A Wet Milestone
It’s October as I write this. I wanted to share something with you all that I’ve been experiencing the last few weeks.
I’ve mentioned on here my desire to learn to squirt. I love my wetness. I enjoy the feel of either humping a towel or rubbing my soaked thong, and I use my dildo without any lube except my own arousal. Taking that to the next level is something I really hope to accomplish, not to mention that I want to share the nectar of my body with my future husband someday, Lord willing.
Well, my masturbation sessions often start with using my fingers to rub and tease my clit and pussy, but as of late, my wrists get so tired! (That may also be due to inflammation in my joints.) Thus I’ve been doing more grinding, since it doesn’t involve my hands. I also love the feel of laying on my belly and gyrating my ass as I grind my naked pussy against a bunched-up towel; my butt is sensitive to movement and the bouncing flesh just turns me on so much.
Anyhow, for perhaps the last three or four sessions, I’ve been noticing that when I push my vaginal muscles outward (I think it’s called “bearing down”, like trying to urinate), a little gush of hot liquid leaks out. I’ve tried this many times before and nothing would happen.
My body is very tense. For example, it’s almost impossible for me to make myself pee, even if I really need to; those muscles have to relax and release it on their own.
But now I sense something changing deep within me. I’ve consistently been working up a sweat with delicious grinding, creating a slick warm spot on my towel, then bearing down and pushing out fluid.
It takes a minute or so between attempts, almost like it has to reset. I can’t do it and then immediately do it again. It also seems like I can only do it in this prone position, lying on my front, with my legs spread fairly wide. So far I haven’t been able to “reach” that same sensation of letting go while I’m on my back rubbing myself or using my dildo.
I also have no idea what this fluid is. From my research, it seems that there are three fluids a woman can secrete besides lubricating mucus: urine, female ejaculate, and squirt. I don’t fully understand the difference between the last two. This might be female ejaculate, since it isn’t coming out with any powerful stream, just a quick (but noticeable) hot leaking sensation.
I always finish masturbating with a moist patch on my towel, or a cream-streaked dildo, but now I think it’s more than that. Just a week ago, I pushed out a number of spurts of fluid, orgasmed, and then looked at the towel. There was a bigger-than-usual wet spot. It gave me a thrill, to be honest. Maybe I’m closer to unlocking more secrets that God has built into my body. I sure hope so!
Your progress never ceases to amaze–well done! You've come a long way in the last few years and I've no doubt God has more in store for you in the future. 🙂
Thank you! I praise God for these unfolding blessings! And it's a treat to share those finds with this community! Your encouragement always means so much!
Love hearing the continued progress! Super hot too 🥵😂
So this was done just with vulva stimulation? I wonder if there’s some way you can work some gspot stimulation in there too when “bearing down”?
I don’t know about the “bearing down” part when it comes to G-spot stimulation, but a quick search can turn up some juicy choices in the not-too-expensive range.
I have been trying it while using my dildo! For some reason it is difficult to squirt with something inside me. I don't know why, since the urethra is above the vagina. Still figuring it out! But lately I've done a lot of just lying on my back and rubbing my clit and I get to squirting numerous times. So it seems more clitoral.
This is awesome, LLL! It's beautiful to hear this from you, that you're loving and embracing the way God made your body as a woman. The female body, and female sexuality, is fearfully and wonderfully made, and it is a good and right and joyous thing to recognize that truth, embrace it, and enjoy it!
I especially love these quotes from you:
"I love my wetness."
"I use my dildo without any lube except my own arousal."
"My butt is sensitive to movement, and the bouncing flesh just turns me on so much."
"There was a bigger-than-usual wet spot. It gave me a thrill, to be honest."
It's so beautiful how you are so fully embracing how your body and sexuality have been made, instead of hiding it from yourself as so many women do. It's such a tragedy, and frankly a serious failure of responsibility, that the church has not adequately taught its members to embrace what is arguably the most beautiful part of all God's physical creation. I'm so grateful that God has shown you grace to escape that tragic repression of such a special gift, and instead to welcome it openly and fully!
I was just praying yesterday for my future wife, that she would love and enjoy her body like you do, even in these years before we come together. I take this story as encouragement that there are God-fearing, Christian, single women out there who are embracing their bodies and their sexuality in healthy ways as they wait for marriage—not repressing it, and not using it in unhealthy and promiscuous ways, but exploring on their own and focusing on the day when the right man will come along to join with them and share their respective gifts with each other. Of course, this wonderful mindset of yours is already well-known on MH, but it's especially encouraging to me today. Thank you!
