What Do I Do with His Cum?

I want to encourage an open discussion on the topic of fellatio (blowjobs or giving head). I am writing this from a man’s perspective but with oversight from my wife. I believe fellatio should be a regular part of any couple’s sex life. Not the only part of course, but a regular one.

A woman may say, “My husband doesn’t care anything about it.” Trust me when I tell you – he cares and he wants oral sex! It is something extraordinary in which he takes the most intimate part of his anatomy and entrusts it to you. He is very vulnerable in that moment, and it is an act of trust and submission to you his wife. He also gets to enjoy all the pleasurable and erotic sensations. There is no energy, toil, or worry on his part. You are focusing solely on his pleasure, and that is special.

I want to talk about one facet of fellatio that is seldom discussed. When your husband is about to orgasm, what do you do?

There are many choices. You can get out of the way. You can let him spray it on your stomach, buttocks, breasts, face, or other parts of your body. You can allow him to cum in your mouth and then spit it out. Or you can swallow his cum.

I believe this is important. How you end fellatio can either multiply or diminish the pleasure, satisfaction, and bonding between you. This article is not seeking to promote any particular viewpoint. I want to open up discussion about things that many times are viewed as taboo, but shouldn’t be. There is no right or wrong in this. Every couple should decide for themselves after they have discussed this together. Let’s talk about the different choices mentioned above.

When a woman chooses to get out of the way of his ejaculate, her husband may view it as a rejection of himself. He may say to himself, “She thinks I’m disgusting.” Some women may, in fact, feel that the man’s ejaculate is dirty or unhealthy. It’s not. In fact, research has found that it is actually healthy. Swallowing semen can produce many physical, emotional, and hormonal benefits.

Women may say, “But he pees out of there,” and they correlate his semen with urine. They are not related. That is like saying that everything that comes out of a Coke machine is Coke because it comes out of the same place. His ejaculate will not hurt you at all. You may not like the taste of it, but it is only a couple of seconds that it is in your mouth. And guys, pineapple juice helps it taste better! Alcohol, asparagus, broccoli, and tobacco make it very bitter.

A wife can make a choice to allow him to orgasm on her body or face. Some ladies may say, “That is disgusting!” But to a man, it is not disgusting at all. His sperm represents his love and affection for you. He gains great satisfaction from seeing his seed on a part of you that he deems sexy and erotic. It is a sensual tribute to your beauty in his eyes. Again, it will not hurt you at all. In fact, I have read that it can be very healthy for your skin.

A woman can choose to spit it out or let it drip from their lips back onto her husband. Some men may actually prefer this (there are times when I do). They find it sexy to see their sperm leaving their wife’s mouth. Discuss this as a couple. Some men perceive this as rejection. For example, when I give my wife oral sex, I do not immediately get up and spit in the sink and brush my teeth after she orgasms. I don’t want to send the message that she is nasty or disgusting or that I hated doing it. In fact, I will say something in the moment like, “I want you to cum all over my face. You taste so great!”

A woman can make the choice to swallow his sperm. Statistically, this is what most men would prefer. But why? Is it because they have been watching too much porn? Not at all!

Some men subconsciously view their ejaculate as the essence of their manhood. If she rejects it, she rejects them. If she swallows, it can send a message that his wife enjoys it, she appreciates him, and she fully accepts him.

Some men genuinely do not care about this one way or the other. But would admit that they do care, if they are honest about it. Swallowing was something that my wife worked up to and now does with no problem at all. But the first time she did it, I had no idea it would mean as much to me as it did. It was a special moment between us. It makes for a lot easier clean-up too!

So what choice does my wife make? All the above! I enjoy them all, and she knows it. She usually asks me what I want and seeks to please and gratify me in whatever way I prefer. I love mixing it up and using variety. But I go down on her regularly also.

How about you? What are your thoughts on this topic? How often do you think oral sex should take place in marriage? I personally feel that it should be a regular occurrence. I believe it gives great enjoyment to both husband and wife. But I would love your thoughts!

Guys, do you have any preference on how fellatio ends? Ladies, what are your thoughts?

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  1. hornyGG says:

    I absolutely love sucking my husband's cock . I guess you can say I kinda get off on it. I love giving Ben pleasure! I love the taste of Ben's cum and generally swallow. Sometimes I love to have him cum on me. My face, boobs or just about anywhere he pleases. I get so turned on when he jerks off and gives me a warm cum shower. I get to feel his cum on my skin, plus get to watch him jerk off ( really gets me hot).

