Sexy/Kinky Game: Queen and Slave

Husband with WifeHey folks, this post will describe in detail a sexy game I invented with my husband a few years ago. It is designed primarily for people interested in experimenting with light bondage and/or mild domination/submission, but it could easily be modified for those with different tastes.

The background is that, in general, I am a fairly passive person, while my husband is very strong and assertive. This general tendency translated to our sex life as well. But, several years he admitted that he had long fantasied about having me temporally take control. He said that, he wanted me to “dominate” him in the bedroom. I did not even know what that meant exactly, but he helped me figure it out. The truth is, I had also fantasized about being more sexually assertive. I liked the idea of teasing him and making him do my bidding, but I did not know where to start.  Now, years later, playful domination is fairly common part of our sex life…and we both love it. This game (developed by both of us) helped me figure out exactly what to do when we play out this recurring fantasy.

The text below is adapted from I blog post I was writing up about a year ago. I never actually created the blog, but Married Heat seems like an appropriate venue for this. My husband I believe strongly in monogamy (nine years…going on strong!) and we are Christians. Admittedly, the description of this game is quite long. This is because it includes detailed ideas for all 52 cards in standard playing deck (plus a few supplemental ideas). I apologize in advance for the excessive length. With that…here we go.

Sexy Ideas: Queen and Slave

Ladies, do ever want to take charge of your sex life? Are you tired of being sexually passive? Would you secretly like to dominate the bedroom? If so, you are not alone. Studies have indicated that at least half of women have had this fantasy, but less than ten percent have ever acted on it.   (Of course, many women also fantasize about losing control and/or being dominated, but that’s a subject for another day). Similarly, most men have, at least occasionally, fantasied about being dominated by a sexy, confident woman. They tend to be rather sheepish about admitting it, but trust me…most men are aroused by the idea.

Unfortunately, most online resources are hardly helpful about this subject. Instead of useful tips and fun kinky ideas, the internet is largely filled with information, pictures, and videos about serious fetishes and hard-core S&M. There is nothing wrong with that, but the fact is, most women (and most men, for that matter) are not interested in the “heavy” stuff.

So, how can you dominate your boyfriend, husband, or lover, without bringing out the whips and chains? How can take charge while keeping things light and fun? And, most importantly, how exactly do you make him a sex slave without stepping too far outside your (and his) comfort zone?

The answer, it turns out, is actually quite simple. With just a bit of foreplay, you can take total control. And this simple card game is some way to do just that. It is filled with plenty of kinky ideas to keep things spicy and to keep you confidently on top (where you belong).

So go ahead: Read the rules, tailor them to your personal tastes and preferences, and enjoy!

Object of the Game:

The object is quite simple. For a specified amount of time, your man must treat you like an absolute Queen. He must do exactly as you say, no questions asked. As he plays the role of sexy love slave; the cards in the deck will determine exactly what he must do. If he performs to your satisfaction, then he should be rewarded at the end of the game. Otherwise, too bad for him.

Seriously, it’s a simple as that! Trust me, he won’t need any more motivation. Use just a bit of innuendo to make it clear what the “reward” is, and make it clear that he won’t be getting any unless he plays the game and plays it well. And just like that, you are Queen for a night!

He will be surprised (and aroused) by your sudden burst of sexual confidence. I can pretty much guarantee that he will agree to play along; in minutes he will anxiously trying to obey your every whim. Trust me, men are simple creatures. This will work virtually every time. The really fun part comes with a few rules and the following the list of cards. To keep things interesting, I am providing a list of ideas that will turn any regular deck of playing cards into hours of sexy fun and foreplay. All you need is a standard deck of cards and two dice. That’s it!

The Rules:

The rules are extremely simple. First, organize the cards by suit. The hearts and diamonds are “command cards”. These cards consist of sexy instructions, kinky challenges, and erotic commands, as well as a few practical and romantic requests. The spades and clubs are “penalty cards”.  These consist of sexually charged penalties, wicked little games, and minor, but devious punishments for your “slave”. Specific ideas for each card (all 52 of them) are described below in a comprehensive list. The list should provide plenty of ideas to help you dominate your man in a completely fun and safe way. Command cards will have him at your beck and call, while the penalties will help you whip him into shape and keep him on his toes.

After organizing the two decks- the “command deck” and the “penalty deck”, shuffle them thoroughly. Then, determine a time limit. For a specified period of time, you are the undisputed Queen and he is your sexy slave. Your man’s goal is to complete as many commands as possible within the specified time limit. Print out the list of cards, and keep and keep it handy (you should be able to paste the text into Microsoft Word.)

After agreeing to a time limit, draw five random cards from the command deck. This is your hand. Check the list to be sure what you have. Now the game begins. As soon as your reveal the first card, read the supporting text from the list. He is expected to obey immediately. Once he successfully completes the command, you can draw another card (your hand should always have five cards). Then, you simply play another one. Remember, his goal is to complete as many as possible within the time limit. Trust me, if you do this with the right attitude, he will be extremely hot and bothered by the time the game is over. You will be hot as well.

If, at any time, he fails to complete a command or does not do it to your liking, he must draw a card from the penalty deck. He must immediately reveal the card to you so that you can describe his penalty from the list. After the penalty is implemented, the game proceeds as before. You play commands, and he obeys.