Not that you need it, but I encourage you to keep up the wonderful self-exploration you've been doing, discovering and enjoying all the beautiful and pleasurable things about your body as you await the right man to share those things with. And above all, keep the faith! Your love for God and commitment to his ways are the things that shine through most beautifully about your story.
Now as a few points of curiosity…
I find it interesting that your new "gush" takes a minute to reset, but it makes sense to me. If I had to guess, it may simply be that when you're aroused and playing, you're slowly but steadily producing some kind of womanly fluid deeper inside somewhere, and so it builds up over time, and now you've foudn a way to release that buildup all at once. If this is true, it would be kind of like urine in the bladder—where you can expel it every once in a while, but not when you're already empty—except this fluid isn't in the bladder, it's somewhere in the sexual system. On that note, it IS the vagina where this fluid comes out, right? Just double-checking, because I know ladies have both their urethra and skene's glands down in the same area too, and maybe other parts I don't know about too! Women are beautifully complicated, haha.
Does this fluid that comes out when bearing down have a similar consistency to your natural arousal lubrication? Or is it noticeably different? I haven't really researched into this area, but I wasn't aware there may be a difference between natural lubrication, female ejaculate, and "squirt". Frankly, there are so many opinions, so much pseudoscience, and so little real science that it's hard to tell what's true about it.
Thank you for the kind words of encouragement! It blesses me if my journey blesses others! It is God's goodness that directed me out of that sexual repression, and I have a strong burden to help other young women step into freedom concerning sexuality and femininity. I am praying for wisdom about how to do that!
To answer your questions: squirt actually is from the bladder! I didn't know that myself and was reading up on it. From what I understand, female ejaculate is from the vagina and is just very copious arousal fluid. I'm still trying to understand squirt because, as you said, there is a lot of pseudo-science and speculation. The Skene's glands may contribute fluid, which then comes through the urethra. This post is about 6 months old now lol, so I have come quite a long way and am squirting pretty regularly and immensely! There is another Christian sexuality forum on Discord (though there are elements of it that I don't agree with or consider Biblical) where I've been able to share my story more in real time. All that to say, learning to squirt has definitely taught me more about my body's capabilities. Yes, squirt seems to be slippery like vaginal fluid and has little scent. It is very interesting!
I'm blessed to hear your desire to bring healthier teaching on sexuality! I have a similar burden. I never experienced what I would call "sexual repression", because as a child, I was never taught that sex was dirty, or that masturbation was wrong, etc. But I did grow up with very little sexual education, and my parents' silence on the matter implied it was an awkward and taboo subject.
I've commented before on other discussions that around 12-13 years old, I started having frequent erections and an irrepressible interest in the naked female form. When it started, I had no idea why. I didn't feel like I could talk about it with my parents either. So I explored on my own, and I eventually stumbled on porn. When I first saw a picture of a penis in a vagina, I didn't have the slightest clue what that was, or that it was a normal and God-designed act. But by the grace of God, I was able to educate myself, and eventually find MarriageHeat, and come to understand sexuality WAY better than most Christians, despite being a virgin.
Because of that story, I have a desire similar to yours to help lead more Christians along the path I followed, but with only the good, Godly influences I found along the way that helped me the most, and leaving out the ones that could've caused far more harm if God hadn't protected me. I'll let you know if/when I am ever able to start anything, because who knows, maybe there's a way our shared passion could enable us to team up on some sort of ministry. Having a woman on the team would definitely help with the outreach to young women! The timeline seems a bit far out for me, as I have a lot of other life priorities, but if we're both still around here when God brings me an opportunity, I'll see if there's a place for you to bring your story, experiences and knowledge to the ministry too.
Sorry it took so long to get this post published for you. I help with the editing and publishing process here, so I'm aware we currently have quite a long wait time between submission and publication due to the high volume of submissions we've had, which have slowly piled up over the last couple years.
But in the time since you've submitted this post, it's awesome to hear that you've made even more progress, and if I'm understanding correctly, you've essentially achieved your goal and learned how to squirt! Congratulations! You're an inspiration, girl. Not only is that ridiculously hot, it's seriously impressive that you taught yourself how to do it!
