Introducing Myself to the MarriageHeat Family

Hello, friends! I’m a twenty-five-year-old single Christian lady.  Within the last year or two, I stumbled onto this site, and let me say right off: the stories and the principles behind this ministry have really helped me!

To give you a better picture of my background, I need to explain that I wasn’t educated much on sex by my parents.  My mom gave me an extremely conservative book (I believe written by Mennonites) on this subject when I was nineteen, and frankly, I was repulsed when I learned what intercourse was.  You might laugh at me, but I was so ignorant that, up to that point, I thought women got pregnant by kissing! Thus every kissing scene in a movie made me a little critical of the actresses, because I just knew they all got pregnant afterwards!

For several years, I had difficulty coming to grips with what sex really entails.  I’d lived all my life keeping myself pure (without really knowing what it meant) and trying to be modest, though not in an over-the-top fashion, and I felt that it would be impossible to throw all that to the wind and let a man invade me like that on my wedding night.

Please understand that I don’t blame my parents for raising me and my siblings the way they have.  In fact, I’m so glad they homeschooled us and kept many harmful influences out of our home.  But my mom is pretty uncomfortable discussing these things, though she can be humorous about it.  My dad is a little more unconstrained, and we’ve have good conversations, especially when I got the courage to go to him with some questions and doubts.

Since then, I’ve been doing my own research, and that’s how I came across MarriageHeat.  The stories, both real and fictional, absolutely opened my eyes to the glory of sex (when it’s done God’s way, in marriage) and helped tear down my fears about it.  Plus, I’m an author, and since I probably will never publish any kind of erotica for mainstream reading, this is a safe, discreet place where I can write more steamy stuff.  It’s been a wonderful outlet for my own dreams about marriage.  It has also helped me overcome all doubts about masturbation (that’s a whole other story) and freed me from guilt about discovering my body and sexuality.

To wrap up, I’m very content where I am right now, and God has confirmed that He’s got things for me to be doing that don’t involve a relationship at this time, but I want to get ready just in case! That’s a quick outline of yours truly, and I really hope every reader on MarriageHeat will enjoy the stories I post.  Thank the Lord for bringing me into this group of folks who are encouraging purity before marriage and passion all throughout it!

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39 replies
  1. Always Horny says:

    Hi there 🙏🏻 Respect to you for sharing your story & letting us in on that narrative so far.

    I applaud you for your pursuit for purity & righteousness, in wanting to live out Gods’ ways for your life.

    I have no doubt that God will continue to help you through all of these things & lead you in your sexuality & life 🙏🏻

    I look forward to reading your stories, I haven’t posted a story of my own yet, I’ve only posted about my marriage breakdown in 2017 with my wife asking for prayer at the time.

    I’ve not been remarried or intimate since then, so I have nothing to write about, except for maybe masturbating. I’m 33 now.

    Bless you friend 💯

    • LovelyLonelyLady says:

      Thank you for the welcome! This site has really blest me. I'm so sorry if you've had a difficult marital experience. Praying that the Lord will guide and strengthen you as you honor Him.

  2. Waiting Hardly says:

    So refreshing to meet someone in your stage of life that knows what they want and is content that they are within the will of God. You definitely have great things ahead of you. It’s also wonderful to hear that faithful Christians are discovering the blessing of masturbation that God designed for us to use to meet our own needs until we are married. Looking forward to your writing!

  3. DefiantArtist says:

    Hi and welcome to the community! I was also raised like that (I'm 26 now!) and I totally get what you're saying about the restrained nature of your sex ed. Congratulations on your research and development, and thank the Lord you are able to see the entirety of the truth now.

    I like what you say about homeschooling, too. I was and still am mostly self-taught, but built off the foundation that my parents laid in the home. Because of that I am able to think outside the box and actually step back and look at the entire picture, rather than just go along with what everyone else says, you know? I believe our individual identity is very important, and that is precisely what is lost in the public school system. It is good to hear you are able to appreciate that and see what your advantages and blessings are that have come from homeschooling.

    Look forward to reading your stories here, and to quote an old Irish blessing, May God hold you in the hollow of His Hand.

    • LovingHardly says:

      @DefiantArtist, you asked about joining Songs of the Believers in another comment below. Wanted you to know that I am having the same issue and you aren’t the only one.

    • alwayswet101 says:

      Also just wanted to ask because I’m so proud you realized masturbation is a normal and healthy feeling and activity…what are your favorite techniques, what brings you the most pleasure? Please keep on masturbating!