Unless otherwise noted, a card is immediately discarded after it is played. Thus you will quickly create two distinct discard piles.

A few additional rules:

The Queen, naturally, has the right to veto any penalty card. If she dislikes a card that has been drawn, she can simply cancel it. The card either gets put back in the deck, or, if she prefers, just discarded. Either way, a new penalty card is immediately drawn in its place.

Also, before the game is ever played, feel free look through the list and modify it to your own liking. You may have a completely different ideas about what constitutes a good command or a good penalty. If you dislike a card for some reason, change it on the list to one of your own ideas. Or, if there is a card you particularly like, duplicate it! There is no reason a card you are fond of shouldn’t appear multiple times in your own personal version of “the list”.

You may note that many of the commands and penalties are not necessarily sexual in nature. This is by design- the game allows you play a Queen physically, intellectually, and sexually. However, if you want focus more (or less) sex, just modify the descriptions accordingly! I strongly encourage you take the list and make it your own. No two couples will want to play this in exactly the same way. I suspect that some people may want these cards (particularly the penalties) to be a little more edgy or intense. If that’s the case, just modify accordingly. Or, maybe you want to be the submissive partner. That’s fine too; just switch roles so that he is the king and you’re his sexy slave girl. You may have to modify the list a little, but otherwise this game works both ways.

Voluntary Rules:

Penalty Card Hand: If drawing random penalty cards does not suit you, simply make penalty cards part of your hand. Instead of five cards, you will have ten cards in your hand at any one time- five of each type. This decreases the randomness for you, but retains the complete unpredictability for him.

Random Hand: On the other hand, if you prefer total unpredictability, you can actually play without a hand. That’s right; simply play commands directly from the command deck. You will have no idea what comes next (neither will he). If you play it this way, you will definitely need to enforce the veto rule (you have the right to veto any command or penalty, at any time).

A Quota Game: Rather than playing to a pre-determined time limit, consider playing to a pre-determined number of command cards. Until he reaches the quota, the game continues. The advantage here is that neither you nor him will have to rush- you won’t need to watch the clock. I think ten is a good number; it is a little less than half of the command deck and should take an hour or less to complete. You could also choose a quota of 13 (half the deck) or five cards for a very quick game.

A Full Game: If you really want to put your man through a marathon, consider playing a “full game”. The rules here are simple: there is no time limit or    quota- he must complete every single command in the deck. Honestly, this could take several hours. It should fun though (well, fun for you at least). Just tell him that he will get only lucky if he is a good boy and plays a whole game to your liking. Now of course, even if you plan to play a full game, you can always end it early if you change your mind. This game is about you and your pleasure; it obviously ends whenever you decide to end it.

Ok, without further ado…the list:

The Command Deck

Whenever a command card is played, the text associated with the card will be read aloud by the Queen. Her love slave is expected to listen carefully and obey immediately. He should not be allowed to see the list, especially if you have modified it to your own personal tastes. Also, any text in parentheses should not be read aloud. It is just additional information for her benefit only.

Two of Hearts: Kiss My Feet

I wish you to kneel down next to me and give each of my shoes (or boots) a single kiss. Then, I want you to carefully remove my footwear and begin gently kissing my feet. Be sure not miss the heel or the toes…all parts of the each foot must be kissed. Continue kissing them until I instruct you to stop.

Three of Hearts: Flatter Me

I want you to shower me with compliments. Tell me how lovely I am. Use impressive vocabulary to clearly explain how beautiful and sexy and smart I am.

If, at the end of your flattery, I am sufficiently impressed, you may receive a small reward. However, if I am not impressed, you will be punished (required to draw a penalty card.)

(A small reward might be a verbal compliment (good boy!) a pat on the head, permission to consume a snack or treat, etc. Also, a brief rest period also works well. Allow your slave to take a break for one or two minutes.)

Four of Hearts: Servant Boy

I am going to name a simple task or household chore. I expect you to complete this task immediately. After it is complete, I will inspect your work. If I am pleased, I may give you a tiny reward. If I am not impressed with your work, you will be punished. Also, if I feel that it took you too long to complete the task, you will be punished.

(In this case, simple chores work best. You might tell him to wash and put away all the dishes in the sink, take out the garbage, fold a singly load of laundry, etc. If you happen to be in a motel or resort rather than at home, you can make him do something very simple like hang up the clothes from the suitcase or prepare your outfit for the following day. Or simply ask him to iron your clothes.)

Five of Hearts: Remove an Article

I order you to immediately remove one article of clothing, my choice. If, by chance, you are already naked (from a previous command or penalty), then at least come hither so that I may inspect your body.

By the way, this card is not discarded. Rather, it simply returns to my hand.   After all, a Queen always retains the right to watch her slave disrobe.

Six of Hearts: Massage

Slave boy, you are now my personal masseuse. I am going to lie down; I then want to gently but firmly rub my neck, shoulders, and back. Take your time, I want my whole body to feel loose and relaxe

At some point, I will instruct you to stop. If, overall, I am impressed your ability to massage me, you may receive a small reward. Otherwise, you will be punished.