I earnestly pray that you get a man who sees, understands, and appreciates what an incredible gift it is that you've taken your sexual education and self-exploration so seriously. Well, maybe "seriously" isn't the right word, but "intentionally" might fit better. Intentional, dedicated, consistent effort toward self-improvement is a rare thing, so the fact that you have it is a huge blessing to yourself, obviously, but also to whichever man you choose to share your life with.
Sorry if this sounds excessively complimentary or gushy, but I'm really passionate about intentionality in self-improvement, and I'm really passionate about good stewardship of sexuality, and your story resonates strongly with both of those passions. It's so encouraging and inspiring! Thanks so much for sharing, sister!
I thought of some other questions I'm curious about too.
From what you're describing, it kind of sounds like you have some level of voluntary control over it. Are you intentionally squirting at different times while masturbating? Or is it happening mostly automatically at the point of orgasm? My understanding of squirting or female ejaculation (which I understood to be, if not the same, at least very similar phenomena) was that it usually happened with a woman's involuntary orgasmic (or pre-orgasmic) contractions. Or at least, that's how I've heard it described in erotica on MH and elsewhere. Is that how it is for you, or would you describe it differently?
And also, how does this "squirting" actually behave? Are you simply leaking copious amounts of sexy juices all at once, which then drip down? Or are you actually expelling it out and away from your body, similar to a man's ejaculation, or spitting from your mouth?
If you do ever start some kind of ministry for teaching Godly sexuality, yes, let me know! I am praying about how to reach young women with what I've learned. It is a blessing to hear from others who have that burden as well.
No apologies needed about the submission process! I know it takes time. It's just so great to know there are so many contributors! Thank you for your part in running this site and editing the stories! It is greatly appreciated!
So for me, the squirting is a fairly strong gush, like a stream of piss, and I do seem to have control over it. I will "push it out" throughout my masturbatory session. I think the more I do it, the more it gains momentum. I've had a couple times where I was lying on my back with my legs bent a bit, and I felt the stream hit my inner thigh. So it must shoot out a few inches. It's so crazy writing this! 😋 But I really really enjoy the sensation.
Oh my LLL… Very juicy discussion 😉
I love that you take this so seriously, and honestly, this was hot to read. I quite enjoyed the mental imagery.
I’m no expert either, but I’ve long thought that female ejaculate was a large build up of natural feminine lubrication that was pushed out suddenly by an intense squeezing of the vaginal muscles.
I don’t know, but it’s hot, whatever it is. I’m very turned on by feminine arousal, and the more the better in my book.
Whatever you do, keep soaking that towel and creaming that dildo, then tell us all about it 😉
Thank you KM! So glad it was a hot read for you! 😉 It's been a marvelous journey, and I STILL feel like I have so much to learn! So you are right about female ejaculate being from the vagina. Squirt is from the bladder. So crazy! I am enjoying it immensely and will definitely keep sharing!
Congratulations on learning more about your body, & how it responds to different stimuli. I'm sure many reading here share in the enjoyment of reading about your awakening to new experiences. You may notice the discharge you experience is different in color or odor. Urine has an ammonia like odor, some discharge is clear-white "creamy" in color,is believed to come from the Skene glands. Which is believed to be similar to a man's prostate gland. While it's role isn't yet clearly understood, it's believed to be tied to vaginal health by preventing UTI's, and provide lubrication during intercourse, enhancing enjoyment leading to orgasm.
Further information can be found by a google search on "fluids released during female ejaculation"
( including potential reasons for why some women do & others don't)
I'll offer some advice, based on our experience. First, use a good lube when performing internal or external vaginal play. You may find that with lube & a light touch to aroused tissues, sensation is increased & more enjoyed. Taking time to concentrate on the pleasurable sensations being felt will build to a stronger orgasm than quickly & firmly grinding out a "fast" orgasm.
I've posted before, as a result of our experimentation, Sexual response though it is natural, it also a learned response. You can teach your body to respond by focusing on sensation & what feels best. Masturbation allows the individual to learn what areas to touch for greatest pleasure, how hard, soft, fast or slow , so one can feel the greatest, most intense, pleasure. my Mary will seep fluid with genital massage to her clit & swollen lips (when aroused) but will gush fluid when massaged internally in the g-spot area, with finger or toys. Lube enhances her sensations during play. I've noticed she has greater / stronger release when she's kneeling on the mattress & I provide that internal stimulation..or if she's standing beside the bed when the same stimulation is provided.. More & stronger release than when lying on the bed. I do get great enjoyment in watching her face & her body respond to strongly to my activities. I Thank God for our connection!
