Sexual Practices, Fetishes and Kinks
As I was reading the stories and discussions on this website (an getting incredibly horny), I thought about how best to satisfy my sexual needs, which lately have been almost overwhelming. My go-to in these circumstances is bondage—to be tied up, strapped up, or cuffed to an ankle spreader bar. I like something to limit my mobility, while making my pussy, ass and mouth completely accessible to his whims.
My vulnerability brings out a sexual aggressiveness in him that makes me wet with anticipation. As Mike has his way with me, I remain silent and dutiful, which puts me in overdrive.
Thinking about this, I wondered about our sexual practices and kinks, how we came to enjoy them, and how prevalent those are with other married couples. I also wondered what sexual activities are taboo to us, that might be popular with other couples.
So, my questions to all you hot, sexy beasts are:
- What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends?
- What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples?
- And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things?
- Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy?
Fun question!
• I discovered about 20 years or so ago that I love certain aspects of BDSM, and that I am a Dominant. My particular kinks include impact play, restraint, and orgasm control.
I also have a a sexual attraction to women’s feet. May mind sees them in exactly the same way it sees boobs.
In addition, I love both indoor and outdoor nudity.
None of these things would be acceptable among my family, friends, or church group, as I live in a very conservative region.
• My hard “No’s” would be permanent marks or bathroom play.
• I don’t really know why I like these things. I just found that it is some internal part of me that I really can’t explain and don’t fully understand. I just know what the response of my body and mind is.
• I was reluctant to accept all of these things. My conservative upbringing made me feel guilty about all of it. Honestly, I still feel guilty sometimes.
K.M. The womens footfetish is a fetish that both M. and I have as well. I can't remember if I shared how it started back in my preteen and early teen years. But ohhh how another womens feet in nylon barefoot or in heels has made me soak my panties with desire.
And I am fortunate to have a husband who feels the same way and who can talk about it with me.
He loves massaging and orally using my feet .
Lady L.
Hi Tutchh,
I think it’s fortunate that both you and M share a thing for feet.
At best, I feel like most people don’t actually get it, and at worst, people probably think it’s weird.
There are lots of variations including sub and femdom, but my personal kink is nothing like that.
Mine is a legitimate sexual attraction that carries the desire to see, touch, kiss, lick, suck, and have sex with the same way I do boobs.
Like you, I love them bare, in heels, and in nylons. I also love them in skimpy socks and tennis shoes. And I love the nails painted in certain shades of red, blue, green, pink, and for special occasions – black.
This is all in my head, of course, except when it bleeds over to a story I write.
Anyway…that got me all excited. Now I’m sitting here dripping precum…😂
K. M.
I totally get the tennis shoes and socks. Years ago I had a job in an insurance company where primarily most of us who work in the office were women. Most of us would wear dresses or skirts with hosiery. For me it was like a visual buffet.
Where the tennis shoes and ankle sex come in is that at lunch time a few of the women would walk and at their desks they would slip after heels pull on a pair of ankle socks and tennis shoes to go walking in and when coming back change back into heels.
Again with the visual buffet.
Many times by the end of the day I would be in my car on the way home with my hand in my wet panties my fingertips dancing in the pleasure juice that emitted from me throughout the day.
Lady L. 🥵💦💦💦
I think some people would be surprised by our roleplay sex. MH introduced us to i role play sex n it has led to some amazing intense lovemaking sessions! We have even used costumes.
We have done roleplays while traveling n at home. We’ve done “elf loving” at an Enchanted Elvin Forest room at a themed inn. We did a role play of “paid cruise companion” on a cruise. There was “sexologist and client.” “Leopard loving” (that story is in the cue for publication on MH.) we did “sex toy salesman.” And we’ve done several other roleplays. All sent my wife into “vixen mode!” And I really enjoy the whole experience too! That’s the “why”we do roleplay.
Many of our roleplays are written up for MH. In some cases I wrote the role play story first. Then we act out the role play n I modify the story I wrote based on how it went.
“Cum” to think of it, many people would be surprised that I read, write for, and edit for Marriage Heat. I find MH stories interesting and informative and inspiring. Plus it is fulfilling to share our stories. Most of my writing is about the sex my Melody n I have enjoyed. Even my nonfiction stories have been highly influenced by our real life sexcapades!
