What Do You Most Look Forward To?
Hi everyone, J here again.
As a single Christian man waiting for marriage, I spend a lot of time imagining what it will be like when God blesses me with a wife. And honestly, I don’t just think about the passion and the sex. (Although yes, I imagine that a lot too!) I think about the little things—the things that make love feel whole.
I imagine us laughing together until we’re out of breath, holding her close on a quiet morning, praying side by side before bed. I imagine family meals, shared chores, even the moments of frustration that help us grow stronger together.
And then of course, there’s the intimacy. I imagine the excitement of discovering each other’s bodies, the heat of passionate nights, the sweetness of waking up still wrapped in each other’s arms. I imagine her touch, her kiss, her voice whispering in the dark. I imagine being able to give her my whole self, and being able to receive all of her in return.
But I know I’m not the only one here who dreams like this. So, I’d love to ask a few questions, both to those who are married, and to those who are still waiting.
On the personal relationship side:
- What do you most look forward to (or already treasure) in the day-to-day of marriage?
- Is it the simple routines—like cooking together, praying together, or just sharing a bed every night?
- Or is it the bigger milestones—building a home, raising children, or growing old side by side?
- For those married, what’s something small that turned out to mean more than you expected?
On the physical/sexual side:
- For those waiting:
- What do you most look forward to discovering with your future spouse’s body?
- Is it kissing? Touching? Oral? Just the closeness of being skin-to-skin for the first time?
- For those who are married:
- What surprised you most about sex after you tied the knot?
- Was it easier, harder, hotter, more awkward—or more wonderful—than you imagined?
- And how do you keep it fun, exciting, and something you both look forward to again and again?
I know these are deep and personal questions, but that’s the beauty of this space. We can talk about both the heart and the heat.
Thanks for reading, and I can’t wait to hear your thoughts. May we all continue to wait with hope and trust in God’s timing.
– J
Responses will come. Don't take anxiety about that. Somehow God will show His faithfulness to us, only because He knows every detail about our lives. This platform does not have a messaging feature and that is VERY GOOD in order to protect marriages and not give the Devil a chance to ruin this platform to hell.
Just remember that the married folks here do pray for us and they have to keep secrets of their owns in order to preserve their lives. So dont feel bad when responses take time. The stories here help but they do not carry weight. On the contrary it can cause more problems. That is why I believe that the Holy Spirit does not lead all singles, or numerous numbers of singles, here. I guess only those whom He trusts he brings and keeps them here.
I hope MH has its own prayer people, who pray with their spouses. Pray for us singles. Maybe you have forgotten what its like to be alone and forgotten, or feel like that & worse. Maybe you don't remember what the Lord meant "Its not good for a man/(woman) to be alone". My humble request is to pray for us singles on this platform and in your Church.
My humble prayer request for me is that God would just do what He promised me regarding marriage companionship. When I came on this platform, I loved it so much! I had no mental health problems. Now the loneliness & despair feels so great, that it makes suicide look like a good option. Please pray for me & us singles. I hope & think this will not be my last chat on this platform. And if it is, it will not be in death, but in the goodness of God.
God bless MH Admins, community & website, till the coming of the Lord. Love you guys.
Your comment moved me so much! Though I am another single, I pray regularly for every single and every couple on this wonderful forum. God has a great purpose for every person here, whether that includes marriage or not. Please don't give up hope or allow Satan to destroy you with despair and loneliness! Jesus is your ultimate love, and He does fully satisfy. I have found that for myself. Seek Him first in every area of your life. Dedicate your life to reaching others for Him. The world is going over a cliff into hell as we speak. Then, if God brings you a lovely sexy Godly wife, she will walk alongside you in your life mission. I will keep praying that He gives you the desires of your heart!
To begin with you are to be commended for keeping yourself for your wife whenever I read of anyone here who has done so. I have the utmost admiration for them.
For us it was decades ago when we started dating. He really didn't have any church experience and mine was pretty much just going through the paces.
We were having sex before marriage. He was more experienced than I and taught me things.
I love all hearing a man considering all the things that you are.
However being here on this site which is chiefly about monogamous sex in marriage. I'm guessing that you've been reading some of the stories.
Our advice to you or anyone in your circumstances would be first to know yourself. know what things it is you hope to experience in a marriage. Intimacy is the very heart of a successfully monogamous marriage. Before you commit to marriage establish an open conversation about sex. Determine what it is each of you have considered doing with your spouse. You don't know that both of you are going to be acceptable to doing all of those things.
You need to establish the desire to be sexually adventurous call explorers. Be willing to try new things together.
Both of you need to realize the greater blessing is in giving.
It's in giving that you receive.
You will find that there will be times that sex will not be available and you need to be kind and considerate and I understanding of one another.
You will find that there will be times that you need to support one another and be there for one another.
You need to be able to tell one another everyday the good things about themselves. The little things that you see about them that you like.
You need to voice the way you feel about one another. Not just think it but say it.
After marriage practice these things and other little things like buying lingerie together so each of you gets to know what the other likes.
Listen to one another. What they want or don't want you to do. You can think that you know how to do anything but it's only going to work if what you're doing is applicable to the person you're with. He or she may not enjoy what it is that you do. If this is so say it. And talk out why. Don't get mad with one another about those things but discuss them and come to a resolution about them. The two of you are entering into a sacred relationship and as I said intimacy is the heartbeat of that relationship between the two of you. Don't let religious people tell you what is unacceptable. Find what is acceptable and unacceptable through scripture. People are biased, quite often based on their past experience.
