Let Me Give You a Hand
Ladies, please tell us what your feelings are about my comment below!
And Guys tell me how you would feel if this was your wife’s response!
“My Love, I know you would like to make love to me tonight, but I have had such a rough day and I’m really not up to it. But how about handing me the oil and I’ll give you a nice handjob to help you sleep.”
If that happens occasionally, I would be fine with it and even aroused by the idea..
I feel like this comment is fine. Sometimes there are bad days, but it's sweet how she still wants to please her husband despite this. Hopefully her days get better.
The words that come to mind are…. kind, thoughtful, selfless, loving, generous, and CumTastic!
I’ve been hoping and asking for those words for many years. Never.
For my wife, sex is a mental space – she’s either totally into it all the way, or not. There’s no inbetween compromise like this.
Things like this have happened many times over the years. Not with those words, and often with no words at all, but I’m always thankful for a generous and loving wife when it happens!
And we are both handjob fans, it’s arousing for both of us, to say the least! Been sometimes where it was so much so, it led to some quick help for her too. Fire up the Magic Wand!
I'm pleased to say that my loving and generous wife has done this on numerous occasions. Ever since we started going out she looked after my needs and whenever I felt a bit frisky and she was out of action, she kindly offered me her help, not wanting to leave me frustrated.
I've used similar word and fortunately not very often. "[DH's name], I know we want to have sex but I have had such a difficult day that I think I can make it better for you with my mouth and hands." My DH knows that this comes from love and has never refused and we both enjoy it.
This has happened for us on numerous occasions over the years, however my wife did turn me down just last night, sigh. But when she does offer, my wife can give one darn good handjob, so I never refuse. Some people believe a handjob feels better anyways. Why? Because a vagina cannot grip a penis as firmly as a hand can.
My wife wouldn't do it. Tried it one time, but she wasn't in to it. I'd love it though.
How sad.
Anytime my wife is interested in my cock, at any level, I'm all in. My sexual appetite is super constant and she honors me with a hand job every now and then. I love her for it, realizing she is not always in the same horny zone as am I. It's especially hot when she tells me how amazing the experience is for her, too, describing her fascination and turn on watching and listening to me enjoy her touch and cum over the top. Don't want this as a routine, but it's a win everytime she's not otherwise in the game.
I like the idea of offering to help him out instead of leaving him to take care of himself. I'd like to think that masturbation should be because we choose to do it, not as a poor second to what we really wanted/needed. I know it can't always be that way but I want to be loving and considerate this time round.
He'll drift off later feeling satisfied and thinking of my expert hands with those sexy red nails. ?
Cuddles you are a STAR! I just love your attitude towards Mr Cuddles.
@ ClimaXX
Thank you so much for the encouragement Climaxx. It means a great deal coming from one of my MH heroes!
Mr Cuddles is still on his way to me so I'm still being prepared by Abba Father for him. Second time round for me and I can't wait!
Cuddles
Cuddles,
I couldn't agree more. Masturbation, or pleasing one another with the use of his or her hands, should not be used as a substitute for penetration sexual pleasure. What it should it be is a mutual choice of an alternate way to please and or be pleased in one of the many ways that can be obtained.
The desire for sex can be so strong sometimes that only sex will do.
If that's the desire I'm feeling and my wife offers me a handjob, I could pass on the offer and 'schedule' for sex when she's up for it.
Settling for half bread when you're reallly hungry can leave you feeling frustrated. I don't want to associate my wife with feelings of sexual frustration.
Sex is usually more satisfying when I feel wanted not just accommodated.
Give me sexual treats when you want them, not when I'm hungry. Hunger won't kill me. I can wait.
Oh, and this is all written with the understanding that an orgasm and ejaculation are not one and the same thing.
I find your answer, especially the analogy most interesting and perplexing. Then your reply to yourself maybe more so.
If your wife isn’t feeling well and wants to skip dinner, you are hungry but won’t eat either? Seems odd on the surface. I’m guessing most men would satisfy themselves with a light meal and accept dinner the next night will be good.
May I ask are you saying you ejaculate without having an orgasm? Or are able to orgasm without ejaculating. I find the separation of the two that men experience fascinating.
I don't know if it's just me, but sexual pleasure feels better when the significant other makes me feel wanted (desired). The greater the show of interest the deeper the satisfaction. I've always preferred enthusiasm to skill. I don't want sex cos my wife can expertly do it as much as I want sex because she wants me.
Also, it's not every time a couple engages in sex that there is a hunger for it. At least I subscribe to this philosophy.
The intensity of desire and motivation are not constant.
Hunger is when I want to feel wanted more than I want a bodily release. If what I want is just to blow off, then anything will do. Heck just expose your sexy bits to me and I'll take care of myself if you're not in the mood. But when I'm wanting that connection, I would rather not do it myself or be tolerated.
Satisfying sex should be a celebration of your lover by engaging indulgence.
So what I'm saying SecondMarge is, yes, I would rather wait for the chance of a rich breakfast when it is deep hunger than settle for half bread.
It's not a good thing for me feeling like I can equally do for myself what is right for my wife to do for me. That's risky.
And about the difference between simply ejaculating and having an orgasm, yes, shooting off, without that deep wholesome release is a reality and is not same as having that whole being release.
The penis can be stimulated to cause an ejaculation without the mind and heart being interested enough to profit from the process.
