Let’s Talk Sexy
So, I’m going to keep this brief…
I know we’ve all had things said to us that leave lasting memories for all the wrong reasons. Words can be powerful, both for good and for bad.
Even the Bible says that “To make an apt answer is a joy to a man, and a word in season, how good it is!” (Proverbs 15:23 ESV).
With that in mind, what are some of the most edifying and powerful things that have been said to you by your spouse, that have had a positive effect in your life? This could include both things said of a sexual nature, as well as non-sexual.
“What do you want?” And “Take your time.” Tom tells me how much he loves how I taste. When he says “I want you.” That does it for me. He likes me to talk dirty to him, to tell him sexy stories about past experiences. I’m not in to hearing that so much though I enjoy writing about them.
It sounds like he is a blessed man and that you keep him very happy! May God bless your marriage.
Nice! Telling my hubby stories from the past or the way I get looked at is a big turn on for him. Talking dirty is always magic, in bed or over the phone or when masturbating 🤗
Hearing about my wife's previous experiences is definitely a turn on for me however she doesn't tell me much.
@Mrbrightside, I find myself getting erect at some of the stories my wife has told me as well. I would never share her, but picturing her doing an amateur strip tease for her female roommates, and for a boyfriend she had in college, gets me so turned on, especially knowing it really happened and that there’s people out there who were treated to the full visual of her beauty, and still doubtless remember it.
Funny how we men are, and the things that turn us on…
Non-sexual:
I was a single dad when I met Melody. Early on in our marriage she told me, “Marrying you n getting the kids isn’t a boobie prize. Its a bonus!”
She’s went on to adopt the kids n been a wonderful mother n also now a loving grandma. She also told me she loved me in part because of how I was with the kids.
Sexual:
It was as so memorable when she gave me her virginity on our honeymoon… We failed at consummating our marriage on our wedding night. (We DID do several sex-things though.) When she first took hold of my rather large erection she joked, “I came, I saw, I conquered!” But Melody felt bad and thought I was disappointed that we had failed at having sexual intercourse. (She had a very firm hymen and was so tired from the drive to the wedding venue, the wedding luncheon, the reception etc).
I was nice about it n told her, “So we didn’t have intercourse, so what. It just shows that you saved yourself for me.”
Just yesterday after a nice lovemaking session she thanked me for being so kind.
“You were very kind Tommy. I was so scared. But you were so kind.” (Melody had been sexually abused as a child but still was a virgin.)
Back to our honeymoon… the next morning at 5:30 am she woke me. She was lying on her side of the bed leaning on one elbow. “Let’s DO this!” she said.
What a memorable sight she was – perfectly curvy with more than ample boobies and big beautiful hungry Nordic eyes! Of course I accepted her invitation.
As my glans pushed on her hymen she cried out, “Owee! Owee!” Then immediately said, “Don’t stop!” As I pushed harder she repeated herself, “OWEE OWEE! DON’T STOP!”
I pushed harder and felt the tearing along my shaft as I thrust deep into her pussy. Yes we succeeded in popping her cherry and in our first full fuck together she had the first orgasm of her life! Afterwards she said, “I feel like your sperm in me is my present – just for me – my special present!” As we were cuddling she looked up at me and said, “I could do it again!”
And we did…7 times that day & many times on our honeymoon. And we’ve enjoyed each other sexually n non sexually for over 30 years!
About ten years ago Melody started using the term “pussy” during sex. That was a turn on and reading MH got me to introduce more sexy slang terms. Now that really turns us on. Melody will ask me to fuck her and to fuck her harder etc.
Finally, a couple of years ago Melody was getting back surgery so sex was going to be off limits for a month. Before the surgery she bought me a vibrating male stroker. Then as she manually and orally loved on my nipples she started talking for “Julia.”
Melody had named the stroker Julia n Julia was Melody’s Latina alter-ego. “Oooooo! I love how you feel up in my pussy Tommy! Cum in my pussy Tommy! I want my present in my pussy!” etc. etc…. are even now things my Melody says as she talks for Julia. It’s become a kind of role play that we often do as part of a full sex session and on off days when full sex isn’t planned.
Actually I think MH helped both myself n Melody loosen up as far as sexy talk.