    • Turninguptheheat says:

      That's awesome!!! He sounds like a very blessed man indeed! Hopefully he reciprocates and pleases you often!

  2. Man With a Plan says:

    I’m gonna go with the tried and true “cum on tits” answer. Let’s be honest, cum does not taste particularly great. My wife has and does swallow from time to time and occasionally, but rarely, she will ask for a facial. See my Sex With a Sybian story on the kind of arousal and conditions that generate that kind of request. It’s a hell of a treat but not something I ask for out of respect and love for her. When she wants it or needs it though…look out!

    But we go with cum on tits (or ass) 95% of the time I’m not finishing in her pussy. Both of us love it. I love the sight and Katie loves the warm cum shower and seeing how hot it makes me for her.

    There are few things hotter than my beautiful bride on her knees, pushing her breasts together and telling me “gimme your cum” after a long, messy blowjob. Or me pulling out of her pussy just after she cums and painting her ass cheeks white with my cream. All that thick white cum on black lingerie too…geeeez.

    We are very pro cum in our marriage 🙌🏻

  3. Victor0884 says:

    From a husband’s perspective, this is what all men would want. My wife and I engage in oral sex as a prelude to intercourse. Most of the time I don’t cum from the blowjob my wife gives me, even though it is fantastic, because I am unselfish and I am saving my orgasm for the awesome intercourse we are about to have. Now, this is due to the issue that my second erection hfor intercourse if I did cum from the blowjob is just not as potent and as pleasing to my wife and sometimes it does not happen at all. When you get older this happens and so my wife and I have adapted. This is what we do sometimes instead, after I have made my beautiful wife orgasm from sex, instead of me cumming inside her pussy, I stop thrusting inside her and I stand up. Then I have her get on her knees in front of me, she places her hands behind her back. I might even tie her hands behind her back sometimes, then I grab the back of her head and guide her mouth onto my cream covered cock. My wife was hesitant at first about licking her pussy juice from my cock but now she likes it and it is such a turn on seeing her lick her juices from my cock. Once I have her mouth warmed up and ready, I then start thrusting my cock back and forth into her mouth, I am controlling the depth as I have her by her head and her hands are behind her back. I go deeper with each thrust and my wife gags, but then I back off and give her a break. I thrust into her mouth until my balls are resting on her beautiful chin. Once I am at this point, I cum shooting my seed down her throat, she swallows my cum. Wow, what an orgasm, it is mind blowing how my wife pleases me. Now I know some women might say this is degrading being on their knees, hands tied behind their back, being made to gag and lick their juice and then swallowing. I get that, but it is truly an act of love and submission between a man and wife. It turns my wife on being dominated and controlled and she knows I love it and would never hurt her. Give it a try, your husband will love it.

    • CrazyHappyLoved says:

      Heck, no! There is nothing demeaning in it, if your wife *wants* it and you do it as much for her as for yourself. I love Love LOVE all of what you described and am *blessed* to be handled so. Consensual, loving bondage is an incredible turn on for some of us. To reapply a verse in a new context, 'Love casts out all fear' of degradation.

  4. Sultryheat says:

    Turninguptheheat, what a great topic to discuss. My wife and I are fairly new here and have written a couple of stories. We write as a team….so we are both here now.
    (Brian) As indicated in our stories, we're BOTH VERY orally driven! She calls me the pussy whisperer/worshiper and I call her the carnivore. We ALWAYS feast on each other before intercourse. She has perfected the art of receiving my very large cock down her throat (I swear she was a sword swallower in a previous life). She loves to completely swallow my cum. You’re right, it means so much to me and brings us so close.
    (Minx) He is the ultimate pussy worshiper for certain. As far as I’m concerned, I am the luckiest lady on the planet. Brian ALWAYS every time, makes sure that I cum before himself….and it’s always on his tongue/face. I love nothing more that to spread myself open wide for him. We love to incorporate items like food, toys and sometimes any long shaped items within reach (hairbrush, flashlight, etc) into my pussy pleasuring. My baby is a freak and I love it!
    So, to answer your question….oral pleasure IS vitally important to us during love making.

