lifestyle even for the women…but oh! That is so not the message of love and freedom and redemption that Christ came to bring! The curses when Adam and Eve left the garden were descriptive, not prescriptive! God didn’t mean that man should rule over woman, only that he would rule over women because of the sinful nature. And Christ came to redeem us from that! So even though it was descriptive under the law of sin and death, it doesn’t have to be descriptive anymore because Christ came to free us from that! Oh. It just breaks my heart. Those poor girls growing up under that teaching that just don’t have any real means to know anything different. And honestly, the poor guys too. Ah….
I am in complete agreement with you there! Yes, when I first heard about the show I thought, “oh wow, they’re going to actually have a show dedicated to kinky wives! So cool!” Then I looked it up. 🙁
I just looked up that show and watched the trailer and stuff. Didn’t watch the first episode, though it looks like it’s out now…maybe Walls and I will watch it this weekend. My initial impression, though, is that it does not look nearly so disturbing as some of the things I’ve been reading lately about some of these fringe Christian groups. And that wife in the preview certainly seems to be having fun playing the part of a sexy diva for her man. So I’ll be curious to see where the show goes.
The thing is, as Christians there certainly is an element of submission in all marriages….but not, I hope, submission in the sense of the wife being a doormat….but more in the sense of respecting each other and doing our very earthly best to meet each other’s needs. And then there’s also the companion verse to that that talks about the husband laying down his life for the wife just as Christ did for the church….so along with submission, there’s also this idea of lifting the other up to be the best that they can be.
Anyway, it would be interesting if a couple of us watched the show and wrote up a post or two dealing with the concept of submission. It’s a word that gets thrown around in Christianity a lot, and it’s certainly one worth thinking about.
With MarriageHeat.com, I have something to share with my friends. MarriageHeat has changed the lives of some women I know that were heading down destructive and lonely paths. Ha, Ha, One of my friends has learned its O.K. to masturbate. Liberated. She and her husband are doing great. One of my friend has a new lease on marriage. The other day, she reported that she wasn’t wearing panties, thanks to MH. I love it! Right on #11. This is a site that liberates woman to love marriage, their own bodies, sexuality, and God designed boundaries for pleasure.
I also like your point about story. I learn that way. I found out that most of my friends learn that way too. I want to to live the “hot wife” narrative. I touch my pussy now glorifying God for my husband and my sexual identity as as female created by God, why hold back. God is teaching me how to play in my marriage with no shame.
I am curious what you other gals and guys have experienced in this community of support?
So exciting to hear that about your friends! That is so awesome!
Eva – you nailed it my friend! I love everything you said. My heart just wants to echo your thoughts here. On #3, I agree 100%. There is something so unique on this site. I love these people who lead it – and the many contributors. I have often prayed for people here who I will never met. I don’t just think about their sexual contributions either – I have great admiration for so many. We do learn much about one another on this site that goes beyond sex.
About #11 – I don’t know anything about other Christian sites. I would always just want to affirm what the Bible says about both husbands and wives in this regard. 1st Corinthians 7:3-5 says,
“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
It clearly says “except perhaps by agreement”. The pattern of life is not for either to deprive the other. But, neither the husband or the wife has unilateral power in this important area. Thus, biblical Christianity is the great equalizer in this regard for women!
Eva, I loved your idea with this post. I so look forward to visit MH most every day. Yes, we are anonymous – but our anonymity has not kept us from knowing one another in meaningful ways. God bless you! LH
LH- as always, thanks for the scripture reference! I’m always too lazy to actually biblegateway the verses that I’m thinking of, so I usually just paraphrase instead….probably not the best practice….maybe I should work on that…
But anyway, the MH family seems to understand this concept. Here, both men and women are happy to give it and happy to get it! And I think that’s totally awesome! Yay conjugal rights!
Eva,
Thank you for replying back to the end of what I wrote. I think it is an important point. We must avoid sinful extremes. On the one hand – radical feminism wants to really put the wife in total control in a way that Scripture does not permit. On the other sinful hand, some unbiblical patriarchal model – of an autocratic husband (almost like in Islam) demanding that his wife do whatever he says, when he says it. As the passage from 1st Corinthians 7:3-5 tells us – the biblical balance is so wise! Neither spouse can claim autonomy! God knows what He is doing in all of this – doesn’t He? Yes, I agree that the MH family has a hold of this biblical principle. Let’s glory in this – and obey it:
“For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time”
Amen!!! LH 🙂
#7!!! Oh my goodness, so very true!! Lol 😀
Dearest Eva, this post is from tip to toe true to the bone. Thank you for having written this down!! You’ve captured it perfectly! You’ve beautifully voiced what I believe all of ours hearts so cherish and love about MH – a safe place, kept true to God’s Word, where everyone can find help, direction, inspiration and so much more; a community, one-of-a-kind; a tender and loving family in Christ.