Thank you so much for that advice! I want to explore more ways to masturbate so I don't become "locked in" to one way. However, right now I am focusing on cutting down how long it takes me to reach orgasm, since for years it's almost always taken me a long time. But absolutely, I will keep enjoying experimenting! And I love hearing about how married couples bring each other pleasure and try different things. Thank you for sharing that!
You are a beautiful woman, LovelyLonelyLady.
I pray reading about your masturbation journey inspires other Christians, particularly women, both single and married.
I have been married and fucked for 29 years. This year I will have been masturbating myself for 44 years, and I believe that even I can learn more.
I shall renew my commitment to frig myself.
God bless
Sarah K.
LLL,
Congratulations on another milestone!
I have read several times over the years that female ejaculation (squirting) is a "learned" response for most women. So, as you continue to do your "homework", I'm sure that it will improve for you. (I do not think that there are two separate fluids. I think that some women squirt their pussy juice, while others don't. And, in a small percentage, that happens without any "training" at all.)
Your continued positive attitude — fueled by a desire to overcome past bad teachings and to please your future husband — is being rewarded. Along the way, your overall health (and especially your sexual health) continues to improve.
And now, a few specific points.
This quote blew me away on several levels: "I also love the feel of laying on my belly and gyrating my ass as I grind my naked pussy against a bunched-up towel; my butt is sensitive to movement and the bouncing flesh just turns me on so much." First, the obvious raw and intense sexuality. WOW!! I was already looking for something "interesting", and your posts do not disappoint. (Yes, I'm stroking my thick dick while reading and typing. Mmmmmm, thank you!) Women have an ability to be attracted to their own ass in a way that is awkward for men. I used to sometimes have my first wife lie face-down on the edge of the bed while I stood nearby and rubbed my hot dick along the shapely contours of her ass. I suspect that you would find this enjoyable even more than she did.
Secondly, I have often wondered about whether women are able to enjoy such an activity and position. (The openness and honesty that this forum allows and encourages is very helpful to me. It overcomes obstacles created by the "feminine mystique" nonsense of modern society.) I have long thought that women can and should enjoy "humping", and your post confirms that I was right.
Thirdly, with regard to pleasing your future husband, I have no doubt that you will succeed — greatly. I have long wanted to be humped (not pegged) by a wife. I was able to get my first wife to lie on top of my leg and hump my thigh only a couple of times during a 16-year marriage. I found it such a turn-on. (I don't think that she achieved orgasm that way, but it was a great option as foreplay.) The idea of a wife humping my thigh and then having her warm pussy juice squirting on me while she cums is just an over-the-top THRILL!! (I would take it as an intense compliment.)
Now, because you have mentioned several times that you are attracted to men's butts (I would hope that all women are), here is the "next level" option. I would love to have a wife hump my butt in that same way. (Again, NOT pegging — which I consider a definite taboo.) I just think that would be a way for each spouse to experience a little bit of what the other one normally feels, and yet without crossing any moral barriers. It would be a form of emotional and sexual "sharing". I would also take it as a compliment to my attractiveness — as I'm sure women do when their husbands hump their ass.
Finally, just an added compliment to the visual that you have given me of your well-toned ass bouncing and jiggling. FUCK, that's hot. I would enjoy a wife putting on a masturbation show for me like that, while I stroke my dick. She could watch in the mirror as I enjoy the show and then shoot my hot cum all over her ass and back. (Or, if she cums first, then she could roll over and squirt her pussy juice all over my dick and balls. Then, I could return the compliment by shooting onto her pussy and belly. In my younger years, it also would have flown up to her tits and face!)
I think that your continued practice will yield positive results for you and your future husband. Feel free to report. 😉
Ooh, I have fantasized about humping my future husband's ass! I would love to do that!
Thanks for the high praise! It has been amazing figuring all this stuff out. And I am honored if I can bring some heat to my readers. 😉 I will sure keep up with updates!
Good for you LL.
