Third-Party Phone Sex?

Hi, MHers. We think today’s Ignite story will engender a bit of discussion, so we thought we’d create this post as a place for that.

The story involves a committed, mature married couple who answer a phone call while having sex. This leads to a sexual conversation between the three parties and orgasms for all.

You can discuss your reactions to Ben’s Wonderfully Kinky Wife in the comments below. As always, respectful and humble communication find the most receptive audience.

 

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  1. hornyGG says:

    Ok, now that I have calmed down a bit. As I said in the comment at the end of the post, this story made me cum. First of all my husband's name is Ben, and secondly because of the scenario that the fantasy described. Let me just say also that the writing was excellent as well.
    Ben and I both have had fantasies about being with other people. That's all it is though, just a fantasy. We would never tempt ourselves into acting out such fantasies in reality, however.
    Fantasies are a wonderful and natural part of human sexuality as long as the fantasy is kept in perspective. Fantasies play a large part in our sexual development, especially during masturbation.
    Ben and I enjoy sharing our fantasies. They help in the foreplay before sex. I think it is normal to have fantasies like the one described in this story. Like I said, as long as they are kept as fantasy.
    A lot of times while masturbating together with our toys, we will fantasize we are involved in a foursome with another couple. The couple is generally faceless, but we have given our toys names to aid in the fantasy. The names are not of people we know, just random ones we picked. I actually named Ben's pocket pussy " Suzy Q". It is a name also given to his fleshlight, which he enjoys using the most. The name comes from the song by the same name.
    I have named my 8" non vibrating dong "Frank" after the term "Frankfurter". Weird, I know. Besides, "Frank" seems like a very masculine name, sexually aggressive and well-endowed .
    While using "Frank", I have often fantasized about the "illicit affair" scenario, though I would never EVER cheat on Ben in reality. Many times it involves Ben catching me, and of course, we end up having sex with one another.
    Anyway, thanks to Bill for sharing this fantasy. And thank you MH for including it here. God bless and Stay horny!
    ❤ GG

    • SecondMarge says:

      I like the way you think. My big cock shaped dildo has a name. It’s named after a real person. His GF named it that when she gave it to me. It’s a joke between us. Glad to see you take this as fun not some deep meaningful event that needs to be over analyzed just in case some person might have an objection. No matter what decision we make someone out there will think it’s wrong. Let them take a different course in life but do not let them influence the path you choose.

    • hornyGG says:

      I agree Second Marge. I think as Christians we do tend to over analyze things. This story was a hot fictional story and should be taken as such.
      I enjoyed the story very much and jilled off to a nice orgasm after reading it. Stories like this may push the boundaries a little, but I personally feel they are good for MH. Thanks for your comment. God bless and Stay horny!
      ❤❤ Gina

  2. PatientPassion says:

    Certain aspects of the story are hot and arousing, but I'm still uncomfortable with the idea as a whole. Imagine this took place without one of the spouses' presence or consent. It could easily be seen as a sort of affair, even if it never went all the way to physically acting out adultery. And I hope we'd all agree that mere consent doesn't make adultery okay. So even with consent from all parties, does that make this okay? I'm leaning quite heavily toward "no," just like mutual consent in a physical threesome doesn't make it okay. As an imperfect human with an imperfect conscience and discernment, I'm not going to claim absolute certainty, but that's my take. I'm interested to see what everyone else thinks.

    • SecondMarge says:

      If you feel that way then this fantasy is something you should not participate in. Sex fantasies are like flavors of ice cream at an ice cream parlor. Pick one you like and maybe taste test some and avoid others.

    • PatientPassion says:

      To add some caveats, I do think it's a good idea for spouses to share their sexual fantasies with each other. However, certain fantasies (like the one in the story that dealt with specific people) should be handled with care. The wife in the story might be excited by that idea, but the same thing could very likely be deeply hurtful to someone else. So we need to be careful about if and how to share fantasies in that regard.

      However, I think sharing fantasies generally is a good way to foster greater intimacy and a deeper "knowing" in marriage, while also potentially adding some extra excitement to sex. Of course, spouses should be careful to focus more on loving their real marriage partner than some dreamed-up fantasy, whether that fantasy is a person, situation or something else.

      With that in mind, my overall opinion is this: I don't think it would be right to act out the story in question as a whole. If kept as a fantasy, it's harder to condemn, but I'm still not comfortable with entertaining fantasies of something if it would be wrong to act out.

      Sorry my thoughts are so scattered! I'm wrestling with this issue and haven't come to a real conclusion. You're basically getting my thought process with only light editing, haha!

    • SecondMarge says:

      The concept that I have an obligation or even right to “condemn” the decisions others make in their marriages is so offensive to me. Live your life in the way you think is right. Be an example. But never judge, far less condemn others. That right only belongs to God. That much the Bible is clear about.

