Pleasuring His Balls

Brief bio: We got married before we were 20, and we’re now in our mid-60s. Marriage is never easy. But because our first commitment is to God, that has created a solid foundation for our marriage commitment. Most of our career was in pastoral ministry. We have some experience in working with couples both in premarriage sessions and throughout the life cycle of marriages. We love God, we love marriage, and we treasure God’s gift of sexuality as a way of bonding and communicating our love.

“I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.” Song of Solomon 2:3

I hope this post can be a tool you as a couple will use to discuss and fine tune what gives you both pleasure. I want to talk about how to include his balls in your lovemaking. Now, these concepts have to be personalized to your own marriage. Every man is unique in his needs, desires, and responses. Likewise, every couple is unique in what works for them in their lovemaking.

In so many ways our male and female bodies are quite similar. We both have eyes, nipples, and toes. Not to mention hundreds of other body parts that are essentially the same. Some even see a correlation between a man’s penis and the woman’s clitoris. But one body part that is truly unique is the man’s testicles. A woman has no way to identify with the sensations they produce except as she asks, listens, and explores with her husband.

When I was in junior high, we boys developed a bad habit. As we were walking side by side, we would swing our arms. It was easy to swing just a little wide and deliberately “rack” the boy beside you in the nuts. It happened to me, and yes, I was guilty of doing it to others also! That produced one of the first impressions about my balls: that about all they were good for was to give me pain! That was my primary view for many years.

But pain and pleasure can be two sides of one coin. The same nerves that communicate intense pain can also send messages of intense pleasure. So, let’s talk about finding the pleasure side of those mysterious things hanging in your guy’s sack.

Before I get to the details, let me remind you of two general points:

First, as already stated, every man is different. Some may say, “Don’t even think about touching my balls; they’re too tender, and they’re off limits.” At the other end of the spectrum, some men eagerly desire to have you touch them there in the right way.

Second, recognizing his balls as a source of pleasure may increase with age. When a guy is young, his physical need to ejaculate is so strong it often wholly dominates his sexual point of view. He can hardly think of anything beyond getting his cock hard and having the glorious relief of squirting his cum. It may be only later in life that he realizes there are some other potential toys “out of sight” below his cock!

Now, some observations and items for your discussion:

Treasuring – This point holds true for every body part we use in lovemaking. The critical element is not your technique, but your treasuring. To your guy, the most important thing is not what you do with his balls. Rather, it’s the view you have of him and his body. Do you see him as God’s gift to you? Do you regard his balls as a unique treasure designed by God for you to enjoy as a couple? In what ways do you communicate that you see him and his balls as very precious?

Pay attention to the wrapper – The ball sack has its own nerve endings and its own types of pleasure. The skin there is soft and may appear fragile. It’s actually pretty tough. You can pinch it, suck on it, pull it, and even scratch it. Yes, scratch. After all, the sac spends its life wrinkled up and chafing between legs and clothing. For many men, it feels terrific to have their sac stretched out and scratched, either lightly, or more firmly. That’s especially so at the base, where it attaches to the body. Ask your man. Better yet, explore with him what ways he likes you to pleasure the wrapper. Try that before you even get to the contents!

They aren’t identical twins – For most men, their two balls are different sizes, hang at different levels, and experience touch in different ways. Even if you play with both the same way, one will probably experience more pleasurable sensations than the other. Have you explored what is good, or not so good, for each of his balls? Do you tell him what you enjoy about each one?

Pulling – Even if a man’s balls themselves are too sensitive to enjoy much direct play, it may feel good to have you grip firmly around the base of his sack. You can experiment with how hard to squeeze. You may be surprised how much grip he wants you to use! Then, while still holding that grip, you can explore pulling on the sack. Generally speaking, pulling up (toward his navel) or out gives more pleasure than downward. Always remember to ask as you do the task: Does this feel good to you? What do you want me to change? Should I keep going, or is that enough?

Squeezing – You may think his balls are tender and easily hurt. But the sensation of pain usually comes from a sudden blow to the balls (like our junior high antics!). When pressure is applied gradually, the result can be pleasure instead of pain. While gripping around the base of the sack with your thumb and forefinger, wrap the rest of your fingers around his balls and apply some pressure. If he starts moaning, ask whether that’s from pleasure or pain. With his permission, try taking one ball between the thumb and fingers of each hand and massaging them both. Start out with a gentle touch and then increase as he desires. Keep in mind that each ball will respond differently. Find out if he wants you to continue with both, or just on the one that feels best. Ask if he wants more or less pressure or a different kind of touch.

Sucking – If you both desire, explore sucking on his balls. It’s best to take just one at a time into your mouth. Again, each one will feel different, both to you and to him. The sensations he feels from this can be quite intense, and he may only want it for a short time. As with so many sexual activities, doing this may warm his heart even more than it warms his balls. Kissing and sucking are a God-given means to communicate love, honor, and affection. When you take his balls into your mouth, the powerful physical sensations he feels may be surpassed by the profound emotional way it communicates your love for him. He will probably want to have enough light to watch as you show your love for him by sitting in his shade and eating his round fruit.

Tying them up – Some men love the feeling this gives. Use a small soft rope or something similar. Start at the base and wrap around the sack until his balls are tight. Experiment to see what feels best to him. The constant pressure on his balls can be a delicious feeling. Be careful not to tie so tight as to cut off circulation. And don’t leave them tied too long. But do find out if it’s something he wants to try. It may take several times (on different occasions) to find the right material to use and the techniques that are right for the two of you.

Slapping – Now we have come full circle. I started by telling about the pain of having my balls slapped in junior high. And if the first touch you were to give to your man’s testicles was a slap, he would feel that same miserable pain. But the closer he gets to orgasm, the more he will be able to tolerate and crave a stronger touch on his balls. Try having him over you on his hands and knees while you work his cock. Then as his arousal builds, start lightly bouncing and swinging his balls with your other hand. The more aroused he gets, you may be surprised at how rough he wants you to be with them. You can grip the sack, squeeze his balls, and slap them. Again, communication is the key here. If you move too fast or slap before he’s ready, the result will be intense pain. His arousal will probably end right there. But when done at his pace and level, the pleasure can also be intense.

One final thought. Women, there’s a lingering feeling you often experience after vigorous lovemaking. You know the kind: he was highly aroused and pounded his cock into you with wild abandon. And several hours later, or even into the next day, you still feel it in your pussy lips and in your vagina. You could call it a dull ache or a minor pain, and that would be an accurate description. But your heart doesn’t perceive it that way. Instead, you treasure those tingling nerves as a precious reminder of how passionately your husband loves you.

Even after that pounding workout, the man’s cock usually doesn’t experience much in the way of lingering effects. He gets hard, pumps to climax, shoots his load, and then his cock reverts not only to its usual size but also to its normal sensations. But when the two of you learn to pleasure his balls in the way that works best for the two of you, he will probably feel the effects several hours later, or even into the next day. He could call it a dull ache or a minor pain, and that would be accurate. But his heart won’t perceive it that way. Instead, he will treasure those tingling nerves as a precious reminder of how passionately his wife loves him.

Guys, do you have any comments or additions to this? Women, what’s your perspective? Couples, may you enjoy and treasure the bodies and the love God has given you to share!