Forbidden Fantasies
Fantasy – Something you think about or something that arouses you that you would never do in real life.
I’ve really been struggling lately with forbidden fantasies. They slip into my mind (and my social media feed). I know they’re wrong, but I sometimes succumb to the temporary pleasure they bring. I often feel guilty afterwards, and it’s a guilt that can last for days.
So, I have a few questions for the MH community.
1. How do you deal with forbidden fantasies in your own life?
2. Do you succumb to them sometimes, and do you feel guilty afterwards?
3. Do you share them with your spouse?
4. How do you consistently avoid them?
As always, all of your thoughts are welcome.
For me, it’s this stag and vixen fantasy—picturing my wife so damn hot she’s got other guys tripping over themselves, but she’s all mine. It’s not about sharing her, no way, we’re rock-solid monogamous. It’s the thrill of her being desired, like a goddess who picks me every time. Once, I shared a blurred pic of her in a thong online, face hidden. The guy’s dirty comments about her body got me so hard I couldn’t think straight, and yeah, I handled it solo. Told my wife later, expecting her to flip—she was pissed at first, but when I shared what he said, she got this look, all flushed, and we had the hottest sex ever. That rush of her being wanted but staying mine? Pure fire, and it stayed just us.
I get that HornDog. It’s a pretty hot scenario to play out in your mind.
If I had shared that with my wife, things would have went in a different direction.
A number of years back I found out that my husband M
Had posted pictures of me with my face cropped out on a subreddit about mature women over 50 .
When I found out about it I was livid. I couldn't believe that he would have done such a thing. But then he showed me the comments the same as you. Comments after comment were in praise of the way I looked and what it is that they wish they could do. And even if you comments from other women who enjoyed seeing me. It's softened the effect a little bit. It also caused me to take a look at a few of the other women which I really did enjoy.
Since that time he has posted pictures of us and me on other subreddits with her faces cropped out. I'm not as against it as I was but I did tell him please not to do that anymore and he stopped.
I can also tell you that after looking through the pictures and seeing the comments I was very excited and he did go down on me while I was browsing.
Lady L. 💋❤️
Wonderful discussion topic, KM! This is something I've thought a lot about myself. I'll answer your questions frankly.
1. How do you deal with forbidden fantasies in your own life?
– The few forbidden fantasies I find very personally arousing (being shared with another man, or multiple men, or watching a man fuck other women) I usually turn into roleplay scenarios with my imaginary husband. Thus it puts it into a marriage context. I will NEVER do these things in real life; I can't even fathom being with any man intimately other than the man I marry and have exchanged covenant vows with. But the raw heat of the scenarios are still hot and sometimes picturing scenes like that are the perfect push to a great climax!
2. Do you succumb to them sometimes, and do you feel guilty afterwards?
– The thing I have felt guilt about is watching gay sex. Just to clarify, I'm NOT watching it because I think two men having sex is erotic; I don't. My attraction to it is the male body at work while he fucks, and it happens that gay porn focuses more on one or both guys, whereas heterosexual porn is often focused on the woman (for the mostly male viewers). I'm incredibly visual and just seeing a guy pound away (forget that, just seeing him naked!) can get me crazy wet and horny. My struggle is knowing that God hates same-sex activity and calls it abomination. So even if I'm not condoning the act, I don't know if that excuses my watching it. It's something I'm working through and trying to cut back on.
3. Do you share them with your spouse?
– I sure will if I get a spouse!
4. How do you consistently avoid them?
– More and more, I am finding the attraction of fantasizing about simple married lovemaking far outweighs any wildly taboo scenarios. Perhaps that is my heart and mind maturing; I pray that God keeps molding me, sexually as well as other ways, into a more virtuous woman. So, just imagining that my future husband is gently pleasuring me and claiming me is plenty good enough to arouse me and give me a very satisfying masturbation experience. Now, I will often read or listen to or look at something spicy, and that too is often marriage-related (I am enjoying a series of millionaire-arranged-marriage romances by Catharina Maura, and I've saved a number of erotic audios on Gone Wild Audio on Reddit that are my go-to if I want to hear a male voice in my ear). My moods and the time of my cycle play into it too, as does my health (which is an ongoing struggle). But yes, I am trying to honor Jesus in my masturbation and love good things, not going down perverted paths just for a quick orgasm.