Seven of Hearts: Human Statue

Every Queen needs statues for her garden. So, I am going suggest a pose for that sexy body of yours. I want you put yourself into that pose. You are now my statue. Maintain this pose perfectly until I instruct you otherwise. In the meantime, I shall enjoy watching my human statue. If I am impressed with your ability to hold the pose, you might be rewarded. If I am not impressed, you will punished.

By the way, you should be prepared for a challenge…I may decide to go through several poses before I am finished with you!

(If you are having trouble thinking up pose ideas, here are a few examples: the muscle man flex, the Romeo pose (kneeling with an imaginary flower), the Heisman pose (every guy knows this one). If you are feeling evil, give him a difficult one…balance on one foot or do a split, etc.).

Eight of Hearts: Fan Me

It is rather warm in here. But, instead of turning on the AC or a fan, I want to you to cool me off manually. That’s right, fan me like I’m the Queen of Sheba. While I relax and lounge around, I expect my slave to provide a steady stream of cool air. This will continue until I am ready for the next command card.

I know we don’t have traditional Japanese fan in the house, so you better improvise! Chop, chop!

Nine of Hearts: Edible Foreplay

Fetch me some whip cream or chocolate syrup. I am going to add a small amount of it to my body (in one or multiple spots). As seductively as possible, I want you to gently lick it off.

If, by chance, we simply do not have a suitable edible treat, then I simply want you lavish attention (kisses, caresses, etc.) on a part of my body that is too often neglected.

(If there a particular area on which you desire attention, simply tell him. If not, let him use his imagination).

Ten of Hearts: Bathe Me

I want to run me a nice warm bath. While I relax and enjoy the water, you will sit or kneel next to tub. You will use soap to gently clean my body, and shampoo to wash my hair. Be sure to caress each body part. Take your time, we are in no hurry. Also, please note that this bath will be strictly non-sexual. Any unauthorized touching whatsoever and you will be punished.

Jack of Hearts: Court Jester

You are now the court jester. Your job is to amuse the Queen. So, I want you to make me laugh and giggle. Sing to me, tell jokes, act silly, etc. Do whatever you can to make me laugh. If, after several minutes, I am sufficiently amused, you will be rewarded. Otherwise, you will be punished.

Queen of Hearts: Royal Request

I am going to make a special request. It is something unique, not something on any other card. It is a whim I have at this particular moment.

Whenever this card is used, it inserted back into the command deck. The Queen of Hearts is never discarded!

(This card will always be the last one in the deck. When it is played for the final time- after all other cards have been drawn or discarded- the game is over).

King of Hearts: Sex Slave

I am now going to use you as my own personal sex slave. Your assignment is simple: give me as much physical affection and sexual pleasure as I desire, for as long as I desire. You can use your fingers, your mouth, your tongue, etc. But, under no circumstances are permitted use…well, you know what.

I will let you know if there is a particular type of simulation I want. Otherwise, use your imagination. You know what I like. If, after this little pleasure session, I am fully satisfied…you will be rewarded. If I am not satisfied, you will be punished.

Of course, you are absolutely prohibited from reaching your own climax. So, don’t even think about it!

(Needless to say, you may want to hold onto this until the end. Typically, I will play this when I am ready for the game to be over. I like to play this one as a last bit of foreplay. Using it earlier could be advantageous as well though. If you use it and deny him his own climax, he will be so desperately horny that he really will do anything you say!)

Ace of Hearts: Re-draw

I am not particularly pleased with my current hand of command cards. So, I am doing a total re-draw. After putting all of these cards back in the deck and re-shuffling, I will draw five new ones. (This card will be discarded).

Two of Diamonds: Royal Decree

I am going to issue a special new rule. You must follow this rule at all times for the remainder of the game. If, at any time, you fail to comply, you will be punished immediately.

This card is never discarded. Rather it simply returns to my hand. As the Queen I reserve the right to pass a royal decree whenever I want.

(The “decree” can be anything you want. A couple simple ideas:

-Create a new outlandish title that he must address you with at all times (Your Royal Highness)

-Order him to kneel down and kiss your hand whenever he approaches you or accepts a new command)

Three of Diamonds: Hand and Foot

Be a good boy, and fetch me a refreshing drink and a light snack. You will wait on me hand and foot. Stand next to me until I am finished with my refreshments, and be prepared to fetch more at a moment’s notice.

Also, a Queen should always have five-star service. From now on be sure that my glass is always full and a small treat is always available at my fingertips. I should never even have to ask. If, at any time, I notice an empty glass or empty plate, you will be punished.

Four of Diamonds: Music for the Queen

My royal court needs music. So, as quickly as possible, find some music for me and let it play. Be sure to choose carefully. If I am pleased with your selection, you will have the honor of enjoying the music with me. If I am even slightly displeased, you will be punished. This will continue until I am satisfied with the musical entertainment.

Five of Diamonds: Make Yourself Useful

Be a good slave, and go make yourself useful. Find something productive to do around the house (start a load of laundry, wash the dishes, etc). In a few minutes, I will investigate what you have done. If I am pleased, I may give you a tiny reward. If I am displeased, you will be punished.

If we happen to be in a hotel, well you better use your imagination…think up something useful and do it!

Six of Diamonds: Footslave

You are my now my footslave. Go fetch some lotion, and begin gently rubbing my feet. You will massage them until further notice.