      We the members at MH wrestle with the dividing line between what is acceptable and what is not. It’s a floating target. We often are on differing sides. I respect all others opinions but it’s one thing to say I like strawberry ice cream better than pistachio. It’s another to say others shouldn’t eat pistachio because they think strawberry is better. Especially one who has never eaten ice cream.

      The domino theory of don’t do this because it could lead to that is truly a worthless argument. If it were true, there is almost nothing we could do because it could lead to something bad.

    • PatientPassion says:

      I try to be careful with my word choice, but I don't always get it right. "Condemn" definitely wasn't the right one to use there, so thank you for challenging me on that, SecondMarge. My thoughts were focused on working out the issue generally and I didn't put enough care into choosing that crucial word to properly communicate my idea.

      Allow me to explain better: I'm not weighing whether we should judge or condemn anyone; I acknowledge that's God's job and his alone. However, I do think we have an obligation to uphold the truth and lovingly, gently, gracefully point out what is right and wrong. (And "condemn" really doesn't communicate love, gentleness or grace!) If it were merely an issue of "what's right for one person or couple," I wouldn't have even the slightest issue with it. The main reason I'm trying to offer some considerations to this discussion is because I'm concerned there is an issue of absolute right and wrong, not just an issue of what may be wise/unwise or acceptable/unacceptable for certain people.

      I'll illustrate it using your ice cream example. I don't think I'd ever like pistachio ice cream, but if someone else does, more power to them! My concern is not about whether strawberry or pistachio is better, or who thinks one is better. My concern is whether there's a flavor that might be poisoned. That would be a matter of objective, absolute truth, not a matter of subjective, relative opinion. And I'm not entirely certain that the flavor (or fantasy) in question is poisoned, but if I have that substantial suspicion, I feel a duty to at least bring up that concern out of love for those who might consume it.

      And to make sure I'm understood on another point, I agree the "domino theory" isn't useful in this context. I'm not saying fantasies like this could be problematic because of the potential to lead to something else. That potential may indeed be real, but it has no direct bearing on whether the fantasy itself is right or wrong. My concern is that the fantasies themselves might be displeasing to God. For example, can we really rightly enjoy the thought of doing something sinful? It's far different than actually doing it, of course, but I still wrestle with this concept.

      And a final short point: I don't think the line between acceptable and unacceptable is a floating target. I think it's an absolute truth fixed in place by God, but it appears to us to be floating because our vision has been impaired by our sinful nature.

      I hope that clarifies my thoughts! Thanks again SecondMarge for challenging me to be more careful about how I make my points!

  3. Southernheat says:

    This story was such a turn on very sexy and well written. The thought of having someone you know listening to you have sex is really hot! I don’t know if it would be a good thing for the third party to know your husband had fantasized about them in particular. This might make things even more awkward after the incident. I think it’s probably better to stay a fantasy. I do think it’s less dangerous by phone than actually bringing another person into the mix which is definitely wrong in my opinion.

    • AlwaysReady says:

      I agree.. (as usual we are on the same page). The only thing that I had to get past was the familial relationship, it being her sister. Other than that I found it a turn on and a fun fantasy. (trying it IRL may or may not ever be smart but in fantasy land.. so fun).

  4. CrazyHappyLoved says:

    Here are my thoughts:

    *Lusting means desiring to have. The man in this story made it quite clear that he did *not* desire to have his wife's sister.

    *Jesus did talk about lusting for a married woman, saying that you've already committed adultery with her in your heart. The sister in this story was no longer married. It's a technicality, though, since she also couldn't be his "second wife," in most legal systems today. But the point is moot since the husband actually desires to have sex with no one other than his spouse.

    *I would never have this conversation with my sister, or any other close relative or friend, because of the weirdness it would create in our relationship from then on.

    *The story is fiction, but the openness and lack of condemnation for thoughts and turn-ons between spouses is something to be desired. I believe my husband and I have this kind of relationship. There is nothing that either of us has or could ever mention as a turn-on that would lead us to condemn the other. That said, we are both committed to our actions remaining within God's instructions for marriage. If it doesn't fall within those parameters, we don't do it.

    *Both my husband and I find beauty in God's design for the human body of both sexes in all its permutations. We have also tasted the pleasures of multiple-partner sex and found it wanting. Not only did it lack the intimacy and love that we have with each other, but it also diluted what we did have at the time. When one of us began to "feel something" for one of the other people (as God designed us to do), it nearly brought us to divorce. Confusion, guilt, shame, blame… none of which we would have faced if we kept sex between only the two of us.

    That being said, a phone (or text) conversation about sex, even during sex, and even with instructions being given and happy endings for all, doesn't constitute group sex in my book. They weren't even imagining the sister being there. But I do see why some would draw the line at having another person involved in their sex life in any way. Besides, the wife in this make-believe story doesn't have the hang-ups and insecurities that most real people have to deal with.