Another maybe scandalous thing we do is I almost always scoop cum from my wife’s freshly filled pussy and rub it on her nipples. Then I enjoy licking her nipples clean. She buzzes her clit as I do this and nearly always cums hard.
We also do “tip on nip” where I rub my glans on her nipples as I pump my rod. She’s buzzing her clit with her vibe.
Cum to think of it, our use of vibrators n other sex toys might surprise some people. We began using vibrators rather early on in our marriage bc I developed RA in my hands so I couldn’t stroke my Melody’s pussy for a long enough time. We now have quite a collection of vibrators.
A hard no: We don’t do anal sex or anal play bc we are both survivors of SA.
We were a bit hesitant to try outdoor sex (for fear of being caught) but when we’ve done it – the sex was a blast!
I was reluctant to use a vibrator on myself, but my wife bought me a vibrating stroker n it’s amazing!
Oh, Loving Man, I do sometimes wonder if my writing makes you blush. The idea that you might be the second person to read my work after Master Joe makes me smile.
I loved everything you shared here. You and Melody have such a beautiful connection, and your creativity in exploring fantasy together always shines through. The way you describe your roleplays, the energy, the closeness, and that spark of mischief between you, is absolutely intoxicating. I adore how each scenario seems to bring you closer together and deepen your bond.
Several lines in your comment really stood out to me.
"scoop cum from my wife’s freshly filled pussy and rub it on her nipples."
and
"We also do 'tip on nip' where I rub my glans on her nipples as I pump my rod."
It's definitely a kink, but it also speaks to that tender, sensual care that lives inside your play. The way you give and receive pleasure always seems filled with affection, never just desire, and that is something I truly admire.
You two remind me that passion is at its best when it’s shared with laughter, love and trust.
Love Lauren
xxx
L.M.
As I think you know, we have roleplayed often as well.
We've discussed how fun it would be to have another couple to roleplay a sexy story with an each couple engage their iwn partners sexually.
Lady L.
Can a single gal answer these too? Not being married, I don't know what kinds of kinks will be presented if I'm married someday, but I do have some kinky fantasies that I like imagining, and that I'd enjoy acting out with my husband.
What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends?
– Watching a guy from behind as he thrusts. That view gets me crazy hot. I'd love to watch my future husband use a pocket pussy or fleshlight while I rub myself and enjoy the view. I also enjoy the idea of "sloppy seconds", so I'd enjoy a roleplay where my husband cums in me as one "character", then later cums in me again as himself or someone else.
What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples?
– I'm interested in very light bondage, but nothing involving choking, degradation, or pain. I have a fantasy of tying my husband to the bed, or a chair, and having my delicious way with him. And though it would take getting used to, I'd give him the same privilege with me.
And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things?
– I like naughty things that inspire arousal (hence the watching or sloppy seconds fantasies). I do not like pain or anything scary because I have very low pain tolerance, a fear of choking/suffocating, and a need to be treated gently if I'm going to be so incredibly vulnerable. Words affect me greatly, so degradation or harshness, even though I know it isn't meant that way, would disturb me. On the flip side, I do like dirty talk, or spicy talk, and I'd melt if my man was growling carnal things in my ear while he claimed me.
Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy?
– So far, using a dildo. It basically started because I wanted to get used to penetration. I was nervous because of how tight I am, and inserting tampons and using my first vibrator was sometimes painful. Now I absolutely love fucking myself and it feels SO good!
You can absolutely reply, Lovely Lonely Lady.
I love how your kinks define you and how openly you have shared them. Reading your thoughts always makes me smile.
I think it is wonderful that you already know what excites you and what does not. That kind of self-awareness will serve you beautifully when you do meet your husband. It is not about how married or single we are, but about understanding what makes us feel safe, desired and truly alive.
Your fantasies sound deliciously playful, and I can completely see how that view from behind would drive you wild. I love the mix of imagination and tenderness in what you wrote. You have such a lovely way of expressing your desire; it feels honest and full of anticipation for what is still to come.
Lauren
xxx
Thanks Lauren! You are such an encouragement to me!
LLL,
Love the idea of the sloppy seconds dual character . We could apply that either fo him or myself.
Very sexy to think about
Lady L.
