Discussion on Golden Showers
I would like to see the general consensus on sex involving urination. If you are interested in engaging on this topic, please answer AT LEAST ONE of the following prompts and questions first, and then supply comments to others. Reference the number of the prompt as well for extra clarity. I’ll offer my two cents at the end as well.
1. Have you ever engaged in receiving or giving golden showers? If so, is there a preference?
2. Does the covering in or swallowing of bodily fluid interest you or turn you off? Why?
3. If you have never participated in this, would you ever, and at what capacity do you think you would try it?
4. From a moral stance, do you think golden showers are bad?
5. From a health perspective, do you think golden showers are bad?
6. If you have done it, was there ever a time you thought you never would try it? What made you go through with trying it after all?
7. Do you have any juicy stories of including this in your marriage?
8. Where do you like to perform golden showers most?
My two cents:
1. I have participated in both receiving and giving with my wife, and I prefer receiving.
2. Bodily fluid in general is a turn on for me if it stems from sexual organs.
3. N.A.
4. I don’t believe there is any moral problem with it. I’ve heard some Christians argue it is denigrating, but that argument falls flat if the couple is completely consenting and desires it from each other. That said, I do not approve of guilt-tripping spouses into sexual activity they are uncomfortable with.
5. The health safety concern to me is extremely minimal. As long as there is no disease or infection in the person, which would prevent any sexual activity anyway, it is completely safe. Also, it basically is composed of a mixture of salt water, bodily-produced lubricant, and extra minerals. If you have had shower sex or anal sex, there were more germs involved in those.
6. I remember being intrigued as a very young man by this and never saw it as strange. I’m glad my wife is willing to try things with me and doesn’t rule something out without giving it a go.
7. I have a few, but I’ll share them later.
8. Best spot is either the bathtub or outside in the grass. It minimizes cleanup, which allows for more focus on fun and sex.
Thanks for joining in, and please be respectful!
Hubbie here:
1. Queen knows I love this kink, and has peed on me a few times (so fucking hot!). I want to reciprocate, but she’s not there yet. I remain a hopeful Horn Dog!
2. Obviously, pee play interests me a lot, but I limit that to “peeing on” (interest), and not swallowing (turn off).
3. N/A
4. No. The Bible is my standard! There is nothing in the Word that directly says “Thou shalt not pee-eth on each other!” Interpretation of an indirect command is just that. Interpretation. If one spouse didn’t want it, then it’s a no-go, not because pee play is wrong, but because coerced, involuntary sex is wrong.
5. No, unless the “pee-er” is sick, has infection, etc.
6. Never a time I thought explicitly “no”. It came into my awareness, and because I use a “yes unless no” sexual decision process, and it’s Out Of Bounds (OOB), it got put into the “OK” shoebox in my brain.
7. Juice to follow
8. “Laziness is the mother of creativity”, so easy cleanup is key.
A. On our mostly secluded deck during Naked Deck Time (NDT)
B. Mostly secluded backyard during Naked Yard Time (NYT)
C. On a Naked Hike (NHK) or Naked Kayak (NKY)
D. Have not yet tried the shower, but this seems a natural.
Thanks for an interesting, if not Edgy, thought question! Blessings and passion!
Interesting topic, and one I discovered rather recently (the last couple of years). I'll answer a few of the questions, starting with #3: I have never experienced this activity, but I think I would if my future husband was open to it.
1. I think I'd prefer to give, not receive. I get the sensation of having to urinate when I climax, so I could see it actually happening if I ever learn to let it out. Plus, I've seen sex videos where the woman urinates while the guy is inside her, and that struck me as really hot. I bet that warm fluid washing over his penis feels amazing.
2. I could never swallow it. Some things just make me feel like throwing up. They can't be disassociated from grossness.
4 and 5. I don't think it's morally wrong or unhealthy. I agree with what others said: if both spouses are for it, great.
6-8. Haven't happened…yet!
LLL,
For the most part, the topic of "golden showers" does nothing for me.
But, there is one exception. (And, I have never experienced it. I have never even talked about it with anyone.) I don't think about it much, but it does intrigue me somewhat.
If my future wife were to be "fascinated" by my dick, then I wouldn't mind if she wanted to hold it while I pee. She could aim it and feel it in action.