Thank you for your frank response LLL. I always look forward to your opinion and feedback.
My fantasies aren’t that dissimilar from yours except they come from a Dominant male perspective and instead of gay male, I have watched two women together.
I have dialed back most of my AVE, but I still struggle.
I have also tried to contain my thoughts to married sex, which is beautiful and erotic. And, if carried out properly, is the most beautiful and hottest sex there is.
There’s no denying the physical attributes of sex, but the intimate connection you have or get with another person, one who shares not only their body but their soul is God’s design for sex.
I just put this out there because I honestly struggle sometimes.
Thank you again for your response!
While I can say there were times where we had watched porn together and where I had watched it alone. Usually when I watch it it's with two women or more. And I do prefer amateur porn. There have been more than a few times when I have put mature amateur lesbians in the search box.
I try to stay away as much as I can. I don't like the way the algorithms try to turn you to things that you don't really want to see and it seems like the tendency is to push the teen thing and the incest thing. I do not recommend people going to those sites I know there are places that have ethical porn and apparently there are sites that are amateur and mature but my concern is the safety of those not only being exposed to something I really don't want to see or have any part of. But the fact that there's so many hackers and scammers out there you don't know what it is that you might open up.
As far as sharing what I've seen with my husband yes I have on the number of occasions. We talk about everything very openly and there have been times when he has brought it up for us to watch.
But for the reasons I listed on top of the reasons that there are quite a few videos and pictures that are posted by others without the knowledge of those in the videos or the fact that there is so much sex trafficking and sexual slavery going on in this world you don't know what the background of these individuals is.
Lady L. ❤️❤️
Hey KM I hope you're doing well! I think the war over our minds is the same one that Jesus had to go through in His 40 days in the wilderness. I've definitely had to fight things in my own mind that are not of God, all of us have! (I hope we're all fighting…) That's something that God is always working on in us, as it says in Romans 12:2 "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God."
I find myself attracted to a lot of women, and of course the hottest women I've known tend to be older than me, mothers of multiple children, and happily married. I'd be lying if I said I haven't ever fantasized about them before! But hoping that one of them becomes a widow or something, isn't God's will for my life. I do tend to think that if people continuously masturbate to fantasies that are blatantly un-Godly/un-Biblical, those people are training themselves through pleasure rewards to dwell on those un-Godly scenarios more and more over time, which will eventually lead to obsession, then perhaps actually acting on their impulses.
Look at James 1:13-15: "Let no man say when he is tempted, 'I am tempted by God,' for God cannot be tempted with evil; neither does He tempt anyone. 14 But each man is tempted when he is drawn away by his own lust and enticed. 15 Then, when lust has conceived, it brings forth sin; and when sin is finished, it brings forth death." I see this as a clarification of what Jesus is talking about in the second half of Matthew 5.
I wouldn't say all this as a condemnation of fantasies, just as a caution. I think fantasies should definitely be discussed between husbands and wives, but sadly it doesn't happen all that often! So it comes down to, what is a person fantasizing about? Honestly I think this is a discussion that you should be having with a professional, and you're only going to be able to get so much help from anonymous people on the internet, when we don't know exactly what your unique challenges are.
FM, as always, your wisdom shines through in your injunctions to Godliness. I appreciate that.
FM, should I be offended that you think I need a counselor? 😂 No, you’re probably right.
I do appreciate your wisdom and you do make some strong points that I agree with.
Thank you for your response!
1. How do you deal with forbidden fantasies in your own life?
I’m pretty vanilla although as expressed many times on here, I do have exhibition fantasies and desires to show my wife off to others (although I would not want to ever “share” her physically with other men). I guess I deal with them by thinking logically about them. “If I gave full indulgence to the fantasy, what aftereffects would occur, some of which would potentially be negative and painful for myself and others?”