In case there happens to be pain while bearing down and severe discomfort during peeing or squirting its most likely coz your overworking the muscles. Pleasure is fun but the muscles have to work for that squirt or orgasm. Females do have a much lesser refractory period, but it does not mean the muscles don't feel weary. Also dont compel yourself to feel you are not enough, or not able to have sexual enjoyment, just because you cannot squirt. Squirting is overrated. The fun in sex for your husband is your willingness, comfort, right freaky attitude, and delight of your pussy clenching his penis tight as you orgasm with wetness, regardless of the squirt. I learned this from Sheila Wray Gregoire & Dr. [Juli Slattery]. Give your body the rest it needs and it will give you maximum pleasure, without straining. Hoped it helped.
Amen to that! Yeah, my muscles definitely need a rest after a session lol. I am figuring out how frequent or comfortable it is for me to masturbate (and to squirt; it doesn't happen every time, and that's okay). I appreciate Sheila Gregoire's stuff too! Definitely learned a lot from her blog. Thank you for the good advice! It is such a fun journey and I am so thankful for the support of this community!
I am very proud of you LLL!
My take on all of this is, for the most powerful orgasms, and if you’re in a hurry, the quickest, would include “prepping” yourself for the best experience by relaxing on your back, bring your nipples into your party with nip clips if you have them (east to tug the chain while you are fingering) and please don’t forget the anal plug as it stimulates your entire sex zones.
Work this hard and you’ll be a believer!
I am Creamy Patty for a reason, so update me on your progress and I will read and play to you!
Thanks CP! Your posts have encouraged and taught me a lot in the years I've been here! Embracing my sexual fluids is a big part of that. I haven't found much pleasure from self-stimulating my nipples, and I have done just a teeny bit of testing a finger in my ass. So that will all take time!
I have an idea for you there on the nipple stimulation! We're opposite sexes, but it may still work because the underlying physiology is pretty much the same, and because we both have nipples, haha!
As a male, I was interested in nipple stimulation, but didn't get much out of it at all, if anything. But somehow, over time, my nipples became one of my most sensitive spots! So much so that sometimes, I suspect I can actually get aroused and hard faster by stimulating my nipples than by touching my penis! Where I am now, I still haven't been able to orgasm just from nipple stimulation, (though that was never really the goal), but it does SIGNIFICANTLY increase my arousal and desire, and significantly increases my pleasure when paired with penile stimulation.
I don't have a step-by-step guide or detailed instructions to offer on how to develop sexually sensitive nipples, but I do have two tips (haha, nipple pun!) that I think contributed to this very real and intense increase in my own nipples' sexual sensitivity.
1: Mindset and belief. Believe that the nipples CAN be an erogenous zone, even though they don't feel that way now, and believe that change can happen. Belief has a huge effect on both our conscious and subconscious thought, and the state of your mind is an important foundation for the next step.
2: Paired stimulation. In the scientific study of neuroplasticity, which is the ability of the brain and nervous system to adapt to various stimulation from the environment around us, there's a phrase that says "neurons that fire together wire together." It's similar to muscle memory, where a certain series of actions becomes so closely linked in our minds that we can perform them in quick succession without even thinking about it—like simultaneously engaging the dozens of muscles that are required to balance and walk. But instead of muscle memory, it's more sensory linking. I suspect what I was able to do is train my nipples to receive the sensation of sexual pleasure by frequently stimulating them at the same time as experiencing other sexual stimulation, such as physical stimulation of my penis, anus and/or prostate, and mental stimulation through fantasy. Because the nerves for my nipples were being stimulated at the same time as other sexual pleasure zones, my nipples got slowly grafted into the sexual pleasure path along with my other erogenous zones. At some point I'm curious to try this with another area of skin that's not usually an erogenous zone to see just how far I can push this concept, but it's more of a curiosity than a real priority in my life.
Thanks for those suggestions, Patient Passion! I will start implementing them a bit. I've found that my left nipple is way more sensitive than my right, so it can feel nice to rub it against something while I masturbate.
You're welcome! Interestingly enough, I noticed a similar thing, where my left nipple was more sensitive too! Although it was only slightly more sensitive. Out of, ehm, "curiosity", I just tested it again. You know, for "science", haha! They're both quite sensitive at this stage, but the left still seems to be a tiny bit more responsive. So who knows, maybe it's normal for there to be a difference!
I have been following the comments, they have been a delight to read, so encouraging.
I have been working on a story, when overnight an email arrived from a friend.
