Dry Orgasms – Requesting Advice
Dry Orgasms – a future “Dry Guy” seeking insights.
As a male, I find ejaculation—or semen, or an oozing load of cum—one of God’s mysterious gifts provided from our bodies! This was true for me both in masturbation as a single guy, and now in marriage as a beautiful part of lovemaking with my wife! It creates such intense intimacy. I L❤️VE this part of the experience—combining our happy endings with simultaneous explosions!
My favorite thing happens once we both cum during intercourse—and usually once my wife enjoys numerous sweet happy endings! I slide my dripping cock out and go down to her pulsating, oozing, warm mound and slowly lap up our mixture of love potions! It is an erotic, pleasing thing, and while I’m performing it, it is so wonderful to look up at her beautiful face to see how this added act of L❤️VE pleases my lover and best friend!
Anyhow, back to reality…
I have been recommended a surgery by my urologist that will result in the ejaculation part of my orgasmic pleasure being permanently shifted to a dry release. From what I am hearing, the orgasm climax sensation will remain. I’m just a bit skeptical about that, and, well, actually all of this!
I have sought several second opinions from other urologists, and based on my diagnosis and health history, this surgery is needed to keep me well. I’m really not sure at all how common this surgery is. I have heard that the age range of guys requiring this type of surgery varies, and that some have chosen to freeze semen prior to this procedure if they don’t feel their family-building time is complete. We are blessed in that department, so I won’t be freezing anything—although I will certainly be doing a “cum marathon” until surgery! After surgery, we will adjust, and pleasing my wife is my ultimate goal and priority!
Soooo to prepare…
I would like to seek any perspectives out there on dry orgasms.
From a wife’s perspective, has a husband’s inability to ejaculate lessened the lovemaking sensation experience in any way? And if so, are there any helpful hints that could guide me to be able to increase the orgasm experience for my wife once I become a “dry guy”?
From a husband’s side, especially from anyone who may have had this sort of medical experience, do you have any advice?
I have been in denial for a while on proceeding with this procedure, but I have come to grips with the fact that it is time to proceed in order to stay well!
I’m thinking about changing my personalized license plate on my car to “DRY~GUY”! 😂 So if you see a car zoom by with that tag, that will be me!
Blessings, and thank you for any guidance! I’m usually a silent participant here on MH and have gained much from reading here. You all have provided sooo much to enhance our marriage bed!
I was put on a medication for BPH. It caused dry orgasms. The medication had some other worse side effects too. I did not stay on it. I opted for trying natural remedies – but I’m not your doctor. I did NOT have prostate cancer or a life threatening condition.
Sorry to say that my wife and I both missed the semen. Sort of like you, I sometimes dive south to taste our pussy-penis mixed love potion after cumming in my wife’s pussy. Almost always after ejaculating in her vagina I scoop some out to rub on her nipples. Then she cums using her vibrator as I orally “clean off” her nipples.
It’s good to read of another married man who loves loves “protein shakes” from his wife’s pussy. It is an amazing erotic taste!
I suspect none of that was helpful for your situation- but let me tell you something that might help:
We are seniors with severe health issues including heart failure, treatable cancer, severe asthma, etc. etc. Our sex life has had to be modified because of our health limitations. We used to both have multiple orgasms every sex session. After retirement we had sex every other day. At least one simultaneous orgasm in a lovemaking session was the very pleasant norm.
Nowadays usually we each have one orgasm. I sometimes have to pop a nitroglycerin pill to stop the angina (chest pains). My wife now cums AFTER she’s been throughly fucked and filled. So no more simultaneous orgasms. Oral sex from my wife n even kissing sometimes is more limited bc of mouth sores from her chemo pills.
That may all sound sad but we don’t view it that way. We are very grateful for the sexual experiences we CAN still do. It may surprise you but our sexual experiences together are more fulfilling than ever! We have developed an attitude of gratitude. We love the lines from the Sheryl Crow song “Soak Up The Sun:”
“It’s not having what you want,
it’s wanting what you’ve got”
MH has been a good source for ideas. MH introduced us to role play and that has led to some amazing sexual experiences together.
When health causes our sex menu to change it’s like going to a buffet: Sometimes one of your favorite items is not on the buffet that visit. Do you get mad and storm out or do you get so disappointed that you won’t eat? Or do you enjoy the good food that IS still on the buffet?
I’m sorry you are going through this health crisis. I hope some of what I’ve said was helpful. I’ll pray for you n your wife.
I may be getting my prostate removed very soon, I have prostate cancer. So I am very interested in the comments.
Heart & prayers go out for you & your wife. Thank you for a great delicious description of your play. Seeing your cock sliding out of her with all the drippings of both of you glazing you up. And, you going down on her sugared up slit! Oh what fun it is to ride!