    Bottom line: Hot story!!! But I wouldn't be surprised if it were a stumbling block for some and a floodgate for others.

    • SecondMarge says:

      I don’t think there is any question that not all sex acts or even fantasies are right for all couples or individuals. It takes a very strong marriage and committed couple to be open enough with each other to explore some of them. As you state some actions could test a marriage and either strengthen it or destroy it.

      I thank you for sharing your experiences. The ones my husband and I had strengthened our marriage. But if our love and commitment to each other was less it might have tested us.

  5. BillAnthony says:

    CrazyHappyLoved, I’m impressed with your thoughts and analysis! I admit the fictional characters in this story ARE pushing the limits. And it might be “dangerous” for some couples to actually venture this far. When writing this, I was exploring the total love, trust, private thoughts, commitment and intimacy a husband and wife shared within their secure monogamous marriage. I feel openly sharing fantasies, sexual role playing, voyeurism, and exhibitionism, can all help satisfy our kinky thoughts and desires within our monogamous relationship.

    I agree with you, CrazyHappyLoved. Without love and intimacy, sex is shallow and without meaning! But sharing thrillingly erotic scenarios with your loving partner is the ultimate sexual experience! With my partner, after our lust was satisfied, all that was left was our love for each other. And I feel that’s how it should be.

  6. HeSaid-SheSaid says:

    Hot story yes, but kinda unlikely for most people. Permissible? Likely. Is it healthy or beneficial? Probably not for most either.
    If I was at a party and a married couple slipped into a private bedroom and had sex and I could even hear them, I would be very happy for them and not bothered in the least. I might even grab my own wife and head for the adjacent bedroom. All good. I've even talked with friends and encouraged them to go home and bed their spouse, sometimes giving ideas for role play or positions. But I have never given real time direction whilst they are in the act, and doubt I ever would.

    Now there have been times I have been having sex with my wife when the phone rang and one of us has answered it. While keeping the conversation short, we continued to bang each other during the call, however I doubt the person on the other end had any idea what we were doing. Sometimes though, I was tempted to say "hang up now, we're f***ing", but never had the nerve. But if it was the right person whom I knew could handle that info, I might just say it for the fun of it.

  7. LovingMan says:

    I would not do this scenario, but answering the phone when my wife and I were making love has happened a number of times. Usually, we pause for the phone conversation but sometimes my wife won’t leave me alone and keeps harassing me while I talk on the phone. Sometimes I harass her while she’s on the phone. We don’t tell the person on the other end that they interrupted our lovemaking session. On most occasions, we just don’t answer the phone while we are “busy.”

  8. Tulsa says:

    People call at the most inconvenient times!
    A friend of ours called, right when my wife and I both got fully naked one afternoon. My wife talked to her long enough, where I decided I wasn’t going to wait anymore, so I spread her legs, slid down, and went to town with my tongue. I figured that would give her a reason to tell her she had to go.
    Instead, she started giving her a ‘blow by blow’, so to speak.
    We had fun, and so did our friend!

    • PacMan says:

      This is NEXT LEVEL hot, Tulsa. The thought of my wife doing this with one of her GFs is 🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • Tulsa says:

      My wife and her talk about sex all the time, but this was the first time they talked about it while it was going on!
      Without a doubt, it was HOT! It was sort of like I was showing off, or something like that!

    • AlwaysReady says:

      We've had something similar happen.. not a play by play via the phone, but I got in a text conversation with a friend while spooning my wife late in bed one night. She had been dozing off and was half asleep, sort of going in and out of sleep. Sometimes she likes what she calls "lazy sleep sex" so whilst I was texting my friend, she reached back pulled me close, and inserted me in a lazy relaxing way. Now, this was a friend that I talk regularly about sex with, so I just said, Well you won't believe what's happening, and if you lose me for a minute.. you know why. I didn't really give details but he definitely knew what was going on which made it hot.

  9. A Better Pastime says:

    We agree with @Southernheat (i.e. less dangerous by phone than bringing another person into the mix). We have recently discussed what it would be like to have sex while on the phone with another couple who was also having sex. Of course, the intrigue of it all (i.e. talking with another couple on the phone who was having sex while we were also having sex, and varied paths that the conversation would take, who would talk to who, what they would say to each other as the sexual acts were ongoing and intensifying) was intensely arousing. We decided to take a different track by pulling up a perfectly boisterous visual erotica piece that we found online on one of our phones, then plugging in two different sets of headphones into the one single phone so that we could listen while we were essentially just fucking each other. My wife loved being eaten out while listening, said it was the most intense orgasm she'd ever had that way, and we both loved just "fucking" each other while listening. It was incredibly intense. Our only downside to this is that we could not exchange in dirty talk.

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