I have tied my wife up in the past. Gave her some oral to get her going and then stood ovet her and tugged myself off over her then licked it all off like a naughty boy, all while wearing her sexy underwear and her wearing a short nurses skirt. I did enter her afterwards to finish her off.
What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends? None, now. But, the most we have done is pics/vids, anal, golden shower, & lingerie.
What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples? Hard no on food play, horror, & flirting outside the marriage on purpose with the spouses consent & participation.
And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things? Food because of the mess, the look, & the containment of it is off putting. Horror, I am not into scaring or going into a scene of terror when I am wanting to have sex. Flirting outside the marriage only to go back home to spouse is a wrong message I would not want to put out to another. I feel it is deceptive.
Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy? Sexual pain. Like spanking. Picture & vid taking.
We stared taking photos and short videos when we got a private photos/videos app.
Now approaching 70 we have photos and videos from when we were in our late 40s.
Talk about family memories.
Fun to see the toys and lingerie that has come and gone over the years.
Lady L.
No real kinks here. I just like her naked. I suppose massaging her is my fetish. I like rubbing my hands across her bare skin and feeling her soft skin. She starts moaning how good it feels and I spend the entire time trying to outdo myself with a big boner. Ha ha
Hard no for me on anything involving my cum. It sickens me really. I just like to cum in her pussy and not have to deal with it afterwards. Sometimes she likes to strip me naked and jerk me off. I try to resist it but it starts feeling too good and I can't fight it anymore and I cum on myself. I hate that part. I have to go wash off immediately. Gross.
We all have our likes and dislikes for sure, and I’m certainly not one to judge, but I truly hope that you can quell this issue you have with your cum.
I almost wish that you had not asked the question, because sometimes my views are almost the "resident curmudgeon" on this site. 😉
Let's go straight to bondage, because it is the main theme of your post. I once asked my first wife what would turn her on. She replied sheepishly, "Tie me up…?" That produced a visceral negative reaction in me.
Why? I found it insulting. It took away the "mutual fun" aspect. It implied that she needed to be forced into enjoying sex with me, which then translated into the idea that I was undesirable. By that time, we had been married 10 or 12 years. I wondered how long she had been "dutifully" having sex with me and resenting it. (And, I wondered whether she had enjoyed being forced into sex by some other man during the weird shift rotations and overseas deployment of my military career.) It took the wind out of my sails for that moment, and intermittently for years afterward.
Even before that moment, I had often wondered why people think that they need to somehow "improve upon" God's design for sex. I think that simply getting naked and putting my dick into my wife's pussy is such an amazing WOW moment that I generally don't bother thinking of anything else.
That said, I do sometimes think about having sex while scuba diving. That would combine two amazing ways to enjoy God's designs. The feeling of weightlessness underwater is pretty amazing in itself, but add sex to that and it would be… WOWwwwwwww!! 😉
PS: Back when I was skydiving regularly, I did meet a married couple that had actually "connected" for a few seconds during freefall from 10 or 12 thousand feet. Although it intrigued me, I would not have wanted to attempt it — because I would not want to pull out so soon after getting it in.
I would have to say that, even though we have only practiced it a few times,I made use of a strap on that my "church ladies' got me as a "gag" gift (pardon the pun lol). After a long and sensual light oil rubdown on Jim's back, legs, feet and ass, I put it on – had him lick and suck on it (he did pretty good swallowing about half of it) then I entered him from behind and once I had it buried deep, I pounded him pretty hard.
I guess that qualifies as a kinky session, right??
Love you guys!
That is hot!! I would love to try that!
I bet you all knew I would be chipping in to this one. Lol.
Sarah.
What a brilliant set of questions. I love that you brought this up. I think it’s fascinating how different couples discover, define and deepen their desires over time.
I apologise if this is lengthy, but I wanted to give this my full attention and offer an answer that feels measured and personal to us.
Many who read my stories know they are inspired by real experiences, so sharing my kinks with you all feels like an extension of the intimacy I write about. In a way, it is part of my kink too.
For us, it has always been a journey of trust and surrender. My master, Joe, is my dominant, and that dynamic touches everything we do together. Bondage, toys, a mix of pleasure and pain, all of it feeds into that exquisite balance of control and release that defines us. I love being restrained, whether by rope, cuffs or something improvised, because it removes my ability to direct the moment. It allows me to sink completely into sensation and submission, knowing I am safe in his hands.