But, there is one problem. There seems to be a biological valve that prevents a man from peeing when his dick is hard. So, if she wanted to hold my dick while I pee, the thought of that would make me hard, and then it couldn't happen. "Catch-22"
Similarly, I am not turned on by pee. But, if a wife wanted me to watch her pee, then I would gladly do so. The peeing itself would not turn me on so much, but her willingness to be so open would. And, it would turn me on to know that I helped her get a thrill.
If a wife peed on me while we were fucking, I would feel insulted — unless we thoroughly discussed it beforehand. Even then, it would be a "hold my nose and get it over with" activity for me — if I agreed to it at all.
That said, I have read that — when a woman is about to experience "female ejaculation" — she feels as if she is about to pee. So, my suggestion is that, if you are getting that sensation while you are masturbating, then perhaps you should simply "let it go" a couple of times to find out "whether you are cumming or going"…. 😉
Now, I'm curious about the results of that experiment.
Love it!!! Someone wrote about one of our new activities that is fast becoming one of our favorites. IMO, MH should consider a "Golden Shower" or better yet "Watersports" category. While not mainstream and wildly popular, I suspect it would gain a few entries in due time.
1. Yes, as often as is practical. It's a fantastic form of unconventional intimacy for us. To me, it's like Christmas morning in that I get enjoyment from both giving and receiving.
2. Extreme turn ons. I remember on Kate's birthday holding it in so long I was almost in agony and that releasing the most impressive amount on her, when we were pretty new to this kink. We were both laughing and enjoying it so much, but I don't think I've ever equalled that feat since. She definitely loves getting peed on, as I do. A few weeks back I can remember a night when she was getting a late shower, but I had showered earlier. As she was about to start, I walked in and prepared to pee (conventionally, in our toilet) across from the shower and she said "don't waste that" encouraging me to hose her down prior to her shower, which I happily did.
As for swallowing, I love it. Gulping down what my beautiful bride provided to me is an immense joy and turn-on. She is more gun-shy about it, but says she would like to overcome that and give it a legit go in the near future. I would be on cloud nine when able to provide that to her.
The turn-on, for me, has nothing to do with a dominance thing, and I was frankly surprised to hear so many make that association. I am the leading, directive, assertive one in our sex life, but not in a highly sub/dom sense. To me, it is just immensely hot to welcome and indulge in something that would be gross under any other scenario, but to open yourself so freely with your soulmate, in a manner you never would with anyone else, is liberating, and just flat-out hot.
3. Already answered, and can't get enough of it. Looking forward to many barrels of our fluids in the years ahead.
4. Context is everything. Obviously, no one should be forced or unwillingly compelled to do it. If one's motives are not out of place, then any moral argument against it is purely personal opinion.
5. Little if any risk at all. Certainly, we have willingly accepted more risk to be intimate with each other.
If not washed off in a reasonable amount of time, you might get some skin irritation from the acidity. As far as consuming, there is no consensus that would indicate any harm if done periodically and a participant is properly hydrated.
6. It has been appealing to me for a long time. Someone that knows me well once asked me if I find anything gross, sexually. I replied that the only thing I find gross is the idea that any act in lovemaking with my spouse would be considered gross at all.
7. YES!!!
8. We do in our shower for practical purposes. I would certainly be open to elsewhere, but understand Kate's sensitivity to a mess. Outdoors sounds hot. Even our bed wouldn't bother me, but it would bother Kate. Depends on the activity too. A pure shower would make a lot more mess if one is not consuming.
This isn’t a particular kink of mine, but under the right circumstances, I could participate. Woods wrote a story a while back, “When You’ve Gotta Go”, that was pretty interesting. Also, AssumedIdentity wrote “Desperate to Please”, detailing how his kink started. I have my own kinks, so if my wife ever came up with something like this, I could go along.
To answer your questions:
1. Have you ever engaged in receiving or giving golden showers? If so, is there a preference? – Never done it
2. Does the covering in or swallowing of bodily fluid interest you or turn you off? Why? – Not something I could swallow
3. If you have never participated in this, would you ever, and at what capacity do you think you would try it? – If it were something like the stories listed above, maybe
4. From a moral stance, do you think golden showers are bad? – I don’t think it’s morally wrong
5. From a health perspective, do you think golden showers are bad? – I don’t think so
6. If you have done it, was there ever a time you thought you never would try it? What made you go through with trying it after all? – N/A
7. Do you have any juicy stories of including this in your marriage? – No
8. Where do you like to perform golden showers most? – N/A
1. Yes, giving, and no preference, I'd still be cool with them both ways.
2. No covering in or swallowing of fluids doesn't turn me off if the deep non-sexual and sexual connection exists between both of us.