It was a link to a 2003 [study] – Sexual Attitudes and Abstinence Among Christian Youth (at a mid western college)
In the email she included these excerpts:
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In summary, it appears that at each stage of the relationship, both males and females liberalize the appropriateness of sexual behaviors for females. For example, five percent of the males approve of sexual intercourse for a girl with a stranger while less than one percent of the females approve of this behavior. But by the time the couple are planning marriage, 25 percent of the boys and 12 percent of the girls approve of intercourse. This latter "approval rating" is far below the actual sexual intercourse rate for the Christian youth surveyed (roughly 54 percent for males and 36 percent for females). There is evidence that intercourse is engaged in at all stages of the relationship: twenty-eight percent of the youth surveyed related to their sexual partner as a "friend" (Twelker , 2002). The bottom line is that what youth say they approve of is very different that what they actually do.
Table 19 reveals that most youth receive information about reproduction from schools (48 percent). Parents provide information to about 23 percent of the youth, while friends come in a distant third at 16 percent. There are no significant gender differences (χ 2 = 1.43, p = .840).
Table 21 reveals that 40 percent of the youths relied on friends to provide information about masturbation, while only three percent gained information from parents. The media provided 29 percent of the youth information about masturbation. There were statistically significant gender differences (χ 2 = 13.28, p = .021). More males than females gained information from friends while more females than males gained information from the media.
The discrepancy between how youth think and how youth behave has been discussed at great lengths. This should come as no surprise. Writers such as David Elkind have attributed this discrepancy between thought and action to youths not being fully able to exercise their newly-developed skills in formal operational thought. The youth in this study come across as espousing what might be termed traditional values in a number of areas including gender roles, cohabitation, and limits to sexual behavior in relationships. One could argue that perhaps these are not really values at all, but simply attitudes or opinions that do not have the commitment behind them that guides behavior. We hear a lot of rhetoric about the erosion of values in our society. Perhaps what we are facing is a Christian subculture that is not being guided by any values at all, just whims and attitudes and opinions. This argument can be substantiated by the observation that youth today are being affected by myths or false expectations about what their same-sex peers are doing (such as having sex) as well as what peer are thinking about them (such as shock at their being sexually active). These data suggest that opinions and attitudes that are based largely on myths and false perceptions must be corrected before values can be fostered that guide abstinence behavior.
Some Concluding Thoughts There are those who say that it is time that parents assume full responsibility for teaching and nurturing their children about sex. Some of these people feel that the school might serve as a backup, but not the initiator of or prime disseminator of sex education. For this strategy to succeed, parents must be comfortable with their own sexuality, well-versed in sexual ethical decision-making strategies, and comfortable in initiating sex education with their children. If parents did a good job, then whatever the school did could be complementary. Unfortunately, we cannot assume that parents will be in a position to act as teachers and nurturers without some assistance in the form of sex education, sexual counseling, or in some cases, sexual therapy.
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These are students at a Christian midwestern college. Reading the report sexual activity increased with decreasing importance of religion.
Most of sex education came for school, and about masturbation from peers.
This study was from 2003, but I bet not much has changed.
As parents (generally, not us specifically) we are failing our children, we are not teaching them, they are learning from the world, and that teacher (the world) is a bad one.
We need a comprehensive program to help parents, for themselves to learn truly what sex and sexuality is as Christians, the place of masturbation in that teaching. And then how to teach our children, with friends and church as the support – not as teachers.
A program to teach true purity to our children.
I believe there is spiritual value in masturbation, as thanksgiving and offering to God for the gift of our bodies and sexuality. But try as I might, I can find little support for that. My gut tells me it is out there, but hidden.
One clue was Watts comment: https://marriageheat.com/2025/01/26/can-christian-singles-write-erotica/#comment-73403
"Haredi groups in Israel (ultra orthodox Jewish sects) where the mothers teach their daughters to masturbate"
All I can find is that Haredi women are strong in their community.
Surely someone can find one of these women to ask questions.
Sarah K.
I would comment here, but you never respond to mine Sarah.
Oh my dear CreamyPatty.
So much of what you write I agree with.
"I am very proud of you LLL!"
I am proud of you CreamyPatty, for how encouraging of self-masturbation you are for LLL and others.
https://marriageheat.com/2026/03/02/a-thankful-message-from-gina-hornygg-mamagg/#comment-74171
Thank you CreamyPatty, I feel honoured that I could inspire you and Jim to "creative masturbation sessions".
I love hearing about your masturbation and love of Jim's cock.
I think your passion is godly and beautiful.
