Doubts About Prostate Stimulation and “Pegging”
My name is Edrey. I’m a 21-year-old born again Christian guy. Jesus opened up my eyes to the gospel of grace, and I will always be amazed by the cross when Jesus absorbed all the wrath of God that I deserved!
I found this community about a year ago, and you don’t have any idea how much MH has been a blessing to me in so many ways! One of them is that I used to believe that masturbation was a sin, and now I know that it is a God-given gift! If you had asked me two years ago whether reading erotica and masturbating is a sin, I would’ve said yes– now here I am! ??? And I’m still opening up to new sexual stuff.
But I don’t know if prostate stimulation is totally right according to the Bible. A few months ago I was reading one of the stories on MH about this topic– I think it was from CrazyHappyLoved where she shared her experience with “pegging” with her husband and how much her husband loves to get his prostate stimulated by penetration. About “pegging,” I don’t know why a man wants to be penetrated by his wife when that’s supposed to be the man’s job. I think the male wasn’t meant for that. Anyway, that story encouraged me to stimulate my prostate!
I took a shower, and I started to use my fingers to stimulate my prostate with shampoo. I’m not going to lie, it felt terrific, and I had a big erection. When I saw how much precum started coming out of my cock, I had to stop. I didn’t orgasm because I was afraid of becoming gay or something like that, and I thought I was sodomizing myself. It was a new experience for me, but it felt really good!
I don’t know what happened, but for the rest of that day, I was so horny in my classroom and experienced random boners without thinking about any woman. It was a little awkward, and my penis couldn’t stop leaking cum.
They say that prostate stimulation increases your t-levels. I don’t know if that’s true, but I’m still afraid to practice. To be honest, I’m considering buying a prostate stimulator, but I’m not sure If I’m doing the right thing. I don’t want to open new doors to the enemy or a sex demon, and this is not something that I can talk about with my sister or mother openly. I don’t know; maybe I’m still too young for prostate stimulation.
I want to know what you guys think about pegging and prostate stimulation. I’m a little confused about this.
Hi! I don’t think it’s wrong in any way to pleasure yourself, what ever that may be as long as it does not turn into lust or viewing porn etc.
I have tried to stimulate my prostate a few times with my fingers, and when I reach it and stroke it it feels very nice. However, I would need advice or suggestions how to do it properly. I have a hard time to reach it with my fingers and end up in some uncomfortable position both for my body and especially for my arm/hand/fingers.
We have not tried any this in our marriage bed, since everything anal is a no go for my wife…
Can anyone share some good positions and/or techniques how to do it, please?
When I was a little younger than you are I was torn, generally, on the subject of masturbation. Unfortunately, porn had become an early and powerful influence on my sexuality. The masturbation had become incorrectly linked to the typical men's magazine images of the day. In other words, that gift from God, as you described it, had been corrupted by the sin of lusting after images of beautiful naked women and images of sexual activity – lusting after them to the point of orgasm. (I think that spells it out pretty clearly.)
In a vividly-remembered conversation, a graduate student instructor told me that he dealt with his sex drive very simply. To him it was just a biological issue, so he masturbated each day and got on with his day. My thought was, "Wow ! How simple! If only I could look at it that way!"
My problem was that I had already forged strong links between a non-sinful gift and real sin, as described: By masturbating to completion in conjunction with porn, I was creating addictive hormonal ties to it.
Apostle Paul advised young protégés to "flee youthful lusts." Another phrase that comes up is "Possess your vessel with honor." Frankly, that young college instructor seemed to have been doing that combo. I was not. Instead I had become ensnared – even tied in knots over the entire issue.
My gut reaction here is two points:
First, at your age and being unmarried, you are still trying to define what those two phrases mean as a young male Christian. You need mature Christian male associations and mentoring NOW – not on a forum, but in person. Don't neglect this facet.
Secondly, most young Christian men should be seeking the balance of those phrases for now, but planning to let their sexuality fully bloom later with the woman with whom they choose to marry. Sex in marriage is a mutual molding process. She will be molded by your passion. You will be molded by hers. The end result, over decades in truly amazing. Advanced sex techniques right now may help or may hurt that future process. Carefully consider this point. Consider what links you want to create before you meet and join with her.