My CNC kink is something we have begun to explore carefully and respectfully, and it continues to teach me a great deal about myself. It lives in that charged space between fear and desire, where vulnerability transforms into power and trust deepens into something profoundly erotic. Those moments are raw, emotional and consuming in the most beautiful way.
As for hard nos, I am not drawn to humiliation that lacks purpose. For me, words and actions must come from trust, love and intention, just as it says in 1 Corinthians 16:14, “Let all that you do be done in love.” When they do, they become profoundly arousing. That verse has always resonated with me, because even when passion takes a darker turn, it reminds me that everything we share is rooted in love and respect.
Balancing faith and sexuality has not always been easy for me. I have spent time with my priest and my Bible, trying to understand the true me in reflection of my faith. I have come to see that the desires within me are not something to hide but something to understand, to hold with honesty and respect. It is one of the reasons Marriage Heat speaks to me so deeply. Sharing our stories here feels like more than just recounting moments of pleasure; it is a way of honouring the connection between faith, love and desire. By writing openly, I hope others who wrestle with similar feelings can see that it is possible to be both spiritual and sexual, faithful and free. It celebrates both faith and passion, showing that they can coexist beautifully when love and consent are at the centre.
What might surprise people is how much tenderness can reside within something that appears rough from the outside. When Joe marks me or pushes me to my edge, it is not cruelty, it is connection. Andrea and Gabriel’s stories share the same truth: that domination and submission, at their best, are built on intimacy, communication, and devotion.
And to your last question, yes, there have been things I once hesitated to try that I now absolutely adore. Some experiences I never imagined enjoying have surprised me with their intensity, anal for one gives me the most profound orgasms. Toys are another thing. Particularly when Joe controls them, they were something I did not expect to fall in love with. Now they are part of our rhythm, our language of pleasure and trust.
This is such a delicious topic. I look forward to reading about how others explore their own desires and limits.
Love Lauren
xxx
I love the trust and passion you two have. So beautiful and inspiring.
I really enjoyed your reply. I would like to hear more about your experiences with CNC. My wife has this as her number one fantasy. I have indulged it only slightly. It would be inspirational for me to hear more about how the two of you have incorporated it into your love making.
We discovered that when the difference between her intimate needs and mine were hampering our oneness, the implementation of a male chastity appliance, with my loving wife becoming my sexual mistress by controlling the key, was a wonderful solution. I remain aroused but unable to find relief apart from serving her intimate needs, and in doing so, removed all pressure on her for sexual activities she didn’t need. I’m sure none of our friends would understand.
Anal sex and anything involving others is a hard No, as sexual activity is designed to be within marriage only .
Maybe kind of a kink we have, is we have sex outdoors, more than indoors when possible. Good to live away from people, as it makes the yard fair territory for sex! Mrs. Tulsa is the one that got us going on it! She is just hornier when we are outdoors, and she got me loving it too!
Probably more of a kink, is our cumplay. Mrs. Tulsa thinks her pussy is best eaten after I cream-fill it! She cums harder & longer when I eat her after sex, so it became routine. After a while, I tried a few other cumplay things, like cumming ON her pussy and giving her oral, and all over her nipples before sucking them to a nipplegasm! She decided to kiss me after a BJ one day, with a mouthful of cum! And, watching her lick me clean after cumming all over myself from a handjob, is hot too! As for why she likes it so much, who knows. She got me to lovin’ it too, because of what it does for her, so I’m all in! No fear of getting a taste of ourselves here!
As far as a big no, anal is out. Neither odf ua want to go there, and never have.
Thank you for the question:
1. What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends? It would surprise our friends that 1) I love to have my bare bottom spanked with a paddle (my wife is not into that) 2) She loves the use of a toys to climax. 3) The nightstands in our bedroom are full of toys that would be very surprising for some of our friends to find (my wife has have told a really close friend that if something were to happen to us to come to our house and clean out the nightstands)
What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples? We tried anal sex and it did not work for us. No to humiliation.
And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things? Can't tell you why I like to be spanked, but it is a real turn on for me. For my wife she say's the use of toys allows her to "practice" while I am out of town, and climax multiple times.
Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy? We both have tried a butt plug and found it enjoyable during sex. We don't use it all the time, but have on occasion.