3. I have participated in this and I am still open to it.
4. Moral stance, no I think golden showers are okay.
5. Health wise, if both are healthy and keep healthy in monogamous relationship, there should be few health risks to it if any.
6. There was a time the thought of it would have totally grossed me out, but when I went for it, it just felt totally right and was received in good faith, and the reception of it made it perfect.
7. Not yet.
8. In the bath tub, or anywhere we can clean up afterwards.
The highest high of all fetishes discovered is in being welcome by your spouse. Its not the act that matters but the acceptance of it.
You know first started thinking about this around puberty, and oit of curiousity I actually tried my own urine.
I was afraid the taste would be like the smell, but its not even close. Something about it made me want to play with myself more… I was of course turned on and it only increased my interest in it!
Adoniswerewolf – One question you asked is "From a moral stance, do you think golden showers are bad?" Nothing sexual in marriage is "bad", as long as both are in agreement and neither is hurt (physically or emotionally). Sadly, we use the word "kinky" to describe sex acts that are condemned by our culture and it can keep married couples from harmless experimental activity. You will notice by reading some of the stories in MH, if it is part of a loving act, naughty can really be fun.
1. No.
2. It does not interest me. It would probably turn me off if my wife purposefully peed on me or asked me to pee on her. If she had an orgasm and lost control of her bladder, it would not turn me off or gross me out, but I would immediately want to get both of us in the shower.
3. I would never participate.
4. What a married couple choose to do together is their business. I don’t think it is immoral so long as it is within the marriage.
5. I suppose if participation is about power or being submissive in a degrading sense, then it is unhealthy. Otherwise it is only unhealthy if anyone is sick.
The rest of the questions do not apply to me.
I like nice clean fresh out of the shower sex where I can lick and suck on every part of my wife. I have no desire to include urine in sex. If others do it within their marriage, I do not care. It is their business.
1. Yes 2. yes but very little. 3. Yes, in the capacity when not planned. In the heat of the moment. 4. No. 5. When you know your partner is healthy. 6. Again, when in the moment. It's not planned. 7. Yes. 8. In bed.
I'll post an experience shortly.
I’m very glad you posted this topic. My wife and I do this, but rather than answer your questions in detail I want to answer the unspoken questions – Why do you like this, and what does this do for you both? There have been a few stories that included peeing that were mentioned. Another one is Liquid Love, which I find beautiful.
Since I was a young boy I’ve had a fascination of seeing a woman pee and of peeing with her, of feeling her peeing on me and, if she was willing, for me to pee on her in return. My darling wife and I talked about this before we married, and she said she would love to both give and receive. Keeping pure until our wedding night was even harder after that day! I told her why it was so beautiful and erotic to me. It has nothing to do with dominance or humiliation. For me it is intimacy, sharing something no one will ever know that we do except us. It is oneness, laughter, playfulness and surprise, and absolute vulnerability.
Everyone knows we have sex, that’s not a secret. But no one knows this about us. Marital love is like a walled Garden, and in the hidden innermost part if that Garden is the place where our deepest secrets are held. In that sacred place we have a deeper level of intimacy, where things are shared between us, alone. This is not an absolute statement, as if you have to do this to have that closeness, this is just how, along with great sex, we express our total vulnerability.
That is our reason for peeing together – total vulnerability and intimacy. It’s a unique way of expressing our deep love. We can look at each other in a store or gathering of friends with a signal and smile as we tell our secret desire. Sometimes it is just playfully naughty, a fun secret that leaves us with a warm glow of love and closeness inside. That is the beauty of this act of love for us. It is oneness, laughter, playfulness and surprise, and absolute vulnerability.
Your explanation of mutual desire and enjoyment of golden showers is refreshingly honest and positive. It shows how you and your wife embrace the act and experience to heighten your sexual intimacy. It’s so well expressed that it removes any sense of kinkiness, rather it’s natural, loving expression of mutual sexual intimacy.
1. No, no thanks.
2. Semen on me and getting my cream everywhere, on my or and hubby – yes. Especially in my knickers, I like that – a lot.
