You Don’t See What I See


When you look in the mirror, you don’t see what I see. You see that which is fleeting, but I see that which is eternal. You see the wrinkles which come with the passing of the years, but I see the years filled with laughter that comes from a lifetime of a very blessed relationship.

When you look in the mirror, you see your imperfections, but I see the woman I fell in love with 30 years ago who is perfectly suited for me. You see a little extra cushion that comes from birthing four nine pound baby boys, but I see the woman who blessed me with four sons who are now grown men and my best friends, next to you.

When you look in the mirror, you see a woman who often feels tired and overwhelmed, but I see the woman who finds her strength by sitting in a white wicker chair on our front porch. That chair is a sacred place in my heart, a place where you sit to be alone with God. When you are there, I flip on the do not disturb button. I don’t do so because you asked me to, but because I know you are engaged in an incredible, private dialogue with God, from which great blessing flows to my benefit. When you look in the mirror you don’t see the beauty I see; the strength and faith that has gotten us through many a storm in life.

When you look in the mirror you don’t see that which is worth “far more than rubies”, but I do. You are an incredible treasure; the epitome of a Proverbs 31 woman. You have brought me “good, not harm” all the days of my life. When you speak, it is with “wisdom and faithful instruction.”

Many men travel the seas in search of great treasure, but I have found my treasure, and even now I know that there is so much more to discover – your mind, your beauty, your love, your wisdom and your soul—a vast sea of yet largely unchartered waters. Eternity is not long enough to thank God for the blessing you have been to me and the gift you have given me in being the mother of our sons.

I love you!

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9 replies
  1. Juicy
    Juicy says:

    Absolutely beautiful! As a woman, I find it very difficult to understand the perspective of a man towards a woman. I sometimes just don't understand what my husband sees in me, or rather HOW he really sees me. When I read such touching words like this, I feel like I may have a glimpse of it and I try to grasp on to it. Thank you!

  2. Belleame
    Belleame says:

    Song of Songs reminds us to "catch the little foxes who run havoc in our vineyard". A not so little fox I constantly have to catch is my insecurities about my body. I don't think I'm the only one. Thank you for showing a glimps into what our husbands see in their wives. I'll try to hold on to that imagery the next time I need to.

  3. Honeygirl
    Honeygirl says:

    Absolutely beautifully written! So tender, romantic & thoughtful! We can definitely fall prey to negative feelings when look in a mirror–it's so nice (& important!) to have a different set of lens to give you this kind of reminder 🙂

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