Fifty-three Percent of Husbands Wish for More Marriage Sex
Fifty-three Percent of Husbands Wish for More Marriage Sex
Around 800 MH readers have been polled about their Marriage Heat Experience. Here is the question: Married Couples: What attitude toward sex do you have in your marriage
As a husband, I want more sexual engagement. My wife wants less (31%, 245 Votes)
We both love it, and both want to grow into more hot monogamy (26%, 206 Votes)
As a husband, I am lonely because my often wife ignores me (22%, 178 Votes)
We love it; we are also busy with other important priorities (14%, 113 Votes)
As a wife, I want more sexual engagement. My husband wants less. (4%, 34 Votes)
As a wife, I am lonely because my husband often ignores me (3%, 20 Votes)
Some Discussion Questions:
How do you interpret the results of this poll?
Why is it so difficult to get on the same page with your sexual attitudes?
What is needed to bring more happiness to the bedroom?
How does the website help build more hot monogamy?
There is a lot of things involved as to being or getting on the same page….like similar drives….similar likes and dislikes….not being selfish….and, very importantly, and I think mostly, not being bashful, or afraid, about talking about sexual things.
ie; "I can't ask him about doing that….he'll think I'm a perv"
Lucky for my wife and I, we are blessed, with being pretty much equal in the drive department. Stuff she likes, I like, and visa versa, or, we do them cause the other likes them.
We had to learn how to talk about sexual matters with each other…..that took a few years.
To bring happiness….talk & discuss…and be at least a little flexible. We all have our quirks….sexual included. Bend a little, be unselfish, to bring satisfaction to the other.
This site, brings forth the things other couples do, that maybe you do as a couple….and it makes it "okay". It shows that Christian marriage is a good thing, and very variable.
Also gives couples new ideas to maybe try, if they are in a rut or routine.
My 2 cents…..
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This might be down to the men, we have been married just over 40 years we still have sex every day, now and again twice in a day.
I am curious for the 53% how much frequency they have and how much more they would require to be content. As a wife who wants more than her husband it is extremely frustrating. To be in my 40's and only getting sex once every couple of months I would be thrilled to up it to once a month and then every other week. If you are getting sexual intimacy weekly or more than once a week I would say consider yourself lucky and blessed
It is an interesting point, how much sex are the 53% getting. We are only having intercourse about 3 times a week and I am always wanting more. Yet when my darling wife, inspired by a Christian woman's group, decided that I should be able to enjoy her every day, after just one week I didn't even mount her when she spread her legs for me.
Obviously the reason why I didn't take the opportunity is that for me fucking her is not all that it is about.
If she gets involved and doesn't orgasm she has to wind down before she can sleep and she can't help getting aroused when I am inside her having an orgasm! So, there is a limit to how many freebies I want.
I have decided that I actually get more pleasure from sucking on her titties and licking her clitoris and watching her orgasm that I do giving her a good rooting and getting my balls off (as she so delicately puts it).
I have found that we have to be mutually involved in our love making most of the time but I do enjoy it when she lets me penetrate her just because she knows I feeling desperate for it. Sometimes, after I have done her, she will decide to have an orgasm too because she has been aroused. She is happy to have me do her orally, she prefers it anyway, and I really enjoy it too.
I am masturbating from time to time too (when I know that it will be days before we get a chance to make love) but try to keep it at a minimum and to work on pleasing her so she will want to have sex.
I am very interested to know what others think about how often they are getting it.
Re; HV450, ‘inspired by a Christian woman's group’. We had this conversation at our Woman’s group too, and there was a variety of opinion. One of the girls said that she has been giving freebies for 8 months and it works for her; she tells her husband when she is about to have a shower, takes her clothes off, lies on the bed, spreads her legs, pulls her knees up, and applies a liberal amount of lube. Her husband gets an instant erection and mounts her. She says he is a very happy boy and has been a lot easier to live with, feels very good about himself.
I am inclined to the view that we should have a more mutually rewarding arrangement.
Having said that, there were a couple of girls in the group who were quite interested in what the wife who was arguing for being submissive was saying. She is a very attractive girl, big firm natural tits, says he loves making them bounce, and told us she has started shaving her pussy; he really likes it.
She also said that he is getting to do her so often that he is losing weight, really working his bum off, he is enjoying their new regime so much. She says it is no trouble to her because she is having a shower anyway and gets rid of his cum so doesn’t have to put up with having a smelly pussy or anything. He has started going to the gym. again too and she says they do still make love whenever she wants to.
Would the 53% who voted that they wished they got more sex be happier if their wife decided that she wanted to be available like the one mentioned by Trieste? My guess is most haven't tried it but I would be interested to know how it went for those that have.
I have to disagree with @nycteric. When a man is doing the dishes, folding laundry or vacuuming, there has never been a woman that got aroused from that sight. I even heard women say that they felt depressed or inadequate when their husband is doing chores that they feel they should do. So unless the husband doesn't do any chores and the wife is exhausted of doing everything by herself, I doubt that doing chores will raise women's libido.
The only thing that – in my opinion – makes a difference is the focus on the relationship, the willingness of both parties to spend quality time together and take the effort to make the other person happy (in every way).
I was one of the ones that voted that I want sex more than my wife. To the ones above that ask about what frequency would make me happy…once to twice a week would be amazing. Usually it's once or twice a month three times if I'm lucky. Also everyone is talking about getting chores taken care of… With small children the chore list is a mile long and even though I do help and have been trying to do more there is always something left undone at the end of the day. I want my wife often and I tell her how beautiful she is to me and how much I love her and how I want her always. I think that many men (though they won't admit it) feel used much of the time. I want to make love to my wife often but only get to when she is in the mood and of course I'm going to be in the mood because I'm a man and I'm alive also I'm 31 years old. I just wish that my wife wanted me more than once or twice a month. Those times are amazing and I cherish them and try to make them last as long as possible. For me I feel love and affection through physical contact and no I do not just mean sex but during sex I can truly feel the love my wife has for me and to be honest this makes me want her even more. This is my first comment so I'm sorry if I'm all over the place I tried to conver a lot.