Thank you for your vulnerability to share your issue with us. Lord willing He heals you & you don't have to go through with it. I feel you, dude! To lose what you described up there? Wow. I am sorry for your loss.
I love the goal of pleasing your wife. From the way you talk, that will be achieved! I am sure you two will successfully succeed there.
Lord willing, no one would ever have to experience this, but it happens. Could happen to me, or anyone. Lean heavily on the comfort of God. Heaven will be worth all this trash we wade through one day. Your willingness to share & care as you speak has impressed me to reply, even though I can't speak to this experience, myself. (Sorry for replying if I shouldn't have.) Your attitude & tone speaks volumes to all of us, because all our bodies just don't obey our will, to some extent. Thank you for being an inspiration. A great value we all need to witness. God bless your surgery & sexual play to be a great success for you & your wife both.
Hello 2Becum1.
While you haven't specified the procedure you're facing, it sounds like one i had 5+ years ago.
My urologist is a superb surgeon, and while it took me a little more than 3 years for the nerves to completely heal, pleasurable orgasms do happen. For some, this healing is faster, and for some it doesn't happen.
Orgasms now are different because the “fluid” dynamics are gone. There's a pressure and a pressure relief involved in ejaculation, neither of which are now present.
If the reason for your procedure is the same as mine was, the trade-off was worth it, to me. Alternatives have their own sets of risks which i personally wanted to avoid.
Another consideration was my age, my wife's age and her physical condition. My decision to go through with my surgery may have been different if i was 20 years younger at the time.
All in all i’m pleased. While i DO miss the pleasure of ejaculation, i have been cured of the underlying condition, and still enjoy orgasms.
Best wishes as you finalize a decision, and God speed your recovery no matter what route you choose.
How does that surgery keep you well?
More and more I distrust doctors. They have all been forced into corporate healthcare to obey some idiot without a medical degree making medical policy. But I don't have one either, so maybe it's the right thing to do?
I don't even want a vasectomy because it releases sperm into the body in an unnatural way causing a person to develop sperm antibodies. I think it weakens the immune system.
It would help to understand your concerns if we knew more about what the procedure was and why your doctor thinks it's necessary, what it would help. I'm guessing NOT a simple vasectomy though?
I guess I'm one for trying holistic and homeopathic remedies first before moving onto any kind of surgery.
Now, there are supposedly ways of inducing dry orgasms WITHOUT triggering the ejaculation reflex and the precipitous dropoff afterwards which keeps men from staying hard and having other orgasms. I've been trying myself for a decade with Aneros and other methods but haven't gotten there yet. Honestly JS and 2BC1, I'd be interested in knowing if that's easier to achieve if medically a man cannot physically ejaculate.
I believe I have had the same procedure you're hinting about.. it's called a TURP.. a surgical procedure that removes a portion of the prostate . BPH, or an enlarged prostate ,is a common condition for men as they age. As the prostate enlarges, it impinges on the urethra , preventing complete emptying of the bladder. Results is urinary retention, characterized by a need to frequently urinate. When you do urinate, only a small amount of urine is released, necessitating frequent bathroom trips to empty the bladder. Usually as the condition begins, a nutritional suppliment helps improve bladder emptying. If that doesn't work, there are meds than can help. A final solution is surgical intervention, where the areas of the prostate that are pressing on / surrounding/ impinging on the urethra are surgically removed. Had this done after I awoke one a.m. & was unable to urinate @ all. Required a catheter being inserted into my bladder ( emptying over a liter of urine) My TURP fixed that issue, and I am blessed it didn't inhibit my ability to have an erection, or intercourse, but I did notice the amount of ejaculate
I produce is much less than before the procedure. Not much of a loss as the sensations have been unaffected.
Sadly, I have experienced "dry orgasms" for about 15 years (maybe more). And, as time has gone on, they are sometimes painful. A few have been really painful.
I have discussed this with several urologists. Their attitude seems to be, "Well, that 'just happens' to some men." My guess is that they would be a lot more enthusiastic about finding a solution if it was disrupting THEIR sex lives!
In my particular case, my best (semi-educated) guess is that the cause is some spinal nerve damage from some military injuries. If that is correct, then a urologist likely can't do anything about it. And, because improving my sex life falls into the "elective" treatment category, the VA is not going to spend tax dollars to help me enjoy cumming onto my next wife's face and tits.
Of course, that does not negate my desire to find a wife that wants to help me conduct "scientific research" that will help me cum onto her face and tits! 😉
I might miss it, but I don't think it would bother me much to not ejaculate any semen.
My wife would love it though! She has never liked semen on her at all.
I had the usual “old man” bathroom visits throughout the night as well as other flow problems.
My general practitioner put me on Tamsulosen. She warned me that one of the side effects could be decreased semen volume.
Yes, I have experienced that but my wife and I are still enjoying our sex life.