Seven of Diamonds: Entertain Me

A Queen must be entertained. So, I want to you propose something simple…a card game, a short internet video, a simple board game, or some other form of amusement. If I accept your proposal, you will be rewarded with the privilege of enjoying it with me. If I dislike your idea, you will be punished.

Eight of Diamonds: Carry Me

I wish my slave to demonstrate his strength. Ever so carefully, I want to lift up your queen and bear her into a different room of her choosing (or onto the bed or coach in the same room). Be gentle. If my transport is perfectly comfortable, I may give you a reward. However, if I am even slightly displeased with my journey, you will be punished.

Nine of Diamonds: Save a Horse

Time for a bit of sensual entertainment. Lie down on your back; I am going to straddle you and ride you like horse. Thrust your torso up and down so that I may experience the sensation of riding. I’ll give you commands to control the pace. “Giddy up” obviously means faster and stronger. “Whoa” or “down boy” means slow it down.

If, at the end of my ride, I am not fully satisfied with the experience, you will be punished.

Ten of Diamonds: Trivia

I like playing little games with you. So, I am going to ask you a personal trivia question about our relationship. If you answer it correctly, you may receive a small reward. Otherwise, you will be punished. Be sure to try your best…I may decide to play several rounds of this game (each with its own potential reward or penalty).

(Possible ideas: “what did we do for our second date? (or third)”, “What is my all time favorite lovemaking song?” “What is my ultimate romantic travel destination?”

Jack of Diamonds: .Whipping Boy

Every Queen should have her own personal whipping boy. So, even though you have not done anything wrong, I want you to draw a penalty card. You will then be punished accordingly- purely for my amusement.

This card is not discarded, by the way. It simply returns to my hand. This way I always have a whipping boy at my disposal.

Queen of Diamonds: Personal Favorite

This card allows me to pick out my favorite card directly from the Command Deck. I will now examine the list of commands and search the deck for one that catches my eye, to be played immediately.

King of Diamonds: Tribute

Pay tribute to your Queen. Give me something special, a token of your admiration. You could draw me a picture, write a short poem, give me a small gift of some kind, make a homemade card, etc. I will roll two dice. The number on the dice- that is how many minutes you have to prepare your tribute.

If I am impressed with your tribute, you will receive a small reward. If I am not impressed, you will be punished.

By the way, I may choose to have several rounds of tribute, particularly if I am unimpressed with your first attempt.

 Ace of Diamonds: Replacement Command

This card allows me to recover a command card I am particularly fond of. I am switching this one with a command which has already been discarded (to be played immediately).

 

The Penalty Deck

Penalty card are played in the same way as command cards.   The associated text is read aloud by the Queen, and her slave must obey immediately.

Two of Clubs: Assume the Position

You have been a bad boy, haven’t you? Yes, you deserve a good spanking. Present yourself to your Queen and bend over.

I am now going to roll two dice. Watch the total dice roll…that’s exactly how many gentle but firm smacks you will receive to your cute rear end

Three of Clubs: Give Me Twenty

I may not be a drill sergeant, but I want you to drop down and give me twenty. That’s right; twenty good quality push-ups. If I a displeased with your effort, you will be punished again.

Incidentally, this card is not discarded. Rather, it will be go back into the penalty deck. Next time you draw it, the penalty will double (40 push-ups, or 80 if you are unfortunate enough to draw it a third time!)

Four of Clubs: Time Out

For most little boys, being forced to stand (or sit) still is one the worst forms of punishment. So, I want you to find the nearest corner. Go to stand in it. Put your hands behind your back and press your nose softly into the wall. You are now officially in time out. Do not move. Do not squirm. Be perfectly still. If I notice you fidgeting, I will just make you stay there longer.

By the way, if we are playing a timed game, the time out period is officially excluded from the total. In other words, this penalty will get you no closer to the end of the game.

Five of Clubs: Assume the Position, Again

You have been a very bad boy. You deserve a flogging. Go fetch a suitable whip for your Queen to use. It should be something simple and quick: a ruler, a hairbrush, your own belt, et

Now, I am going to roll one die. Watch the roll…that’s exactly how many swats you will receive.

By the way, if I dislike your selection, then you will have to try again. You will still receive a whipping, and you will be required to draw a second penalty card.

(Don’t worry…this need not be painful. If you prefer, this can entirely gentle and playful. For me, it’s purely about the symbolism. Your “whip” really can be anything you want. If you happen to have one, a small leather flogger is ideal…it makes a rather serious sound, but it doesn’t hurt. In any case, if there something specific you want to use, simply order him to fetch it!)

Six of Clubs: Nudity

Your are clothes are unnecessary. Remove them immediately. And, as a minor punishment, you are hereby required to be completely naked whenever you are in my presence. Any clothing of any kind is strictly prohibited.

If, by chance, you are already in the nude from another command or penalty, then this card will be immediately discarded and will be punished again for good measure (draw another penalty card).

Seven of Clubs: Pinched

Come kneel next to me; each of your nipples clearly needs to be pinched. And, perhaps a few other body parts as well…

By the way, be perfectly still. If you squirm too much, I may have to keep pinching you.

