Maintenance Sex
Maintenance sex is not boring; we don’t even use that term in our marriage. But “Maintenance Sex” could be considered the RDA for sex in your marriage. For us, a sex schedule works.
Married couples have to make an effort to follow through and have sex regularly. It is easy to get busy and not put in the effort to make love regularly. Being tired can contribute to long dry spells too. When we were raising our kids and both working, there were times we were sometimes so busy and tired that we’d suddenly realize that it had been over a week since we’d made love. At those times, Melodie would take me by the hand and head for our bedroom, saying, “Let’s go pretend that we’re married.” Needless to say, we did way more than pretending! Back then, we did not have a lovemaking or sex schedule, but we probably should have.
When we retired, we went to a married couple who were Christian sex therapists. We were having desire discrepancy: I wanted sex more often since we didn’t have to go to work. Along with the good therapy, I also read about couples who had a sex schedule, so Melodie and I negotiated one that worked for both of us. Nowadays, it’s every third day, but it used to be every other; health challenges required a re-negotiation. For us, part of the schedule is that on most off days my wife stimulates my nips as she or I masturbate me to orgasm. Once in a while, she’ll decide that she wants more herself. That means we go ahead and have what we call a full lovemaking session with mutual orgasms.
Yesterday morning, it had been three days since our last sex session, and when I asked Melodie, she said, “I gave my all last time! I need more time to recuperate.” (See my last story “Epic Lovemaking Session.”)
Today, I woke up knowing that it had been four days since we’d had sex. Because I’d had a rough night, I considered turning off the alarm and going back to sleep, but it felt wrong to do so.
So I got up, as did my wife. We went to the bathroom to clean up, and I got a nice view of her beautiful naked body. Still nude, we met on the bed.
Some of the necking and kissing I’ve been reading about on MH had got me thinking about doing more of that in our lovemaking. So this morning, I made sure we necked and kissed for a long time before we did anything else.
Melodie was clearly enjoying this, but she was also surprised. Though cooing as I kissed her neck, she asked, “What are you doing?”
“Kissing and necking like we used to do,” I replied between more nibbles and kisses on her neck.
She giggled, and I kept at it. We ended up having an intense lovemaking session!
Some people may call our sex schedule of every three, sometimes four, days a boring thing. But when we are immersed in our lovemaking, it sure isn’t boring to us! And when, for some reason, we don’t have sex for a week, it is still great. That tends to happen due to health problems, hospitalization, etc., although we have had sex in the hospital room’s bathroom too.
Our maintenance sex is interspersed with great holiday sex, amazing vacation sex, intense anniversary sex, hotel sex, hot tub sex, shower sex, outdoor sex, sex in other rooms, sex by the Christmas tree, and massage sex. Probably about two or three times a month, our maintenance sex session becomes an epic lovemaking session right in our bedroom—often with very revealing and extremely sexy lingerie!
So make time to make love. Despite Satan’s and the media’s lies, the best sex is in a loving marriage. And married couples tend to have sex far more often than most single people. So again, I know life can get busy, especially when you are raising your kids. As seniors, having sex can feel like too much work. But make time to make love. It will be good for you, body and soul! And it will be good for your marriage too!
I’m curious how many MH readers have a sex schedule and how you and your spouse decided on it. Is having a sex schedule working out well for you and your spouse? It sure is for us.
My bride and I do not have a sex schedule as of yet, though we talk often about trying to implement one when we have kids. As of right now, M and I usually have sex every other day. We just came off of doing a 30 day sex challenge (which I’m going to be making a story out of soon), and so that actually helped to close the gap between our love making sessions quite a bit!
I look forward to that story!
Nice open and honest story. Refreshing!
Jim and I have an agreement when it comes to sex, and that is we always must make room for sex if one of us just craves it (me usually). Otherwise, we reserve every evening for reading at bedtime and try to read sexy-type materials Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday afternoons. It's a very easy schedule for us. Honestly, sometimes Jim gets tired and a little stressed from his workday, and I love just surprising him by dropping to my knees in front of him and taking his cock in my mouth and draining him. This can be any day, anytime. And he always makes it up to me (but we don't have a running score or anything) by working my tits and creamy pussy into a frenzy with his warm mouth and strong fingers.
So that's our maintenance schedule – and after writing this I feel I need a major tuneup!
CreamyPatty it sounds like your love life is hot and awesome!
Thanks for your comment! So loving of you to give those sexy experience gifts to your husband.
Hey there, I didn’t see Patty’s comment from two weeks ago. I can tell you she is accurate; in fact, I just received one of her mind-boggling “surprises” yesterday, and I swear my balls are still tingling from the way she sucks so deep to draw out every drop of my semen. Yesterday, she decided to paint her face instead of swallowing!
Wow! Such a blessing! I love those types of mind-boggling surprises!