See my comment on women traditionally having higher sex drives?
https://marriageheat.com/2025/09/28/is-my-appetite-for-cock-just-weird/#comment-74040
Would I be correct in guessing you masturbate at least once a day, sometimes more?
Plus your sex with Jim and your appetite for cock, I find it so encouraging to read about it, I am pleased your write here on MH for the world to see. I think it right to pray for Christian women to strive to be more like you. I would not want anyone to be obsessed with anything (but God). But to encourage more of a passion for sex and masturbation in Christian women would be a good work – you writing of your sex life, both solo and with Jim, helps with that.
If you have a specific question for me, ask, I promise to come back to this lovely story of LLL to check for more comment.
Sarah K.
Well if you or anyone begins such a ministry, count me in! I'm more focused on young women and girls, especially as I know girls who are approaching or have reached marriage age and they need to be educated so they can actually enjoy marriage. But it is true that parents need help in this area so much too! I wish mine would.
I stand corrected. And yes, I play 3-4 times daily, like I am doing now. Thanks.
Hugs CreamyPatty, 3-4 times daily – good on you.
For me, it's generally 2-3 times a day.
I tried to find what the range was for women, but the research is highly variable. I’d like to know just for Christians who know that masturbation is not sinful, but instead is good.
I desire that all Christians in all stages of life were at least daily masturbators.
1 Cor 6:20, glorify God in your body.
LLL, you are going to make some man very happy. I enjoy your writings and find them quite stimulating and inspiring. I have some insight on squirting. My wife was the first person I’ve ever seen squirt, and according to her I’m the first to cause her to squirt. I must say for her, is much more of a gush than a powerful squirt. She produces copious amounts of liquid when she squirts. One way to get her to squirt is a very hard pounding with my fingers, after plenty of foreplay. Massaging her g-spot vigorously while pressing on it forcefully releases a ton of juices flowing from her delicious and moist pussy. Dirty talk also helps get her in that right frame of mind. I recently purchased a stainless steel dildo that is amazing to her. It’s a knock off version of the Njoy pure wand. It was inexpensive, but the affect it has on her is amazing!! When I’ve used it on her, the towels below her are soaked!! It’s incredible to see. I’ve watched as a pool of liquid is trapped under her cheeks as I am pleasuring her with the you.
That sounds so amazing! It will definitely be something to experience my future husband playing with my pussy and seeing how he can make me gush and squirt. Oof, I am feeling all hot and bothered just thinking about it!
I'm re-reading this for the umpteenth time, and I still enjoy it just as much. 😉
But, this time, there is a difference. Even at my age (68), I have just reached a new level of "self-care".
(After reading further, some of you may think that I'm "a bit late to the party". But, I'm both conservative and frugal, and so this is a milestone for me.)
After getting some massage therapy for minor injuries at work, I decided to buy a "massage gun" that I can use whenever my muscles are aching. Then, I decided to use it when I have "that other ache". Mmmmmmm!!
Because of some bad past experiences (I think that my first wife had become somewhat addicted to her vibrator, and thus ignored me), I had been reluctant to use any type of vibrator on myself. But, I have been having some increasing prostate problems. So, I decided that more intensive self-care had become a necessity. I was inspired in large part by the open and honest posts by LovelyLonelyLady, whose use of vaginal dilators has put her on the path to better health — sexual, emotional, and overall.
So, I put the "soft ball" attachment on the massage gun. I used it mostly on my perineum (spelling?), to help stimulate blood flow to and around the prostate. (I have had a lot of scar tissue in my lower abdomen from an emergency surgery 20 years ago, and I think that is the root of my prostate problems.) The vibrations felt SO GOOD — not as much in a sexual way as in an "overall healthy" way.
But, curiosity got the better of me. I began moving the vibrator around. Again, it felt both "therapeutic" and sexual. Before long, I was moaning with pleasure. Intermittently, I began playing with my dick — and even rubbing the vibrator along the sides of my shaft. Almost immediately, I noticed that it was HOT — much warmer than usual. Also, my precum was flowing "in the normal way" — the way that it used to a dozen or more years ago. It felt really good.
I got interrupted for a while, had to stop playing, and so then I went to eat lunch. Before getting back to some serious jacking off, I wanted to type this comment to say that I am overcoming my distaste for vibrators and to thank LLL for sharing her parallel experiences. (The head of my dick was SO warm that it felt good to my hand. That was "interesting".)
Still hoping that soon God will provide me with another wife and that we will enjoy such experiences together.