(Weird Confession- I’ve always been slightly turned on by the idea of pinching his nipples before or during sex. This penalty though is much better than typical foreplay; he is not allowed to actively resist or try to reciprocate. Plus, I can take as much time as I want…)

Eight of Clubs: Erotic Torment

Stand still, close your eyes, and prepare to be teased mercilessly.

(That’s all he needs to know for the moment. First, I strongly recommend blindfolding him and binding or cuffing his hands. Then, take an ice cube a slowly rub it across various parts of his body. Touch for a few moments, then remove. He will in desperate suspense about when and where the cube is going next.

If you really want to have fun with this one, you may need to actually tie him down to the bed. The less he can move, the more fun it will be for you. And be sure to take your time; there’s no need to rush! He is under your control.)

Needless to say, this is one of the kinkiest penalties and easily one of my favorites. ) 

Nine of Clubs: Give me Twenty, Again

Sit down and give me twenty good quality sit-ups.

By the way, this card is not discarded. Rather, it will be go back into the penalty deck. Next time you draw it, the penalty will double.

(Feel free to substitute a different exercise for sit-ups. Jumping jacks, crunches, anything you want). 

Ten of Clubs: On the Clock

Congratulations, you have just extended your enslavement. If we are playing a timed game, roll a die. That number (in minutes) shall be added to the length of the game. This card is inserted back into the deck. Next time it is drawn, add a second dice. This effect is cumulative every time it is drawn (three dice, four dice, etc.)

If we are playing a quota game or a “full” game, this simply means that a command that you thought was completed is no longer complete. In other words, a command card from the discard pile will be inserted back into the deck. My choice…of course! This card is also inserted back into the deck.

Jack of Clubs: Wild Card

This is a wild card; it means that you shall be punished in whatever way suits me at this particular moment.

If, after a minute or two, I can’t think of anything special, then you must draw again from the penalty pile. In the meantime, I will hold onto this card and use it later- once I think up something clever or devious…

(You need not think too hard about this. If you can’t think up anything unique, simply duplicate one of the other penalty cards that you are particularly fond of. Remember, you are the Queen…do you whatever you want!)

Queen of Clubs: Do it to Yourself

A Queen should not have to exert herself. So, I command you to punish yourself. Stand in front of me and give yourself a spanking. It need not be anything fancy, just use your hand to deliver a series of swats to your own ear end. You need not ask for further instruction. Once I tell you to begin, just continue spanking yourself until I tell you to stop. And make sure it’s a good quality spanking; I should be able to hear each slap.

King of Clubs: Do it to Yourself, Again

A Queen should not have to exert herself. So, I command you to punish yourself. Stand in front of me and give yourself a flogging.

Take my whip, and roll one die. The number on the die is number of swats that you must deliver to your own backside. And make sure it is quality whipping. If I am displeased with your effort, I will simply ask you to roll again and start over.

(Again, you “whip” can, in reality, be anything. A leather flogger is ideal…but brush or ruler or a belt. etc. all work just fine.)

Ace of Clubs: Fits the Crime

I want you to admit something naughty that you have done recently. After confessing the bad behavior, propose a suitable punishment (it must be different than anything else in penalty pile, and it should fit the crime). If I accept your idea, this card will be discarded and you will be punished accordingly.

If I do not accept it, then I will devise my own, more suitable way to discipline you. This card will be interested back into the deck (re-shuffle) and you will also be required to draw a second penalty card.

Two of Spades: Double Punishment

Unfortunately, you have just drawn the daily double. Draw two more additional cards (at random) from the penalty deck and reveal them to me. You will be punished accordingly.

This card (two of spades) should inserted back in the deck. (Re-shuffle). The second time it is drawn, it will have the same effect (two penalties), but it will then be discarded.

Three of Spades: Negative Reinforcement

From now on, there will be no more “rewards”. Instead, you will have to be motivated by negative reinforcement only.

Four of Spades: Captivity

As a symbol of your enslavement, I am adding some (symbolic) chains to your body.

Put your hands behind your back. For all intents and purposes, they are now locked in place. You are not permitted to release them; they must stay behind your back until further notice. If, at any time, you feel that you truly need your hands, then you must make a special request. I may temporarily allow to use your hands. Then again, I may not.

By the way, you should request this exemption sparingly. Every time you make a request, regardless of my response, you will be punished.

(If you prefer you could actually bind his hands or use a pair of handcuffs. It’s totally up to you. In my mind, symbolic chains are just as good). 

Five of Spades: Penmanship Practice

Sometimes, an old-fashioned punishments work best. So, go fetch a pen and a piece of paper. I am going to say a simple phrase. Find the nearest table or desk, and immediately begin writing down that phrase. Keep writing it, over and over again, until further notice.

When I decide that you have done enough, I will inspect your work. If I am satisfied the quantity and quality and your handwriting, you may be rewarded. If I am not satisfied, you will be punished with a second writing assignment and an additional penalty card from the deck.

(Possible examples: I am a very bad boy; My Queen is the most beautiful woman on the planet; etc.)

Six of Spades: Revoked!

As a minor punishment, your speaking privileges have temporarily been revoked. That’s right, until further notice, you are not permitted to speak. Just nod to acknowledge my commands, and continue serving as my slave. I will inform you if and when you with your speaking privileges have been restored. Until then, I will leave this card face up on the nearest to table to remind you of your restriction.