Do what it is that the two of you enjoy together as long as it is safe and legal and within the permissions of scripture.
What do you most look forward to (or already treasure) in the day-to-day of marriage?
Is it the simple routines—like cooking together, praying together, or just sharing a bed every night?
Or is it the bigger milestones—building a home, raising children, or growing old side by side?
I think for me it is the former: the small things that make up life. Just the idea of having a man in my bed, or taking a shower with him, is so delightful and intriguing! I think of having the freedom to just look at him and admire him, to touch him whenever I want, to cuddle with him, hold his hand, make him a meal, rub his back, whatever! I've shared on here before how I don't intend to have children. I don't feel called to it in any way, and my health has greatly played into that. So I will enjoy putting my focus just on my man. I pray he and I will love and serve Christ together, and love each other more as a result.
For those waiting:
What do you most look forward to discovering with your future spouse’s body?
Ooh, so many things! Just kissing is going to be so hot! I've never kissed anyone. Just the freedom to touch and kiss any body part will be amazing. I love pecs, arms, butts, v-lines, balls…pretty much everything lol. I definitely look forward to being claimed by a real cock and filled with his cum. And I REALLY want him to eat my pussy. Oof, these questions are raising my temperature!
My husband and I have been married almost 10 years and have known each other for almost 22. I was going through an agnostic period when I met him and didn't return to the faith until a bit later. He remains agnostic. So, we didn't wait until marriage, regrettably. Nonetheless, we've now long been married, and as a believing wife, I keep in mind 1 Corinthians 7 and 1 Peter 3 all the time. As for the marriage bed, I'm happy to say it's alive and well in our 40s! We went through a period where we weren't into it as much after the birth of our son and the toddler years, but we're back at it these last couple of months, and it's wonderful again. For us, we're well past the stage of exploration. We know exactly what we like. We're both introverts, so we like it simple: we don't need novelty, we just thoroughly enjoy the process of our two favorite positions (horizontal cowgirl and missionary) and get endless joy from them.
The non-sexual thing I look forward to most is simply going through life knowing I have the best possible teammate—a "helpmate", someone who not only loves me more than anyone else in the world, but someone who will have my back no matter what, and someone who I can share anything with—thoughts, feelings, experiences, and more. That includes everyday things like:
– Running a home and raising children.
– Common joys like good food, good music and church fellowship.
– Common troubles like bad people in positions of influence, or supporting a friend or family member through a hard season.
– Special joys like a major promotion or the birth of a child.
– Deeper sorrows like the loss of a loved one.
Through the good and the bad, the intense and the mild, it's such a comfort to have someone who can share it with you and be on your side through it all, amplifying the joys and helping to carry the heavy sorrows. I know not all marriages manifest that kind of relationship, but I'm determined to put the work in and find someone with whom I can build that kind of relationship. Even though I'm in my late 20s and still have no active path toward marriage, I still don't see myself settling for anything less than an excellent relationship. I've seen bad and barely-tolerable marriages in my close family, and I'm pretty sure I'd rather have a 50/50 shot at finding a great marriage or staying single my whole life rather than settling for a 90% chance at a merely tolerable marriage.
On the sexual side, there are lots of things I look forward to, but not any one act in particular. In my teens, I used to fantasize a lot more about specific sex acts. Now as I've matured into my late 20s, more and more I think less about the acts and more about the relationship and the intimacy. What I most look forward to is that incredible intimacy and vulnerability—baring my body, my heart, and my soul before the woman I love, and being met with only love, acceptance, and pleasure. And I look forward to that being reciprocal—witnessing with reverence as she likewise bares her body, heart, and soul before me, and getting to meet her willing vulnerability by lavishing an abundance of love, acceptance and pleasure upon her.
But I will say, your skin-to-skin comment resonated with me. I've found I have a deep desire to simply hold my future wife close, our torsos pressed together and our legs entwined, our heads resting at each other's shoulders—with as much surface area of skin touching as possible—and sometimes pulling our heads back just enough for a deep kiss. Mmm, that just sounds so intimate to me. I would love to just lay like that for hours with her… but that's probably unrealistic, because within minutes, we'd be too horny to stay still, and we'd have to pound each other's brains out, lol! Then maybe once we're exhausted we can just lay quietly and cuddle naked together for a while, haha!
Hi J,
Since I’m relaxing (okay, masturbating) in my fav leather power recliner reading MH, I spotted your discussion point and thought I might respond only to your last question: how do we keep it fun and exciting.
Our not so well kept secret is that we are both really into keeping our sexual fantasies open, honest and frequent. Role play situations are probably our fav, having Jim be a stranger and “pick me up” in a wide range of situations. He knows how hot I think a certain amount of exhibitionism can be – the opportunity to be a slut, but only his slut.
This keeps things fresh and exciting, and we both enjoy it so much!
So, as an example, tomorrow night I may just be that very horny (creamy) slut that flirts with him at the airport bar and ends up with a mouthful of cock during our long drive home …
Before I got married I always looked forward to laying back on the bed naked, my knees bent and falling open to each side. My husband having power over me holding my ankles apart looking between my legs telling me “good girl”. My pussy clenching and my bottom wiggling as I moan for him and struggle against the rope tying my wrists together above my head.
That’s a hot visual SGH!