I too am so grateful to have been blessed by God to be a part of this family of believers. Thank you so much for the mention! So incredibly kind! <3 Deeply grateful for the amazing work He does in and through each of us on MH – enabling us to be each other's hearty encouragers, helpers, sharpeners, supporters, comforters, and on and on… MH is a home to me.
It's past midnight here, so I'll reply a little more in-depth tomorrow, also concerning the question Strawberry has sent out. God bless you all!! 🙂
Thanks PfC!
This is a pretty awesome site! All you writers that contribute so willingly, inspire me so very much. For this let me say thank you so much. To Mrs. Blondie and the rest of the management team, God bless you all for giving the gift of this site to all of us. THANK YOU !!!!!
Eva, thank you for writing this! Its So true! All your points are spot on And i feel the exact same way about Marriage Heat! I can’t put into words how much of a blessing it is! Thanks for letting me into the family, guys!!!
“What have I experienced in this community of support?” So much actually that it’s hard to express! 🙂
What’s most important and most meaningful to me personally is that everything I’ve experienced revolves deeply around God. I’ve mentioned it recently in a comment on another post… I have been led to MH by God – it was one of these divine appointments of His, that leave me in total awe of Him. MH was not the first milestone on this journey, that He had in mind for me and led me on, towards complete personal restoration in Christ in the sexual area. MH was the 3rd milestone on my journey, and it was perfectly orchestrated by Him to be this way.
The first life-changing milestone was when God suddenly, one day last year, opened my eyes to the reality that I was suffering from a profound sexual aversion… I had no idea at all about it. I was so shocked the moment He made me face this, and yet at the same time I felt a relief because all of a sudden everything I had for so long been wrestling within myself about, all the pressure, the self-condemnation, the self-bullying that I’ve made myself live under, the circumstances in my life that hurt me so bad and that I’ve been wondering about so often as to why… All at once, because of His gracious move, it all began to make sense. I was so accustomed to functioning in dysfunction, that I could have never discovered it on my own… It was normal for me. I was blind and deceived. So the first milestone on my journey to restoration in Christ has been all about God setting me free through His Truth about sexuality and the gift of marital intimacy. He worked diligently with me to remove the biggest blocks of fear and the deceptions, renewing my mind through the Truth of His Word, giving me bit by bit His precious perspective. He’s changed me from within through His mighty power and has laid this vital, firm foundation within me of all that His Word says about sex, intimacy and sexuality. To have this foundation, before anything else comes along, is indeed essential for us all, I believe.
The second milestone marks the next level of restoration He rang in when He began to work with me through my personal history, in order for me to discover the root issues that caused the aversion, so that after my mind, now my soul could be restored next. In both of these milestones God has led me to the resources He has sought out to do His work through within me – what I mostly did was surrender to Him, giving myself as best as I knew how completely into His loving care, trusting and leaning on Him through it all, and studying the resources He led me to at the time. Suffice it to say, it was a fight of faith and a work of His grace.
MH marks the 3rd precious, life-changing milestone on my journey towards full restoration in Christ. In MH, God immeasurably blesses me personally in a threefold way. First, He enables me to have here a safe Christian place, where I can go to and ask the community about whatever question concerning sexuality and marital intimacy is on my heart. The beauty about this is not only to have somewhere God-focused to go to (Side note: in my own life I have no one to go to about all of this, so I cherish that a lot!) but the family of believers that represents this MH community so well are invaluable! MH is managed by people, whose hearts are set wholly on God, anchored in handling the site in dependence on and in obedience to His Word, His divine principles. One thing I love most about MH is that the contributors and active members that I’ve reached out to in seeking help, wisdom or advice (like GG, Lovinghusband, and so many more), they all are continuously encouraging, tender, understanding, authentic and well-balanced in how they share when they weigh in. I wanna thank you all on this way anew! Your open-hearted support and company makes such a difference in my life – God giving me through you the blessed opportunity to grow in knowledge and understanding. The second immeasurable blessing God bestows me through MH is to witness godly models of marriage, and especially marital intimacy, through the stories shared by you all. Marital intimacy was non-existent in the marriage I witnessed growing up, so I had no clue as to how a godly, passionate, living, sacred marriage bond between husband and wife really looks like. God is teaching me so much through MH and He is beautifully preparing me for my own marriage. (Seeing how God has accelerated the change in me in the course of just a few months, I’m super hopeful that it won’t be long anymore till He will cause me and my future hubby to finally meet – I’m so looking forward to this… it will for sure be the greatest day of my life – not to mention how amazing it will be to experience falling in love for the first time! 😀 ) Last but not least, the greatest blessing God is giving me through MH are the relationships He builds up between this family of believers. The friendships He blesses me to have with some of you on here are the blessing of a lifetime to me. Not only have I found in this community people, who share my love for God, my heart for Christ, but God has made me find dear friends on here. And after years of isolation and inner loneliness, I can’t even begin to tell you how precious this blessing is to me.
