I’m new here and need some thoughts, advice, suggestions, etc.
I am at a stage in my life where I have discovered erotica, my own body, and enjoying the above. Hubs is not so on board with it all. He just doesn’t get any of it: why a woman would want to read it or feel her own body. We have a good intimate relationship, nothing lacking there.
He does (I think) enjoy some fantasy at times. He will play it off like he doesn’t, but I have sometimes caught him looking over my shoulder. Also, he has walked in on me enjoying myself, and didn’t immediately walk out. But when he does, he will either have a comment or later say, “I don’t get why you like this stuff.” Then he will say, “Do I not give you enough?”
I always assure him before, during, and after. I have explained that I just enjoy the excitement and adventure of it. I try to enjoy the feeling. I know I need to be totally comfortable with it before I can work on pulling him on board or even coaxing him in. My question is, without his support, how do I get completely comfortable with it? Like how do I relax while enjoying myself? How do I not feel guilt, etc.?
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