2. Do you succumb to them sometimes, and do you feel guilty afterwards?
Once again as mentioned before, I’ve never really indulged my fantasies, at least not as I’ve envisioned them. My wife can be a bit of a tease and mild exhibitionist when she feels safe and knows only consenting adults are around, but we’ve never indulged my fantasy of being watched fully nude in various sex acts together.
3. Do you share them with your spouse?
Of course, we are quite open about that sort of thing.
4. How do you consistently avoid them?
Well for me anyways, I think indulging my fantasy as I’ve envisioned it, might make my wife uncomfortable. She has experiences with same-room sex and amateur stripping, and strip poker games with friends before I met her when we were both still attending (different) colleges. I think some of her being on the fence about some of my families is because of the negative associations of both falling into unhealthy past behavior, and also peer pressure and other activities that she felt went too far. I guess knowing that her emotions and peace are at stake helps me not to ever pressure to really pursue those fantasies. Although if ever she suggested fulfilling my fantasies around other consenting adults with clear boundaries, I’d probably jump at the chance. I will also say that she and I sort of found a “compromise” in terms of some of my exhibitionist fantasies and desires to show her off. We have posted multiple sexual audios online on several adults-only forums and websites. Knowing others are listening to us, and reading some of the comments that are written about Vanessa (things like, she’s a goddess, hot, sexy af, etc.) really turns me on and is quite pleasurable. Although I’m not sure we’ll do it forever, it has been a mostly nice experience so far and one that I feel has bonded us, and it’s actually taken the edge off my desires to be watched, since it feels like the next best thing. Probably my biggest reasons I have apprehensions about actually being watched is not only I don’t want to stress her with reminding her of memories she’d like to forget, but there is also insecurity — if we had same-room sex, would she find the guy across the room more attractive and make her remember previous sexual memories she’s pushed aside? Etc.
I think in general, sexual fantasies have a way of opening a can of worms, even if they aren’t particularly kinky or bad (I don’t see my fantasy as particularly wrong, but it, like any other sexual fantasy, has the potential to lead to some very dark places).
In the end, I think as a Christian it’s important for me to keep eternity as the main perspective, and know one day I will be on my deathbed and will not be thinking about sex, that will all be behind me and I’d like to think I’d have treated my wife well and gave her a good marriage. And all that (sex fantasies and how they are handled) plays into that.
First, let me say that your main perspective is spot on, and I think you have a really good way of seeing things overall.
Second, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with posting your erotic audio online. Others may disagree, but I think it’s hot, and as you said, a safe way of exploring your fantasy.
Last, I appreciate your response and I love reading your stories. I think you and Vanessa have a great relationship, from what you’ve shared, and I’m happy you’re here.
The care you show your wife is beautiful. I'd definitely be looking for that quality in a man so I'd know he would never pressure me to do anything that might take me down wrong roads or make me uncomfortable. It's so good that you discuss these things together and reveal your weak spots so each can help the other.
I don't know if you'd be comfortable with this, but I thought I would just ask: would you be willing to share any of the places you and Vanessa have posted spicy audios? That's something I'd really enjoy listening to, knowing that it's a married couple. But only if that's something MH will allow you to share and that you are okay doing. I never want to cross anyone's boundaries!
@KingdomMan,
Thank you so much for your kind words. And yes, I agree with you we have a great relationship. In my stories, I try to be honest and real — our marriage, like any, takes prayer, good communication, and a little bit of old-fashioned cultivation just like any other. And it’s been a wonderful journey of learning and growing and building upon our already wonderful, caring friendship.
As to the audios – Vanessa and I would both agree with you that there isn’t anything inherently sinful in posting them. The main areas of concern is how engaging to be with the audience. Do we address them during our audios? (We sometimes do). What about comments? For example, one woman commented she wished she could join us for a threesome. While we’d never do that for Biblical reasons, did we flirt back a bit in the comments and let her know that we were incredibly flattered? Yes. Was that wrong? I’m not sure. So, I think the main thing for us with the audios is trying to find the right balance on how engaging to be with our listeners.
Thanks again for your kind words, and I really enjoy being a part of MH.