    • Turninguptheheat says:

      You hit on an important point. Some guys want their wife to do certain things but they don't reciprocate. If guys would eat their wives pussy with reckless abandon, they may see their wives more eager to do certain things.

  5. Tulsa says:

    From another husband…..
    If my wife gives me a BJ, I'm a fan of cumming in her mouth, but then seeing her drool it out all over her tits, or back onto me. Not a fan of the swallow bunch. No fun….no visual…..just "GULP", and it's gone.
    Second to that, blast her nipples & tits.
    And if she wants a big wet kiss with a mouthful…..I can't argue, and never do. Always keeps her horned up and wanting more…and if it's good enough for her, well….should be for me too!

    • Turninguptheheat says:

      Great point!!! I tend to agree with you. I love seeing my cum! But swallowing is nice too at times.

  6. cameronxrowe says:

    Do it all.

    I love swallowing cum, but I love for him to cum on my tits and face. I always show my lover his cum before I swallow it. Or, do something really cool and share it with him. Cum tastes great. It's just protein. Feels like egg whites on the tongue, so to speak. I also like to swap cum. Back and forth. Just playing with it. But, yeah, I loooooove giving head. Sucking a cock is so much fun. Making him moan, making him crazy, giving him pleasure. All men love to have it sucked.

  7. sensualcouple says:

    Cum tastes especially good when it’s mixed with her juices. Coming all over and in her pussy and tight asshole, and licking it off. There’s not much that is better

    • Tulsa says:

      Pussy….agreed!
      My wife's favorite thing for me to do, is eat her after cumming in her pussy…..or on her pussy! makes her orgasms spectacular!!!
      🙂

  8. TexasCouple says:

    My wife likes to see and it doesn't mind where it lands (as long as it's not in her hair). We're certainly not disgusted by our own orgasmic fluids, frequently licking them off and/or sharing them with each other.

  9. PacMan says:

    Blow jobs were very rare for most of our marriage… like one every 3 years. My wife doesn’t love doing it, and the lack of practice meant that none of these experiences were stellar. It wasn’t all her fault. She doesn’t use a blow job for foreplay, but wants me to cum. I would have performance anxiety and it often took longer and made her more uncomfortable. She would take the cum in her mouth and then spit. Then something changed about 4 years ago. Literally one change. She started swallowing. It was so sexy to me. We both started enjoying blow jobs more. I had less performance issues. And while it’s still not her favorite position, it’s gone up to like 4x a year. Waiting 3 months rather than 36 months is a world of difference. So I agree with this story that there is some ‘power’ in choosing to treat his cum with TLC (instead of just something to clean up).

  10. ArtRutherford says:

    Great story! Sometimes, when I cum in my wife's mouth, she spits and sometimes she swallows. And, when she swallows, she wants me to French kiss her and taste it too. She is really turned on by me kissing her.
    Uuuuuuummmmmmmmm!

  11. TorrHead says:

    Husband talking here: Yes. Yes. And, yes. All of the above, Turninguptheheat. Thanks for great post and summary of options. I'm all in for every option, but if required to choose just one, I'd opt for full swallow, with throbbing cock buried balls deep. It just couldn't get any better for this guy. But then, that can only be said because I know how burying my face between my wife's legs, in wild cunnilingus, drowning in her stuff to the place I can't sometimes breathe, and making her crazy to multiple orgasms turns me absolutely hard on. Giving her this kind of oral attention, during which she can think of nothing but her own pleasure is the gateway that, in turn, makes it possible for me to experience her deep throating with abandon. Oral sex for both, that's what I say: deep and sloppy. It's a win/win.