What beautiful stories, LovingMan! May God continue to bless you and Melody and your wonderful marriage.
I always enjoy reading your comments and posts.
One time, during sarcastic, joking banter, back & forth. I asked my wife, "Would you tell your sister I have a big cock?"
She answered quickly, with a coy smile,
"I already have…Sisters sometimes talk, you know?"
Wow I bet that made you feel ten feet tall! Congratulations!!
Wow! I hope my wife talks me up to others. That is hot!
@BS … agreed! 😁
Hubby is great about telling me that I’m beautiful and a wonderful wife. I have told my close friend at church about some fun things we’ve done and how he is a great lover.
@MichelleMichigan, it sounds like your husband is a blessed man indeed! God bless the both of you, and your marriage.
Also, greetings from a fellow Upper Midwesterner!
Thank you Northern
when she wanted to hear about my previous lovers. she got soooooo turned on!! she never wanted to share about hers, and i never pried but when I talked about mine, and she wanted DETAILS, she was an absolute beast lol. and very verbal after that. she was somewhat verbal/vocal but after talking, she was Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde!!
Great topic Northern,
Although a very large part of what we write here is sexual in nature, which is due to the fact that the gist of this site is sexual.
Very much of what happens between us and translates a very deep and passionate love affair and thus sexual affair between my husband and I.
Would be the non-sexual moments throughout the day. Those times where we cross paths and look into one another's eyes. When he holds my face in his hands and tells me I'm beautiful or how much he loves me or how thankful he is for me. And I the same. When he's working on something and I walk up behind him and lay my body on his back and wrap my arms around his neck because he's my big teddy bear.
Being that the relationship we have with our spouses is the most intimate relationship even above our parents or at least it should be. The relationship where best of friends, are able to tell secrets that you couldn't even tell your other friends.
These moments that are non-sexual will translate into the sexual ones because they promote a confidence between us of our love. And in times of absence those words of affirmation in those seemingly inconsequential touches add up to a need for one another.
M. Has said and it resonated with me that sex is meant to be the outward manifestation of inward feelings. And sex that means something produces memories that will never be erased. In other words when you love one another so deeply and your sexual life is so given to one another that you prefer one another even above yourselves. That is good sex!
So sexy words aren't always sexual words. But they are words that reach into the soul and resonate in the mind and heart. These are things we should never hold back on. It's giving without expecting to receive whether it be a kind word a touch or an embrace or a spontaneous sexual action given without expectation of receiving anything back or mutual pleasure. And this goes for both halves of the relationship.
Lady L. ❤️
Copied that to my notes. Need to read that like morning breakfast.
My wife & I have a routine of saying I love you, hugging. I have to admit that I tend to make sure I accomplish that. But, at times, it feels slightly like I'm making sure I get that important thing said & done to just make sure I got it in. It's not that bad of a thing, but reading what you said L, I see that authenticity suffers, it can get a little stale, & limiting. I've known what you say should be there, & is, when I check off the box of accomplished that, I don't feel the need to do more. Shame on me. That's not Jesus love. My follow through is terrible. Read my posts & comments, I know better. That stopping & looking in her eyes, holding her face in my hands just to tell her she is a great wife. Doing that, not to check a box, but because I meant my vows. She is a wonderful wife for better or worse. Jesus died to love me when I was a sinner. That won me over. Now, it's ok to love my wife like that. I can let go of grudges, wrongs, & mistakes & love her authentically. She doesn't have to meet any requirements for me to be who I said I would be. I vowed that out of love. Now, I need to make good on my word. I meant it, now show it.
So, help me God.
Thanks L
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That’s beautiful Tutchh. It really warmed my heart this morning. Thank you for sharing something so wonderfully intimate 😊
1. She shouted, "OH, ___[my name]___, I'm cumming just for YOU!!"
2. When she was on top, and slid herself down onto my hard dick, and let out a deep gutteral moan, "UHHHHHhhhhhhh…!!"
3. When we were banging away so hard that I slipped out, and she said with urgency, "QUICK, stick it back in!!"
4. One time, I asked her what position she would like, and she replied, "Doggy, because it goes in deeper that way." (I had never known that. I was happy to oblige.)