@LLL,
Thank you so much for your kind words! I really try to be a good husband to Vanessa. And I realize that, while she has not been SA’d that we know of, she, like many other women, has been treated in exploitive ways by men (and some women) in the past, mostly due to her large breasts, and because of her friendliness and desire to please. I try to never pressure her to be “on display” just for my own sexual gratification. Although she can be playful at times (as I’m sure you’ve read in some of my stories) and I enjoy every bit of it when she initiates a little bit of showy behavior.
Does that make sense?
As for our audios — I’d love to share them with you. I have asked MH about it before and their policy is to not post any erotic content besides our text stories and comments. And I respect that.
With that said (MH please edit according to your judgement), we have submitted audios to Reddit, Literotica, OrgasmSoundLibrary and Tumblr so far. On two of those websites I’ve named, there are delays (similar to MH) and some of our posts are still pending.
I know you’ve mentioned GWA, but we don’t post to that sub because we have some ethical concerns with it (no judgement though if you like it), so anyway, our Reddit audios are limited to three other, less popular subreddits.
We have recorded us having sex, and she has one solo orgasm audio up, and she also encouraged me to make some solo ones as well, which are up. Recently though, we’ve both gotten into doing more SFW romantic content, as Vanessa particularly enjoys it. If you frequent subreddits of that nature, chances are you’ve already heard Vanessa’s voice as she is fairly well-liked for those audios and posts quite often. She has a breathy, high pitched, slightly scratchy voice with a fair amount of vocal fry— that might help you recognize her.
@LLL—
Sorry if my initial reply was too cryptic. I really want you to find us, but I also know MH prefers we don’t send links or screen names or email addresses. I think I can say this though — and will leave it up to MH if they let this post or want to edit it — you have mentioned in the past on your discussions of erotic audio two subreddits we post to. Vanilla Audio only allows solo audio, not couples, so we aren’t on there much, but we have both posted solo audios there occasionally. Vanessa’s favorite subreddit (and it’s not even close) is Pillow Talk Audio. As you may recall, she was involved in theater, so she loves recording story audios and script fills there (mostly cute, SFW comfort audios). She has also posted erotic audios of us there occasionally. We also post to “Audiogonewild” which is like a less-kinky alternative to GWA (read: much less of the violent fantasy and incest fantasy content).
I wouldn’t even bother trying to give you hints on our usernames (hers is a long one and is an intentional joke), but her avatar has […]
That’s probably about as hint-y as I can get, but I really hope that helps you find us. Vanessa has her DM’s switched off (too many thirsty men on Reddit), but mine are on. Feel free to give us a follow, and send me a DM when you find us! 🙂
[Edited by MH: We don't have any issue with recommendations of other sites, especially as alternatives with the intent to avoid the more twisted content that's out there. However, for sake of consistent application of policy on sharing contact info, and to avoid setting problematic precedents, we won't be allowing the avatar descriptions. Sorry!]
MH, no worries! I respect that. That’s why I wrote that in answer to LLL’s request, because I knew you could decide if that was in the realm of OK, or if it was too similar to sharing an email. Thanks for all you do, we appreciate this site you run 🙂
[From MH: Thank you! We always appreciate your understanding, graciousness and respect! ❤️]
Thanks for the response, NS! I respect the guidelines here too, so I'll do my best to find you guys on Reddit with the info you've given. I am familiar with Pillow Talk, though I haven't listened to much on there. I agree that GWA has a lot of perverted stuff on there, but I search for and save only specific themes and avoid all the weird stuff. Maybe Audiogonewild is one I need to look at. As for Vanilla Audio, I thought you had to pay for that. I'm sticking with free right now because I don't have money to spend on that type of thing lol! Anyhow, it's really awesome that you and Vanessa enjoy recording. Erotic audio has become almost more enjoyable than visual stuff for me.
I may post some scripts of my own on Audiogonewild, if I can. Maybe that will help us connect!
My scripts will have a recognizable name in the title, so keep your eye out!
Interesting question KM,
The operational word here is "forbidden".
The question is, forbidden by who?
Somebody's personal opinion or bias?
A religious humans feelings or personal interpretation of the Bible?
Or God?