  12. AlwaysInTheMood says:

    When I read stuff about oral sex it's often men complaining that their wife doesn't like to perform oral on him & that upsets him, our situation is different. Typically my wife is more likely to give me oral because she knows she can make me finish quicker than if we are having intercourse. So much so that I get way more oral than anything else. I'm not really complaining but there's something about the connection that occurs during intercourse that I don't feel with oral.
    My wife is amazing at oral but she absolutely refuses to let me finish in her mouth. This really upsets me, especially considering that I've been up for all of her requests, including the time she asked me to use my tongue on her beautiful tight anus! I feel like she has no problem asking me to do things for her, but my request to finish in her mouth is not even up for discussion.
    So women, let me say that I do think many men feel rejected when you refuse to let him finish in your mouth! I also think that many women feel that since many men are typically up for trying most anything that it's not a big deal to request something from them, but since women are typically more reserved (of course not all women) then it is almost disrespectful to ask her to do something like swallow.
    All that being said, she did try once & it was the most amazing feeling for me, both physically & emotionally; I say tried b/c she gagged & spit it out. Ironically, I truly don't care whether she swallows or spits, I just want to be able to finish without feeling like I must stop so that I'm not somehow disrespecting her!
    Also, ironically, when we were younger she used to let me cum all over her (Not in her face, but I've never had the desire to do that anyway). But now that we've been married for 20 years she doesn't like for me to finish on her anywhere except inside her.
    I'd be very interested in hearing what women think about this topic & some of the things I've mentioned.

    • Lovegrace says:

      I used to hate, HATE giving bj to my husband but after I quit taking oral contraceptive my libido went up and everything changed. I love, love, love taking him in now and I love swallowing and even the taste of his cum. We went from having sex 2-3 times a week to almost every day! That might be her issue. If she is taking the pill talk about making a change. I used to never pursue and now I’m the one always pursuing him. It’s crazy! It’s been the best thing for our marriage!

  13. Mercury7 says:

    Another husband commenting…
    We both like it when I cum on her beautiful breasts. She sometimes says it looks like "the frosting on her cinnamon rolls". We both like the visual of seeing it on her. And over time I've realized I like licking the "frosting" off of her. The taste ranges from "okay" to "good", but the experience of licking it off of her – that is marvelous. It also ties into some of my fantasies.

  14. Beachlover Guy says:

    In the past six months, I've been blessed to be able to marry again, now that I'm in my 50s, and I hope to share a longer version of my story soon. For now, I want to post on this topic because I discovered my wife's enjoyment of swallowing my load. We knew we were in sync, sexually, but we hadn't discussed many of our other erotic things that we enjoy. One evening, while my wife was giving me a very sensual blowjob, I realized that I was about to release my cum. Because I wanted to let her know so she could stop and finish with a handjob if she wanted, I was able to grunt out "I'm gonna cum." She kept sucking my cock and just said "it's ok." That was such a surprise, as well as a feeling of acceptance, and I didn't have to worry about pulling out of her mouth. She continued to suck me as I felt the familiar spasm in my balls and I shot my entire load in her mouth. Immediately, I felt her swallow it and the sound of her gulping was practically a sensory overload for me. After I came, I told her that I should've discussed it with her first, but she said that it wasn't something that bothered her and that she was happy that she could give me that pleasure. We've since added cum play to our bedroom activities, and the knowledge that she likes to swallow my sperm, as well as lick it off her tits, has reminded me that oral sex is something wonderful to share in a marriage.

  15. Alicia G. M. says:

    I enjoy sucking dick. I swallow occasionally, not a big fan of the taste. I mostly just let Tre cum on my tits. He enjoys it either way. Like CameronxRowe said, guys just like to have their dicks sucked. Thanks! Enjoyed the story.

  16. California Coastal says:

    God gave us the gift of sex and all that it includes. We love each other very much and when we are sexual I want to consume every part of him. That includes the wonderful semen that is gloriously ejaculated from his beautiful balls. Yes, I very much also love him to cum on my stomach and tits, but if he wants me to swallow I embrace that glory. Often, I will also take his semen in my mouth and then keep sucking him so he can feel the sticky cum making his cock slick.

    • Beachlover Guy says:

      That's great that you enjoy having him cum in your mouth as well as on your tits and tummy. Has he ever licked it off you? I just got into licking it off my wife's tits and I love it. I like tasting my own cum when I masturbate alone, but licking it off her and sharing the taste with each other is a wonderfully erotic experience too.

  17. Dean316 says:

    Single man here but this post caught my eye. Actually something I hope would come up one day. Look everyone’s different on this issue but I agree and can say as a man, though a single virgin, that seeing your woman accept your cum is her accepting you. Whether that’s on her boobs, ass or even on the face and swallowing I think it’s very sexy, erotic and pleasuring for a man to see.

    God bless,
    Dean.