Single here as well. I think anal play is something that my future wife absolutely has to be on board with, because I enjoy prostate massage with my Aneros toys so much. If that grosses a woman out then she's out as a mate choice for me, sorry. Thankfully, it seems like that's actually a turn-on for a lot of women! I'd love to do some light bondage, spanking, but nothing beyond that. Not into (much) pain or degradation or things like that, not going to go down the full BDSM route or leather masks or things. Blindfolded and tied to the bed while my beautiful wife rides me with wild abandon? Now that sounds fun… 🙂
Those are some spicy questions! As it happens, I have a kink I've never seen anyone else mention in this community.
Many of you weird, sexy, wonderful people enjoy butt plugs and other forms of anal play. I have a couple of glass butt plugs that I really like, and along with them, a less common toy: a hollow urethral sound. This "penis plug" is a stainless steel tube that I (very carefully) insert in my urethra. Who says men can't enjoy double penetration, too?
Like many here, I also find arousal in pee play. I'm certain these kinks would surprise anyone who knows me!
Why do I like them? In the case of the former, I I love the feeling of fullness, both fore and aft! It enhances climax to feel my muscles clenching against hard, unyielding plugs. I enjoy the "stretch" of inserting and removing them, too; it "hurts so good," to borrow the phrase. Finally, using plugs feels pleasantly "naughty" without ever (I believe) actually breaking any moral boundaries.
Pee play feels sexy for the same reason: that spicy yet harmless feeling of "naughtiness." Moreover, it just feels good to let go, whether urinating or ejaculating.
Urethral sounds are not for everybody! If anyone is interested in them, please remember the following. Always disinfect anything before putting it in your urethra; I clean my sound with alcohol every single time. Urinary tract infections are no joke! Make sure the sound is perfectly smooth, too. You really, REALLY don't want a burr or splinter scratching up your bits. Apart from that, follow the same guidelines as for butt plugs. Use tons of lube. Take it slow. Start small and work your way up to bigger toys. Expect discomfort, and (at first) even a little blood, but don't take any risks!
Thank you all for sharing your various fetishes, kinks, and sundry eccentricities! One of the things I appreciate most about this community is how it reassures the sexy weirdos among us that we're not alone. We can be weird and sexy together!
It’s great to see you back Poiema!
What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends?
Nothing too crazy buy most of my wife E’s friends would be surprised by the # of positions she enjoys as we deploy; how primal she is in craving doggy; our extensive toy collection and how we love to write or speak our fantasies and then live them out. E is very professional by day but very sensual and primal by night.
What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples? Anal penetration has never been deployed. Never incorporate porn.
And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things? For our likes we just love being intimate in many different creative ways. Anal penetration has never been of interest for either as vaginal penetration is so naturally amazing. Porn use is a slippery slope we stay away from.
Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy? Mutual masturbation has been a thrilling delight that took decades before we shared together.
Ok, a few things. My wife doesn’t wander to far from our usual practices. Lots of 69ing. I mean 99 percent of time.
She does like being fucked in the mouth when we do it. This was a complete surprise to me. She loves it.
I love high heel mules on my wife. perhaps a
T shirt or short blouse nothing else except the the top and mules. naked from the waist down. It seems to display that wonderfully ass of hers. Regular high heels don’t do it. Something about the naked heels.
There have been at least two stories with wives wearing strap on and the guys sucking the dildo. Would love to do it but it not something that would go over well to mention.
Lastly, when I was younger I could get the mob of my cock in my mouth. not quite the fun sensitive part but it fascinates me to this day. I usually have one or two dreams a year where I can suck myself. Absolutely fun dreams.
"What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends?"
Probably watersports and piss drinking takes the gold medal on this one. We don't share and discuss this one. We've shared our love for rimming and anal sex, to include penetrative sex with friends and some have been surprised.
"What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples?"
Nothing. There is nothing prevalent that would be a hard no for me.
"And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things?"
I just believe that lovers and soulmates should enjoy their spouse's entire body in every way.
"Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy?"
Can't think of anything. I have been the enthusiastic initiator of everything, believing I would enjoy it and have yet to be disappointed.
I love the comments! Thanks for being so open everyone.