Of course as believers, our loyalties lie with God, and a correct understanding of his desires and our desire to please God. THAT'S FOREMOST
… and thennnn, there's us, you know, the ones with the fallen nature in a world full of temptations and a life filled with personal character traits formed from growing up in this world.
And thennnn.. there are those unaddressed issues. Those things for which Rabbinical and pharaseeical authorities formed into laws and expected to be followed creating burdens impossible to bear.
As Clint Eastwood said,
"Feel lucky punk?"
In other words, the choice is ours, as in every opportunity life presents us with, to do right (Gods will) or wrong (our will).
I can honestly tell you that for myself. Quite often I have jilled to what many would consider taboo.
And being that we have a relationship in which we can be completely honest with one another. Quite often, we will engage in sex together which made roleplay taboo or come out of a conversation speaking about fantasy taboo.
And quite often these taboo fantasies will involve other people.
The key is honesty and truth between one another.
And I will tell you also that's since coming here and reading the stories that we have some people here have been in our role play.
But… we know it will never go beyond the boundaries of our marriage.
For us this goes hand in hand with what I have mentioned many times before. The truth that all of us will find somebody else attractive. The way we get around this is by acting it out with one another.
In all reality, when we read a descriptive story here, do we not imagine what the words convey to us? And if our imaginations are strong enough doesn't it affect us in a physically arousing way?
There have been many times I will jill while reading ( particularly when the author is female and I can visualize and identiify with it.
And there have been times where I woll read to my husband while stroking him, or he to me while jilling me.
Now, one will call this adultery or lust.
We dont believe this qualifies as the act.
But it's honest communication with
One another without jealousy or judgement but with love and understanding.
All I can say is this. It works for us. There's no shame and there's total love and acceptance and honesty between us..
Lady L.💋💋❤️❤️
Hi Tutchh,
You’re lucky and blessed in that you have this open and honest communication. For that, I am truly happy.
My problem is that I don’t.
And that magnifies my relentless sex drive because it is never satisfied, and I am left to deal with all these unmet needs.
First of all it's good that you felt the need to address this issue on MH.Please don't take anything I say as sarcasm all of us are subject to temptation every day God gives us life.I think you answered part of your question in the post when you said "I know this is wrong".Im not going to quote the Bible,I would just say google this question."What does the Bible say about guarding our heart".Is it possible you know it's wrong but you are searching for someone to tell you it isn't, using that as a green light? IMHO the Bible states clearly that our thought life is where sin is born when it says the heart of man is desperately wicked.
Not really, I mean I know what’s wrong and what isn’t, but I also think some things could be acted out in sense of role play with my wife, but that isn’t possible.
Even if they couldn’t be acted out, the freedom to simply acknowledge them and then have a wild fuck session to relieve the tension and connect intimately with my wife would be nice.
1. Being married, I think any fantasy is forbidden if it is not about my wife & I, in the strictest sense of marriage. Then, if I am thinking about my wife, in that sense, it is not a fantasy. It wouldn't be forbidden. // But, when in a sexual drought most of my thoughts gradually have an outside the marriage nature to them. I say "nature" because I literally am not comfortable with sin sex. I tend to not fantasize directly into adultery or fornicating scenes. So, the way I deal with forbidden fantasies is to form them into scenes that could actually not be forbidden. Some will look & feel forbidden, especially if people knew, but some end up like if I were dating(these would not involve intercourse), married to them, or my wife were in on it. Then, other fantasies will end up as mutual masturbation sessions, accidental (happenstance, mistaken identity, being caught, etc.), or an understandable fall to weakness. But, sometimes, not very often at all, I may think of a scene of direct sin that in the scene it is something I didn't plan it, & if married I later confess, & repent of it. // Basically, I steer them into some explainable scene where it is not a sin, or is remedied as can be lived with.