  4. DefiantArtist says:

    By the way, and forgive me if I am being too personal here, but how big is your family? I only ask because there seems to be a trend of really big home schooled families, like somehow the two are related. I myself am the fifth son out of a family of 19…number 20 to be born in a couple months. My Dad has been busy! 🙂

    • LovelyLonelyLady says:

      I'm the oldest of five kids. When we were little we felt like a HUGE family, but when we moved to another state when I was about 13, we met families much bigger, some with 10 kids, so I don't know. 🤔

    • alwayswet101 says:

      Oh he’s been busy alright! We’re so in love with my pregnant body and my horniness that we may be having just as many! Insane what pregnancy can do to a couple!

  5. WakaWaka123 says:

    I look forward to reading your stories! this site has been great for me as someone who is in his 20's and grew up in a very similar way. I got almost no sex education as a kid (parents pulled me out of it in school) and so I had to figure things out on my own, which was pretty awkward.

    Another site that I've found super helpful is "Songs of the Believers." It's similar to this site but more discussion-focused!

    • DefiantArtist says:

      Hey there, how can I join Songs of the Believers? I tried to fill out their questionnaire, twice, and got nothing in response. What's the deal?

    • InLuvWithA88Hottie says:

      I have also not been able to get on the site. Never got a response after I filled it out.

  6. Sarge says:

    Welcome to the MH family. I respect you very much for remaining virtuous and pure in God's eyes. I’m quite familiar with the Mennonites and respect them greatly, though they are “old-fashioned.”

    Be wise and careful in your courtship with men nowadays, which I’m sure you’re fully aware of. I look forward to your stories, and I hope you’ll enjoy mine. Sex within the bonds of marriage is awesome, sacred, and a lot of fun.

    I’m a widower of 9 years this week, so for me, masturbation is a fun way to remember the joy and pleasure my dear Heidi gave me.

    Have fun!

    • LovelyLonelyLady says:

      The advice and friendliness of all the comments makes me love this place even more! Thank you for yours. And may the Lord give you joy and grace and happy memories of your wife.

  7. Bighuged says:

    Welcome! I’m a single 24yo male who was also home schooled, so I can definitely relate!! Glad you’ve been able to find the site, it’s been helpful to me as well.

    Also it’s awesome to hear that you’ve been able to into get more comfortable with your sexuality. Would love hear more about what you’re learning and experimenting with regarding self play. And would love to see you continue with your stories! I’ve really been enjoying them!

    Your sailing story was soooo hot and so well written! My cock was throbbing the entire time I read it. And the naughtiness of being out on the boat fucking like animals… I shot a huge load when I got to that part in the story. I really made a mess of my bed sheets 😂😂 so thanks for that! 😅

    Anyway really looking forward to more hot stories from you and glad you’re here! And if you have any questions for a male who’s probably shared similar experiences to you when it comes to sex and masturbation or anything else, just let me know! I’m happy to help and add insight anyway I can!

    • Mr.Lover says:

      Hi Bighuged,

      I really loved that story as well.

      I believe that we have talked before. As a fellow single male in his late 20's, I agree with your're statements about MH.

      Finally, the photo chosen for that story is really hot. I have a weakness for exotic-looking women. There are so many different types of women that I have found to be cuties.

    • alwayswet101 says:

      I’m so glad you’re both here! I know you’re both single males in their 20’s with hormones lol. I can understand the hormone thing as I sit here constantly wet in my heightened state of arousal being pregnant. I am more than happy to answer any questions you may have from a woman’s point of view. [From MH: submitted as discussion posts, please, not in comments.] You both seem like faithful and loyal guys who I pray soon will be married to a great woman! But for now… don’t hesitate to fly solo in your pleasure!

  8. Cupid says:

    An excellent introduction, following several compelling story postings. Thank you for sharing. Because the internet came into common usage the year you were born, and it was instantly flooded with sexual content and it remains so today, it surprises me that you could reach age 19 without stumbling even by accident dozens of times onto descriptions or depictions of the male-female physical union through which human soul becomes flesh in the womb. I was in my mid-30s when the internet came into common use, and I grew up in a strictly religious Christian household and attended a strict Christian school, but I still had a fairly clear understanding by about age 8 of the basics of human reproduction without instruction on the subject from either of my parents. It boggles my mind, but I suppose that if you grew up without electricity and had no siblings or close neighbors, it would be possible. Even if you'd lived out in the country though, you'd most likely have livestock, dogs to guard the livestock, and cats to eat rodents, and it would be fairly obvious from a young age how they reproduce. It would also be apparent from preparing the livestock as food in the kitchen that we're physiologically not all that different from other mammals. Anyway, it boggles my mind, but it's certainly possible.