I think my friends would be scandalized by…
Ok, so a preface. My wife and I sadly do not have a lot of sexual intimacy. Sex has mostly always been painful to her. Coupled with that are various other fairly devastating factors: the disparity in our sex drive, the fact that she hates the taste of my cum, she’s scared of contamination from my butt hole, etc. This is not meant to be a sob story. I believe God can work in us and somehow help us, and when we’re have the money, maybe some counseling wouldn’t hurt. Anyways, we are having sex maybe once a month right now. I’m having hard time of this, and not very strong against temptation. Seriously, pray for me. I need God to support me. I feel a huge sense of loss. Anyway, I digress.
This dynamic, and wanting to be pure before God (as in not cheating on my spouse, who I love still), but still needing a lot of sexual pleasure and sexual excitement to feel happy, has led me to really step up my masturbation game.
Shocking item one… and this sounds absurd, but it’s true. After several years of trying and stretching and gaining flexibility, I can suck my dick. Maybe only an inch or so (although two nights ago I went crazy and literally got 2+ inches past my lips – it was amazing – my back is still recovering though. Got it on tape!) and… I love sucking dick! Mine only, of course, don’t want any other. But I love it. This is the only thing that can make me cum twice in quick succession. And I swallow my cum every time. I really like the taste of my precum, and jizz. Love it!
I know I’m new on here, and this may seem way too far fetched, like I’m just blowing smoke. But I assure you, this is the case. I just had my cock in my lips about 10 minutes ago. It’s true.
Shocking item two: I also self-fuck. I was curious about this and started trying on my own, but then found some guidance on an article about it which led to a subReddit devoted to the subject with some pretty explicit instructions… not to mention some videos which, despite the fact that I love Jesus and am completely straight, I had a hard time not watching and which dispelled all doubt that it is in fact possible to penetrate your own ass with your stretched out semiflacid dick, then let it swell a bit, and fuck yourself.
The first time I actually got the hang of it, I was at it for an hour. I can’t cum from it. But It was so erotic and pleasing. I showed my wife the videos I took and she could almost not believe it herself. I wrestled a bit with my conscience, and decided I am allowed to touch my God-given body however I want, with whatever other part of my body I want.
I am fairly certain my friends would be astounded, distressingly shocked, and utterly disturbed if they knew this about me.
I like these practices because it feels I am NOT totally missing out on an exciting sex life, even if it’s just me giving myself excitement and fun. I am praying God does a work of healing for our sex life, and physical unity. And in the meantime, I will keep trying to pursue and love her. But I gotta get some, I’m horny, and these are two fetishes that excite and thrill me.
I personally wouldn’t have any hard nos in our marriage besides going outside if it.
-Ian
Wow, I’ve never heard of self fucking. I’m kinda jealous of your abilities
I like when he ties my ankles to the bedposts so I have no choice but to open my body to him. His fingers in my pussy and bottom make me buck so hard and fight the ties on my hands and ankles. It’s embarrassing spreading my legs in full daylight but I am a good girl for him. I know men need to see their wives naked pussies.
Ooh, this is a fun topic! Glad I'm finally finding the time to comment. As a single man, I can only claim experience with some of these, but whether I've experienced them or not, they're all attractive and arousing ideas to me, and I really hope to find a wife who enjoy some of these too. You can tell how much I enjoy all these ideas by how much I wrote about them all!
1) What sexual practices, fetishes, or kinks do you enjoy that would surprise or scandalize your friends?
Giving and receiving all of these:
– Anal (external stimulation as well as penetration)
– Bondage (light to moderate)
– Dominance/submission
– Sensory deprivation (specifically sight and sound; it's impractical to do any others!)
– Nipple play
– Cum play
– And perhaps the least common one… pregnancy attraction! (More on that later.)
2) What sexual practices are a hard “no” for you that might be prevalent among other married couples?
I have very few things "hard no" list, beyond the basic one that nothing sexual happens with anyone I'm not married to, and some of the truly extreme and revolting kinks. I do have a few on the "mostly no" list, though I don't think they're exactly the most common either. They include:
– Pain/impact play (except light play)
– Golden showers
– Spitting
3) And of course, the whys and why nots: why do you think you like or dislike these things?
