Five Decades of Masturbation

Since I’m new to MH, here’s some brief bio info. My wife, ‘Anne,’ and I have four kids and eight grandkids, and in our mid-60s, we marvel at how deep our love continues to grow. Our marriage is centered on Jesus as Savior, and we’ve been blessed to see our children and grandkids love and walk with the Lord. With age, the spirit is often much more willing than the flesh! Anne had a full oophorectomy at age 45, and I’ve had prostatic surgery for BPH. Even so, our sex life is abundantly fulfilling. We tried almost every position, technique, including toys, clothes (as light bondage and for stimulation), food, shaving (ourselves and each other), etc. to creatively stir our juices and maximize our pleasure.

Masturbation has been and is a very important, intimate, and treasured part of our nearly five decades of marriage and sexual intimacy. We know and urge each other to jill-off and jack-off whenever we get a twinge of horniness that won’t go away. Anne often invites me to jack-off with her or next to her, and she plays a hands-off, passive, or active role, depending on my desire to put a show on for her or when I need her skillful hands, mouth, and lips at essential moments.

We engage in lots of mutual masturbation. And that’s my KEY tip for wives that want to lose their shyness and freely masturbate for their hubbies. Anne was quite shy about masturbating in front of me in our early marriage, even though she jilled-off without inhibition as a teen and in our early marriage. (Early on, we looked at Scripture, talked about the healthy view of sex taught to us by our respective strong and loving parents, and received good teaching from such pioneers on Christian sexual freedom as Charlie Shedd.) 

Because we were comfortable to masturbate, we incorporated it into our foreplay. Our hands naturally roved over each other and ourselves. Soon we discovered the tantalizing practice of lying next to each other and drifting into our world of masturbation ecstasy. Anne would hear and see me expressing my pleasure as I masturbated, and she began to do the same.

These elder days, we find masturbating in front of each other a spiritual and holy experience. We, and Anne in particular, are totally uninhibited in our touching, body expression, and verbalization during masturbation for each other and ourselves.

Practice produces perfection, and we plan on years of practicing!

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15 replies
  1. PacMan says:

    We are younger (mid 40s) but love to masturbate together. Masturbation is a part of nearly every love making session. It’s glorious. My favorite is when my DW is on her knees next to me… working her vibe on her clit while her very hard nipples are jetting out on full display. Her O Face in that position is amazing… making me 🍆🍆 just thinking about it!

  2. Tulsa says:

    Masturbating together is something that has been on our list forever!
    A great sport, anyway you look at it! 😉

    The first time we did it together, it was a show and tell, about our first time getting ourselves off, so it's quite educational too!

  3. MarriedtoaHotBabe says:

    Wonderful story. My wife early in our marriage was shy about masturbating in front of me but admitted she had been doing it since she was a girl. When she saw me doing it in front of her one night, it helped ease her shyness. Now 20 years later, there's no shyness and a full embrace of masturbation, complete with dildos, vibrators and all.

  4. JuicyForMyMan says:

    There was a point in our marriage where he had gotten a bit lazy about making sure I orgasmed, so I would masturbate after he’d fallen asleep or gotten up. One day, I decided that when he came back to the bedroom, I was not going to stop and wait for him to be gone again; I let him “catch” me so he would realize what was happening. He loved it, joined in, and from there on things were better. He tries to get me to orgasm before him because if not, he is too tired at that point to take care of me. There will occasionally be a time when he has come and us too tired, and I’ll just finish myself off either with or without him in the room or bed.

    • SilverGold says:

      Discovering and engaging in the comfortable and joyful practice of masturbation – solo, mutual, and watching – lifts a marriage to new heights of intimacy. So glad this happened for the two of you!!

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