I believe there are numerous causes of Erectile Dysfunction (ED - difficulty in having an erection and going soft while having sex). I am not a medical professional and cannot even try to give advice, but one of the causes of ED is an emotional one. I want to try and chat with the ladies who might have a husband who has a problem getting or maintaining an erection.
Let us be honest about the fact that many men have ED as they grow older, and this can cause havoc in a marriage if not handled correctly from both sides. Often this is linked to emotional reasons and feelings of not being wanted and desired by his wife. Often during a sexual encounter with his wife, something negative might happen that might cause an immediate loss of erection.
There are a few things that you can do that will be a great help to your husband, and maybe they will benefit you as well.
Make it your problem. Tell your husband that, from now on, his erections are not his problem, they are yours. It will take so much stress off his shoulders. I can just imagine the feeling that he can relax, and IF he does not have an erection now, that it is not his fault; he can actually relax and not feel a failure. On the other hand, his dear wife can try some of the suggestions that will follow.
Get a cock ring. This is such a wonderful cheap little toy. There are different sizes, so make sure you get the right one. When used correctly, it can be one of the greatest gifts to any man with ED problems. I very often use one, and my wife loves the extra girth and hardness that it creates.
Be casual about it. Don't make it a biggy. Most men who suffer from ED will be just too eager to please their wife by oral sex or using a vibrator or encouraging her to masturbate for him. It will often have the desired effect of a nice hard cock.
Make love to his cock. Do not just try to make him cum. It becomes a race to have an orgasm before he loses his erection, and that is terrible. Take time to love that thing. Caress it. Rub it against your face. Touch it in sexy ways and make your husband aware of the fact that you enjoy him and want him just to enjoy your attention.
Say show me. From time to time, ask him to show you how he would masturbate if you were not home. Let him do a demo for you. While he is doing it, encourage him with what you say to him. You might even join him and make it even more exciting for you both.
ASK HIM what you can do to excite him. Men often have ideas and desires that they would enjoy from their wives. You might be surprised to hear what is in his head. It would work even better if you tell him earlier in the day that you want to make love to him and that you are going to ask him what special treat he would enjoy.
Make him watch his cock while you play with it. Tell him to sit or lie in a way that he can watch you. We all love our cocks, and we love it when we see you playing with it.
Tie his cock and balls. You can use just about anything to do this. A neck-tie, the soft ‘belt’ from your night-gown, some silky rope... You can bring it and ask him to help you get it nice and tight.
Play with his balls. Try not to make him feel that he has to ‘just get it up and have an orgasm.’ Play with his balls. Fondle them and use your nails very gently on them.
Play with his anus. Oh, ladies! This can be such a turn-on for your husband. Let him stand on his knees, and while your caress or finger his ass, you can pull his cock to the back between his legs and play with it. The chance of this being a massive turn-on and him having a great erection is exceptionally high. (Use lots of coconut oil.) Some surgical gloves might help many wives to make this part of their game.
Talk, Talk, Talk. You know the things that turn him on. Talk about those things to him. Talk about times where you had great sex. Say how his cock excites you. Tell him how it feels to touch him or what it feels like to have his cock inside you.
Here are just a few ideas of stuff to say:-
- I need your mouth on my pussy.
- Will you please suck my clit this evening?
- I want you to play with my nipples while I finger myself just for you.
- If I stand on my knees, will you please finger me and play with my ass?
- I want you to rub your face in my pussy juices, and then I want to lick it off your lips.
Please do not see this as the end of this short discussion. Please share your ideas and your problems. MH is not JUST for the successes in the bedroom, but also to help and ignite those couples who are not always having great sex.