2. By my first answer, I entertain them. I take it that's what you mean by succumb to them. I don't have a temptation to directly sin in a fantasy. I will entertain experiences from my past that could've been, or things in a future sense, or another life sense. But, my heart is somewhat ok with fantasy since I actually do not see this as a lust to do the actual sin. I try & guide my thoughts to biblical scenes, or outcomes. But, I don't feel much guilt because I have no lust to do it. Yet, I do pray for forgiveness, everyday, & possibly after the scene I entertain because I do feel bad that I am not thinking strictly about my wife. Especially, since I know she would not like knowing I fantasize. When I do confess it in my prayers I rest wholly on God's Word & know I am forgiven, & I leave it there. I believe God at His Word & I do not wrestle with that aspect.
3. No, I do not share them with her. I can share what ifs, about certain activities, but nothing that involves scenarios, names, or other people.
4. I try…& think in terms of biblical scenarios. I am not sure I have to avoid them. But, also, I am not sure a person can actually end all sexual thought. Fantasy or otherwise.
So, I hope this is helpful, because I don't really think it is, since I don't avoid them. I think to do avoid them I would have to fill my life with more work, hobbies, & activities to fill my mind with so much activity that would not allow me the time, or space, to think about sex at all.
That’s very interesting and I actually understand everything you’re saying. Thank you for your response!
Hey big guy, Cindy here. I really want to get naughty with this reply, but honestly that would be me giving into one of my fantasies so I’ll just recommend something that has been a great resource to Cal. If you like podcasts, personally I’d rather listen to slutty music, but Cal listens to them, there’s on called Men in the Arena. They talk about overcoming lust and all that occasionally-it’s definitely not the only thing they discuss.
1. When I have naughty fantasies, I get naked, lay on my back, part my legs, enjoy myself.
2. Yes and no.
3. Yes, then we often roleplay them
4. Tbh, I don’t. I sort of seek out xxx fantasies. But Cal does and the podcast I mentioned has helped him.
Hi Cindy,
Thanks for your honest response.
My coping mechanisms for my fantasies are similar to yours except that I do not, cannot, and will not ever share them with my wife, nor will we ever act them out in any way.
I have strongly dialed back my AVE because sometimes I feel guilty, sometimes I don’t, sometimes I think I should feel guilty, and it’s quite confusing sometimes.
I’m glad hat you and Cal have a more open and honest relationship and are able to meet each other’s needs.
I do not know how to address all my opinions without it being dreadfully long do while there is much more i want to say, i will be as concise as possible. I have been trying my best to understand what the Bible really says about this, and not just the cultural interpretations. I am less leaning toward legalism and trying to understand the heart of God and what he wants for my marriage to my wonderful wife of over 20 years. I can absolutely say that there are fantasies i have of other men enjoying my wife that I could never allow in real life. In fact, i am very overprotective and overly responsible irl. I do not secretly want the things that are depicted in my fantasies irl, but they do arouse me greatly. When she is extra aoused and engages in dirty talk and roleplay about very naughty feelings and desires, it makes my heart skip a few beats. I experience a desire for her that is so magnified when she acknowledges that there are men out there that would jump at the chance to screw her brains out. She is a beautiful sexy woman and these fantasies helps me to see her as a sexual woman and not just Mom, wife, business partner, household manager and all the responsibilities of life that come with those titles. I think it is important to share with your spouse, as long as your relationship is working based on trust. I have learned so much here lately about being the kind of man my wife needs me to be. Not what i think she needs, but what she really needs. I am still kind of early in this process of being more genuine and less superficial nice guy, but it is already allowing my wife to trust me more and take what I am saying as genuine and not questioning it. You need to be communicating well when sharing things of this magnitude. I will end with this. Just because kids play cops and robbers doesn’t mean the kids playing the robber really has it in his heart to steal from others.
I think that’s a fairly common fantasy M&M. It’s interesting that she is willing to engage in dirty talk about it sometimes. I think a lot of couples struggle with the type of honest communication you’re talking about, though.
It’s also a fairly hilarious analogy there at the end. As you say, it’s a long walk between pretending and actually carrying out something.
The difference, I think is that sexual drives and temptations can overwhelm us if we’re not careful.
Thanks for your response!
1. How do you deal with forbidden fantasies in your own life?
Forbidden fantasies would be anything breaking the trust of my marriage bond with my dear Anne; a given being our sacred, Christ-centered marriage bond. Biblical. Honoring.