If, during the restriction, you say anything at all (for any reason), you must immediately draw another penalty card.   If you absolutely must speak in order to fufill a command or another penalty, then I might grant you a brief exemption from additional punishment. Then again, I might not!

(I always find it rather fun to tease him about this restriction. After this card is played, seductively tell him that, rather than speaking, there are many much more useful things he can do with his lips and tongue.)

Seven of Spades: Lucky

Lucky you! You get a freebie this time…No punishment. (Needless to say, this card is immediately discarded).

Eight of Spades: Captivity, Again

You are hereby banished to the dungeon. Follow me and prepare to be locked up. While I continue to enjoy my reign as supreme ruler of the kingdom, you will have to wait patiently in your assigned prison. At some point, I will release you. But, in the meantime, your punishment is solitary confinement.

By the way, if we are playing a timed game, the time out period is officially excluded from the total. In other words, this penalty will get you no closer to the end of the game.

(The “dungeon” can be anything you want. It can be a small closet, a bathroom, even a shower. Any small room or enclosed space will do. Also, for good measure feel free to bind his hands, blindfold him, and/or handcuff him while he waits. This will add to his sensation that he is a captive slave; sometimes it’s fun to be as kinky as possible. Also, one advantage of binding his hands is that, especially when if he is visibly aroused, you want to be sure he is not touching himself during his brief imprisonment.)

Nine of Spades: Hard Labor

I am going to name your least favorite task or household chore. Then, I will roll two dice. Hurry up, because that is number of minutes you have to complete this task. After the time has expired, I will inspect your work. If am pleased with your effort, well, then good boy. This card is discarded.

If I am not satisfied, then this card will be inserted back into the deck. You will be required to finish the assigned task, and then immediately draw a second penalty card.

(For this one you may want to take a simple task and make it more difficult. As in, clean the floor by scrubbing it on your hands and knees. After assigning the penalty, all you have to do is sit back, relax and enjoy the view.)

Rubber Band Torture

Go fetch a rubber band and put it around your wrist. Then roll one die- that is the number of times I am going to pull back the rubber band and snap your hand.

Afterward, this card is discarded but the band stays on. From now on, whenever you draw a penalty card, you also get one additional snap.

(A diabolical variation of this involves putting the rubber band around your man’s little friend downstairs. I actually tried this once on my husband. The results were impressive; he was on his best behavior the rest of the night, and he seemed to take extra effort to avoid drawing penalties.)

Jack of Spades: Slave’s Choice

I am granting you the rare opportunity to choose your own punishment. So, quickly examine the list of punishments and then search through the penalty deck and to pull out one card. You will be punished accordingly. Afterward, this card and your selected penalty card will be discarded. Also, be sure to re-shuffle the deck and thank me for my extraordinary generosity.

Queen of Spades: Queen’s Choice

After examining this list of punishments, I am going to search through the penalty deck and choose one card. You will be punished accordingly. Afterward, this card (queen of Spades) will be discarded, but the penalty card (which I am obviously fond of) will be re-instead into the deck.

King of Spades: You Lose

Aww, too bad for you! I’m afraid you have just forfeited the little reward that we had discussed at the end of this game. That’s right, there will be no sex for you tonight. Given your performance as my slave, I was still considering it. But it looks like you drew the worst possible penalty.

We will, of course, continue to play the game as agreed. Now though it really will be for my enjoyment and nothing else.

(As the Queen you can certainly change your mind about this later. This whole thing is about what you want after all. If you want sex on the end of the game, you will get it. On the other hand, don’t feel bad about enforcing this penalty. The look on his face will be priceless, and it will give you a perfectly good reason if you weren’t feeling particularly like doing full intercourse at the end of the game. Plus, next time you play he will have a strong motivation to not draw penalties. He will suddenly dread this card and will do his utmost to avoid drawing it).

Ace of Spades: Draw Again

I am going to exercise my royal privilege to bring back a discarded penalty card. Wait patiently while I review the list of punishments. Then, I will search the discard pile and find one penalty card that I would like to use again. You will be punished accordingly.

(If, by chance, this happens to be the first or second penalty card drawn, then just hold onto this one. Make him draw a different penalty card for now, and use this one later to recover a penalty that you are fond of).

Additional/ Substitution ideas

I keep saying that you should modify this game to suit your own tastes. Well, here are a few simple ideas to get you started. If you like one of these, simply substitute it for a command or penalty in the main list that you aren’t particularly fond of. Otherwise, just use your imagination! There are thousands of commands and penalties to experiment with. The possibilities are literally endless. And, if all else, enlist the help of your man. You may be surprised what kind of kinky things he comes up with.

Commands

Kitchen Service

You have temporarily been appointed to the job of royal chef. And I am hungry. To the best of your ability, prepare a meal for your Queen. Use any available resources, and make it as efficient as possible.

After the meal is prepared, you will serve me and wait on me while I partake. After I am finished eating, and after all the dishes are completely cleared and cleaned, I will assess your performance in this task. If I am pleased, you will be rewarded with permission to consume the remaining food yourself. If I am not pleased, you will be prohibited from eating and you will be punished.

(Obviously, this one could take some time. This command really only makes sense in a full game or quota game, which is why I did not include it the original list. And, for once, you may want to cut him some slack on this one. A good meal requires planning and preparation. If he doesn’t know this one is coming, it will be tough to pull off).