    • LovelyLonelyLady says:

      Thank you for the comment! It actually made me laugh because it does seem rather comical that I thought the way I thought. I didn't get internet access until maybe age 15, and didn't even start using YouTube until 17 or 18. Our family does have electricity and most of the normal accoutrements of modern people; I just never had the urge to look into sex or related topics. 😋 But thanks to God, I am learning and trying to shape all my ideas and decisions in His wisdom. I hope my stories capture that!

  9. MonsterCock23 says:

    I'm new as well! I'm a 23 y/o male Virgin who's seeking purity and waiting till marriage, this site is encouraging but also can make you long for what comes next… not the best thing if you are lonely but the stories are very good! Glad to have you here!

    • texasman76 says:

      Glad to have you, MonsterCock23. My wife and I were virgins when we married at 25. It is well worth the wait. I love this site and Songs of the Believers. Jacking/edging sure helped me save myself for my wife. I love edging to these stories since they keep me focused on my wife and sex in marriage. My sex drive and being a man is a blessing from God.

    • alwayswet101 says:

      MonsterCock23, I’m so glad you joined! This is a wonderful sight even for you in your single 20’s because we all know what the hormones are like then! But your raging hormones (even though less than a teen guy) are still probably less than this horny preggo lady! Glad to have both of you with us to share the horniness and pleasure!

    • MonsterCock23 says:

      Alwayswet101 I assure you my hormones are as crazy at 23 as they were at 18 😉 Time for me to find a Baptist Wifey and have 12 kids (No joke LOL)

    • alwayswet101 says:

      Oh MonsterCock23 that is good to know. I also don’t feel like my hubby’s hormones have changed a bit lol. And this preggo lady isn’t complaining! I don’t feel like I ever had a point in life where my libido is low but currently I feel like a teenage boy with insane hormones and I am having more orgasms a day through both self pleasure and solo time and with my wonderful hubby when he gets home! So glad you both joined, great to have you!

  10. Peterpan says:

    Hello Lovelylonelylady, I hope you will find your way here on MH. Your story is a little bit like mine in my younger years. I hope you overcome masturbation guilt as you are still a young woman. Gladly it came out. There is nothing worse than feeling guilty about something that feels so good. So enjoy MH!

  11. LuvBug says:

    Welcome to the site! Your commitment to purity is admirable. May God sustain you in this wicked world. I have enjoyed your stories so far. They are well written and engaging. Keep up the good work!

    I have some questions about the conversations with your dad that you mentioned. My wife and I are homeschooling our children, and while they are still young, we want to be prepared for the day when we will need to teach them about sex. Did you or your dad start these conversations? What was the general subject matter? Was it awkward, and did it become less so?

  12. likaself says:

    Thank you, LovelyLonelyLady.
    My own research culminated in me putting pen to paper in a blogspot at sologirlangel for everyone to read.
    I called it "Chastity, authentic Christian view".
    I gathered quite a bit of information including the place of masturbation in keeping oneself sexually pure. I think it only right that I share it, I trust that if you can find it that it will help you, other singles, and marrieds too.

  13. Etazini says:

    Hey LovelyLonelyLady,
    It's nice to read about your journey, which I can fully relate to. When I was on the search for myself I was, unfortunately, not able to find resources such as this page, so it took way longer to get access to Christians that helped me get rid of the guilt and shame part.
    My biggest struggle was always the "sex is gross, that's why save it for marriage" narrative, that I've often come across in churches…

  14. SecondMarge says:

    Welcome. I think many of us have experienced growing up with little or wrong information about sex. I am glad MH has been a helpful tool in you overcoming yours. We have to be careful that while we promote responsible behavior we don’t paint sex as ugly, dirty or wrong. Sexual acts can not only be very pleasurable but loving. MH does an excellent job in describing how that happens in marriage. Remember that we are all different and don’t expect everything from any source will apply to you. Be careful of those that claim they know exactly what the Bible and our Lord wants us to do or not do. That is something we all must decide for ourselves.

    Enjoy your journey to enlightenment.

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