3. No thanks.
4. I see no moral issue.
5. Pee is mostly water and urea, can smell, but not unhealthy – although soaking into your bedding could ruin it.
I have a story of what I have done from two years ago, I have done it many times since. So erotic wetting the crotch of one's knickers and seeing stream of pissing going through them.
https://marriageheat.com/2021/12/01/wet-panty-masturbation/
That was/is an incredibly 🔥 story! I would love to watch my wife enjoy herself in wet panty masturbation and peeing.
Well SilverGold. You know what you have to do – her read my story.
Then you have to come back here ans tell us about it – perhaps post your/her own story.
1. No
2. Golden showers are highly exciting to me. My wife and I flirt about watching each other pee. It would turn me on to be showered on any part of my body, including my face by her. Swallowing is a no go!
3. I would love to engage in golden showers with her. We’ve never seriously discussed it. I think we’d start by watching and enjoying each other pee together in the shower.
4. If both spouses desire to engage in golden showers it’s perfectly right and good.
5. Urine is very sanitary unless there is a UTI present.
6. NA
7. No
8. In the shower.
We are not into golden showers. However, we have both peed while showering together out of convenience.
This was not something we always did. The first time it happened, we had been married for about five years. We were in the shower playfully tickling each other. My wife began laughing so hard she started peeing. She tried to hold it and get out of the shower at the same time to get to the loo but quickly realized she wasn't going to make it and finished in the shower. She was embarrassed but I convinced her she had no reason to be.
We talked about it afterwards and concluded that it was silly to get out of the shower just to pee only to get back in. (Besides, we get the fun of washing each other again.)
Ever since that time, if we are in the shower and one of has to go, we let the other know and just go.
Great discussion.
to start at #1
Yes, my then girlfriend (now wife) wanted to pee before we were going to have sex, I asked if I could watch, she said yes. never seen a woman piss before and that was the start of my journey into this kink.
2
I'm totally into my wife covering me in her hot piss anywhere, but the shower is the best place for easy clean up, i do lick her after she starts to piss and I love it, she is mood dependent to how much she loves doing it over me. I have only ever pissed over her cunt and tits, she is not into pissing over her face, I am so good with that. Maybe one day she will change her mind.
3
Again my then girlfriend told me she pissed over her ex husband and he was so mad at her for doing it as he fucked her on the bed, that was the start of me asking questions about if she would piss over me, and she started. I love the sight and taste, what a turn on for me.
4
Not at all if both parties are on the same page.
5
not at all as long as the other person pissing is healthy.
6
I think I have already answered that lol
7
Yes I do have stories about this and other parts of our sex life that maybe I/we will share one day
8
I really do not care, but they most often happen in the shower, I like it before the shower is turned on, we have done it just straight on the floor in the bathroom off living room, (we have very good quality vinyl flooring which is waterproof.)
I hope this adds to your interest, if you have never done it, you should try at least once if your wife is willing to have a try
Whatever floats your boat. But it would take a great deal of pee to float a boat. Never had the desire to pee on him or him on me. However, as others we did pee in the shower with each other. He discovered he liked my pee on him and wanted to do me. It didn’t turn me on but did feel nice to guide his cock to go on my tits. I don’t see moral issues. I have not tasted his but he has licked me while I peed.
Cindy here:
1. Yes to both, but I prefer receiving.
2. Yes. It’s an incredibly intimate act. And while I only let well hydrated piss past my lips, I will happily, maybe even greedily, swallow
3. NA
4. Not within the confines of marriage. Granted I’d taken several showers prior to that which yes were immoral, but as long as a husband and wife are consenting and even though it’s a total domination move, I believe that’s what makes it so incredibly sexy.
5. As long as the individual pissing is healthy, there’s nothing unhealthy about urine.
6. First time I ever heard of it was during a comedy show and I was secretly intrigued but I kept it to myself. So this is BC, but I was dating a guy and we were watching porn, I put on “accidentally” a water works scene and begged him to do it me. I fell in love with it- though I didn’t let him get my face. Chest and torso only. Cal, my husband was the first guy I ever drank it for-glad I waited to do that, but I was missing out lol.
7. Dozens of stories yes.
8. In the shower mostly for easy clean up. Though the hottest place I’ve ever pissed on Cal was when he made me squirt and I couldn’t help but carry it into a piss on the edge of a hot tub. And granted this technically wasn’t a shower, on a few occasions during hikes, I’ve drank straight from his cock instead of letting him just piss behind a tree.
I’m a little surprised to see such open talk about this on here, but it makes me happy. There isn’t really anyone I have that I can talk about this with, even the most sexual people I know aren’t into it.