How To Join Songs of the Believers?

Hey all. I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask, but does anyone know why I can’t join the community Songs of the Believers? I filled out the questionnaire twice and got nothing. Is there any way I can get hold of them directly and figure this out?

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11 replies
  1. Fearless Lunk says:

    As I’ve mentioned, I don’t know how they do approvals, or why some don’t get responded to. It’s quite possible you applied at heavier times, and they couldn’t keep up and it slipped through the cracks. I would try again. A couple of new members were added this week. I know personal emails are not allowed in comments, but this is their official business email: songs-of-the-believers@mn.co. No guarantees on how often they check that inbox, it’s mostly used for automated messages being sent.

    • CrazyHappyLoved says:

      I think one problem is that we are used to thinking of internet sites as "businesses" with income and staff, etc. when most spaces involving sex-positive Christianity are just a few volunteers trying to make something they want to exist. So they have jobs and kids and illness and vacations and life challenges… and not a lot of time to do all the things it takes to make "it" (whatever it is) happen.

      I believe I was told when I joined that the whole idea was to make sure it grew slowly enough that the volunteers weren't overwhelmed by moderation and that they wanted to try and somewhat balance the male to female ratio. I don't know if that is still true. Then there is the issue of trying to vet applicants and keep their community safe from predators or those who just want to use others, not truly discuss sex and help each other build sex-positive marriages. I imagine it's not an easy job.

      All that said, I don't have any advice except to wait patiently, and if you reapply, be clear about your intentions.

  2. 1blessedman says:

    No doubt that everyone has a life and SOTB is a free atmosphere (no cost to participants); however, it would be nice to at least use an automated response; don’t just leave folks hanging out in cyberspace.

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