Kinks are not forbidden when she (I) is (am) 100% on board.
Forbidden fantasies for me have been: 1) jacking to the thoughts/imagining of another woman – known or unknown to both of us, 2) FFM sex, 3) watching her having sex with another man, 4) having sex in the same room with another friend couple, 5) couple swapping, and 6) chat jilling and jacking.
I admit that I’ve masturbated many times to 🔥 MH accounts. Conjured up images float through my mind with my Anne involved or not involved.
I do lean into the strength of my marriage covenant when forbidden fantasies run rampant through my mind.
2. Do you succumb to them sometimes, and do you feel guilty afterwards?
My spirit usually wins out though my flesh is weak and my masturbation sometimes vividly imagines women not my wife. Just being honest!
I admit to having indulged in fantasies #1 and #6, above.
#1 is passive; that is active in my mind, not IRL. Nonetheless I have masturbated thinking of another woman and/or another woman with my wife in mind.
#6 has actually happened; (technically it is no longer a fantasy, I guess. I admit to having jacked and jilled with other women during online chats.
Do I slip and slide? Yes! My hunch is that most all of us would admit to that reality.
Yes, I feel guilty yet realize I’m not alone in succumbing and desire to do refrain. However, I don’t beat myself up.
3. Do you share them with your spouse?
Yes to #1 and No to #6.
In one case, I did share my view that watching porn together was ok and even beneficial. For a time in our marriage we looked at porn together. We were both on board. It resulted in masturbating or fucking. We loved it.
Then she began to have misgivings. She struggled with same sex arousal. We quit. Haven’t watched or looked at porn for decades.
4. How do you consistently avoid them?
For me it’s impossible 100% to avoid thinking about forbidden fantasies. Thankfully I get horny!!
The key is to pray through the verse that ‘no temptation has captured our imagination than such is common to all men and women, though God is faithful not to allow temptation to overcome us.’
I appreciate your being honest, SG. It seems that you two have a fairly good sex life and communication chanel.
Thanks for your response!
I might also add that it is almost impossible to completely contain your thoughts. The gift is a good marriage where you can share them without judgement
SilverGold, thanks for sharing. Your list of 6 fantasies are all ones that are very strong for me as well. In fantasy only, not IRL.
1. How do you deal with forbidden fantasies in your own life?
–I don't see anything wrong with entertaining fantasies, taboo or not.
2. Do you succumb to them sometimes, and do you feel guilty afterwards?
–no, we know that fantasy isn't real, it's fun to engage in imagination with the one I love. They help us to be more intimate sharing not just our bodies sexually but our minds.
3. Do you share them with your spouse?
–yes! Be both share our fantasies we know we'd never carry out in real life. There's been some things we thought were taboo that we shared with each other. Then discussed why we thought they were taboo. Once we realized there was nothing wrong with them then we enjoyed them without guilt.
4. How do you consistently avoid them?
–um, I don't 🙂
That’s an interesting take RHK. I think the key is that you have good communication and a commitment to the one you love.
Thank you for responding!
My wife and I share everything. We tell each other what turns us on and then we find a way to incorporate those fantasies in our sex life. We know we're committed only to each other so we don't fear that these fantasies reveal a hidden longing for something else. My wife loves the idea of getting her pussy licked by another woman. She knows this idea turns me on and so we create fantasies around it.
As long as it's just a fantasy for me, I love it… When my husband is eating my pussy after intense finger foreplay, I start telling him fantasy stories which he Loves! It gets us both SO hot… I also create actually role playing where I dress in different outfits I put together with story lines we "act out" at home to make it more yummy and exciting! I also create card games where the number and symbol on the card determines how many strokes he gets on his cock with my mouth wrapped around it or how long he eats my pussy! Sometimes we make a day of it! We're sore the next day but it's so worth it!
One of our biggest fantasies is going to a public theatre and me wearing no under clothes and him reaching for my pussy and taking me to orgasm and then me getting on my knees in front of him sucking him dry! I love the danger of doing it in public!
The theatre is a great fantasy hope you can get this fulfilled. I have done similar with wife many years ago.