  18. HeSaid-SheSaid says:

    Fellatio is a rare experience for us, my wife doesn't like it, to which I've translated "She doesn't like me". It's emotionally hurtful. In fact we recently went for a 2 or 3 year spell without it (her choice, not mine). But in the last few months she has given it to me 3 or 4 times, once to completion. In 25 years of marriage I think she has let me come in her mouth 2 or 3 times. She has spit it out every time, but once she showed it to me on her tongue or seep out of her mouth before she spit. I do remember the first time I came in her mouth and having her immediately spit it out made me feel dissapointed, kinda like having a birthday and they bring you a birthday cake and then immediately throw it in the garbage saying "hey, at least we got you cake", what a let down, or "you matter, but not really".

    In our first year of marriage I was excited to practice and receive oral, but I was dissapointed in my response. Either my wife wasn't good at it, or I was having some response issues, I don't know, it was confusing to me. Also later on in marriage, my wife was having a "clean" issue with it, so she only wanted to ever give oral in the shower or bath. Problem with that is that the warm wet water environment made it so that I could barely feel her mouth on me, so it took forever. I kept telling her I need to be be dry and cooler for it to work. She kinda got mad at that.

    Plus, the time she showed me the cum in her mouth and once when I gave her a "pearl necklace" I strangely felt like I was demeaning her, although she would say otherwise. Perhaps I was relating it to something one might see in porn and I thus felt bad about it. Thats why I hate porn, because porn itself is wrong, and thus people associate what is seen in porn as wrong. However, if what is happening in porn is happening between a husband and wife, that is a good thing (sans anything immoral), but can be difficult to grasp at first.

    So majority of the time when she blows me, if I'm in her mouth and about to come, she will quickly transfer it out of her mouth and just lick me and have me come on her hand. While she is getting better at making it feel fantastic, it is still a let down, but it doesn't bother me like it used to. I do find myself yearning for the day she will take me in her mouth and swallow.That would be the ultimate. I think it is an acceptance and trust thing on her part, but something that I need to experience in order to know that.

    Thankfully, she said to me recently, "You would probably like me to deep throat you and have it shoot down my throat huh?". I find when she makes comments like that, it is her way of working herself up to do it sometime in the future. I just hope that "sometime" isn't a long time in coming. Additionally, I have been thinking lately of coming on various parts of her body and how sexy that would be. I think we have a lot more to learn and experience and it's been a long time in the making.

  19. 1956packard says:

    It depends on the situation & my wife’s mood. If we’re out somewhere & she gives me head , she swallows.

    About 5 years ago, I was about to explode! I asked her if I could cum on her stockings & her shoes. She said “Hell, yes! Do it!" I promptly did as she demanded! This is now both of our favorite!

  20. Honeysuckle says:

    Well, I suppose this is a topic I should chime in on. I was hesitant to comment at first because while I do always swallow, I don’t want to suggest that doing otherwise makes other wives any less loving or caring for their husbands. It is a complex subject and there is no right or wrong answer to the age-old question: to spit or swallow? Not to mention all the other possible variations already discussed in this thread like facials, pearl necklaces, etc.

    Personally, I swallow for a number of different reasons. But I guess the primary reason is, quite simply, that I know my husband prefers it. And, when I choose to perform fellatio on my husband, I am choosing to provide him with the ultimate sexual sensory experience focused entirely on his pleasure. For me to hesitate at the peak of his orgasmic release would detract from his total gratification. When he performs cunnilingus on me, he doesn’t pause and ponder as I begin to spasm in the throes of an explosive climax. His lips, tongue, and chin – slippery and slick with all my juices – remain buried deep while my orgasm subsides. So likewise as his ejaculate spurts into my mouth in warm salty waves, I do what comes naturally and just swallow.

    With regards to taste, I will say that I much prefer precum to semen. Preseminal fluid is like an aphrodisiac to me. I have compared it to the clear sticky nectar from a honeysuckle blossom, albeit more salty than sweet, as it dissolves on my tongue. Once semen is exposed to air it develops a pungent odor that I have never found that appetizing. But when drinking straight from the fountain, so to speak, the taste is really not unpleasant. With a quick gulp or two, his load goes right down my gullet. Which brings me to the final reason I prefer to swallow: no muss, no fuss. Let’s face it, with all the vaginal secretions, saliva and semen, sex can get quite messy. With a quickie blowjob, you keep your sheets clean and keep your hubby happy.

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