Let’s Fly
“Let’s sink to deep places together,
let’s explore, see what’s in our darker thoughts.
Let’s make some new secrets
to keep from the world.”
I do get, and appreciate, the intent of the original quote [attributed in some sources to poet Nagitha Joshna.] But it seems to use the concepts of deep, dark, and secret to value hidden naughtiness or forbiddenness. I think open Christian sexual freedom is just the opposite. It may all be a game of nuance and semantics, but you know I think words are important. How about …
“Let’s rise to new heights together,
let’s soar, discover what’s in our unbound thoughts.
Let’s take some new freedoms
to enjoy just us two!”
- “Let’s sink to deep places together” vs “Let’s rise to new heights together”
The lightness and airiness of rising to new heights just lifts my sexual spirit and brain libido so much more than sinking to deep places. When Queen and I enjoy sexual pleasures, it’s like the murmuration of a flock of birds, and not rodents burrowing underground. Just thinking of passion with her lifts my sexual spirit and my cock! And “together” with her goes without saying.
- “let’s explore” vs “let’s soar”
I get “explore”, but “soar” better fits the metaphor of rising to new heights, and so this more aptly completes the thought. It also better describes the joy and airiness in my spirit when Queen and I are joined together in strong sexual passion.
- “see what’s in our darker thoughts” vs “discover what’s in our unbound thoughts”
“Unbound thoughts” seem to me to better express the almost limitless possibilities in Christian monogamous married passion and, I believe, encourages us to look up and out and explore what may be new desires, passions, and fantasies between us. Unbound thoughts about what may thrill her amazing pussy is a happy place for me.
- “Let’s make some new secrets” vs “Let’s take some new freedoms”
Given almost limitless possibilities, having been given creativity by our Creator, and with so many great examples here on MarriageHeat and elsewhere, taking new freedoms together is such an energizing and engaging joy. Secrets and freedoms probably end up meaning the same things, but making new secrets feels furtive and taking new freedoms feels emancipating. Probably just me.
- “to keep from the world” vs “to enjoy just us two!”
Yeah, you’re probably not going to blurt out to the world that you’ve found a new oral technique that’s fire, discovered that doggie style and/or anal play works for you, or share the joys of naked kayaking or naked hiking with your small group. Rather than focus on keeping these things from the world, it seems more energizing to me to focus on growing our mutual pleasure and enjoyment.
“Let’s rise to new heights together,
let’s soar, discover what’s in our unbound thoughts.
Let’s take some new freedoms
to enjoy just us two!”
Afterword
This may seem much ado about nothing, but in the spirit of transparency, let’s just say Queen and I are, ahem, silver-haired lovers. Before, and early in, our marriage, my cock stood straight up – High Noon!, and her pussy ran rivers of amazing kitty-juice.
Now, not so much for either of us. Our chemical (i.e. hormone) game is weaker and we had to choose. Give up and become typical platonic roommate grandparents or create, strengthen, and use a mind game to still go at each other like animals!
We chose to go mental (sorry, I just like the way that sounds for unfettered lovers!), and while we’re still constantly tweaking the ideas, it seems to be working because all I have to do is look at her and I’m wild for her. And I think she likes it, too.
“As a person thinks in their heart, so they are.” adapted from Proverbs 23:7
Stay passionate, my friends.
Morning, all. Hubbie here.
Admittedly, this is a “thought” piece rather than an erotic story with amazing sex. Sorry to take up the “MH airwaves” like this, but it just kind of gripped me when I read the “darker” post one day. I suffer from “terminal enthusiasm” and the lighter, more “up” contrast worked on my mental libido more better good!
If you’ll excuse me, I need to go murmurate with Queen some!
Stay passionate!
I don't think there is any need to apologize for your very insightful post. It is more of a "thought piece" but it illustrates how much of our satisfaction is (and should be) derived from our feelings and thoughts toward our spouse. If a couple enjoys each other 'mentally' (recognizes and appreciates each others' opinions and ideas, etc), then the 'physical' part of marriage is probably sure to follow. And I think that many Christian couples still harbor an inner attitude that enjoying sex is somehow 'naughty' or 'forbidden'. Quite the contrary!!! If you appreciate your spouse mentally, the physicality will follow. And every couple is different in what sexual practices they find mutually exciting or 'acceptable' to them. And being in the 'silver haired' category, I can say that it's difficult to make even time to really enjoy each other to the max when you have little kids to take care of and in the house during the younger years. My wife was worried about how she'd feel once our kids left the house to go to college and live on their own. Once that time arrived, it was a new level of freedom (especially sexual freedom)! One day soon after that transition, SHE was the one who made the observation that 'we could make love in any room in the house' now that we didn't have younger occupants to worry about! Basically her comment reflected our newfound freedom to make love whenever and wherever we chose…Morning, during the day, in bed, or on the couches in our family room, or making out heavily in the kitchen (even if we didn't consummate the deal in the same room). And, with that freedom, we could take more time to explore each other in an uninterrupted fashion.
As you said, the 'mental' appreciation of our spouse can lead to greater heights of all aspects of our God-given union, including extreme 'marriage heat'!
It’s so true that how you think makes such a difference in every part of life. True, we may not look like we did when we married 35 years ago, but just the thought of him turns me on. Flirting and keeping the mind on creative sexuality makes a difference. Honestly, sex is so much better now than when we were younger. We know each other so well, and we try to please each other so much more than when we were younger. Thanks for this post.
Freedoms and soaring to new heights – this is us as we’ve aged! We can’t perform like 20 year old love birds, but we enjoy a deep, connectedness that far exceeds the simultaneous, orgasmic explosions of our youthful marriage. Now we delight in lying in each other’s arms and seeing the sexual pleasure on each other’s faces.
Very thought-provoking writing. I agreed with all the excellent comments too. As older married lovers, we lack the strength of our younger days, but we really enjoy each other so much! I liked your rewrite of the poem too. Sex isn’t dark and dirty in a good marriage—it is glorious!
I like the concept of unbound thoughts. No need to limit fantasies only actions. As long as your actions are with your monogamous partner or by yourself, any thought that makes it hotter is a good thought.