Boy Toy

Your body is my plaything, so I am going to play with it. For the next several minutes (or longer), I am going to tease you with my fingers, lips, and tongue. You are not allowed to move or say anything.

(Obviously, it may be best to tie him up for this so he can’t squirm too much or escape. Bind his hands behind his back…or even better, tie him spread eagle to the bed. When you are done teasing, he will be desperately horny- all the better for serving you. As I’m sure you well know, a horny male is a complaint male.)

Boy Toy, Again

Your body is my plaything, so I am going to play with it. Or rather, make you play with it. You have exactly one minute, I want to see you fully aroused. Not halfway, either…a full erection. If by chance you are already visibly aroused then I want the opposite. You have one minute to get that thing under control.

Either way your time is short. Should you fail to comply with my command, you will be punished.

Fetch

You are not good at putting things away properly; you need practice. So, we are going to play a little game of fetch. I will name a random household item. Fetch it for me as promptly as possible. As soon as the item is presented to me, I will give you another one to fetch. After three or four such trips, I will tell you return the items to their proper spots.

If, at the end of the game, I am pleased with your overall ability to find and deliver useful items, you will be rewarded. If I am not pleased, you will be required to repeat the entire exercise.

While I am resting comfortably, I shall enjoy watching you scurry around.

Also, for each time that you fail and repeat this assignment, you must draw one penalty card (to be drawn after the entire task is complete.)

Footstool

You make a good footstool. Get down on all fours so that I may rest my feet upon your back. Hold this position until further notice. At various moments, I may ask you to sit up or stand up. I do, after all, like having my feet elevated from time to time. You also make a good elevated leg rest.

Sexy Dance

I am going to name a song. Go put it on, and proceed to turn it into the sexiest dance you can manage. Pretend you are male stripper if you must…I want to see a sexy dance!

(For the vast majority of men, this command is very embarrassing. For you though it should be quite amusing).

Truth or Dare

We are going to play a little game of truth or dare. So which is it? Regardless of which one you choose, you will be punished if you fail to adequately comply.

The first time this is played, it returns to the deck. The second time, you must choose the option you did not choose before. The card is then discarded.

(Truth questions should be naughty. “Tell me a sex fantasy you have that I do not already know about.” Or, “Tell me about the first time you masturbated.”   Dares should be sexy and outlandish…”remove my underwear using only your teeth”, or, “talk dirty- try to seduce me with words only.) 

Penalties

Walk All Over You

Prostate yourself before your Queen. That’s right, I want you to lay down, face up, and hold perfectly still. I am going to walk all over you like you are my own personal Persian rug. If my foot happens to land on or near your face- be sure to kiss the foot and inhale deeply its aroma.

(If you are feeling particularly evil, you can do this while wearing high heels- Amusing for you. For him…ouch!)

Blinders

Your sight privileges have temporarily been revoked. So, go fetch something that can be used as a blindfold. I am going to cover your eyes. Until further notice, you are not permitted to see anything.

If, at any time, you feel that you truly need your sight (to comply with a command or other penalty), you must make a special request. I may temporarily remove the blindfold. Then again, I may not.

By the way, you should request this exemption sparingly. Every time you make a request, regardless of my response, you will be punished.

Wet Towel

Fetch a towel, and use water to make it damp. Then bring it to me; I am going to roll it up (as tightly as possible) and whip you with it. Be sure to hold still…it may take me several tries to get the perfect pop. No squirming while I am experimenting!

Dirty Laundry

This time, I shall punish your sense of smell

Assemble all the dirty laundry in the house and bring it to me. One by one, I want you to examine each item thoroughly…with your nose. I want to give me a detailed report of each item, and clearly identify the worst smelling item. Do the same with any pair of shoes that has been used recently.

(After identifying the worst one, order him to hold it next to his face. Be sure his mouth is closed tightly so that you must breath through your nose. Order to hold this position for a minute or two…or longer… )

(Now, admittedly, this is a particularly silly and ridiculous penalty. But, the fact is, in order to come up with a large number of unique punishments, sometimes you have to think outside the box).

Ball and Chain

As a penalty, you now must carry around a symbolic “ball and chain” for the rest of the game. I am going to name a household item. Bring it me so that I can tie it to your ankle (or wrist). Wherever you go, you must now carry this object around as a symbol of your enslavement.

By the way, though this penalty is designed to frustrate your efforts, I still expect exemplary service from my slave. Any delays to my commands shall be met with additional punishments.

(A suitcase or a rolling chair are two options. He can carry these around while continuing to do your bidding.)

Double Rolls

From now on, any roll of the dice affecting a penalty (number of push ups, length of spanking, etc.) shall be doubled. This is true unless the roll works to your benefit (i.e., amount of time you are given to complete a task). In that case, the roll is cut in half.

This card is discarded, but the penalty stays in effect until further notice.