I'm in on that…open, honest yet fulfilling!
Oh gracious yes! I love giving my husband a hand job. When I was pregnant intercourse was often painful and uncomfortable for me and sucking dick often made me nauseous. So to compensate I would jerk him off if he was in need. Often times we would just masturbate together.
I do love the feel of his hard , hot cock in my hand and seeing his expressions of pleasure as he blows his creamy seed all over my hand and his torso. So hot!
Stay horny and thanks for posting!
Horney GG you have such a great way with words. You mention "seeing his expressions of pleasure….."
I think that is my greatest pleasure in making love to my wife. Yes, I love cumming and the release that it brings, but my greatest pleasure is watching my wife's face when she cums. She is extremely multi-orgasmic and when she is on a roll she just keeps on cumming.
In addition to my wife kindly offering me a handjob on numerous occasions, another thing I should mention is that she is also happy for me to take matters into my own hands and come over her body, something I find super erotic visually. She says she likes watching my face as I'm doing it. I am truly blessed.
Give that woman a big hug and a High 5
I think that is a wonderful and loving response to your dear husband. We ladies often struggle with fatigue and feeling "ready for love." K really likes changing it up from time to time especially when our monthly friend visits. I enjoy using coconut oil to help bring him to climax–and I enjoy the taste of his nectar mingled with the coconut oil before swallowing it all down then deeply kissing him before spooning off to sleep…
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I have done this a time or two, maybe three… I am sure more lol. Well let’s say I have tried it. I say that because there have been times that I said how bout I will give you a blow job to relax you.. but because my man has a hard time me just giving him attention he ends up playing with my titties and my pussy, fingering me etc… this in turn, turns me on …make me super horney and I usually cum before he does. Then I go to town on him. Of course with those words to my husband he always usually replies hell yeah baby.. bring it on. He love his blowjobs and I love to give them. Very few have just been me giving them and him just enjoying them.
I can't really add much as I am not married, but I was thinking of this as I was reading the comments. It sounds like it would end up turning me on, so maybe instead of offering my hand, I'll offer my pussy knowing that I might not finish.
@Learning2Wait…exactly…very difficult to not have your juices flowing down there when you have your husband's raging hard member in front of you. Even if you feel like you aren't in the mood, one thing leads to another, and the next thing you know, you're dripping wet and just want to climb atop that beautiful cock that (most likely) you were the cause of that growth!
Not only would I love to hear this, I would be willing to offer my wife an alternative to love making if she would prefer that. Massage, fingering, toys, oral all she'd need to do is ask. I can find more satisfaction in her orgasms than my own.
My wife regularly handjobs me like when I’m in the mood for sex and she isn’t. She enjoys pleasuring me, and I certainly do! I lay back naked with my penis up. She oils her hand. She kneels beside me nude, a perfect position for me to run my hands over her naked body, and with her breasts swinging over me. She caresses my scrotum and inner thighs, then wraps her hand round my shaft and strokes up and down till I come over my chest. Delivering a good handjob sounds easy, but in a loving relationship, it takes skill.
My wife has done this on numerous occasions whem she isn't feeling up to sex. Sometimes, she gets very turned on and it leads to some mutual masturbation. Other times, she makes me masturbate while she kisses me and rubs her hands and nude body over me.
This may seem odd to some but my late wife hardly ever jacked me off, I think because she preferred either to watch me masturbate while playing with my balls, or she would opt for a blow job because she knew how much I loved her skills. But, if she was just too tired, or did not want to do anything, I took things into my own hands. She didn’t mind me doing that, and visa versa.
Hi, everyone. CreamyPatty's hubby Jim here,
Interesting subject here; it reminds me of a situation I found myself in a few years ago when I was laid up with a bad back. I spent about a week flat on my back, and as always, Patty would not even consider us depriving ourselves of a good climax, so she came up with a creative position where we both achieved awesome climaxes.
She lay naked next to me so I could suck on her glorious tits and chew on her nipples while she alternated with hand jobs and throating me. It was amazing how she could hover over me while pleasuring me. I remember clearly how she would finish me by rubbing my hard cock against her nipples and scream as she came while I flooded her tits with cum – and she licked the mess clean with her fingers and by lifting her tits to her mouth. That's something I really find hot!
Anyway, I love how she satisfies me (and herself) in this way, and it reminds me how closely we are matched in terms of libido – she hardly ever misses a day of climaxes, one way or another, therefore, neither do I.
Nice Jim, although you left out the part about what happened when my sister stopping by to visit at a VERY inconvenient time. Remember?😏
She's in the right frame of mind to think of her husband needs like that and not leave him in a bind
This is an example of open and honest communication as well a lovingly offered gift. Amanda will sometimes offer something similar and when I hesitate to accept she will encourage by adding something like "I want to show my love for you by…" As Christians we should learn to accept an act of service of others. All of marriage is a dance of two and so is our sexual relationship together. Like anything in life, it takes practice. It took Amanda many years to learn the various moves and moods of our relationship, the needs of the other. When we were first married, I would have felt some rejection in this example. However, with experience and maturity, I see love in this example. One must learn to see our sexual lives from the other's perspective and lovingly learn to accept the various ways that love is offered. There are so many ways to enjoy our sexuality in marriage, this is one example. God has so blessed us with marriage, especialy with sexual pleasure!