All in all, if you ask me what I have experienced in this community of support, there is but one answer I could give that would say it all: I have experienced God! His unfailing love. His faithfulness. The immeasurable greatness of His power. All so amazing!! For every bit of it all, I’m deeply grateful – to God and to you, His faithful kids.
Ps.: Sorry, this reply turned out lengthier than I thought it would – Hope you all don’t mind – God bless!!! 🙂
Passionate, i just wanted to let you know that i really enjoy reading your comments (have you written any stories?) and am so encouraged to see a single woman so mature in Christ and so patiently waiting for Him to bring your husband into your life at just the right time! I went into my marriage with a wrong view of sex and what our Heavenly Father intended it to be and it (understandably) took a toll on my relationship with my hubby. Through God’s grace, He has been opening me up to the beauty and power of good married sex and Marriage Heat has played a huge role in that! I just wanted to thank you for sharing your wisdom on MH and tell you that you and your future soulmate (whoever the lucky man may be!) are in my prayers! May God bless your high standards!
Thank you so much, CMLove!! I appreciate it a lot that you’ve taken the time to let me know that – what you’ve just shared is greatly encouraging and the love these words of yours carry goes straight to my heart and moves it deeply. You’ve incredibly blessed me right here! Thank you – for your love, your presence amidst our sweet MH community, your prayers!!! <3
There is a beauty unparalleled in divinely-orchestrated journeys of restoration. The beauty of brokeness-turned-into-wholeness. The beauty of new beginnings. The beauty of freedom in Him. His matchless gift of giving beauty for ashes. Thank you for sharing with me a glimpse into yours! It makes my heart so happy to hear of how God makes all things new, how He takes what the Enemy meant for harm and births abundant goodness and rich beauty out of it. May God bless you in mighty ways – personally as well as in your marriage and every other area dear to your heart – giving you the desires of your heart, leading you into the next great level of glory He has up His sleeve just for you!
Ps.: Yes, I have 1 story up on MH so far (a fantasy God made me wake up to one morning). It's called Sensuality. 🙂 I may continue to submit stories in the future… it always depends on what I experience… The only way I know how to share is to share straight from the heart – honest, unabridged and open. So, in order to have something to write about, I need to experience it first. 🙂 That's why I believe the best stories would come when I'll be married and be able to really celebrate the heat with my hubby. Then again, some of my comments are practically mini-MH stories themselves already 😀 I had a personally meaningful self-loving experience not too long ago, which I haven't made my mind up about yet whether I should submit it as a story on MH or not… My "grapefruit" side sparked up a bit in there and I did something a little naughty – at least it felt that way to me 😉 Haha! 😀
Amen, passionateforchrist! Amen! Thank you for the reply, it was very timely! I love it when God does that! i will look up your story and look forward to all the others once God brings Mr.”Perfect-for-you” into your life! Stay strong!
Yay God!! Much hearty love to you, dear friend! <3 Thank you! Will do! 😀
God bless this site and all the wonderful people involved in it! You all are so special and really do know how to stay horny. Thank you MH, and thank you to all you contributors out there. You all really Rock!
Loves, GG and Ben
Thanks for this post. I really love this site for #2 that is so true. #11 is awful, it is sad that people think that a woman should only please her man. #7 is true for me lol. I do spend a lot of time thinking about what I have read, and all the new ideas I can take back to the bed room.
Take care.
I just love going back to these posts and seeing the love and support in this community! Go MH Family! RAH!
P.S. Did the submission posts ever get written after that show? That's my meditation word for this year – submit. I am studying and thinking on all that word means for my life. Would love to read those posts!