Final Thoughts

So there it is, the game in all its glory. I hope at least some of you find it helpful or interesting. Again, I am sorry about temporarily taking over the forum!  A few other parting thoughts:

Ultimately, the point of this entire post is that sometimes sex should be about you…your pleasure, your fantasies, and your desires. So much of what our society considers sexy involves the objectification of women and women’s bodies. In my opinion then, it’s ok, even desirable, for the woman to be in control of the bedroom.   And it does not need to about whips and chains…I think satisfying kinky sex really is all about imagination, and attitude. All the text and ideas on the cards are simply designed to get you thinking about what to do with your man when you are feeling sexually dominant (or at least, kinky and experimental). Any of these ideas can be used outside the context of a silly game. I know many women are interested in, or have boyfriends/husbands interested in, kinky sex but they simply do not know where to start. Hopefully, some of these ideas will stimulate your imagination.

Also, some of the ladies out there may find it strange, awkward, or even cruel to treat your man however temporarily, like a “slave.” If that’s the way you feel, it’s completely fine! Believe me though, most men will be willing to play along. Men are competitive; they like challenges. And, they have a strong and urgent sex drive…games like this simply channel some of that sexual energy into something that is (hopefully) fun and pleasurable for both of you. And honestly, the ideas posted here are quite soft and playful compared to much of the stuff you will find on the internet. Bottom line though, if light bondage and (pretend) sexual enslavement just do not interest you, then so be it. You should never do something outside your comfort zone or outside what you feel is appropriate for your marriage.

If, on the other hand, you really do want to explore your kinky side, I would recommend investing in a few toys. The following items are useful, easy to find, and inexpensive.

Handcuffs- You can always tie his hands with rope or string. But if you are going to get kinky on a fairly regular basis, you might as well buy a pair of handcuffs. Rope can chafe or cut off circulation; handcuffs are actually safer. Cheap plastic ones are good for playing around; a metal pair is useful if you really want to make him your prisoner. Or, for a bit more money, you can also buy leather or padded wrist restraints that tend to be much more comfortable than metal- good if you plan to keep him locked up for more than a few minutes.

A Good Quality Blindfold- Similarly, a real blindfold or face mask is better than a makeshift one. A cloth or piece of clothing can work just fine, but a commercial blindfold is probably worth the (minimal) investment. You and your man will quickly learn to prefer a blindfold that is comfortable and does not slip off prematurely.

A Set of Restraints- In my opinion, nothing is sexier that having your my man tied down, naked and spread eagle, to the bed posts. It’s just perfect for teasing and playing with him. Or maybe you want him to tie you up. Either way, a basic set of bondage restraints is a good buy. You can always improvise (four neckties, for example), but again a purchased set may actually be safer (and much more convenient). There are tons of restraint options on the internet. A few have names like “beginner’s bondage kit”, etc. Many of them use Velcro, and some can be used without bedposts or headboards.  You just want something that is comfortable but secure.

A small leather flogger. This one was actually mentioned specifically in the game. In my opinion, it’s a must have for any couple that is experimenting with kinky sex for the first time. It looks (and sounds) like a little whip…perfect for releasing you inner dominatrix. But, it does not hurt at all; it is incapable of inflicting pain. And it’s cheap. For a few dollars you can find one online or in a novelty shop. Keep in mind though this toy really is purely symbolic. If you really want to give your man a good whipping, you better invest in the last item on the list.

A Riding Crop- My personal favorite, a good riding crop this is the most versatile accessory around. It can be as gentle as a feather or painfully intense. It is really is equally good at playful teasing as it is at physical punishment. And if you do want to punish your man’s body, I find the crop to be much more practical and satisfying than an actual whip. Plus it just looks (and sounds) sexy. Even if you make no physical contact, the sound it makes demands respect. I firmly believe that any woman interested domination and submission should possess a good riding crop…Husbands and boyfriends beware!

Ok, that’s it! Have fun out there…and stay safe!

 

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4 replies
  1. Loved by my Wife says:

    It would be cool if you could have these printed & sold. I am always on the lookout for sexy games – which combine 2 of my favorite activities – and I think this one has a lot to offer.
    Have you considered adding reward cards for tasks done well? and/or perhaps a set of cards where one is chosen for the Final Reward – something particularly Climactic.

    • Ella Feeney says:

      Yes, you are right. Part of the reason we invented this game is that we could not find anything on the market that really fit our tastes and desires.

      I think reward cards certainly could be a good idea. You could for example, split the penalty deck so that only half the cards are penalties while the other half are rewards. Rewards could be minor (a kiss on the cheek, a small snack or treat, etc.) But, as you said, you could also make a bigger “final reward.” In my mind, finally letting him have sex is the ultimate reward for a job well done. I don’t really need a card for that. On the other hand, a card could be designed to give him a type of sex or sexual position that he really enjoys. Or, you could switch things up…make a card that makes the wife give her husband oral pleasure.

      Anyway, as I said, feel free to modify the rules or the cards to fit your tastes. Work with your wife to come up with a variation that really turns you on! Otherwise, be safe…and have fun!

    • Tony conrad says:

      I love it. Especially the punishment bits. My wife doesn't like punishment so I don't know if it would work the other way around. One can modify it to suit their tastes. I felt an anticipationary glow just reading it.

  2. Tony Conrad says:

    I just read this again in detail and think it is great. I am glad there are wives around who can think like that. I am jealous of the husband. What a lot of fun for those who are a bit kinky. My wife isn't really kinky but she does her best and is getting comfortable with it. I am very grateful for it and her.

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