Flaccid but Horny
Men, and wives of men, do you sometimes really want it, but something is a little flaccid? Never criticize the size. Just encourage, read another MH story, apply some more coconut oil, etc. I’ve found that I can gain a little firmness by turning her on, and a little more by reaching under my little guy and wrapping my balls around the shaft while pushing underneath and using the penis to rub her pussy or attempt insertion. And its okay if just she comes. Let it serve as foreplay for 4 a.m. when the testosterone is higher—and she’s pre-lubed from last night. ?
Feel free to add tricks and tips that have worked for you, too, in the comments.
I am flaccid often. But, playing with it sure helps.
Getting older, so sometimes after my first or second orgasm, it takes me longer to get fully hard again for another round.
The one thing that almost always does it is going down on her and making her cum on my face. Boom! I'm hard and ready for another plunge! But if that doesn't do it, well, she had another O, so no problem!
So, sounds like you are normal!
Yes!
For my hubby, unless he is super exhausted or under the weather, oral sex in either direction will get him ready for me (though I suspect that me giving him attention would win out in a vote. ?)
Ah but we have a super sensitive gag reflex… so me going down is where it's at if I need enlarging
Due to Meds and a bad heart I wane at times during our lovemaking sessions. My treatment is to love on my wife’s beautiful breasts. Her nipples are my penis pump!
I tend to use my fingers alot and take rest breaks ti slow my heart rate. She loves my fingers and my delays!
I do not know if you have seen a urologist (not your primary care dr) about this. It could be any number of things, including meds you are taking.
I encourage you to get it checked out.
My testosterone seems to fluctuate a fair bit. Sometimes it's just a matter of being too tired and too much else on my mind. Sometimes her body is physically stressed from her work and any sex is up to me to get in the mood for and have the energy for.
I've been through prostate cancer and surgery. Also had non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Cancer free today!! Feeling great but have tried everything, and simply can't get an erection. So my loving wife enjoys my stimulation and bringing her to strong orgasm. Then, we play with my flaccid penis, and after much stroking and play, I will have an orgasm, which turns her on so much she is ready for another strong clitoral orgasm! Long story with lots learned, but thankful for both of us now being cancer free!!
It was only a few days ago that I learned I could bring my husband to ejaculatory orgasm through oral sex even when he's not hard. This was quite a revalation! I had thought if I couldn't get him hard, it indicated a deficiency of skill on my part or desire on his. No! It just means his body isn't cooperating, and I can completely understand that situation. So glad to know that it doesn't mean I can't bring him to the heights of pleasure. (Though, tbh, he says prostate orgasms are even better than ejaculations.)
At age 70, I enjoy orgasms when erect or partially erect. And as CHL mentions, prostate orgasms are especially wonderful – full erection not needed!
The Cock-ring is a super help for us older guys. The cheapest sex aid that you can buy, BUT worth a million $$$.
I slip it on when I want to have PIV or if we are masturbating together. I become super hard.
Yes I've used one sometimes. The larger silicone one that fits over and sits under my balls works. I just have to condition myself for the hair pulling because I'm bushy!
Thanks for you honesty and openness. I can relate. Many times I’m extremely horny but can only reach about 85% hard – enough for us both to enjoy but not enough to penetrate. That’s one reason why we both love masturbating together. It take any pressure off the perceived need to be fully erect for a PIV session. If it happens – great! If not We make that great too! I’ve always very much enjoyed stroking my cock with silky lingerie. Even when not fully erect I have tremendous cum explosions when I or my wife jacks me off with a satin chemise or a pair of silky lacy panties. I’ve written four stories about it that are here on MH about how we like to incorporate the pleasures of lingerie into our live making. Give them a look – maybe satin stroking can be something fun for you two as well! Enjoy!
https://marriageheat.com/author/satin-king/
The story titled: “Satin and Lace Lovers” pretty well describes our lovemaking now at this stage of our marriage.
Satin King,
We have enjoyed masterbating together more of late. Many times my fingers have made her cum, and my member finally stands up and sometimes finishes PIV. Or we both fall asleep and I have an early morning finish.