The "gift" of masturbation is a safety valve, a tool. It can help you properly steer your God-created drive. Carefully consider the wisdom of the Scripture with other guys who want to truly be Christ's disciples, so that you don't let this safety valve grow into more than it should be, before you are with your woman.
Edrey,
Hey brother, let me say first that being a male who enjoys anal stimulation doesn't mean you desire to be gay. Another thing, prostate stimulation not only feels good, but is actually good for prostate health..
I personally love anal/prostate stimulation. For years I have used a prostate stimulator or butt plug occasionally whenever I jack off. My orgasms are quite intense and my cum volume is very substantial.
I also enjoy having my dear wife Gina stimulate and finger my asshole. It feels really good and I cum really hard.
We recently have gotten into pegging and brother, I love it. Having my beautiful sexy wife pump my butt feels great and is very erotic and I have very powerful ejaculations.
My advice to you is enjoy! Buy yourself a prostate stimulator or butt plug and go for it. Main thing is don't feel guilty about it. Remember like masturbation, prostate stimulation is actually good for you. So you're actually doing your body good!
God bless you my brother!
Ben G.
Horny Boy,
Don't worry: playing with your butt won't turn you gay. I at least (and I know lots of other MH regulars) allow, and indeed encourage, you to explore back there. I'm with you that it feels amazing. I've been happily married for 25 years. I first started fingering myself about 15 years ago and finally within the last year got a prostate massager and anal vibrator. I don't know why I waited so long.
As for where your dick goes, playing with your ass won't change that. Trust me, it will still work just fine in her love canal. Not all sex and sexual pleasure was meant to come from vaginal intercourse. Just read Song of Solomon for a reminder. I couldn't imagine how less fun things would be with my wife and me without oral sex, Masturbation, cumming on her tummy, licking her tits, etc.–all those things that don't involve possible procreation. Anal stimulation is just another one of God's gifts to us. Trust me, God didn't put all those nerves back there and then decide their just for gay guys. So you don't feel guilty at how much you enjoy it. One recommendation, since you're apparently new to this: keep it well lubed back there. And have fun.
It doesn't hurt to ask brother. First off, you won't turn gay, don't worry about that. Anal and prostate stimulation is very pleasurable because so many nerves are involved that like the stimulation, it's that simple. Is it right or wrong? I think it's neither. It just simply is, stimulating. You have to decide whether it is a right fit for you or not.
If you feel your not ready for yet, then no need to venture into that area. If it causes you to sin in other ways, then don't do it.
Why is the prostate where it is at? Not sure but it does feel good. It will not make you gay that is a stereo type of society. If anything it stimulates you more and makes you want to penetrate more after. It is a personal decision and nothing wrong with it if you choose to engage.
Anuses are sexually responsive in men and women. Nipples too. I love for Wife to suck mine. It's something we've done our whole married life. I never thought about it having anything to do with homosexuality. I suck hers, she sucks mine. It seems like the most natural thing in the world.
Prostate massage even seems to have health benefits. I have a Canadian friend with prostatitis, and the doctor prescribed it for him. Unfortunately his wife wouldn't do it, so he had to do it himself.
I don't see any way that anyone could make a good Biblical case against prostate stimulation, done by yourself or your wife. A good principle to keep in mind when applying scripture to life is that there are things that scripture does not allow. Everything else is presumed to be OK. That is an over-simplification, of course. Scripture can't cover every modern situation that arises. Sometimes you have to apply principles. But men had anuses that felt good when penetrated in Bible times, so this is nothing new. If God didn't want us to do that, He would have said so.
Pegging. Scripture doesn't prohibit that either. But like you, I just don't see what the attraction is. There are passages against "lying with a man as one would with a woman" that one could use that to make a case against it. But it is a stretch. I suppose it is possible that it could lead some people down the wrong path. Most of these gray areas are something that people have to decide individually with guidance from the Holy Spirit. Just make sure that your reservations are from legitimate concerns or the Holy Spirit, and not from manmade rules that have been with us since the early days Christianity.