REASONS FOR LIKES:
Anal Stimulation: I enjoy the idea of giving anal stimulation to my future wife at a visceral, instinctive level that can't be explained. (Admittedly, it may have something to do with my early-teen discover of porn, which included some anal stuff.) However, a part that CAN be explained is that I want the two us of to experience every form of pleasure that our bodies have to offer. I also want us to embrace our own sexuality—and each other's—to such a degree that we willingly and eagerly offer every part of our bodies for each other to enjoy. One way I might be even kinkier than most is that I have a huge fantasy to bury my face in my wife's ass and rim her asshole with my tongue while I finger her from behind—assuming she's squeaky clean, of course. Mmmh, just the thought turns me on so much! On the receiving end, it just feels really, really good. Plus it plays a bit into the next category, making me feel submissive as the recipient of penetration, which I would like every once in a while.
Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Sensory Deprivation: These are all things I find enjoyable for generally the same reasons: they show deep trust through willing vulnerability. It means letting go and putting safety and pleasure completely in the hands of the other spouse. There's something thrilling about being completely helpless before someone you trust with your whole being, and having them use their complete power over you not to harm you, but to pleasure you. Giving yourself over to that vulnerability voluntarily adds another layer of depth. I feel that draw and thrill, and I want my wife to as well, which is why I consider myself a "switch"—someone who likes to be both the dominant partner and the submissive partner at different times. I'd love to give and receive all of these. And while the hearing deprivation sounds fun, I wouldn't want to do it too often, because most of the time I want to be able to hear all the yummy sounds of pleasure my wife and I are making—especially her. The sounds of sex are a big deal to me!
Nipple Play: My reasons for enjoying this are pretty simple: I like receiving because it feels amazing, and I know I'll like giving because… well, I'm a red-blooded man, and I go gaga for tatas, lol! On the receiving end, the physical sensations are wonderful. Playing with my nipples gets me hard basically just as fast as playing with my cock! It can sometimes put me in a more passive/submissive state of mind, but not always. My nipples didn't used to give me much sexual sensation at all, but in the last couple of years, they have become VERY sexually sensitive. It seems like it's because I began thinking of them as an erogenous zone and treating them as such, and my body and nervous system adapted to that mindset and practice. I've started occasionally thinking of them as my "cum buttons", because when I touch them, it heightens my pleasure significantly and pushes me toward orgasm much faster than penile stimulation alone. On the giving side, I mean, I don't know what I can say. A woman's breasts are a beautiful creation, and I am attracted to them at a visceral, animal instinct level. There's something I love about being a thinking, rational human being, and yet reduced to such a state of intoxicated desire by the thought of nursing at my wife's breasts. Bringing her pleasure by teasing her nipples in a very nice addition too.
Cum Play: This is an interesting one. I've tasted my own pre-cum and cum, but obviously not my wife's fluids, nor any other woman's, since I'm saving those experiences to share with my future wife alone. I really like my pre-cum, and wish my body produced more! I'm not big on my semen, but the hotness of the idea of it has made it possible to get used to the taste and not be turned off by it. I get the feeling it will probably be similar with my future wife's wetness: sometimes I'll like it on its own, sometimes not as much, but the turnon of orally pleasuring her beautiful womanhood will always be more than enough to make me enjoy her juices. I've heard that some women seem to have different kinds of fluid they produce depending on whether they're just aroused, or if they've had an orgasm. I'm not sure how that works, and I'm not sure many people do, but I'm very eager to experiment and find out! I wouldn't mind spending hours and hours between my wife's legs, letting her relax and bask in as much ecstasy as she can take as I enjoy feasting on her beautiful pussy. There are so many things to do with all the juices we both produce! To put several of my fantasies in one short scene: I imagine her riding me and stretching her pussy open with my cock, then dismounting and licking her arousal off my hard cock, making me cum in her mouth, swallowing a little, letting some drip down her chin onto her breasts, and saving the rest in her mouth, coming up to kiss me with a mouthful of my cum, with a bit of her own nectar still on her lips. We'd share our juices in a sloppy kiss, then she'd lay back and let me lick the last few drops off her breasts. Mmmh! Man I hope she's into that too!
