Do Women Hit Their Sexual Peak in their Forties?
My wife and I have been married for 20 years. We’re both 46, and we have pre-teen children. She is a very beautiful woman, and her genetic blessings have even further revealed themselves as she’s aged—she’s gotten only more strikingly beautiful. She is a wonderful mother, and we’ve always been best friends. We are very much in love.
For the first 16 or 17 years of marriage, the sex was good. My sex drive has always been extremely high, and I would say that for that period, hers was average. We experimented now and then. She’s never been prudish about anything, really. It has been fun being married to a woman I am deeply in love with and who is also beautiful inside and outside.
About three or four years ago (when she was 42 or 43), I noticed she started becoming much more sexual. She started wanting more sex. She began to talk very graphically to me. We even started sexting. She requested doggy-style sex (which she had never been into) and then asked me to spank her in the act. Whereas she used to be shy about masturbating in front of me, now she’s totally into it and likes me to do it in front of her, as well. She’s developed almost a fetish for my semen (that has been fun). And she now has a vibrator and dildo that we use in the bedroom (her idea). Now she likes to simulate MMF sex in the bedroom with me and her dildo. When we go out on dates, she does things in public places to get me worked up—like rubbing my cock under a table—that would have been unthinkable four or five years ago. She also seems to enjoy wearing somewhat revealing clothing when we’re out on dates.
It has been a lot of fun because my sex drive has always been super high. And it’s only getting more intense. But this behavior I’m seeing from her can be surprising at times. Simulating MMF sex with me and her dildo shocked me a bit, I will admit, but it has been fun. Some of the things she’s said to me in the act have been incredibly graphic.
I have asked her a few times what’s happened with her suddenly super-high sex drive, and she just smiles and asks, “Don’t you like it?” She has indicated that it’s not uncommon for women in their forties to hit their sexual peak.
My question is: Is this normal? Have any of you experienced this in your marriages?
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