A Message from GG
My dearest MH family,
First of all let me say that I am deeply touched by your prayers and out pouring of support for me and my family during this difficult time.
Since Ben passed away, I have been doing alot of praying and crying. My family is heartbroken, but stronger in our faith in the holy father. This is uncharted waters for all of us.
Luke 23:43 “ And he said to him, Truly I say to you, today you will be with me in paradise “
Though heartbroken we take comfort in knowing that Ben is with the Lord in a much better place. Ben was my husband, the love of my life, my first lover, father of our children and a proud and loving grandfather.
Psalm 9:9 says, “ The Lord also will be a stronghold for the oppressed, A stronghold in times of trouble “ This couldn’t be more true.
Yesterday Randy, Alicia and myself went to Ben’s gravesite . We cried and we prayed. We shared our memories and laughed about the fun times we had with him. Though Ben was no longer there, it was comforting and filled our hearts with peace. Our daughter Kristie is not taking it very well and did not come along.
Philippians 4:7 “ And the peace of God surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. “
I do not usually quote scripture, but have been reading my Bible and take comfort in it. Like I said, I am navigating uncharted waters. I will miss my “ big bear “ greatly. I think about him all the time. Sometimes at night I can hear him say, “ Gina, stop acting so silly “ and I can’t help but smile. The Lord said, it is ok to grieve, but it is not to be continual.
This is by far the hardest post that I have ever written, but felt that it needed to be written. Ben was my inspiration and the reason behind all of my stories. I wrote them out of my enduring love for him. I will continue to be here at MH, as I know Ben would prefer it that way.
Like I said earlier, the outpouring of love and support I have had from all of you has deeply touched me, and there are not any words I can say to express my heart felt gratitude. I don’t know if I will write anymore stories or not. At least I am not sure what I would write about. But time will tell.
Let me say that I truly love you all my brothers and sisters in Christ. God bless all of you.
To my husband, I love you so very much and can’t wait to see you again. Fly high my love and rest in the arms of the Lord. Thank you for the love you have shared, you will be so greatly missed. I will love you forever and ever.
Jeremiah 31:3 “Love yesterday, today and forever “
Love,
Gina
Dear GG,
Sharing about your love for Ben and heartache, yet trusting in the Lord with your family, and your future hope of seeing him again in Glory is so heartfelt for your friends on MH and me.
Losing a lifelong love is a grief unlike any other—a deep ache that feels impossible to express fully. Proverbs 14:10 reminds us that grief is profoundly personal. No one else can fully comprehend the depth of pain that you carry in losing your big bear, Ben, your lover, your partner, your confidant, your other half. But even in this isolation, we can walk beside you, showing compassion, offering prayers, and holding space for your sorrow. That is what we’ll do: I’ll do.
Lord, You know the depth of Gina’s sorrow. You see the emptiness left behind. Wrap her in Your arms and carry her through each moment. Be her comfort when loneliness overwhelms, her strength when the weight of grief feels too heavy, and her peace when the world feels shattered. Surround her with love and remind her that You are near. In Jesus’s precious Name, Amen.
Well said …
Virtual hugs, GG! 🤗🤗🤗And continued prayers for you and your family as you navigate this challenging uncharted time. May the everlasting peace and love of God be abundantly experienced through your family, friends, and unexpected experiences!!
Gina you and Ben have always been an inspiration in love, passion, & faith. Now you are an inspiration on your own. We mourn with you. As I said before, the next life IS real. Ben is at peace and he awaits you there and I suspect that he will be watching over you and your family.
My Ma will always grieve the passing of my father. His memories still sadden her on occasion but cheer her for the most part. That type of love never stops. It's there forever and one of life's greatest experiences.
God bless, you and your family.
GG I have loved your stories for years before I started writing my own or commenting on other people's. I would love to read more stories from you because you're that good, but just sticking around to give some needed perspective and advice would also be so beneficial. God bless.
GG, thank you for sharing this very difficult post. I will continue to pray for you and your dear family. Continue to press into your time with your Savior and He will give you strength to get through extremely difficult time. I hope that in the weeks to come you will continue to write stories. Of course they will be different, although we would be blessed in many ways to learn from your journey. Your stories have blessed us for years, thank you.
Gina,
Our thoughts and prayers are still with you! Can't imagine what I would do without my passionate pastor's wife. Good bless and thanks for blessing us with your spectacular stories!
GG, I add my voice to those who thank you for sharing this difficult post. I will continue to pray for you and your family and for the repose of Ben's soul.
Gina,
My heart broke for you when I heard the news. I know that I am not alone in saying that I felt as if I know you and Ben from reading your stories and I have mourned with you. I can't imagine the loss you must feel but am heartened to read your post and know that you are finding comfort in Scripture and your family. Please know that many prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time.
Oh my God, I’m praying for you, GG! I never knew Ben, but I looked up to him based on what you wrote about him and the things he wrote.
Again, my prayers for your comfort
HIT
GG, I have just read this and the earlier posts sharing the news of your husband's unexpected passing. Thank for inviting us into your journey at so many levels. Ben's passing impacts all who have been blessed and inspired by your stories over time (and by Ben's occasional contributions, in his own voice, as well). To lose such a deeply committed and loving partner is staggering, but then the faith you both shared is greater still.
Thank you for this perfectly written (as always) post to your MH family. You and your children, all three, are being covered in prayer by many, this guy included. We believe and hope with you, in Jesus.
Prayers
Gina! My heartfelt sympathies for this difficult “valley of the shadow of depth.” Know that this site wouldn’t be what it is today without you. You were the first person to openly admit that you were masturbating as you read a steamy post. 🙂 You were brave then and I know you are still brave today. Take all the time you need, but I have a hunch you’ll have more to share… because you love inspiring others. I interacted with Ben many times on SOTB — and he was such a nice and kind person… and was crazy about his GG. Blessings and peace to you and your family!
GG~
Sending a BIG HUG to you and your family! 🕯️
🙏 ~ Blessings ~🙏
Dear GG,
This is Lovinghusband. I just found out about Ben's passing. I'm so shocked and saddened at this news.
I came to MH near the time you did. I enjoyed my comments back and forth with Ben years ago. I felt a bond with him – near the same age and length of marriage.
I loved Ben's openness. He was always so proud of you in his notes here. He was humble – never pretending a degree of mastery. Ben was the partner of the always horny Gina – and felt so blessed by God.
I will be praying for you and the family. I'm so glad for God's comfort in your life right now. I love your dependence on His word. He has you in His arms.
Much love in Jesus Christ,
LH
My heart aches with you, my sister. I am so sorry for you and your children. Jesus is near to the broken hearted, with all he could be doing, he is near to you. My dear wife says the oceans in Heaven are made up of the tears of God’s children – we and our tears are so precious to him he wants them near for eternity. Praying…