I had doubts too. But, if you go the prostate stimulator route, be sure to go slow and use plenty of lube. It feels real good.
To summarize my view, anal/prostate stimulation is much like masturbation as a whole: it is not inherently sinful, but can be unhealthy in some circumstances.
As others have said already, receiving pleasure that way has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. The specific acts or stimulation you enjoy has nothing to do with who you are attracted to. I have experimented with anal and prostate stimulation myself, and have found I have a desire to be "pegged" by my future wife. While I enjoy and crave that stimulation, I still find men utterly unattractive, and I am still thoroughly repulsed by the idea of sexual contact with another man. So don't worry, it won't turn you gay. (You might need to do some extra coaxing to get your future wife to accept your little kink though, haha!)
Of course, if you start developing feelings like that and that bothers you, and you feel like it's deeply linked to anal/prostate stimulation, you may want to stop. However, on this topic, keep in mind it's not a sin to "be gay" or have homosexual desires; it's only a sin to give in to them and be willing to act on them or actually act on them. (Though if you start having immoral desires, it would certainly be wise to avoid feeding them, especially if you know what you can do to stop feeding them.)
As for the ideas that it's unnatural or that it's the man's job to penetrate, not to be penetrated, I would suggest that there are lots of things that are "unnatural" or not perfectly in line with the primary design of things that are totally fine, and even good things.
God didn't create technology, or any social institutions other than marriage and family. Many things don't exist by his direct design and creation, like cars and systems of government, but they can still be good, beneficial things in our lives. For an example that's closer to the sexual topic, God created the core of sex to be "penis in vagina," but also gave us other ways to express sexuality, like kissing, breast play and oral sex. Why not anal stimulation too (for both men and women)? As other commenters have mentioned, the nerves in and around that area are highly sexually receptive, so while I am not certain, there's a case to be made that God even intended that area to be involved in our sexuality.
Overall, just know that it's not wrong or bad, but also be careful with it so that you don't physically hurt yourself or fall into unhealthy habits or thought patterns. Certainly don't use porn, as that is psychologically as dangerous as many illicit drugs, not to mention a grotesque perversion of the beautiful thing God meant sex to be.
I hope and pray God leads you in the sexual journey you're on, and that you're able to glorify him through it!
The prostate can also be stimulated through external pressure on the perineum, though not to the extent it can internally.
I know this post is old, so I’m not sure if horny_boy or anyone else will see this, but I had a similar experience with stimulating my prostate a few years ago while I was on vacation. My room had a really big shower with a really powerful shower head. I was taking a shower after a day at the pool, and I was jerking off my penis, thinking about having sex with my future wife. I was really hard and horny, so I thought I’d try something. I changed the setting on the shower head to just a singular powerful stream and got down on all fours. I arched my back so my butt was angled up and the stream was hitting my hole. My cock was already really hard, but I was surprised when, after just a couple minutes of letting that fast-moving jet of water stimulate my prostate, I shot a huge load of cum out of my rock hard penis. It felt incredible. Our prostates are powerful. Enjoying the feeling doesn’t say anything about sexual orientation. We are still straight men seeking godly wives. The reality is that, for some men, it’s not appealing, and for others, they neglect their prostate because it’s “taboo” or seems wrong.
Hi, Biggs123! It sounds like what you experienced there was more stimulation of your anus than of your prostate—though the prostate can be stimulated with very firm pressure on the perineum. Neither form of pleasure speaks to one's sexual orientation, they are just different. Tongue, fingers, vibes, and anal beads are all wonderful, besides the method you describe here (which my husband and I also enjoy, though we have a handheld showerhead that lets us remain standing if we want.) If you'd to try prostate stimulation, you might consider investing in an Aneros or a vibrating buttplug like the Hugo by Lelo. My husband really enjoys both!
I also love anal play. It is extremely arousing for me as well. Thank you Biggs123 for sharing! Thank you also CrazyHappyLoved for the suggestions. Any good sites that you can recommend for purchasing those?
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