Pregnancy Attraction: I have what I think is a slightly higher than usual attraction to pregnant women. The idea of getting my future wife pregnant is kinda hot, but it's primarily the physical form of her pregnant body (especially in the later stages) that's attractive. I think the pregnant belly is super sexy, and the extra breast size and extra plumpness in the hips and butt that often comes with pregnancy is fun too! I'm not sure exactly why I find this idea so attractive. I think it's a combination of a reproductive instinct, along with a God-focused worldview that recognizes with true awe the absolute wonder that my closest companion is CREATING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING INSIDE HER OWN BODY! That is just such an incredible thing, and frankly WAY cooler than any superpower any fiction writer has ever come up with! Oh, so you can fly? You can turn invisible? Psh, that's nothing, this lady can MAKE ANOTHER HUMAN! It's amazing and beautiful, and so deeply womanly. Perhaps that's part of why I find it so sexy: being pregnant and bearing children is perhaps the most uniquely feminine thing possible, which makes it powerfully attractive to me as a man.
REASONS FOR DISLIKES:
Golden Showers: Pee isn't inherently sexual, and even when it's totally clear, and essentially just water, it's neutral at best. It simply does nothing for me. I could tolerate it if my future wife enjoyed it and wanted to give or receive, and maybe I'd even enjoy it a little. But I don't think I've ever once fantasized about it, either giving or receiving. If we tried it, it would probably have to be while in an ACTUAL shower. The burden of cleaning up pee would still be a turn-off.
Spitting: Just. . . Ew. No thanks. It's a little weird that I feel that way, because saliva in general doesn't bother me. I have no aversion to the ideas of French kissing, sloppy oral sex, or anything like that. I find the idea of slobbering on my wife nipples—or her on my cock—super hot, and the idea of her drooling around a ball gag is very erotic. With all that being the case, I'm not sure why I find the specific act of spitting to be a big turn-off, but I do.
4) Is there anything you have reluctantly tried that you “came” to enjoy?
I don't recall ever trying anything reluctantly, because as a single man, I've had the freedom to explore my own desires, and to choose not to bother with anything that doesn't appeal to me. However, there are some things that I tried that started out not very pleasurable, but later became VERY pleasurable as I "practiced", or allowed my body the opportunity to learn to enjoy those things. My journey of growing to find pleasure in anal and nipple stimulation both could be described that way. Both started off providing little to no pleasure at all, but now have both become extremely powerful sources of pleasure for me, and hopefully sources of pleasure my wife will enjoy using to their fullest potential to drive me wild!
I suppose maybe swallowing my own cum was something I tried "reluctantly", though it was less reluctantly, and more that I found the idea super sexy, just like a lot of men, it was initially difficult to make myself actually try it once I had ejaculated and arousal had subsided quite a bit.
Hhhmmmm, King's fetishes and taboo.
Well I think that anybody who has read our writings knows that my husband and I have tried just about anything that comes down the pike as long as it's safe and legal. That also means there are many things that we just threw out on the trasheap that we didn't enjoy at all.
And then there were the things that I just will not involve myself in. For instance dressing like a young girl. I do not encourage that at all I would not wear a cheerleader outfit or school outfit and pigtails something that would encourage the idea of being young. And a definite no to fecal, vomit, blood, necro, torture, animals including furries, degradation,.and nothing disrespectful to God.
… Then there are things that have to happen when the mood and setting are right.
Dom/sub, water sports, light bondage,
.. we both enjoy the feel of silk, nylon ,satin, lace..
Sooooo, lingerie is almost always a involved.
Anal,(which took a while to really begin enjoying).
Also anal on him. including fingers toys and analingus (nut only when washed first for me to perform). he's less concerned about that.
Nipples, ohhhh yessss, nipples. I orgasm from nipple play alone. he like his pinched, pulled, licked, nibbled.
As I'm shared here before. I am attracted to other woman and I'm also attracted to what other woman wear and two women's feet.
Fortunately for me my husband is attracted to my feet.
Lite often while we are out and about we were both see a woman contract of them chat on she is and what it is that we like about her.
Well we do not include anybody else physically into our sex life we do fantasize.
We are exhibitionists as well, so as far as we can be without being we are.
In other words we have sex in places where people are but in a way that the wouldn't know.
When we can it's a HUUUGE rush.
Toys have been a part of our sexlife for tears. I enjoy dp. One in front one in back.
And I have a fetish for precum. I love edging him with prostate massage while he drools precum.
And most of all we love pleasing and doing for the other as much as possible. Offering pleasure without expecting pleasure.
In fact each of us gain immense pleasure from the others pleasure.
Lady L.💋