Sexless Marriage
Hello friends,
After my first post, (Health Issues, Sexless Marriage – August 13, 2024) I continue to read the replies and I’m wanting to get a little help.
I’m planning on some intimate time this weekend, and I would like some advice I can give to my wife of things she can try to help get me going and hard, such as surprising me in the shower, or touching me throughout the day. Maybe better foreplay, or kissing passionately, sexy clothes or toys, etc. I would greatly appreciate any recommendations. Here’s to a super hot and sexy weekend!
Thanks friends.
Have you had a conversation about the way things are?
That's the first step! I don't know how open your wife is to talking through your issues, but simply explain things as they are. You mention in the first post that you often wake up with an erection, so perhaps you can encourage your wife take things in hand at that stage (no pun intended).
Communication though is the key thing to move things forward!
Wife boob flashing you throughout the day cums to mind ☺️
But also sex in the morning. Testosterone levels are highest in a.m. & with my heart failure mornings are the best because my heart is rested.
Reading MH stories helps me too.
Knowing which of my meds affect sexual performance means certain meds I don’t take until after morning sex. Some meds affect libido. Others can cause E D. And some make it impossible for me to have an orgasm.
Some heart meds I have to take before sex for safety reasons. Others I take right after sex.
Of course everyone is different and not everyone has the same side effects from a medication.
I hope this helps.
My wife is good at doing things to get a rise out of me, and get things started!
A simple one she does often when I’m around the house, is when she does routine housework, either partially dressed, or not dressed at all! Topless dusting, naked vacuuming, cleaning kitchen counters with nothing on but a very worn out and thin tee-shirt……things like that.
A striptease gets me every time, especially when she starts pulling on titties and inserting fingers into her pussy! A striptease turns to a standup masturbation is bone inducing!
She also like to catch me in awkward positions when I’m working on something, pull down my pants, and give me a suck-start! LOL! Some projects don’t get done as planned, but she gets done!
Been many times when I got out of the shower, my clean clothes I had there were gone. When I go into the bedroom to find them, I find something better! A naked wife, spread eagle on the bed, pulling on a nipple and rubbing her clit! She’s done the same trick out by our outdoor shower too!
Just wandering by, and stealing a feel always works for both of us! So many little things she can do!
Wow! I need to copy and paste this for my wife!
I've read both your posts and like story_smith above, my big question is what's your wife's perspective on all this? It's really unclear whether the problem is your physical health issues and erection difficulties, or something bigger related to your relationship and communication. If I've got the diagnosis wrong, I apologize, but it would be useful to know the larger picture.
You say she's not into oral, but is she otherwise open to trying new things to get around the physical challenges? You also said sex in the past was very "predictable: same time, same position." Has that changed? If not, I'm not sure how much all these suggestions are going to help – she has to be open to trying them/letting you do them. Otherwise they will just lead to frustration and resentment…and struggling to keep/maintain a hard-on.
On that note, I can relate very much to your issues. Morning wood is easy, but I can struggle in the moment because all she wants is the same thing every time and she rejects most of my 'sexy suggestions,' so it's hard to maintain excitement.
Thanks folks I'm working on things and getting some results, I'll keep checking out comments and go from there, mornings sound good
Hey Oldschool, I recently heard a preacher say a man and wife should never pass each other in the house without touching.
That could be a light touch, a smack on the rear, or blowing in the ear. Or a whisper. Just imagine what a sexy wife might whisper…
I've posted this before, that after retiring & our sons moving out, we had the house to ourselves.
No longer having to be concerned with interruptions, or the amount of noise..( or walking around nude) I asked my wife, " would you like to improve our sex life?"
Details are in this thread " Multiple Orgasm Training" I posted in a post written some time ago, describing the awakening of increased passion in our sexual activities.
You might find some valuable suggestions there. Best of luck, oldtimer.
My Wife gets me horny by being horny so I might not be of assistance. I love to give her back rubs. Once I go up her shirt to massage her naked skin, I almost immediately get hard.
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[Editor's Summary: What gets me horny is stripping her clothes off, touching and kissing her all over, and hearing her demand "Put that cock in me" while I tease her and pleasure her before finally giving in.]
In any event, that's how she gets me really hard. I love fucking her. I want to do it now but she's not able so I am left to dream about teasing, rubbing, licking her until I get that sweet command again. "Put you cock in me."
[Editor's note: comment edited; hot story, but too long since most of it is not directly related to the advice question. We tentatively scheduled this as a full story instead. Let us know if you'd prefer not to publish it as a story.]
Oh I don't mind at all. Post away
Funny some find a sexless marriage acceptable but never a foodless marriage. Take time to prepare a meal that makes the mind desire sexual satisfaction. Don’t just settle that driving by McDonalds will make you hungry. Know your spouses favorite meal even if you never cooked it before.
😂 I like that comment a lot, and you make a very good point.